So like I’ve seen posts about this before but I do wanna bring it up again
The thing that kinda sucks about being gay is like. You go through a lot of stuff later than a lot of other people do because you don’t always get the advantages straight people have, like having an existing dating pool in middle school, actually knowing who you’re attracted to, being able to exist publicly safely, etc
So it’s okay if you didn’t have your first kiss with a girl in middle school or high school or college or whenever. It’s okay if you’ve never been on a date with a girl and you’re living as an adult. Being gay sometimes means you go through the awkward “figuring things out” stage years after straight people do, so they get all of that done during middle school but you’re just starting to get embarrassing crushes on coworkers in your 20s or 30s or later. It’s okay if you don’t know how to flirt or tell if a girl is interested when you’re out of high school, when you’re an adult paying bills, when your straight friends are getting married. That’s not bad, it doesn’t make you undesirable, it just means you don’t get the same start your straight peers do.
So shout out to all the sapphic late bloomers. There’s nothing wrong with you, you’ll get there, it’s okay to give yourself time and write about your crushes in your diary and blush when they look at you and wonder how much eye contact until you’re dating and flirt childishly as an adult. You’re doing just great, and I’m proud of you for getting to the point where you finally feel comfortable exploring.
* this post goes double for trans sapphics who had the added confusion of figuring out their gender and dealing with transphobia from within the sapphic community while dealing with all of the above <3 *