Because I’ve been getting more asks than I have the capability to answer, I decided to put together a list of extremely helpful blogs that I follow, as well as an index of my own tags on the subjects. I’m not saying you shouldn’t message me, but if I’m not able to answer then these may help.
Sometimes it feels like you’re all alone in the world, but remember that there truly are a lot of wonderful allies in the LGBTQ+ community. There’s a lot of bi erasure and biphobia out there, too, but things are getting better. Hang in there.
Here are some great solidarity blogs (and otherwise lovely LGBTQ+ blogs) that I suggest! Get that positivity:
Hey how do I know if T is right for me? (And would you like me to specify what I want/don't want and we can determine it that way?)
T is not a pick and mix, you can’t get some changes and not others, and as a result you have to weigh up the pros and cons as to how much you want T. It’s all or nothing, although you can do low-dose T and have the changes happen slower so you can stop when you’ve had enough.
Deciding if you want to go on T is a personal and individual thing- someone else can’t make the decision for you no matter what information they have.
One thing that can help is spending time watching people’s transition videos on YouTube, and their transition posts on Tumblr and see how you feel about it. Are you curious out of curiosity, or does it sound appealing to you? Do you feel jealous of them, or not sure?
When I was thinking about it, I made a list of the changes and what I thought of them. I’m a firm believer in the power of making lists to decide things, so you could make a pro/cons list of taking T.
You can’t ask someone else what to do even if you list the things you want and don’t want. Someone can say “Since you want these 3 changes and don’t want those 4 so that means you shouldn’t start T since you dislike more changes than you like” but that isn’t a good way to decide.
You have to weight which changes matter to you the most which is something only you can know. Someone may only want one change from T for example- more facial and body hair- but if it’s worth the other changes for them then they might decide to start T even if they don’t like the other changes as much.
You have to decide whether the changes on T you want are worth the other changes you aren’t as excited for. Some changes are permanent so it’s important to only start T if you’re reasonably sure that you’re okay with the permanent changes. You don’t want to start T to find that it only makes you more uncomfortable.
I made one of these a while back, but all the links broke while I was editing it, so fuck it, here’s a brand new post.
This post is a list of helpful blogs and an index of my own tags for the people who’ve sent me messages that I haven’t been able to answer because of my illness, those who aren’t sure how to ask, and those who didn’t know they needed to ask in the first place.
PS: This post is linked under the ‘help’ button on my blog.
hey do u know any trans friendly sex ed resources?? preferably not like obviously sexual from the url because i have to use a school computer. i just 1) dont know where else to find sex ed that doesnt make me dysphoric and 2) when it comes to non p in v sex i have no idea what im doing. thank u!!
they all have their own websites under the same name (except the first, that is just scarleteen). scarleteen is more sex-ed focused, outforhealth and planned parenthood are more reproductive-health and safe-sex focused, but they are both still really great resources.