[ The last thing I’m going to say about the Ellen Page thing.
I’ve seen a lot of stuff in the tag that has been deeply disturbing to me. ’______, your turn,’ ;We all knew it, why did she even bother,’ and ‘I can’t wait to sleep with her now that I have a chance, etc.’
All of this is super gross.
No celebrity owes it to anyone to come out on any timetable but their own. It is not an obligation, it is not something that should be required in order to be an actor. Ms. Page has had at least one stalker she had to take to court, and is a private person by nature besides. I understand that it is important for representation and inspiration, but it is important when these things happen because the person in question felt the time was right for them to personally do so. If it was an obligation, it would cease to have meaning. For literally years now (since I’ve watched her tag since I came to tumblr,) people have been on Ellen to come out, as if it was their right to know. Now I see it with K-Stew and others, and I just have to shake my head. These are people, and the actor thing is secondary. It is up to the individual to walk the road of sexual awakening, not society with them just because they happen to be in the public eye. I recognize that the more people who come out, the better it is for the cause, but for God’s sake people, that still is up to the person who has to come out in the first place. To take away their agency just because they’re an actor is vile.
Secondly, no, we all didn’t know it. There are celebrities people assume are gay or bi, and then go on to have lives that are seemingly perfectly happy without a big coming out one way or the other. That’s okay. What’s equally okay is for someone to take a chance, as Ms. Page did last night, to use a platform for inspiration rather than a cheap attempt at publicity. She spoke out because it’s still incredibly problematic for people to speak of these things. I hope everyone finds the dichotomy of people insisting certain people are gay but also wanting them to shut up about it as fucking problematic as it is. I can’t even come out as an ally to my family. It is absolutely, jawdroppingly brave for someone in the public eye to come out. Do not belittle them for it.
Finally, STOP OBJECTIFYING PEOPLE. Stop making jokes about how you either have a chance now or you don’t. It’s tacky, God it is so tacky, to reduce a real watershed moment into a chance for you to get laid. It doesn’t make it less gross because we’re all women. So some respect for people you don’t even know, okay?
Old Woman Josie out. #mic drop ]