out-of-sight-out-of-mind

“The space you used to fill it’s now this great black hole
Oh, oh, oh, oh
You’re out of sight but not out of my mind

And it hurts like hell
To be torn apart
And it hurts like hell
To be thrown Around

We were born to be together
Torn apart
Torn apart”

- “Torn Apart” by Bastille

A quick little sheithy thing before going to bed :3 Damn I just love drawing in purple and pink hues at the moment (maybe it’s because I missed last year’s Huevember :p).

I listened to the acoustic version of this song. And it reminded me of these two.
Here’s the link if you’d like to hear it -> https://youtu.be/UxoUcso3hAE

Have fun! :3

10 small tips to improve your productivity

Who can resist reading another little post full of tips to help you get more work done? Here is a few things that I find useful when trying to get myself motivated.

  1. Clear desk, clear mind - I like to organise things before I start working. If things are messy, I get a little preoccupied and procrastinate even more. My suggestion is clear your desk, sort everything you’ll need to study and get on!
  2. The two minute rule - If a task that needs to be done takes less than two minutes, just do it. My dad has often suggested that this is a great way to sort out your priorities and so far it has worked for me. Things like check my emails, cross off events from my planner, file something away don’t take long but get you in the mood for productivity. As they say “object in motion, stay in motion”.
  3. Break your time up - Schedule your study time and any breaks you need to take. This helps structure your day and acts as a motivation to get things done. Especially if you can reward yourself at the end!
  4. Leave your phone alone - Like most people I use my phone constantly but when I’m trying to work, it is best to leave it alone. Out of sight, out of mind. Try leaving it on silent and behind you so you aren’t tempted to pick it up after every beep. Use your break times to check it.
  5. Find your top three to five priorities - Seeing a long list of things to do is usually, for some people, kind of counterproductive. Figure out the main things that need to be done and work on those. If you’re able to complete those main things, you’ll feel like you’ve accomplished the days necessities and may even want to complete some more.
  6. Try using a mindmap instead of a to do list - Apparently using a mindmap layout instead of a traditional list can help boost productivity. It is a little more funky way to see all your outstanding tasks and might not look as overwhelming as a super long list.
  7. Wear headphones - You don’t have to always listen to things but it can help block out any noise that can distract you. If you’re someone that likes some music, try songs with little or no words. This is a great playlist by Spotify.
  8. Don’t multitask - As much as you think you can do it, trying to multitask usually ends up in a confused mess and takes twice the time. Stick to one task at a time. If you think of something you need to do, write it down and do it later.
  9. Change things up - Doing the same things in the same place can get boring. Make the effort every now and then to change where you’re studying or how you’re studying. This can include moving your studying from the desk to the kitchen table for a change of scenery, or making flash cards instead of annotating your notes. Studying with a family member or friends is a fun way to get some work done!
  10. Be positive - Most people have times when they just don’t want to study or anything, it is natural. However it is not worth sitting staring at your books in an unmotivated mood just waiting to feel inspired. If you’re not feeling it, do something else for a while. Come back to it a bit later and have another go. Usually walking away and coming back is all you need to feel more productive.

I hope these few tips are useful! These are the kind of things that work for me, so give them a shot and let me know if they help. Best of luck with your studies x

A Lesson in Love (A Different Perspective)

Summary: (College!AU) In which you’re assigned to write a story about romance, a subject you know nothing about, and Bucky, a hopeless romantic, offers you his assistance.

Pairing: Bucky x Reader

Word Count: 4,431

A/N: The tag list for this story is CLOSED. 

“A Lesson in Love” Masterlist + Soundtrack

@avengerstories - You are the forever best for editing for me.

Originally posted by skylerlockerbie

“I can’t believe you’ve never been to a track meet before.”

“I’ve never had a reason to come to one,” you say, defending yourself against Wanda’s accusatory tone and disapproving gaze.

“That’s no excuse,” she responds with a click of her tongue. “Now hurry up, we need to secure a good spot.”

You follow her blindly, not knowing what qualifies as a ‘good spot’. Unlike Wanda who has spent years attending track meets with her brother, you’ve never been to one. Like you told her, you never had a reason to attend one. Not until today.

Not until T'Challa.

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I’m tired of lieing.
I’m tired of trying.
I’m not okay and I’m not alright.
Out of sight out of mind, right?
My number of days is counting down.
How soon till I drown?
Ive hurt for awhile, this pain must end.
I’ve cried so much my eyes are red.
I must say no more lies.
I must say my final goodbyes.
—  @trippyv0dka

anonymous asked:

Hey Emma, could you give me some productivity tips?

Hello! Here are a few:

  • clear desk, clear mind - I like to organise things before I start working. If things are messy, I get a little preoccupied and procrastinate even more. My suggestion is clear your desk, sort everything you’ll need to study and get on!
  • the two-minute rule - if a task that needs to be done takes less than two minutes, just do it. My dad has often suggested that this is a great way to sort out your priorities and so far it has worked for me. Things like checking my emails, cross off events from my planner, file something away don’t take long but get you in the mood for productivity. As they say “object in motion, stay in motion”.
  • break your time up - schedule your study time and any breaks you need to take. This helps structure your day and acts as a motivation to get things done. Especially if you can reward yourself at the end! Check out my printables for organising your time!
  • leave your phone alone - Like most people, I use my phone constantly but when I’m trying to work, it is best to leave it alone. Out of sight, out of mind. Try leaving it on silent and behind you so you aren’t tempted to pick it up after every beep. Use your break times to check it.
  • find your top three to five priorities - seeing a long list of things to do is usually, for some people, kind of counterproductive. Figure out the main things that need to be done and work on those. If you’re able to complete those main things, you’ll feel like you’ve accomplished the day’s necessities and may even want to complete some more.
  • try using a mindmap instead of a to-do list - apparently using a mindmap layout instead of a traditional list can help boost productivity. It is a little more funky way to see all your outstanding tasks and might not look as overwhelming as a super long list.
  • wear headphones - you don’t have to always listen to things but it can help block out any noise that can distract you. If you’re someone that likes some music, try songs with little or no words. This is a great playlist by Spotify.
  • don’t multitask - as much as you think you can do it, trying to multitask usually ends up in a confused mess and takes twice the time. Stick to one task at a time. If you think of something you need to do, write it down and do it later.
  • change things up - doing the same things in the same place can get boring. Make the effort every now and then to change where you’re studying or how you’re studying. This can include moving your studying from the desk to the kitchen table for a change of scenery or making flash cards instead of annotating your notes. Studying with a family member or friends is a fun way to get some work done!
  • be positive - most people have times when they just don’t want to study or anything, it is natural. However, it is not worth sitting staring at your books in an unmotivated mood just waiting to feel inspired. If you’re not feeling it, do something else for a while. Come back to it a bit later and have another go. Usually walking away and coming back is all you need to feel more productive.
  • focus on 20-30 minute periods - generally, we lose focus after a while so taking regular breaks can help give you chance to relax and refocus. Apps like Forest allow you to set a timer and will give you off your phone at the same time. Obviously, if you’re being productive, don’t suddenly cut that off because it is “time for a break”.
  • divide and conquer - figure out what is the overall task that you need to do and split it into manageable parts. For instance, with an essay the aim is to write it! Divide it into planning out what you want to write, any references you need, summarising a final draft and then writing each paragraph. By dividing bigger tasks into actionable parts you can reduce the obstacles and get through each part in a more timely manner.
  • make the effort to refocus - if you’re finding something boring and you’re unfocused, walk away for 5 minutes, get a drink and come back. If you’re really struggling, change topics for a while. Find a point where you can finish and start doing something else that is productive. 

Hope that helps :-)

ADHD & "out of sight, out of mind" relationships

Is it weird that it’s hard for me to maintain personal relationships if I don’t physically see them all the time? Like I love my parents and my sister, but I never really *miss* them. I only get homesick when I’m about to leave, but once I’ve adjusted to being at school I’m totally fine. I can go months w/o contacting HS friends and weeks w/o seeing my college friends or even my bf during the semester. I rarely if ever get the urge to reach out. I just don’t think about them, which sounds super callous, but I definitely do care? But it’ll be like 2 weeks since I’ve seen someone who lives a building away or a month since I’ve called my mom and they’ll text me like ‘I miss you!’ and I…don’t? I don’t feel compelled to seek out their company and sometimes I don’t even reply to messages because I don’t have the mental energy to hold an interaction with them. It’s like I pause all my friendships to come back to later, except real life isn’t Netflix and people won’t hold your place if you don’t actually put in the work. I can feel my high school friends drifting apart but I still don’t feel interested in their lives away until we’re back together in person and it feels just the same as always. I don’t realize it’s weird how little I talk to my parents  (who I love very, very much and have a great relationship w) until someone’s like “lol my mom calls at least every other day” and I realize that my mom’s expectations from me are “maybe a few emojis every month”. My boyfriend sometimes complains that he’s never been the one in the relationship to be nagging for a text back. If I’m at college, I don’t miss home, and if I’m at home, I don’t miss my friends from college. 

Is this an ADHD thing? I don’t know what’s wrong with me but I hate that I feel this way. I feel so shallow and self-centered because I struggle to maintain attachments whenever there’s physical distance. I saw this one random blogger make a personal post about this same exact thing, wondering if it was a facet of her ADHD, and now I’m wondering if it’s a facet of mine, too. It’s like I lack “emotional object permanence”, like if I can’t see the relationship it’s not right in front of me. I’ve only just been noticing this because I’m in college, but back in high school I rarely hung out with my friends outside of school and only sporadically had contact over breaks. I didn’t think that was weird but now I’m thinking it kind of is.

(I have Inattentive Type ADHD w/ impulsive tendencies)


Ugh, this posted instead of going to drafts. Tumblr, WTF?!?

Anyway, I was going to look up attachment styles for you because it sounds like you have both the typical ADHD out of sight out of mind thing like you say, but also it sounds like your attachment style is a bit out of whack. You can read up on it via the link from this post. There are ways to mitigate some of the challenges associated with an off-kilter attachment style, and counselling is a good way to work through that process.

-J

lesbi-dishonest  asked:

What is executive dysfunction? I tried to google it but all the answers were so wordy and hard to understand. Is it a symptom of ADHD? A disorder? I don't quite understand.

Executive dysfunction can be kind of a confusing thing, and it’s a few different things, so I’ll try and boil it down a bit :)

Plain old Executive Function is basically what makes us do the things we’re supposed to do. Say you have an assignment due for school. Executive function is what lets you:

1. Remember that you have the assignment.
2. Budget time for it.
3. Take initiative to start working on it.
4. Stay focused until it is complete.

Executive DYSfunction, is the condition of having a dysfunctional executive function. So with the same assignment, and executive dysfunction, you would:

1. Forget the assignment (out of sight, out of mind)
2. Not be able to forecast how much time or energy the assignment will take, and then not budget correctly (thinking you can write an entire paper in one night or one hour)
3. Even when you want to work, you can’t initiate working (your body feels like it can’t obey your brain)
4. You lose steam early on and don’t have the energy or focus to finish the assignment, and you may or may not even turn in the assignment.

It’s not the same as procrastination. When you procrastinate, you have the initiative to work and just don’t want to. With Executive Dysfunction, you just can’t work, even if you really want to.

Executive function is present in every part of your life. It’s associated most with school and work, but it also takes EF to feed yourself regularly and in a healthy way, to take showers, to pay bills, to clean your home, it all comes down to executive function.

I hope that helps! I have a few posts tagged either “executive function” or “executive dysfunction” which show people’s real life experiences, and that will give you an idea of the scope as well!

21 Little Ways to Motivate Yourself

I’ve been lacking a little in the motivation department with the end of the school year drawing closer, so I made a little list of ways to help you stay focused until the end! 

  1. Play your favorite song as you work through your PSET/essay/application/thing you don’t wanna do.
  2. Make yourself a hot cup of tea (or coffee!) in a fun mug. 
  3. Write your to-do list on a piece of pretty stationary with a pretty pen.
  4. Set a timer and race yourself to finish things faster.
  5. Use your imagination - your English paper doesn’t HAVE to be an English paper, it can be a Hogwart’s assignment. Sounds silly, but it works for me!
  6. Find a new place to study. Cute coffee shop? Balcony with a nice view? New section of the library? Heck, just doing your HW on the floor instead of your desk can be more engaging. 
  7. Dress up. You don’t even have to go anywhere, sometimes putting on proper clothing can switch your mindset. 
  8. Conversely, you can find your comfiest PJs and fluffy socks and wear those. 
  9. Put your hair up so it’s not in the way. When I’m focusing, my hair has to be in a ponytail so I’m not fiddling with it. 
  10. Get a snack, preferably something healthy(ish). Drink some H2O.
  11. Write motivational quotes on sticky notes and stick them around your study space. Or write them on your hand so you see it often. 
  12. At the very least, put your books where you can see them. Out of sight, out of mind! 
  13. Same goes for anything you need to get done (laundry, forms you’re supposed to fill out, anything goes!)
  14. Go for a walk around the block and spend some time in fresh air. Jog, if you’re feeling up for it. 
  15. Stretch out your muscles, roll out your shoulders, touch your toes. You’ll feel better if you’re not all tight and sore. 
  16. Put on some lipstick. For some reason, red lipstick always makes me feel like a boss (even if I’m chilling in a hoodie and sweatpants). 
  17. Write out the reasons you started in the first place. Put that list somewhere you can see it [see #12]. 
  18. Take a power nap. I just get a fluffy blanket and sleep right on my desk. 
  19. Talk to someone supportive. Parents? Best friend? Roommate? Your cat/dog/parakeet/goldfish? 
  20. Stand in front of the mirror and power pose. Yes, you’ll feel ridiculous. But it works. 
  21. Smile! 

Junkrat loves Roadhog with his entire heart, there is not one bit he does not like about him. He loves his big arms and huge belly, so warm and huggable. He loves his deep voice, his flaws, his smell, his everything. He melts into Roadhog, he is borderline obsessed with him, never out of sight, out of mind. He couldn’t care less if Roadhog hadn’t bathed in a week, or if Roadhog was covered in the putrid guts of the enemy, he would still sink into him, hold him. Junkrat loves Roadhog with his entire heart.

January told me that just because a new year starts doesn’t mean a new me has to start.


February showed me that I am worthy of being loved.


March exposed me and all my worries and insecurities, and made me stronger by beating me down.


April taught me that sometimes other people see parts of yourself better than you do, but they may not always see the dark parts.


May spread me so thinly that I felt as if I were a drop of rain trying to cover an entire sidewalk.


June set me up; sometimes people are terrible, terrible creatures, and they’re willing to twist things however they need to in order to get what they want.


July presented me with an opportunity to prove that moving on doesn’t mean letting go.


August allowed me to rebuild parts of myself I thought I had lost.


September erased me; once again I would be a blank slate, and that haunted me for days.


October held me up for the world to see; I was now a part of something bigger than myself, something bigger that could make a difference.


November terrified me, showed me that out of sight did not mean out of mind, told me I was still in love even though I tried so hard to let go.


December let me know that just because the year is coming to an end doesn’t mean I have to as well.

Brazilian Colloquialisms, Sayings, and Slang #85

O que os olhos não veêm o coração não sente - What the eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel

A Brazilian saying somewhere between “what she/he doesn’t know wont hurt her/him” and “out of sight, out of mind”, as it can be used both in reference to oneself or to someone else.