other things to attract people to this post

So like I’ve seen posts about this before but I do wanna bring it up again

The thing that kinda sucks about being gay is like. You go through a lot of stuff later than a lot of other people do because you don’t always get the advantages straight people have, like having an existing dating pool in middle school, actually knowing who you’re attracted to, being able to exist publicly safely, etc

So it’s okay if you didn’t have your first kiss with a girl in middle school or high school or college or whenever. It’s okay if you’ve never been on a date with a girl and you’re living as an adult. Being gay sometimes means you go through the awkward “figuring things out” stage years after straight people do, so they get all of that done during middle school but you’re just starting to get embarrassing crushes on coworkers in your 20s or 30s or later. It’s okay if you don’t know how to flirt or tell if a girl is interested when you’re out of high school, when you’re an adult paying bills, when your straight friends are getting married. That’s not bad, it doesn’t make you undesirable, it just means you don’t get the same start your straight peers do.

So shout out to all the sapphic late bloomers. There’s nothing wrong with you, you’ll get there, it’s okay to give yourself time and write about your crushes in your diary and blush when they look at you and wonder how much eye contact until you’re dating and flirt childishly as an adult. You’re doing just great, and I’m proud of you for getting to the point where you finally feel comfortable exploring.

* this post goes double for trans sapphics who had the added confusion of figuring out their gender and dealing with transphobia from within the sapphic community while dealing with all of the above <3 *

Stop saying asexual is like every other orientation. It isn’t. Only post-pubescent people (i.e. adults) can be asexual, since it is specifically an identity based around sexual attraction. Someone can be gay or bi or straight as a kid. Someone can be 7 years old and know they are gay. No one can be 7 and asexual. 7 years olds should barely understand that sex is a thing beyond vague theoretical knowledge.

your daily ace positivity post

it took years for me to realise I was ace and then it took years for me to understand what that meant and there was so much second-guessing and hesitation and insecurity and I would love if I could help others from going through the same thing so here it is:

  • you can still be ace if you like kisses/hugs/cuddling/other kinds of physical intimacy
  • including sex!! while I and other aces have no interest in it, wanting/enjoying sex doesn’t stop you from being asexual
  • you can still find people attractive!!!! there’s more than one kind of attraction
  • no, being physically aroused does NOT mean you aren’t ace. We’ve still got the same body parts, they still do and feel the same things.
  • As an extension of that, feeling horny does not stop you from being ace!! whether you want to satisfy yourself by yourself or with someone else, it does not mean you aren’t ace!!
  • whether you identified with being ace before or after or having never experienced sexual assault, you are still ace!!! it could be the reason or a coincidence or have nothing to do with it at all, it doesn’t change how you feel and no matter the reason, your sexuality is real and valid!!
  • there is nothing wrong with you!! you weren’t designed wrong, you aren’t a freak or a weirdo and you certainly aren’t alone - although so many of your friends and other people you meet may not feel the same, you are not alone and there are loads of us out there and we are not freaks
  • it’s okay if you identify as ace now and one day realise you’re something else. You can’t control that, you don’t know what the future holds, and it’s so damn hard to idenfity with a sexuality that isn’t there in the first place. So if one day you realise you’re gay or bi or straight or whatever it’s okay. You were never faking. You were never pretending or lying. You believed you were ace, and for a while you were, and now you’re something else. There’s nothing wrong with that.
  • being asexual means not being sexually attracted to others! the cause doesn’t matter! the experience doesn’t matter! you don’t need proof or reasons!! do you identify as asexual? Congrats!! You’re asexual!!

if someone does not want to be with you because they find out you are bisexual, leave their sorry ass. don’t fight for them. don’t try to win them back. people who no longer find you attractive because you are attracted to other genders than theirs do not deserve you. better things will come than them i promise you. 

anonymous asked:

I dare you to go to the urban dictionary and read the 1st definition of Philip the look up Daniel and read the 3rd definition and post it!

Philip

The sexiest man on Earth. Usually really smart and quick-witted. Philips usually have enormous dicks and make love quite well. They can do things in the bed that no other people can. They are jacked beyond belief and can rip you apart. During times of need they are always there and will do anything for you. Philips are sports fanatics, especially for baseball.

Daniel

a jealous guy protective yet loves very passionatley.funny and adorable, as well as attractive can be a bit stubborn and very impatient. Will remain always by your side even when the things get bad. Can get annoying but can easily become a part of the one he loves.

These are dangerously accurate

Every time I see a post mocking how “oblivious” Neil is with regards to his attraction to Andrew and especially Andrew’s attraction to him, I feel less welcome in the fandom. I’m just tired of seeing something that demisexuals actually struggle with made fun of. Maybe if things were different, and it wasn’t such a fight with others to simply be recognized as demisexual, that such a thing exists, I could appreciate the self-mocking nature of it.

I’ve been in the fandom for over a year. This isn’t about a single post. There have been hundreds of them. 

And I’m exhausted.

How to research your racially/ethnically diverse characters

chiminey-cricket asked:

Do any of you have any tips for doing independent research for PoC characters?

This question is super broad, but I’m going to see if I can give it a crack!

First of all, consume media by the group in question. If you want to write a story with a Chinese-American protagonist, read some blogs by Chinese-Americans, read books by Chinese-Americans – both fiction and nonfiction – lurk on places like thisisnotchina so you can get a feel for what pisses Chinese and Chinese diaspora people off about their portrayal in the media, google for stereotypes about Chinese people and try to make sure you’re not doing those (even positive ones), go more general (East-Asian all-of-the-above in general since in many cases the harmful tropes overlap), go more specific (if your protagonist is female, look specifically for blog posts featuring the opiniosn of Chinese-American and other Asian/Asian diapora women; same if your protagonist is attracted to the same sex, is transgender, or deals with any other form of oppression besides anti-Chinese racism.) All of the above applies to Latinxs, Native Americans/Canadian First Nations, African/African diaspora people, Jews, Muslims, etc. Find out what we’re saying about ourselves.

Lots of things are available just from Google. “I have a Black character and I want to know what kind of hairstyles are available for her!” We have a Black hair tag, but apart from that, googling “Black hairstyles” will probably bring up some articles that can at least give you a good starting point to learn some vocabulary to add to your next Google search, like “natural” and “twists” and “dreadlocks.”

Next, you can talk to people in the group, but before you do this, be sure to have some specific questions in mind. “How do I write a Jewish character?” is not a specific question. “Do I have to make my Jewish character follow kosher laws if I’ve made her religious in other ways, or can she go to shul but not keep kosher?” or “What’s a term of endearment a parent might use for a child in Yiddish?” is much more specific. Remember, if you’re talking to someone they’re answering you back with their free time, so expecting them to do most of the work of figuring out what’s most important for you to know is a little entitled.

Besides, a more specific question will give you a more helpful answer. If someone asks me “how do I write a Jewish character” one of the first things out of my mouth will be a list of personality stereotypes to avoid, which isn’t going to be very helpful if what you really need for your fic was whether or not you have to write your character as following strict kosher laws.

If you’re sending a question in to a writing blog or one of those race blogs like thisisnot[whoever], please read through their tags and FAQ to see if they’ve already answered it. Longtime followers of a blog would get very bored if all the blog’s content was nothing but “We answered that here last week at this helpful link!” Those who participate in answering these blogs are usually unpaid volunteers who provide a resource that’s already there to help people; help repay them for what they do by looking through the material on your own first.

How to tell if a source from outside the group is biased and bigoted: obviously, you’re not going to want to listen to Stormfront about Jews, or the KKK about, well, anything. If you’re not on a source created by the group in question, look for dry and academic language as opposed to emotional, informal, or inflammatory words – although dispassionate and technical language is no guarantee it won’t be racist, colonialist, or inaccurate. If you read enough books and blogs from the inside, though, you’ll probably see some of the myths from those other sources debunked before you even encounter them.

Lastly, don’t assume that all people who are Asian, African-American Christians, religious Jews, or Muslims are from cultures more oppressive, more conservative, more patriarchal, more homophobic, more sexist, or more controlling than the one in which you were raised. If your plot calls for homophobic parents or a repressive culture, that shouldn’t be the reason you make your character one of the groups listed. There is plenty of oppressive, anti-woman, and anti-queer thought in white American Christian/Christian-cultured society and personally, I believe such criticisms of the marginalized diaspora peoples I listed above belong in the voices of the cultures themselves.

–mod Shira

I’d not leave looking for dry and clinical information as the ONLY means to distinguish that a work is biased.

While yes it is pragmatic to say “look for academically toned wording,” … in addition to that, these folks really need to look into who the author is. Definitely look into the author. And the year the thing was published (because man if it’s from like the 60s or earlier, 9 times out of 10, throw that shit out).

Because people can disguise hatred and racism in careful diction so that it looks reasonable and polite. A shining example is physiognomy studies from Nazis and anti-Semite eugenecists. And the sad thing is, you really can’t trust people to read it and make the judgement call that this hate-in-disguise they’re reading is hate.  

Somehow, when someone says, “The people of the Levant express features such as […] which, at the risk of sounding untoward, suggest a very rodent-like persuasion,” people are like, “Oh, well, that was worded fancily and there was no angry or profane language, I suppose they’re right,” not stopping to think even for a moment that they just accepted that this book just said to them that Jews look like rats. I saw it happen in my Nazi Germany class when we were given reading material. It was fucking nuts.

So definitely, definitely look every outsider author in the mouth and cross-check any and everything that person says. 

–mod Elaney

Shira again: Elaney is right that you will want to be critical of outside sources, especially older ones. Also, be suspicious of blanket statements about a group such as “X group are” instead of discussing forces in X culture. For example. Because there’s going to be diversity within any group and it’s likely what’s being said isn’t inherently biologically linked to being in X group.

–mod Shira

The Secret (9)

prologue; part one; part two; part three; part four; part five; part six; part seven; part eight; part nine; part ten; part eleven; part twelve; part thirteen; epilogue.

Baekhyun could feel his heartbeat pounding hard against his chest, loud and fast as he slowly weaved through the chairs towards you and a shy Zoe. He’d never felt this nervous for anything in his life, not even when he debuted and performed at his first showcase with the rest of EXO. He didn’t want to mess this up: his daughter was too important and this was his chance to make up for the years he’d lost.

He introduced himself cheerfully, trying not to let his nerves shine through his voice. He flashed his daughter a bright smile that he hoped would comfort her a little. On the inside however, his stomach was doing somersaults.

“I’m your dad.”

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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

I want to answer some frequently asked questions in this post! 

“How can i tell if i’m attracted to someone…” 

If we asked a hundred people how attraction exactly feels like, we’d probably get a hundred different responses. It can be hard to slap a definition on something like attraction because it’s such a individual thing, so for many people the answer would be “You just know” while for others it’s not as easy - and that’s okay! 

The definition i find most useful and understandable is: 

Romantic attraction is a desire to have a romantic relationship with that specific person. It’s looking at a person and thinking “I want to date you”. It’s different from a general desire to have a romantic relationship with anyone or your general opinions on things that are considered romantic. 

Sexual attraction is a desire to have sex with that specific person. It’s looking at a person and thinking “I want to have sex with you”. It’s different from a libido (”My body wants to have sex right now”) or your general opinions on sex. 

Even with these definitions, it can still be hard to be able to tell if you experience that, so i’ll answer some more specific questions below

“… If i’m not a very emotional/touchy person?” 

People of any orientation can happen to just not care about romance or sex much, or to dislike romance and sex. You can be attracted to people of one or more genders and just not really enjoy the thought of doing all that couple stuff. That can make it a bit confusing to tell if you’re actually not attracted to a certain gender (or any gender) or if you are just not into romantic stuff/sex. 

What may help you is to remember that attraction is not about what you do or don’t do, it’s about what you feel. You may like sex or hate sex or have no strong opinion on sex (and the same goes for romance) in general. Attraction is more specific than this general like or dislike of the thing itself (sex/relationships), it’s more about the little “spark” towards the other person involved in the thing (the sexual/romantic partner). 

“… If i’m mentally ill?” 

Simply put: It doesn’t matter. You may worry your mental illness is the reason you don’t feel attracted to a certain gender (or any gender) - but what if? Your idenity is just as valid and real as someone who has no history of mental illness. It may impact how/if you feel attraction or it may not but the validness and importance of your idenity isn’t measured by what “caused” it. 

And what if, during your journey to recovery/towards learning to manage your symptoms, the level of attraction you feel might change? Even if that happens, you have every right to use a label that represents how you feel right now. You can still adjust it if it does change someday. That’s okay! 

(And just as a side note, your mental illness and your orientation can be, and often is, completely unrelated. Being lgbt+ is not a mental illness in itself!) 

“… if i just don’t know and it’s all confusing and i just can’t figure it out?” 

It’s okay! You don’t need to know for sure. You don’t need to be able to pick a label or give any specifics of who you are attracted to in which ways. It’s okay to need time to figure it out. It’s okay to say “I don’t know for sure yet”, It’s okay to say “I’m somewhere on the lgbt+ spectrum”. 

You can always choose any label, specific or umbrella term, that feels right right now, there’s no need to drive yourself crazy with “What if’s”: Your label is meant to feel comfortable right now. You can worry about the what if’s when (and if) they happen. 

You’re welcome and safe here. Questioning is normal and questioning people are part of our community. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

Going through the Adam Driver tag, I am curious: Why do people hate him?

Sure, if he did something problematic, I’d get it, but those who hate him complain about his looks and things about him, like being in the military. And I just don’t get it?

Ok, 1, don’t be a jerk about people thinking he is attractive. Some jerks post things that say something akin to, “I hate Adam Driver, he literally looks like a trash can. What a fucking tool.” It is fine that you don’t find him attractive, I have no problem with it, but don’t hate a guy simply because other people do. You can get annoyed with his fans who say and do things that are questionable, but the man himself has never thought of himself as being handsome, has never been got pigheaded after getting fame. 

“I have been told before that I have an unusual face. But my face is my face. I had a whole life before acting, over the years. Lots of things have been said about my face.”

2, people hate him because of him being in the military. That’s it. Not because of his views, not because of anything he did, just that. One person had posted that they hated him because, they “don’t like organized groups and the military is the epitome of organized groups.” Ok? What the fuck does that have to do with Adam Driver? So many people have been in the military, are you going to hate them all? And guess what? The community you live in? That is a organized group. Your workplace? Organized group. Your family? Organized group. Just think about that. 

3, Adam has never forgotten that as a white male he has privilege, and he never has used it over anyone. 

“I’m a straight, white male, and I’ve had more opportunities than other people have, unjustly. And I’ve been lucky on top of that.“

He continued, "It’s so insane to me. That’s why I like being a part of ‘Girls,’ because it’s such a female-driven show. I see so many actors and friends who are so f-king good-but for one reason or another, because they’re female or African American, there aren’t as many opportunities for them. It’s total bullsh-t. My wife is an actress. She’s had to audition for, you know, 'Blonde Girl #3.’ There’s just such sh-ty writing and not as many opportunities.”

He is very aware, and he knows that is partially the reason why he got it, so if you are to be upset with anyone, be upset with the casting directors who ignore other actors who deserve as much, or in some cases, more of chance than him. But Kylo Ren was not simply handed to him. Eddie Redmayne had auditioned for Kylo Ren before Adam Driver was approached, and there may have been others who had auditioned, but JJ Abrams saw him and thought he was perfect. He got this particular part because he is a damn good actor, and I honestly don’t know anyone who could play the part better. 

I am not saying that he is a perfect person who had done no wrong, but he isn’t an awful human being that deserves all this crap simply for the reasons listed above. Come to me when he actually does something to deserve hate, and then we will talk. 

Venus:9th house 💫🌹💫

-Attracts/Attracted to people of different cultures,backgrounds,races, and/or religions

-High ideals regarding love

-Keen intuition

-Great writers

-These people want to learn and experience new things with their partner

-benefits come through foreigners and in-laws

-Romance found through travels,University,Church

-May move far from birthplace

-Nice thighs and sexy hips

-May try to convince others why your philosophies/views are correct

-Possibly religious

-Great pleasure comes from art of various cultures, and trips/adventures to faraway places

-Philosophical

"How can you be ace and use porn?"

Imagine living in a place where the only food to eat is fruit. The most popular fruits are Oranges and Apples.

You have a rare allergy to fruit.

But you’re still hungry, because humans need food.

Whenever you try to tell people you’re hungry, they offer you either an Apple or an Orange. When you tell them you’re allergic, they offer you the other. When you explain you’re allergic to ALL fruit, one of two things happens:

“How can you be allergic to all fruit? That’s not a thing. You’re either confused or you like one fruit but don’t want to admit it.”

“If you’re supposedly hungry, then you HAVE to want fruit. You can’t be hungry and not want fruit.”


After sometime, you find candy that you can eat to sedate your hunger. However, all candy is fruit flavored. That said, the flavoring has NO actual fruit in it, so you’re safe. Your favorite is Green Apple.

But uh, oh. Remember all those people you told you were allergic to fruit? They now see you eating the candy and think that you’re lying about your allergy.

“AHA! You were faking so you could look special. You’re hungry, you’re eating fruit-flavored candy, and your favorite is Green Apple. So you WERE just hiding the fact that you like Green Apple!” They say.

But they’re wrong. Because you still have your fruit allergy, and this candy is NOT fruit. Eating fruit and eating fruit flavored candy are two very different things. Because one will trigger a reaction and the other won’t.

This is the difference between attraction and libido.

NOTE: posted not only for people who don’t know this, but also for anyone having trouble putting this into words.

some Zack headcanons
  • Zack rarely stayed at home because he worked odd jobs at weird hours to earn money. He dallied around the mine a lot because the miners tended to have spontaneous short-termed jobs that usually paid well. Working kept him away from home, which suited him just fine, but sometimes there was no job and he either left the house to find more jobs or stayed and held his mom as she slept, cheek against her back, pretending they were back to a time when everything was alright.
  • Zack sometimes switched to Mandarin in the middle of a sentence and then back to English, or he randomly dropped Chinese idioms and words in between conversation just to take a piss out of people’s confusion. Mostly people looked uncomfortable before either ignoring him or asking him what the word meant, but occasionally the conversation ended with him beating the shit out of some ignorant racists.
  • Zack could fall asleep anywhere, everywhere. The other Rangers always found him in random places in weird positions. He could curl up into a ball in his Zord and sleep just like that, or lean against Alpha 5, or spread out on the training ground right after a session. They came up with a ‘if he fits he sleeps’ rule for Zack’s sleeping habit after finding him inside a cardboard box. Zack’s mom seemed to be the only other person who knew this, other people who knew Zack swore he never slept.
  • It was always so much fun talking to Billy, also known as talking at Billy while he tinkered with something or listened to Billy as he went on about this fascinating thing. Zack marveled at how such a small head could hold so much knowledge. Also, Billy’s voice was one of the best to fall asleep to. (Billy liked it when Zack fell asleep on him because that meant at least Zack was resting after another night shift of who-knows-what job he was holding)
  • Zack used to like trash-talking people with Kimberly but she wanted to be a better person so now they tried to find things about other people to compliment, even if the compliments did get a little snide every now and then.
  • Zack hadn’t been attracted to anyone, not really, and then he was attracted to four people at once and it was fairly weird. But Trini had become more of a sister since, and the others really good friend. He was still waiting for his crush on this one person to die out though.
  • Zack liked sparring with Jason because ‘dude keeps me on my toes’.

anonymous asked:

Ok so what if instead of throwing Keith in this arena-like thing, it was a circus like thing?! at least in the arena he had someway to defend himself

Lmao  I’m terrible. This has been sitting forever, but this is a response to THIS Headcanon. 

-I’m going to use the same planet and situation as the other post all the way up to the choice to go to the arena, instead they chose to place him in something far worse, a circus or more accurately a zoo where he is forced to perform and be watched from days on end. 

-No one on the planet had ever seen someone like him. A Galra Hybrid. The Main attraction. People were travelling all over the planet to come see him caged. 

-At first, he fights it. As the circus workers go to show the audience his teeth, he snaps at them. As they show his eyes to the crowd, a deep purple, he struggles in their grip.

-But it only makes the viewers believe he’s more vicious than reality. 

-They force him to perform in acts as if he was the lion for the lion tamer. and the crowd only goes more wild as he flinches at each whip in his direction. 

-Yet the longer it drags on, his hope that the rest of Voltron will find him and his will starts to lessen. He feels reduced to nothing more than an animal. Collar and all. 

-For days all he hears is himself described as the vicious Galra half breed 

-And he’s starting to believe it. 

-Keith’s spirit is starting to break, his head hangs low, he stares back blankly at the children gaping at him through the bars of his cage in fascinated fear. 

-Then, at last Voltron makes it’s appearance. And none of them have any idea that Keith has crash landed on this particular planet, they simply were hoping to hear news of where the red lion could be. 

-The planet’s hosts of course are as friendly and courteous as ever, and offer for the Paladins to come to their circus for a show. For they certainly would like their “main attraction”.

-By the time the paladins enter the area where the cages are they are laughing and rather enjoying themselves, so only imagine their faces as they approach the last cage and see Keith.

-His head hanging low, collar painfully tight around his neck, all hope lost in his eyes. 

-And as the paladins finally come into his gaze, they see little flicker of recognition in his face. 

-It’s horrifying 

-A fight breaks out, and everyone is yelling over one another in unison, and the hosts look panicked and confused 

-Allura and Shiro are down right scary 

-And when Keith is finally released, Lance is disgusted to see bruises all over his skin. 

-It takes time, but Hunk and Pidge have to take him back to the castle, promising him he would be alright and everything would be okay. 

-But they all know it’s too late. Keith would always remember this in his life, and it would haunt him forever. 

Angst angst angst angst . Sorry this is so late! I had to cut myself off cause I could go forever!

Omnisexual/Omniromantic

Here’s a quick post for those of you who hadn’t heard of this label before, like me. I couldn’t find any informative posts without some gross ways of putting things, so I decided to make my own. Basically, omni is similar to pan and can be interchangeable, but isn’t always. Otherwise, pan is attraction all genders regardless of/ without seeing gender while omni is attraction to all genders while still seeing them/ seeing them as different.  

Remember friends, respect other people’s labels even if you don’t understand them! (You don’t get to tell people their labels are wrong)

Everybody wants Daniel to be their son

Danny Had no Idea how he attracted these kinds of people, but he just did.

He guessed It all started at the ripe age of fourteen when he met Vlad masters, a lonely Billionaire bachelor who wanted nothing more than for Daniel to be his son, and maybe some other really evil questionable things. But that was besides the point.

He didn’t know if it was his natural friendly personality, or if he just had a boyish charm that made every fathers heart swell with pride.

But everybody wanted him to be their son. Let me rephrase that. Every Rich dashing gentlemen wanted denial to be their son. It didn’t matter if they already had kids, or were a single father, or just a bachelor wanting Danny as their own. They all just wanted him!!

Some even went as far as trying to put him into their inheritance, or try to  arrange him into marry their Sons and Daughters.

At first… like any other reasonable adult.. Danny just thought he was attracting sugar Daddy’s. But after a few chats and some weird father and son golf time, Danny realized that they all just wanted him, not as a butt buddy, but as a legitimate son.

And as wired as it may seem, it terrified him more than the original idea.

So much so that he has actually started hanging out with Vlad on purpose.He has no idea if Vlad sprayed him with something, or what!! But he rather have his crazy froot loop over some weird stranger any day. 

Now if only he could find away to make Vlad stop Smirking at him.. as well as find away so that Danny didn’t actually like hanging out with him.

the law of attraction: my smol volley squad.

In response to Aki’s previous ask here, this is my small opinion/character analysis on what kind of person they’d fall for, how they would fall in love, and what kind of person would be best for my volley squad, based on what little i know about human beings and relationships in real life. Here goes!

Kuroo Tetsurou.

How They Fall: We can all agree that Kuroo’s pretty adept at reading people, picking out their underbelly and prodding at the right places. But it might be because of that acute observation that he doesn’t really listen to his gut very much (when it comes to attraction, he cares about rationality less when it’s with friends- when he doesn’t have a motive or goal). I feel like Kuroo would be the type who thinks he knows what he wants and goes for it, but somehow it doesn’t really click until it’s too late that he’s missing something, or he made a mistake (usually about himself, not the other person), and then he’s in a pickle, because he also doesn’t seem like the type to be able to discard people easily because he’s decided in his mind that this person is someone he chose, and he should bear the consequences.

However, I think Kuroo would be the wary type. He might find himself attracted to people easily (probably because he seems such an easy-going/flexible person), but it’s just a small electric shock kind of feeling, or a ‘oh, wow, they’re cute’, and because he knows himself to some extent, he brushes a lot of these feelings away because he thinks that it might just be a false alarm. But that’s just for attraction. I think for someone like Kuroo to really fall in love with someone, he’s level headed enough for it to be a slow and deep process. They’re more than just a significant other, this is someone he’s trusted in, he believes to have his back. I think they’d start off as friends, then very good friends, and perhaps after some soul searching, they become actually intimate confidants and perhaps one day Kuroo will realize that the reason why he hasn’t particularly been interested in other people lately is because everything he needs, he already has fulfilled in this one friend, one person. Precisely because Kuroo doesn’t seem like a fickle person, to me, he would fit the slow to trust, yet incredibly trusting and loyal once he opens up to you.

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It’s ableist to say you aren’t attracted to disabled people.

- There is such a huge range of disabilities that saying you aren’t attracted to any of us honestly doesn’t even make sense and means you’ve probably created a specific image of what you expect disability to look like in your head. 

- Disability can mean any number of things. You probably have an image in your head of disability being a wheelchair user or other visibly physically disabled person. It’s still ableist to say you couldn’t be attracted to any of us, but that’s not even the only way disability can look. Invisible chronic illnesses, mental illnesses, learning disabilities, autism, and hearing and visual impairments can all be disabilities too. If you’re initially attracted to someone, whether they’re a wheelchair user or a person with any of these other disabilities without knowing about their disabilities, then you find out about them and “suddenly lose the attraction” solely because of their disability, you’re ableist. 

- There are people with invisible disabilities. In fact, the vast majority of disabled people have invisible disabilities. 

- Disability and ability are not static. You or your partner could both start off able-bodied and then one or both of you could later be diagnosed with an illness that will disable you, or be in an accident, or become very sick and recover from your illness but be left with a disabling impairment, or any number of other things. 

Obviously no one is ever obligated to be in any kind of relationship with anyone else, but if you’re “not attracted to disabled people” or you “suddenly lose attraction” once you find out someone is disabled you should examine your own prejudices, internalized or not. This post is not meant to say you have to date a disabled person, it’s just to make you think a little. 

(This applies to disabled people who “aren’t attracted” to other disabled people, especially able-bodied neurodivergent people who “aren’t attracted to” physically disabled people. Y’all have some internalized shit to work through.)

things tumblr allows

  • antisemetic/nazi blogs
  • racist blogs
  • fatphobia blogs
  • thinspiration- promotion of eating disorders
  • terfs
  • porn bots
  • porn blogs
  • “game” advertising bots
  • incest blogs
  • the ‘lifters’ community- aka a bunch of people who shoplift from stores and give advice to others on how to do it. even if it means the workers suffer and have to pay for their theft
  • blogs that post child pornography
  • excessively sexist & anti lgbt blogs
  • art theft
  • minor attracted people “maps”, pedophile blogs

things tumblr doesn’t allow:

  • lgbt+ resources
  • wlw blogs (sfw)
  • mlm blogs (sfw)
  • trans blogs
  • posts mentioning lgbt+ things. even a post simply saying ‘im lesbian’ or other things along that line. 
  • basic memes and gif sets that include nothing that isn’t sfw. 

but hey, @staff don’t worry. your safe search is totally fine and has no issues! keep up the great work :)