otp: the best choice i ever made

anonymous asked:

i realized you shipped delena at some point and you think both stefan and were abusives but damon is more? and the reason why u stopped shipping them is because damon abuses her and the writers don't allow her to say things like "you know what else blew? being sired to you" with her humanity on? like the writers don't acknowledge the abuse of delena and doesn't allow elena to fight back?

I have been involved in TVD fandom for about eightish years. My opinions were informed by the unfinished nature of the canon and the people I’ve been surrounded by. I’ve grown and changed since, say, season four of TVD. Lost friends and gained new ones, whose reactions to TVD informed my own. The fact that the story is closed means very nature of how I interact with the text changes. My view of Stefan nearly killing Elena in mid season three has changed from the moment I saw it, to the seasons that came after it, to how I see it now.

I don’t like to say that Damon abused Elena more than Stefan or vice versa. Mostly, because I find quantifying something abuse impossible, fruitless, and honestly missing the point.

But here is what I can say about my feelings/thoughts as of now: Damon’s entire relationship with Elena has been about him dominating and using her with very little care for her as a person in her right. Stefan and Elena’s relationship started when they were both in very dark places, where they found some light and hope in one another. Their relationship had its highs and lows. There were times when the relationship was a source of growth and healing for them both - but there were also times when one of them hurt the other.

I don’t think anyone has ever hurt Elena as much as Stefan. He kidnapped her, shoved his blood in her throat, and threatened to turn her into a vampire. Hurting Klaus was one of his goals - but taking everything he knew about Elena, her fears and dreams and hopes, and using it against her. He wanted to make her hate him. Elena seeing through it and loving him anyway was not what I’d call a healthy choice made from a well adjusted person.

Season three also ends with, perhaps, the most powerful act of love in the entire narrative: Stefan saving Matt instead of Elena. In that moment, he cemented not only his love for Elena, but also his respect for her. He knows how much guilt she carries for being at the center of a supernatural war, he knows she blames herself for all the death around her. He knew that saving Matt was more important her than living and he put her desires ahead of his own. It broke his heart to let her die, but he did it anyway. It was an act of sacrificial love, perhaps the most powerful kind of all. 

Season four turns it head on their dynamic some more, with Elena taking Stefan’s worst fears and hopes and dreams and using them to hurt him. Elena kills that waitress to punish <em>Stefan</em>, not Damon. Of course, Elena never has as much power because of the sire bond and having her humanity turned off against her will - but it says something about the dynamic nature of their relationship that Elena uses what power she does have to hurt Stefan when it suited her needs (as Stefan did with her).

Stefan and Elena’s relationship is rich with meaning. Plec and Williamson have talked extensively about what their relationship meant to the narrative and to each character involved. Williamson’s views Delena as disposable and not at all important to Elena’s journey. Plec can talk extensively about what Delena means to Damon - but very little about what it means to Elena. For Plec, Delena is about Damon and it really shows.

Look, the most interesting Damon/Elena ever were was in early season three. Elena wanted Damon, but was afraid of what that said about her - that she was attracted to a monster who killed her brother and abused her best friends. Caroline said it made her human. And so season three became about Elena decided what kind of person she wanted to be. At the end of the day, she saw Stefan - the man who always got back up and tried to rise above his mistakes - as the person she wanted to make a life with. She wanted to keep Damon, all the dark parts of herself she hated, but she felt she had to make a choice.

But it never goes anywhere after that, at least not for Elena. The most interesting she is is in the start of season six when she wishes away her love for Damon, in part, because she’s tied so much of herself into loving Damon she no longer knew who she was without him.

And then she took him back because of reasons (Nina was leaving, time to neatly tie up Delena instead of continuing with the Stefan/Damon/Elena triangle - the lack of Stefan->Caroline development in season five and six wasn’t an accident - Stefan was never going to end up happily ever after with Caroline if Nina had stayed). Damon/Elena stopped trying to say and do anything with Elena, so I lost interest in even reading against what I believe was authorial intent, like I did with so much of Damon/Elena is seasons 1-4ish. I mean, whenever Elena’s perspective was highlighted, it was her breaking up with him, her bending her morals to be with him, her erasing her memories of him, her not bothering to write about him while waxing poetry about her other epic love instead. As a fan of Elena, there’s only so much I can do with that.

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stelena quotes (long post)

otp: never mind you’re here (1x01)
otp: i will see him again (1x02)
otp: i will see her again (1x02)
otp: we’re a pair (1x03)
otp: i would be honored to accompany you miss gilbert (1x04)
otp: the pleasure is all mine mr. salvatore (1x04)
otp: he saw that i was happy with you (1x06)
otp: i can’t lose the way i feel about you (1x07)
otp: you saved her life i’m sorry stefan i thought that i couldn’t be with you but i can you don’t have to push me away i can do this (1x09)
otp: if you walk it’s for you because i know what i want stefan i love you (1x10)
otp: you’re the woman that i love i love you (1x11)
otp: no vampires but you (1x16)
otp: i trust you (1x17)
otp: i love you so much (1x18)
otp: i love you too (1x18)
otp: can you hear me? thanks for coming i’m nervous but i’m happy that you’re here i love you (1x21)
otp: i’m so glad you’re okay (1x22)
otp: i’m just gonna check on jeremy before i go to the hospital can you meet me there? okay i love you stefan (2x01)
otp: it’s just so nice to see you laugh (2x02)
otp: i hate it but i love you (2x03)
otp: what part of i’m worried about stefan didn’t sink in? (2x04)
otp: it’s you and me stefan always (2x05)
otp: i love you so much and i know how much you love me (2x06)
otp: i wanna be with you stefan you know that (2x07)
otp: i can’t think of a better reason to die (2x08)
otp: you don’t have to worry i’m not gonna let anything happen to you (2x09)
otp: stefan is in there damon! how could you let this happen? (2x10)
otp: i care about damon but i love stefan (unaired scene 2x12)
otp: i don’t want us to be apart anymore ever (2x12)
otp: i’m trying to keep you safe (2x14)
otp: there’s no reason for you to get hurt i love you (2x20)
otp: stefan? stefan if this is you you’ll be okay i love you stefan hold on to that never let that go (3x01)
otp: you want me to make a wish? i just want to know that he’s alive (3x01)
otp: he would never give up on me i’m not gonna give up on him (3x02)
otp: come home (3x03)
otp: there’s the girl with the necklace you love her you’d do anything for her and you have all to keep her away from klaus (3x04)
otp: stefan i love you fight stefan don’t give up (3x05)
otp: you really do love her don’t you? (3x05)
otp: now this is fascinating i’ve never seen this before the only thing stronger than your craving for blood is your love for this one girl (3x05)
otp: i knew you’d catch me (3x06)
otp: i know who you really are better than anyone stefan and i’m not giving up (3x06)
otp: i haven’t given up stefan i still have hope (3x07)
otp: it’s no secret that i want klaus dead he has a hold over stefan’s life (3x08)
otp: stefan would never dream of killing her well crazy or not that kind of love never dies (3x11)
otp: you’re better than both of us (3x12)
otp: i love her damon (3x13)
otp: i feel i feel everything (3x14)
otp: are we talking about alaric here or are we talking about you? because i wasn’t planning on giving up on either of you (3x17)
otp: stefan i never stopped loving you (3x18)
otp: i love you i will always love you (3x18)
otp: i’m going to the dance and i’d like to go with you (3x20)
otp: she’s a pretty special girl (3x21)
otp: i love him damon (3x22)
otp: stefan listen to me you did the right thing you did what you always do you respected my choice (4x01)
otp: i had to choose and i picked you because i love you no matter what happens it’s the best choice i’ve ever made (4x01)
otp: you’re in hell which means that i’m in hell (4x02)
otp: i love her and i don’t want to hold her back (4x03)
otp: do you have any more lessons for me? i’m all yours (unaired scene 4x04)
otp: listen to me you are the one who’s getting me through this no matter who teaches me how to feed (4x04)
otp: i envy that you and elena i envy the love you have (4x04)
otp: i’ll always love her (4x05)
otp: i love you so much for wanting to find this cure (4x06)
otp: it’s not like i don’t love stefan anymore (4x07)
otp: i was completely in love with stefan (4x09)
otp: you’re still protecting her (4x10)
otp: i’m not gonna let the people that i care about get hurt not jeremy not elena (4x12)
otp: you know how much i’ve wanted a human life with you (4x14)
otp: i remember our sex and it was good sex (4x16)
otp: you ruined my relationship with stefan so you’re not a good person (4x19)
otp: you deserve whatever you want out of life you deserve this (4x23)
otp: she’s the love of my life i’d go back to her in a heartbeat (4x23)
otp: stefan’s been… he’s been suffering for months while i’ve been rolling around with you a self-proclaimed serial killer (5x02)
otp: where is stefan? what happened to stefan damon? WHERE IS HE?! (5x02)
otp: stefan we missed you (5x03)
otp: i surround myself with amazing people who help me through it like you you’re one of those people (5x04)
otp: you’re the strongest woman in the world (5x04)
otp: you were the perfect boyfriend (5x04)
otp: you hated yourself for a century but then you found her (5x06)
otp: thank you for just being you (5x06)
otp: come on stefan you got your memory back you know me probably better than anyone else (5x07)
otp: i miss you (5x07)
otp: i think you’re still in love with elena (5x09)
otp: one night an eternity you would never look at me the way you look at elena would you? (5x10)
otp: it was paradise actually i saw a perfect life stefan and i were married and we had kids it was everything that we wanted (5x18)
otp: i will always love you elena (5x18)
otp: i will always love you too (5x18)
otp: i loved stefan the entire time (6x02)
otp: i’m just happy to finally see you again (6x03)
otp: i have always loved you and i want to spend the rest of my life with you (6x04)
otp: silas (stefan’s doppelganger) was definitely hot (6x13)
otp: who gave birth to the two epic loves of my life (6x17)
otp: you were so quiet earlier when i was tearing into elena i was scared you were feeling sad for her (6x19)
otp: people are uncomfortable around salvatores in tuxes it stirs feelings (6x21)
otp: i love you so much (6x22)
otp: you knew me better than anyone you always have (6x22)
otp: i mean you were even sitting next to elena so of course you only had eyes for her (7x03)
otp: take it from me elena gilbert never really goes away (8x09)
otp: i can see why you both love her (8x14)
otp: it’s good to see you elena one last time (8x16)
otp: i owe it all to stefan when i met him i had lost my parents and i was dead inside but he brought me back to life (8x16)

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tvd final season meme:  top ten dynamics
 [4/10]  Katherine & Elena

 ↳ “  I  was  you  before you even  existed.

  • otp: we have history together
  • otp: you won't be sad forever
  • otp: it was epic
  • otp: we're a work in progress
  • otp: i can't lose the way i feel about you
  • otp: it's real
  • otp: i completely forget what i am
  • otp: when it's real you can't walk away
  • otp: don't walk away
  • otp: don't hide from me
  • otp: you are the woman that i love
  • otp: you bought me flowers
  • otp: i trust you
  • otp: you were saving my life and i was saving yours
  • otp: i just want to spend as much time with you as possible
  • otp: it's your choice
  • otp: you have nothing to worry about
  • otp: i came back to this town to start a life with you
  • otp: it's just so nice to see you laugh
  • otp: come with me
  • otp: but i love you
  • otp: it's you and me stefan always
  • otp: always
  • otp: you're staring; i'm gazing
  • otp: because i love you so much
  • otp: with stefan she was home
  • otp: i can't think of a better reason to die
  • otp: because you and i fell in love
  • otp: i don't want us to ever be apart anymore
  • otp: this is a future memory
  • otp: i just want you to fight for it
  • otp: i will always protect elena
  • otp: it matters
  • otp: i'd want to be with you forever
  • otp: close your eyes
  • otp: i'm not gonna let elena lose anybody else
  • otp: i just want to know that he's alive
  • otp: hold onto that
  • otp: never let that go
  • otp: he'd never give up on me
  • otp: i'm not gonna give up on him
  • otp: come home
  • otp: where else would i be?
  • otp: you love her
  • otp: you'd do anything for her and you have
  • otp: you owe me that
  • otp: i owe you everything
  • otp: you are the one thing that has kept me from giving up
  • otp: nothing is stronger than your love for this one girl
  • otp: i know who you really are better than anyone else
  • otp: i'm not giving up
  • otp: i knew you'd catch me
  • otp: i still have hope
  • otp: you have to get your hope back
  • otp: you had me
  • otp: that kind of love never dies
  • otp: you're the one who saved me
  • otp: i love her
  • otp: i don't believe that you feel nothing
  • otp: i never stopped loving you
  • otp: i will always love you
  • otp: some guy i used to date
  • otp: some girl i used to date
  • otp: you have me
  • otp: she's a pretty special girl
  • otp: you're her better option
  • otp: you should love the person that makes you glad that you're alive
  • otp: being with stefan somehow i figured it out
  • otp: just in case there is no later
  • otp: i love him
  • otp: i never unfell for him
  • otp: i was coming back for you
  • otp: i'm smiling; me too
  • otp: the best choice i ever made
  • otp: i'll be with you forever
  • otp: one day at a time
  • otp: your hands on my body
  • otp: you're so cheery
  • otp: you're the one getting me through this
  • otp: you just have to hold on
  • otp: i just need you to trust me
  • otp: stefan is your epic love
  • otp: now that's love
  • otp: he fought so hard he actually managed to resist
  • otp: i envy the love that you and elena share
  • otp: all i see is stefan and elena
  • otp: you know how badly i wanted a human life with you
  • otp: she didn't give up on me
  • otp: i won't give up on her
  • otp: i never thought i'd feel that way again until elena
  • otp: i just can't seem to shake her
  • otp: you just have to find that one thing inside of you that makes you want to live
  • otp: welcome back
  • otp: she's the love of my life
  • otp: i'd go back to her in a heartbeat
  • otp: you never gave up on me
  • otp: i owed you one
  • otp: don't give up
  • otp: these are the moments that keep me from falling apart
  • otp: stefan has elena
  • otp: this is where we collided
  • otp: you're smart you're pretty you're funny
  • otp: how do i not remember you?
  • otp: you were the perfect boyfriend
  • otp: you respected my choices
  • otp: i told you not to hide
  • otp: you may not remember but i do
  • otp: i got you
  • otp: i won't let her hurt you i promise
  • otp: your instincts were always to protect me
  • otp: you know me better than anybody else
  • otp: i do know you
  • otp: i wanted it to be you
  • otp: that kind of love can change your whole life
  • otp: every atom in my body told me that it was the right thing
  • otp: we were the perfect fit
  • otp: she wasn't you
  • otp: the life we had was amazing
  • otp: it was real
  • otp: we fell in love on our own
  • otp: i'll always love you
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You’ve always been my best friend. I have always loved you.

     And I want to spend the rest of my life without you.

         You are my rock.

              You’ve brought me back from the edge.

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”I was coming back for you, Stefan. I had to choose and I picked you. Because I love you. No matter what happens, it’s the best choice I ever made.”

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‘I came back to this town to start a life with you. We can’t forget to live it.’

Stefan and Elena, they were soul-mates.

Elena would sense Stefan’s presence. “You’re right behind me aren’t you?”

Elena never forgot to reassure Stefan how much she loved him.

Elena and Stefan were passionate, and they made love, not sex, love.

Elena would feel sad, but Stefan never failed to be there, holding her face and kissing her forehead.

After a near death situation, Elena would run to Stefan not only because she loved him but because she found comfort in him. Once she was in his arms, she was able to breathe again.

Whenever Stefan and Elena would disagree, instead of yelling or acting out of impulse Stefan would kiss Elena and give her the look that spoke, “trust me.”

Stefan wanted to have a normal life with Elena more than he wanted anything else. He wanted to grow old with her and have a family. All Stefan wanted was to be with Elena forever, even if that meant that they’d die human.

“Uh-oh Elena’s human again, am I sensing another brother swap?” And not only the words,but the happiness on both of their faces makes it clear, that they would have been endgame.

They were so right for one another. Stefan is Elena’s home. Elena is Stefan’s home.

After all, Elena chose Stefan when she was the best version of herself; he was the best choice she ever made.