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anonymous asked:

Hi hi um I think I'm genderfluid but my brother (who I haven't come out to) says I'm confused gender with gender roles so now I'm really confused abt "do i feel like a guy today??? what does being a guy feel like??? is gender a construct or am i thinking abt gender roles???" I'm so confused hlep me btw I'm afab and use any pronouns ty

Hello!

So here’s the thing, gender is a construct. Our feelings are our feelings, and our gender is part of that. 

I completely understand where you’re coming from. Because a lot of the time people try to fit into a gender-binary and it doesn’t work out, because our society is full of gender roles and stereotypes. 

Just forget about all of that. Forget about society and everyone around you, take a deep breath, and focus completely on yourself. If you feel like a guy then you feel like a guy, end of the story. If you think that slapbacks, and baggy sweaters are masculine that doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s just how you percieve gender. If your feelings are telling you that you should wear something that society says is for men, and that you feel like a man doing that then that’s okay. That’s totally fine, that’s just how you percieve gender and everyone percieves gender differently.

There are some people who will wear skirts and dresses and feel just as masculine as they would in a tuxedo. There are some people who wouldn’t feel as comfortable doing something like that. It’s just how we feel.

And it doesn’t just apply to clothing, it could be everyday activities. If you think that videogames is a girl thing, and that when you’re a girl you like to play videogames then that’s just how you feel and that’s okay.

There’s a fine line between gender roles and stereotypes and our own feelings. Sometimes they even coexist because that’s what society has taught us. Obviously clothing doesn’t have gender, and obviously everyday activities don’t have gender either, we know that, we recognize that and that’s why we don’t judge others when they do something that is out of the “gender norm”. But at the same time we have to recognize our own feelings…

We live in a world and a society that is heavily influenced by gender, and if you alleviate your dysphoria by dressing masculine, or if you have euphoric moments when “you’re part of the girls” or “part of the guys” then that’s what you do. You do what makes you feel good, and you do what makes you happy. And if no one is getting hurt then there is nothing wrong with that.

Just be yourself, and don’t worry about anything else. And take advice from people who think the same way as you. Don’t take advice about gender from cis people, take it from the genderqueer and non-binary community. You wouldn’t ask for a cooking recipe from the person who always orders in.

Hope this helps. Good Luck!
and sorry for writing so much, I just wanted to make myself clear.

Text Art Proposals - Joy Awadalla and Sahil Chonkar
  1. Our first proposal is influenced by the Black Lives Matter Movement. Racial injustice is highly prevalent in our society and our text installation art seeks to explore issues of police brutality and racial stereotypes. Out text installation art will feature a black student studying on Rutgers campus. Our text art will be exposed through a police officers sunglasses. While the student is studying, a pair of sunglasses that belong to the officer will view the student. In the sunglasses, racial stereotypes will be written completely across the lenses. Instead of seeing the harmless student, the officer is blinded by racial stereotypes and false representations.
  2. Another idea for our research proposal was to incorporate the idea of alcohol abuse in college life. It is well known how the majority of kids in college consume alcohol during their free time despite the fact that its illegal.  We feel as though a good idea would be to have a handle of some kind of liquor outside a fraternity house or someplace where alcohol consumption is most likely going on. The handle label will have our text written where instead of the name of the alcohol, it will have a line that somehow contradicts the fact that kids in college are in fact drinking. 
  3. The final proposal is an imitation of the D.A.R.E Say No Drugs campaign. This proposal aims to expose how ineffective drug campaigns can be. Drug campaigns do not expose realities of addiction and drug use. By being told to “just say no” many kids have an unrealistic expectation about drug use and grow a curiosity to the idea. Featuring Daren the lion (D.A.R.E’s mascot), our text art aims to give a better understanding about drug use and the problematic nature of highly funded drug campaigns. 
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Oklahoma Rep. wants men to have more say in women’s abortions, says women are just “hosts”

  • The Oklahoma rep behind the state’s most recent abortion bill thinks it’s time men were allowed a little more say in what women do with their bodies — because women are mere “hosts” who don’t always treat their wombs responsibly.
  • “I believe one of the breakdowns in our society is that we have excluded the man out of all of these types of decisions,” Oklahoma Rep. Justin Humphrey told The Intercept.
  • His bill, HB 1441, would require women seeking abortions to first obtain the father’s written permission.
  • “I understand that they feel like that is their body,” he continued, referring to women. “I feel like it is a separate — what I call them is, is you’re a ‘host.’ And you know when you enter into a relationship you’re going to be that host and so, you know, if you pre-know that then take all precautions and don’t get pregnant.” Read more (2/14/17 8:00 AM)

Seriously… this is what it’s come down to? When I first saw this image I didn’t know what I was looking at, I saw the armored car and Flack vests and thought it was an image from a battle field in Afghanistan. There is a sickness creeping into our society that must be rooted out now it is the love of money over the wellbeing of human beings. It was always there but somehow slightly kept in check but somehow we have now crossed a line. #NoDapl

Just a PSA to all Asians

Shoutout to Asians who:
- Cannot speak their parent’s native language
- Have been told they don’t “look asian”, or are “a bad asian”
- Whose achievements have been immediately invalidated “because you’re asian”
- Who come from biracial families
- That feel like they don’t fit the “standard” for their ethnicity

You guys are amazing, and 100% valid. Never forget that.

I need to get something off my chest.

I know I said before that I personally don’t like the stereotypes yaoi has or the way fujoshis portray gay couples

But lately I feel like all the bashing against them or straight women who watch shows with LGBT characters in general is uncalled for

Usually, they simply enjoy the ship like any other ship(Of course excluding the ones who call it sin) and even learn to support the LGBT community along the way?

Meanwhile straight men who enjoy lesbian porn and content in general still treat the LGBTQA+ community like shit, only like lesbian couples for their sexual fantasies and even sometimes claim they dislike real life LBTQA+ women?? Yet I don’t see long ass posts bashing them or people giving them names with awful meanings like fujoshis?

Also, whenever there’s a show with a gay ship straight men spend their time bashing the shippers (and the show if this ship becomes canon), meanwhile straight women react to lesbian ships with neutrality and even positivity most of the time, if not always?

This feels like yet another way to hate on women…

One of the challenges that we have in America is that America is a society based on conquest, not on survival. It is a society, by and large, based on the concept that there is always a West, always a frontier. There will always be someplace to go. We don’t necessarily have to give thanks for where we are because we’re moving. That’s what has happened in this America, is this conceptual frameworkโ€”there is always going to be someplace we can go or something else we can buy….

You cannot make an argument to me that the United States is sustainable, because there is no way that a society that causes so much extinctionโ€”an industrial society that caused the extinction of over two thousand nations of indigenous peopleโ€”is sustainable…. A society that causes so much extinction is not a society that is nourishing.
—  Winona LaDuke, “Honor the Earth: Our Native American Legacy” in The Winona LaDuke Reader: A Collection of Essential Writings (2002, p. 180)

anonymous asked:

Your opinion on men not giving women orgasms? Are they being selfish by getting theirs and not giving back?

Uh, YEAH. I have no idea what kinda fucked up turn our society took where it was a given that a man HAD to have an orgasm, yet for women it was a luxury. Fuuuuck that shit.

If you’re having sex with someone and they get theirs but don’t stop to even think about giving you yours, they don’t care about you and they are an asshole, full stop. There’s no ifs, ands, or buts about it. A woman’s orgasm should not some special biannual event. Start demanding your orgasms, ladies.

He doesn’t know how? Google it.

It takes too long? The average man born in 1990 has spent a collective total of 72 DAYS pooping. He’s got time.

He doesn’t like it because it makes his mouth hurt? And sucking dick is comfortable?? I think the fuck not.

He doesn’t like it because it makes his fingers hurt? If he can play video games for 3 hours every night, he can rub a clitoris for 15 minutes.