This all really needs to be said.
However, before I go further I want you all to understand that this isn’t meant to be a hate paragraph or to purposefully put those who like Mon-El and/or Karamel down. At this point, all the disagreeing and fighting will do nothing. So I’m asking kindly that if you’re going to add something to this post- that it is filled with positive intent.
Anyhow, to my point:
I do watch Supergirl by the way, but I truly believe this concerns a wide variety of people. Whether you’re a fan of The 100, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, The Walking Dead, or just a person living your life…
All I hope is that we all try to grasp the reality of what is truly going on.
Now I will centralize this long rant towards Supergirl however. For those of you who don’t know what is going on there is a conflict between fans who ship this character, Mon-El, together with Supergirl/Kara and fans who ship Lena Luthor with Supergirl/Kara. Now, in my humble opinion, the big issue isn’t about straight v.s lgbt people and I will go on about that later… but the fact that she is with someone like Mon-El. Now what do I mean by ‘someone like Mon-El’… before certain people get mad I want to emphasize that I’m simply pointing out what happened in the show.
This is long as hell just fyi.
1) The way Mon-El reacts to most things is through violence. In fact, the moment he wakes up he chokes Kara. And there’s this:
(his words in white)
And the scene where Mon-El robs Brian; using his powers for selfish reasons.
He even calls her names. And notice how he does this the moment Kara disagrees with him. A reaction that does more harm than good. On the other hand, when Kara and Lena disagree on something (in ep. 2x03) they simply talk it out. They ask questions, explain, clarify, and come to an understanding.
Now, I’m not here to say that I have NEVER agreed with anything Mon-El has said, actually I applaud him for accepting Maggie and Alex’s relationship the way he did, but that’s just the thing. The opinions/beliefs he has don’t come from himself. Most of what he thinks is based off of what he’s seen on Daxam. He really isn’t at all mature. He isn’t by any means and it’s simply the truth. Now hear me out-
This is what I mean by he isn’t mature: How many times has Kara asked him politely and specifically not to do something but without hesitation still does it? And how many times has he had to beg for forgiveness?
In addition, he doesn’t have knowledge of what respect truly means. What’s interesting though about this scene in particular- is how it’s supposed to be a ‘funny’ scene. Mon-El’s character is written in as ‘funny’ and ‘aloof’… but it sends a poisonous message- that Kara’s feelings aren’t to be taken seriously. And this show is literally supposed to be about her. Not a guy who thinks it’s his duty to ‘defend her honor’ and then complains about it.
Now I know that this was how people on Daxam acted and their way of life was for the most part, sexist, racist, etc. But that still doesn’t give him an excuse to act the way he does.
2) Lena herself comes from a family with twisted values as well. She is adopted into the Luthor family and has had close to no friends most of her life. And yet she’s still capable of being a perfectly decent person.
She does save the alien population not once, but twice. So not only is Lena proved time and time again that she’s a good person, but her relationship with Kara (btw I call it a ‘relationship’ just like the writers do)… is not even close to toxic, detrimental, or abusive. It’s the complete opposite.
“I can take care of myself”
3) Being in a healthy relationship is about the effort between two willing people… at the same time, knowing your boundaries whilst encouraging one another.
4) Kara deserves someone who fully acknowledges her efforts and is grateful for them
Ben: In my time working for the State Government, my job sent me to 46 cities in 11 years. I lived in villages with eight people, rural farming communities, college towns. I was sent to every corner in Indiana. And then I came here. And I realised that, this whole time, I was just wondering around, everywhere, just looking for you.
Leslie: The things that you have done for me, to help me, support me, surprise me, to make me happy go above and beyond what any person deserves. You’re all I need. I love you and I like you.
Inuyasha and Kagome, acting like a married couple.
In Japan, and a lot of Asian countries, we don’t casually say “I love you,” not even to family and spouse. Public displays of affection are limited to hand-holding for couples. Anything more between them, like a quick peck on the cheek, could get you some embarrassed coughs or squeals from passersby (unless at an appropriate setting…like a nightclub?).
And it was worse in the past: I forget which innocuous painting – maybe Klimt’s “The Kiss” – either way it was considered so risqué that it was curtained off from the general public when first displayed in Japan, as if it was porn.
Avert your eyes, children! They’re somewhat possibly maybe kissing!
Even now, students really do the whole confess-to-your-senpai-somewhere-private (it’s not just in anime), because it’s a formal affair. You don’t simply go up to a classmate in the hallway and say, “Hey, wanna grab a bite after school? Just you and me?” *wink*
You’ll give the poor kid an aneurysm.
Yes, that’s exactly the reaction you’ll get.
Which is why every affectionate behavior seen between InuKag, especially in a public setting, is indicative of some deepfeelings. I’ve heard people say InuKag are friends first, and while I don’t disagree there’s gonna be a lot of suspicious side-eyes in Japan
due to all the boundaries InuKag crossed, as if they skipped an entire step and immediately went from strangers to love interests.
Perhaps, for but a moment
like less than a nanosecond they were “just friends” before Cupid’s cruel heat seeking arrow struck.
But it doesn’t help that Inuyasha is like a kid stumbling in the dark regarding love: “Her presence soothes my soul,” “I feel stronger when I’m with her,” or “She’s the first person I ever trusted.”
Dude, you’ve got it baaaaad for Kagome. I know you haven’t been exposed to a lot of positive influences, but c’mon…
In their situation, actions really do speak louder than words, since that stupid survivor-guilt-suffering Inuyasha thinks he doesn’t deserve happiness.
*Of course, this means Kouga’s declaration and actions were audacious on a whole ‘nother level.
Uh…not quite that…actually, maybe by canine standards…
I am not really “marriage material”, like seriously I get sick every time I think about a white dress and a black suit, vows, hundreds of people as guests, who I don’t even know, and calling my beloved “husband” or “wife” afterwards. Weddings can be different but you get the idea.
Although, when this is about my OTPs getting married it is a completely different story and I am like👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀 good shit go౦ԁ sHit👌 thats ✔ some good👌👌shit right👌👌there👌👌👌 right✔there ✔✔if i do ƽaү so my self 💯 i say so 💯 thats what im talking about right there right there (chorus: ʳᶦᵍʰᵗ ᵗʰᵉʳᵉ) mMMMMᎷМ💯 👌👌 👌НO0ОଠOOOOOОଠଠOoooᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ👌 👌👌 👌 💯 👌 👀 👀 👀 👌👌Good shit.
All of my precious babies (well, most of them) have been through such shitty and difficult times, but love is never easy, innit? And they so fucking deserve this “happy ever after” thing even if it means penguin suits and stupid vows and especially if it means all these domestic little things like sloppy shoulder kisses in the early morning or the bigger ones like feeling of belonging with each other.
I ship my OTPs with happiness and this is the most amazing OT3 you’ve ever seen, I assure you.
"The job is mine, Shortcake,” Joshua’s voice says. To stop myself from standing up and punching him in the gut I’m counting one, two, three, four … “Funny, that’s what Helene just told me.” I watch his backside walk away in the glossed surface of my desk, and vow that Joshua Templeman is going to lose the most important game we’ve ever played.
Happy birthday to the snapchat queen, a PS wizard and a great friend @cobaltcharlie ;*