other women we love

honestly

why can’t girls just be nice to one another? like fr???? I see so many girls bringing other girls down. honey you are NOT a “cake face,” a “hoe,” a “bitch,” or a “skank” for wearing the clothes you like or the makeup that makes you feel beautiful! post selfies! tell other girls you like their lipstick! start loving yourself and others! and I’m not just talking about white cis girls. ALL WOMEN NEED TO START RESPECTING EACHOTHER. I can not tell you how many times I’ve been called a bitch or a slut just for wearing clothes I think are cute! honestly I am tired of all the women on women hatred. every time I see a girl I try to compliment her! a simple, “I love your hair!” or, “cute shirt!” goes a LONG way! let’s stop hating eachother and ourselves please. ladies you are ALL beautiful! WOC, trans women, everyone!

  • Sanvers fandom post 2x06: slow burn time!
  • Sanvers fandom post 2x22: we were so naive

Prompt for Moms Made Fullmetal Week 2017

Day One : Growth - “All Grown Up”

In which Riza finds a very old photograph of her and ‘her boys’ and reminisces, all the while wondering when exactly had they looked so grown up as they did in the picture.

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#Gotta love seeing Meredith supporting Jolex AND Jo (✿◠‿◠)

  • Men using the 'Respect Women' meme: ❌😣🚷⚠️🔪❌👿☠️❌🤢💣
  • Women using the 'Respect Women' meme: 💕😊💐♥️📢🎶‼️💐🚺💯💝💌🌈

Is anyone else enraged that there are no normal lesbian movies??? Why are all of the movies under the lesbian and gay category on Netflix so sexualized and riddled with guilt? Why can’t we just have two women that love each other and want to be together without feeling the guilt of it being a student/teacher relationship or guilt of cheating on their husbands???

What she says: I’m fine

What she thinks: Seo Taeji and Suran blessed us with a beautiful and touching video that points out struggles such as disabilities and mental health, where two women love and support each other in every possible way. We got a MV to compliment a beautiful and soothing song filled with sapphic love as well as girl/girl solidatity with a happy ending despite the character’s complicated situation, with bright colors and beautiful cinematography without a single hint of sexualization or fetishization. That, my friend, is true art.

laurenjauregui: Happy #nationalcomingoutday to all of my lovely queer humans❤ all of you who have stood proudly in your truth, I am so proud of your courage to love yourself in this world. And to all who are still unsure what that truth may even be, you are not alone and I am proud of you for being exactly who you are. Everyone’s journey is different. We were all indoctrinated with so much hatred of our true selves finding them and loving them sometimes takes a lot longer than we even want to admit. Just a quick little post to let you all know you are loved, important and valuable. You are not who you choose to love but you are the amount of love you give. Keep giving that love to everyone around you, even those that reject you, and keep standing in your truth. We change the world by being ourselves and not allowing others to tell us who that is. BE GREAT! Have a great day! And also! Happy international #dayofthegirl to all my beautiful women out there standing in their power, strength and truth. Remember you are not defined by anything anyone else tells you you should be and to keep breaking those boundaries they set around you. You are limitless energy of healing and love and when you understand this and bring other women into that light with you, we are unstoppable. LOVE YALL❤🌈💞❤🌈

I'm gonna get up on a soap box a little here:

THE GIRLS IN DEH NEED MORE RECOGNITION.

the girls in DEH need MORE RECOGNITION

the girls in DEH need more recognition

THE LADIES IN DEH NEED AND DESERVE MORE FREAKING RECOGNITION

Do you see a pattern here?

I think that, for the most part the fandom can pretty much agree on that.

You might think Alana is annoying, or that what she did was wrong, but that doesn’t make her not important. She is an incredibly deep character and I’ve hashed some of that out in a previous post if you care about my opinion. Also can I get a “HELL YEAH” for Kristolyn Lloyd? That woman is a gd powerhouse.

You might dislike Zoe, I know I dislike some of the things she says, but that doesn’t make her any less of a strong, developed, wonderfully written and portrayed female character. Zoe is important. And can we talk about Laura Dreyfuss please? Talk about perfection personified.

I mean idk how you could hate Heidi that woman tried so damn hard. She isn’t perfect because who is? but she owns that fact, more so than any other character in the show. She knows she’s fail at times but that doesn’t mean she didn’t give her all. Heidi Hansen is important. Heidi Hansen is Supermom and you can fight me behind Denny’s at 3am if you disagree. Also I’ll fight you if you dare insult my mother Rachel Bay Jones.

Cynthia, oh Cynthia. She is a terrible mother. And you know what, that sucks. But you know what else? She lost her son. Okay, this woman lost her freaking son, and she has every right to lose her damn mind. But she exhibits characteristics of a kind and caring person, who is generous and thankful for her lot. Her failing Connor (and Zoe) doesn’t make her a bad person. No one gets handed a “how-to mother” book when they have kids. People make mistakes, some people make a lot of mistakes. She tried. That’s all you can do sometimes. Cynthia Murphy is important. Don’t you dare dispute it. Jennifer Laura Thompson puts nearly as much emotion into that show as Ben does. She’s on stage sobbing and playing a grieving mother every night and someone give her an award please.

HOWEVER:

•Evan Hansen is the main character. He’s gonna get attention.

•Connor Murphy is a mystery (and played by Michael Faist). He’s gonna get attention.

•Jared Kleinman is the comic relief and therefore easy to make jokes around. He’s gonna get attention.

•Larry sucks. No attention for you. (But yay Michael Park!)

•We don’t need to tear the other characters down, just boost these ladies up so they are on an even playing field as the others.

But there should be just as much Alana and Cynthia as there is Jared. Just as much Heidi as there is Connor. Just as much Zoe as there is Evan.

And this isn’t just one persons fault. It’s everyone’s fault. I know I’m guilty of posting more about Connor Murphy than any of the ladies. And the media does it too. (I NEED MORE LAURA INTERVIEWS ALSO KRISTOLYN). But it is something that we can all fix. It doesn’t take much to put a pause on our bathbomb memes and show these ladies some love.

And this isn’t just a DEH problem. It’s in every fandom out there for the most part.

anonymous asked:

I feel so bad right now because of the episode and I don't want to move but I have school tomorrow and I'm really depressed

Oh honey, we’re in the same boat.

But hey listen.

We ship two women who love each other and are giving each other full, happy lives.

We ship two women who look at each other like this:

Originally posted by detective-maggie-sawyer

Originally posted by vocal--sabbatical

And who kiss each other like this:

Originally posted by danasoupchef

And who laugh together like this:

Originally posted by eternalsanvers

We ship two women who care for each other, who are committed to each other, who assert to the other what they need, who build each other up, who own up to their mistakes and work so hard to fix them, who listen to each other and respect each other and who are falling deeply, deeply in love with each other as they cultivate a beautiful and healthy and loving relationship.

That’s what I’m going to be grabbing onto, and I hope it comforts you, too.

I’m sending you so much love, sweetheart. So. Much. Love.

Originally posted by lesbianalexdanvers

Who Are Your Sugar Sisters? (And How to Find Some if You Don’t Have Any)

Do you remember what it felt like? That first message you received or sent to another sugar baby that you wanted to connect with? Do you remember the feelings of being nervous and excited that someone you admired wanted to talk to you? Someone that was making strides in the bowl or was just on the verge of it was interested in being friends with you. Do you remember rewriting your message and wondering whether it made you sound like a dork? Did you have to tell yourself to be cool the way I did? 

Do you remember when the conversation stopped feeling stilted and awkward? Do you remember your first inside joke? The first time you met in person? How good it felt after that first meeting that they weren’t a weirdo? Do you remember the moment you realized that you weren’t just sugar sisters you were sister-friends?

Do you remember how it felt to hang out with them? To talk and know you weren’t going to have to apologize or explain? They were just going to have your back. They were going to root you on, prop you up, guide you when they could? Do you remember the relief?

My sugar sisters are @lustington and @brownstatuesquesugarbaby They have each been in my life for at least two years now but have become so much a part of my daily habits that I cannot imagine life without them or before them. We have traded tips and advice, joys and sorrows, ups and downs, great outfits (them) and times when we looked a busted ass mess (me). They are core parts of who I am, and I repeat: I cannot imagine what my life would be like if I never met them. 

I don’t just say that because they are amazing but because conversations with them and the relationships that I have built with them inspired the characters in The New Money Girls. Delia and Zion came alive for me when I was writing the book because while they are not @lustington and @brownstatuesquesugarbaby exactly sometimes Delia and Zion will open their mouths and my sugar sisters will speak. 

That feeling of sisterhood was important to me. It was more important than writing a book about glamour, sex, men, romance, or love. I love the way black women love each other. I love how we are ride or die for each other before we acknowledge a man, especially in the sugar community. We, as black women, routinely save each other’s lives in ways that we don’t always recognize. 

I want you to have sugar sisters if you don’t have them already, so I’ve put together some things for you to consider to build your own New Money Girls crew.

  1. Get yourself ready first. Clean up your room before you invite friends over. Maybe your mother didn’t say that to you, but mine sure did say it to me. Get your shit together before you go looking for friends. Does your blog say anything about you as a person or a sugar baby or is it a collection of reblogged posts? Can I vet you? Can I see you grow in your sugar journey or will I walk away wondering if I’m being catfished? Even if you don’t write posts as long or as detailed as mine write something. Do it for two reasons. 1-You’ll want a record of your journey. 2-We need you. This is a community. We need to know we aren’t alone. We need to know that someone goes through what we go through and has experienced what we experienced. I started this blog because I was looking for someone who could admit they were still trying to figure it out. I couldn’t find it, so I became it. So many of you have approached me since then to thank me for saying what you needed to hear. But the thanks goes to you. It was such a blessing to know I wasn’t alone, that even if I messed up my mistakes would help someone. Post to the brown sugar baby tag. Let us know you exist. You won’t feel alone anymore and neither will we.
  2. Know what it is to be a friend. To get a friend you have to be a friend. If all you want is someone that will give you advice and read entire essays of your complaints and gripes with the sugar bowl, then you don’t want a friend. You want free advice and therapy. No one owes you that. If you have a question, ask it. If you want to be a friend, provide support. Let that person know that you aren’t there to leech from them. Ask them how their day is. Let them know you appreciate them by messaging them and telling them how special something they said or did was to you. Just tell them you’re thinking about them and hope things are going well. I got a few messages from people when I wasn’t on Tumblr from women who just wanted to make sure I was okay. That meant so much to me. Those are the women that message me and always get replies. I know they aren’t just here to take. They give. That makes me feel valued and appreciated and makes me want to return those feelings to them.
  3. Remember you’re a stranger. I didn’t get either of my sugar sisters’ actual phone numbers until we knew each other for months and built a solid friendship. I didn’t know what @brownstatuesquesugarbaby looked like or her real name until I met her in August after knowing her for two years. That didn’t bother me. This is the internet, and until we’re friends, we’re strangers. We don’t know who is actually behind these accounts. It could be a brown sugar baby. It could be a bored middle-aged white man. We have to be careful so don’t get upset if people protect their privacy until they get to know you better. They have that right, and I hope you’re also exercising the same level of caution. A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn’t want a sugar daddy to find out whatever it is about you (address, real name, job, familial information, vanilla social media) don’t demand that a sugar sister give it to you. 
  4. Remember they’re human. Sometimes life happens. Sometimes we get so busy that we can’t respond to a message right away. I can admit that I’m guilty of this right now. I’m currently trying to write three novels and publish another and work a vanilla job and make sure I’m healthy and sane. I don’t have a lot of time. I don’t get a lot of sleep anymore. My life is fueled by cheap coffee and editing software. But I see every message. I will respond to every message that I can when I can. Don’t get anxious, angry, or accusatory if someone doesn’t respond to your message right away. It doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to speak to you or think you’re a bother or that they’re stuck up. Sometimes even when we want friends, we don’t have the time to make them.
  5. Don’t be afraid to message again. One of my favorite things about @lustington is that even if I don’t reply to a text right away, she will keep texting me. She has something to say dammit, and you’re going to get these texts. She has been like this since she first messaged me on Tumblr. She understood that I might be busy but that I wanted to talk to her. She was never afraid to reach out again, so I never forgot her. If you message someone and a few days or weeks have gone by don’t be afraid to reach out again. Say hello again. Tell them that you loved a post. Ask if they saw that interesting post that made you think of them. Like I said, we’re all human, and sometimes life gets in our way.
  6. Let things happen naturally. On the one hand, you shouldn’t be afraid to reach out again. On the other hand, don’t be a weirdo. Don’t pressure people into doing things they aren’t comfortable with or pretending to have a relationship with you that doesn’t actually exist. Trust takes time to build. That feeling of intimacy takes time to build. Don’t rush it. If that sugar baby is supposed to be your friend, no matter how many false starts or time between messages, she will be your friend. @lustington and I met a year after we first began messaging online, @brownstatuesquesugarbaby and I met two years after. Meeting both of them felt natural and exciting instead of nerve-wracking and awkward because they were already my good friends. I didn’t have to worry about whether they would like me because they already knew me. Don’t rush. 
  7. Be honest. If you aren’t looking for sugar sisters or don’t think a sugar baby is right for you say so. Don’t lead people on or play with their emotions or time. Be honest. Each of you can then find people that are the best possible fits for you. 

I hope this helps, sis. I hope you look up six months from now and realize you have your own crew of New Money Girls and they change your life the way @lustington and @brownstatuesquesugarbaby have changed my life. The way Delia, Zion, O’Shea, and Nadia change each other’s lives. I’d also like to use this as a shameless plug to reach out to a few women that have messaged me or caught my attention as I roll through these Tumblr streets: @onikaahonee @saaint-sugar @thotinda6ix @locd-nubianqueen  @baroquebrownsugarbaby @afrolatinasugar @chanelsugababy @nycsb @brainybrownsugar and there’s also a brown sb that lives in the midwest that I messaged a few months ago maybe about a post she had about a condom that got stuck in an…interesting place that made me convulse with laughter. You’ve been on my mind for WEEKS now, but I can’t remember your username to save my life. Put yourself on this list, too. If you’re on this list, it’s because you’ve messaged me and either said something so profound, intelligent, caring, supportive or funny that I’ve thought “that girl should be my friend, ” but I’m too awkward/busy/forgetful to reach out to you to make that happen. If you find yourself with a moment and want to be friends too, please message me. I promise I won’t fuck it up or at least I’ll try not to. 

If I haven’t mentioned you, but you’ve messaged me, please understand I’m not slighting you. I love you too sis. Every black ass thing about you. I just haven’t read your message yet (remember how I said my life was in a shambles?). Reach out to me again. Help me be accountable to, and for the amazing friendship, we’re going to have in the future. 

Remember this is our sugar bowl. This is our community. We can be tight-knit, loving and supportive the way my New Money Girls are. We just have to build it. We just have to love each other. If there’s a sugar baby that you want to be friends with message her or mention her in the comments (I hope you do this so I can root for your future sugar sisterships). Let’s love on each other. Let’s push each other to succeed.

I said it already, but I’ll say it again. I love you, sis. Every single thing about you. I can’t wait until we’re friends. 

Fuck This

I finally realized half way through my day that my shirt (with stone pebbles on it, worn beneath my sports jacket) made it look like my “tits” were showing, even though it was just the pebbles. My friend pointed it out when I was on my way to class and I tried my hardest to cover it up. I noticed other girls looking and this is what pissed me off - Instead of acknowledging that it will make me feel more uncomfortable and distracted with other girls staring, they just decided to bitch stare even more and giggle. On top of that, keep looking back at me in class and giggle even more. Why is it that girls are like this? Instead of supporting each other, there’s a constant competitive, envious, and extremely uncomfortable tension between us. This is completely unnecessary and it pisses me off to my very core to the point where I just wanted to go to those girls and say “is there a problem? If no, then please don’t stare at me like this, it’s rude.” 

Basically what I’m trying to say is the only way us women can rise, is if we have each others back, not stab each other’s back. Just yesterday was International Women’s Day, women all over social media were preaching about women’s rights, feminism, blah blah blah. Guess what, no one cares, you can talk and argue all day and all night for the rest of your life about it, but if you keep being like the way those girls were to me before class, then us women will forever stay at the same level as we’ve always been since the beginning of mankind. Men will always have the upper-hand and will always rule the world as long as women hate each other. 

THE DAY WE START LOVING AND ROOTING FOR EACH OTHER AND UNITE IS THE DAY WE START HEADING FOR WOMEN EMPOWEREMENT

US First Lady Hillary Clinton meets Donatella Dini, (architect) Gae Aulenti, Monica Vitti, (neuroscientist and Nobel Prize winner for Medicine and Biology) Rita Levi-Montalcini, Rose-Anne Bartholomew and Sophia Loren during an official visit to Rome on June 3, 1994.

This time on PJO/HOO Discourse: Are the women of the Aphrodite Cabin allowed be complex characters who have lead difficult lives which lead to problematic behavior?

i love that harry takes pride in the fact that most of his fans are young women and that he doesn’t let anyone try to make us think we’re lesser than other people just because we’re women and i love how he awknowledges that the larger portion of his fans are lgbtqia+ and he embraces that and he allowes you to feel safe no matter who or what you identify as

Shoutout to the sapphic women who don’t have a good relationship with their parents or other relatives.

  • To the sapphic women whose realization that they’re not straight has drawn them apart from their family because they’re afraid of how their family would react if they came out
  • To the sapphic women who, in hiding their sexuality, have started to find it difficult to share other aspects of their lives with their families
  • To the sapphic women who came out to their families and were rejected
  • To the sapphic women whose families were abusive or ruined their self-esteem
  • To the sapphic women who have to stay dependent on their abusive families due to their age, finances, mental health, or other reasons
  • To the sapphic women who purposely cut themselves off from their families to preserve their own comfort or safety
  • To the sapphic women who think their sexuality might be a result of their home environment or their relationship with certain family members
  • To the sapphic women whose relationship with their family is unrelated to their sexuality
  • To the sapphic women who don’t have anyone to call a family

I know it’s difficult, but hang in there.  The way your family treats you is not your fault.  Someday you’ll be surrounded by people who truly love you, and everything will be okay.  Until then, remember that Sappho is your mother and all the other sapphic women are your sisters, and we all love you so much.