romancingthecage asked:
I didn't say Sandor is a dog, I was saying if even dogs can love, why do you deny that Sandor can love? He's not a dog, that was the point. He's a man. And I am not talking in the future, I'm talking the present, in terms of the story. I read your piece, and didn't see that you were saying that he loves her now. I think it's pretty clear he loves her now. No need to be unkind about it, we just disagree.
….sigh…. Learn to read, it helps.
Fuck it, never mind, I’m just going to repeat myself, since evidently highlighting is not enough. It’s not that Sandor doesn’t love Sansa, but he doesn’t even know what love is, what these feelings are that make him so confused and angry. He doesn’t understand how to express his feelings in a healthy way. Furthermore, it was impossible at that time for him to express his feelings in a healthy way for many reasons – for one, he was in the process of a mental breakdown, his worldview and sense of self shattered – and for another, that Sansa was twelve and should not have to deal with Sandor’s incredibly fucked up mental state.
And most importantly, there is a difference between what I called Sandor’s “broken love” – feelings of passion and desire and violent protectiveness, combined with a need to crush Sansa’s innocence to show her the truth of the world, combined with the hate of himself for having all these feelings (for the need to protect like a knight protects a maiden, the guilt for having failed to protect her, the guilt for desiring her, for being so weak that he feels guilt), especially because she’s twelve and he knows it’s wrong to want… everything he wants from her – and real genuine healthy love.
My hope is that Sandor gets his head straightened out, so that healthy love is possible in the future, for both of them.
I hope that helps. And by the way, if you come back saying “oh, the fact she was 12 doesn’t mean anything because that’s how it was back then” I will straight up block you. (Same for anyone else, thanks.)
