other people i dont feel like tagging

since trans day of visibility is coming up in a few days (march 31st), i figured i’d make a list of advice for cis people commenting on/reblogging people’s posts/selfies?

  • do definitley like and reblog and tag and comment on our posts!! its what TDOV is for! show your support for the community by showing us some love
  • dont post any selfies if ur cis. today is not about u
  • if ur gonna comment about how great someone looks, great!!
  • just make sure u use the right pronouns/descriptors. most people put their pronouns on their selfies, but if they dont its easy to check their bio to see if they have them! 
  • also dont say stuff like “wow ur prettier than I am!!” bc that implies that u think cis ppl are more attractive as a default, so its insulting and patronising
  • if the post is one with pics from multiple stages throughout someones transition, pls dont say “its not fair u get to be hot in both genders!” because thats cissexist n transphobic and adheres to the “used to be a X” rhetoric and erases people with fluid genders and implies that cis ppl inherently deserve to be hotter/better 
  • go thru the tdov tags!! spread some love to all of us (not just conventionally attractive and/or passing people)
  • its not only selfies either. lots of ppl post some really cool content so dont miss out on that either

thats all i can think of rn. feel free to add on if u want

EDIT: okay so lots of people have said things along the lines of “im going to post selfies and theres nothing you can do about it” or “i want to post selfies anyway” and like. cool. whatever. im all for celebrating urself with selfies. just,, dont make this day about you okay? like keep out of the tags and dont make it an ally thing. and to the people who want to post selfies just because its a trans ppl day and for no other reason: fuck u

anonymous asked:

Do you ship Natasha and Elise? (I feel like the fandom sometimes/a lot of the time oversteps its boundaries with this, but I was wondering where you stand) Thanks :)

Y E S (how can you not? LMAO) but I’m respectful and not delusional about it.  If they say they’re not dating, then I believe them.  I don’t invade them with personal questions or tell them “to date” or “fuck each other” on their social media accounts.  Like I will be trash whenever they interact and maybe it’ll seem like I have a few screw loose in the head for a couple days depending on how cute their interactions are, but I calm down and let reality take me back.

  • Do I think they would be cute together if they dated?  Yes.  
  • Am I ok if they never date?  Yes.  
  • Am I fine with them being just friends?  Yes.  
  • Will I be fine when this is all over and they may not interact as much anymore?  Yes (but I will greatly miss it).
  • Can I still enjoy them individually as people without the other?  Yes.
  • Do I enjoy their interactions?  Yes.  
  • Do I try to find deeper meanings in them?  Not really.  
  • If they dated, would I be invasive about it?  No.  
  • Do they owe us anything?  No.  
  • Will I attack anyone they date?  No.
  • Am I waiting around for them to date?  No.
  • Do I make conspiracies/speculations trying to prove they have mutual feelings for each other?  Not really.

It’s easier, healthier, and funner to “ship” people if you do so casually.  It’s important to remind yourself that these people are not “characters;” they are individuals living their own life and have feelings just as much as any other person so you shouldn’t force anything on to them or expect anything from them.  

People who have meltdowns over RLS are people I try to stay clear of….  Other people’s personal lives/relationships should NOT affect you greatly at all.  I think the batshit crazy shippers really give us a bad name and we’re associated with them so I tend to feel iffy admitting that I do “ship them” (if there’s any other word, please let me know lmao).  Sometimes, I really don’t “trash” on my blog because I don’t want to be lumped in with them.  Instagram and twitter (and occasionally tumblr when people TAG THEIR TRASH POSTS IN THE ACTRESSES’ AND C*RMILLA TAG FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD TO SEE AND WE ALL KNOW NATASHA OCCASIONALLY LURKS HER TAG) can get super meddlesome/problematic/cringe at times.

tbh people need to understand that i literally cannot empathise with them so?? sometimes giving advice or whatever is fucking exhausting because i can’t summon the effort to pretend to give a shit 

but at the same time i love being the person people come to with problems because it makes me feel like people look up to me?? so i have to force myself to fake caring and churn out all these boring phrases that i’ve stolen from movies and books and stuff so when the time comes they help me out if i need it 

honestly its so bizarre to know that other people dont work like this?? is empathy a myth?? im starting to think it might be a myth.

really dont know why a lot of people believe Keith is like. the asshole dude who is just always angry. 

hes clearly a super awkward dude with bad social skills who happens to have a lack of impulse control. 

if you actually pay attention, its mostly lance being the asshole when they interact..cause he believes that him and keith are destined rivals just because Lance envy’s Keiths skills. 

Keith doesnt even think that, like sure they can get competitive at times, but its mostly Keith just teasing Lance rather than than actually having some grudge. He actually tries to be friendly at times or at least joke around with him. 

The way he interacts with anyone but Shiro is just. Awkward. Probably cause he doesnt really know them all that well and tends to have a hard time trusting people….he has lived in a shack away from people for awhile so his social skills might be a lil rusty. 

like.. you know how lance believes hes a “seventh wheel”???? imo, I bet he isnt the only one….

i’m not particularly fond of talking about my follower counts anywhere (i dont mind when other people do! just not really my thing) but i broke 10,000 followers on here today and that feels super whoaaa. 

this account is probs around 6 years old and i know i inconveniently hop interests all the time, but some ppl have told me how they stick around because they like my art anyway, regardless of what i’m drawing, and honestly that’s quite touching to me. :’^) really anyone who’s taken the time to send a nice message or write a nice tag… thank u so much. i really do love drawing for the sake of drawing, and that stuff only makes what i do even sweeter.

i dare every person who shits on Flo and calls her ugly to post a picture of their own face.

Oh you cant ? How sad yeah i rather be anonymous too and sht on people i dont know for reasons i have no clue about and tag my hate in the tag altho a pathetic place like an anti tag does exist cause i need attention and feel  not loved or have whatever issues. So i piss off her fans and people that like her so i share my miserable life  with others.

She is still gorgeous as fuck inside and outside cant say the same about you.

cocsa is truly a fucking experience. to have someone who you grew up with and hung out with and trusted hurt you like that is fucking heartbreaking. and i feel like i cant blame you because you were only a year older than me. we were both just kids and you had a shitty home life so its not really your fault, is it? i had to hang out with you after it happened and none of our other friends knew.

sometimes i wonder if you even remember what you did. i cant properly trust any of my friends now, i hate being alone with people, i dont trust anybody because if someone like you that i trusted so much could hurt me like that then no one is really safe, are they

can i tag you?

i really kinda wanna tag you guys in things i made (edits, moodboards, aesthetics, poems etc) but i never know exactly who to tag? like idk who would be interested, so reblog this please if youre okay with it so i can always tag you in my things :)

(feel free to reblog this if it applies to you, so you can also tag the other people who reblog this in your creations, including me)

just my 2 cents in response to people discussing about the leaked su gem designs and about animated designs in general

first i dont want to start any drama and you can have whatever opinions, yadda yadda

i just want to point out that it’s probably way too early to fully throw shit about these 3 still images of the leaked gem designs. i mean, there’s a reason why people don’t want to see leaked things, we literally know nothing about them. we haven’t even seen them animated at all, and it’s literally like, 3 pictures. they might look better at different angles, who knows, there might be more context about their designs in the actual episode when we see their dynamics, interactions, literally everything. just sit down and wait for the episodes to air?

so what im trying to say is that, how a character is animated is an integral part of their design, if they’re animated in extremely impressive ways, that could make up for maybe two or three off-looking still images of them. 

there’s a lot of shows that had an art style that, at first glance, seemed off-putting or didnt initially appeal to me 

but it was the movement, dynamic, facial expressions, personality, voice acting, and how they contribute to the story that made me and other people love them.  

It’s about seeing characters animated in tons of different ways and seeing them in a ton of different angles and cool settings.

this says a lot more about a character’s design than just seeing one photo of the character and thinking “oh well everything about it is shit then”. if you could excel in all those other things, people could get over initially off-putting art styles 

i feel as if there wouldn’t be as much discourse if the new gem designs weren’t leaked so early, and we actually got to see the characters in their proper animated introduction, like how it was intended. so yeah, that’s just some thoughts about character animation. thanks

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         ↳ anonymous asked: aaron tveit or laura osnes

If you can be a good example to other people, why not try to be that person? I have a bit of a people pleaser in me, but not so much so that it’s out of control.

I am irritated that from all of fallout 4 companions, X6 is the most vague and undefined and he otherwise is so interesting and the character has so much potential?

Like I want to know what X6 thinks about the Institute personally, I want to know if his love for the Institute is something he chose or something he was brain washed into??? I mean to ignore the fact that unlike any other faction, the Institute is almost irredeemably evil so a lot of people not only will miss X6 as a companion but will also not understand him and his ways because of how badly the Institute was written. 

But I feel like even in fanon X6 loses his agency because you can’t really tell if he is brainwashed into the Institute mindset or he willingly chose to be a courser? And in fact can a synth willingly choose to be a courser? I mean X6 refers to Gabriel as “it” but we don’t know how he was treated in the institute? Yeah coursers more or less have more freedom than other synths, but they also go through a lot of training so we don’t know how he was treated. He doesn’t consider himself as anything more than a machine (the way the Institute treats all synths) and yet he is very loyal. Is his loyalty coming from self hate and idolizing Father and the institute like he was taught, or is it coming from being forced to survive by learning to be emotionless and follow orders. 

Obviously as you gain his affinity, he starts showing emotions, humor, sass, loyalty and admiration towards the Sole Survivor, but it still remains unclear where he really stands. I wish they sort of cleared that out, the more you get to know him the more you find out if he was forced to be a courser, or he simply became one because he actually agrees with the institute - and can synths actually willingly and freely choose to agree with the institute since the pressure of getting “killed” always hangs above their heads if they show their sentience. And coursers get demonized by the Railroad too as if they willingly support the institute, even though there are runaway coursers that changed their minds. 

 X6 is actually wonderful, very intelligent and curious and overall he never feels like an emotionless machine at any point, but I just wish he was given more agency so we could see where he personally stands with the Institute the way the other three faction companions state their own personal feelings on the matter the higher your affinity is with them. 

so like at my new job i put my name on my tag as david alexander but ive mostly gone by alex. one of the girls caught me so off guard the other day bc she just sat across from me going david. david. david. until i looked up and she laughed like you werent expecting that were you! and its like no! but thats me! hey thats me!! im still not used to hearing people say alex or david but it feels so good when i have that second of ‘oh thats me!’ its great.

little autistic things: The Distance when u feel like youre standing/sitting too far away from someone when ur talking to them but u cant move closer unless theyre a really good friend
and then if u do try to move closer u get extremely antsy and uncomfortable

anonymous asked:

Idk if you've gotten this before but may I ask why do you like marichat so much?

I have written more of my reasons here.

But the main reason i like it so much is because it makes me happy. When I see posiive stuff about them in the tags i feel a warmth in my chest. I dont know exactly when that happened. I wasnt even in the fandom when I decided i liked that side of the square. I started paying attention to the show when Reflekta aired and fully invested myself with Jackady and Origins. 

It just happened. 

So I will continue creating content for the thing that makes me happy.If that happens to make other people happy too, then i think im doing a good job, dont you think?

anonymous asked:

As much as people probably shouldn't be reblogging your selfies anyway, maybe it could be for the benefit of their followers. To see scars might be triggering so it's important to tag things like that. I know it must be upsetting for it to be bought up at all but consider it isn't to draw attention to but rather for the purpose of blacklists

You dont disrespect anothers body and feeling so that others feel better. If it is a case of the scars may trigger them or people who follow A) if its about the scars you can tag it as “scars” which btw is still not okay B) dont reblog my image to begin with. Nothing in this image has to do with self harm and a stranger choose to tag it as such without thought of how it may effect me. Seriously people do self harm and it leaves marks and reminders on ourselves that we cant make go away. Do you want to know what really isnt helpful though people choosing to remind you of this out of the blue dragging up some seriously sensitive and bad stuff. You wouldnt walk up to a stranger and start asking about visible scars or point out somebodies scars to your friend because that out right wouldnt be acceptable. So if your need to tag this overides actually acknowledging im a person and that its not okay dragging my emotions into the dirt on account of somebody might not want to see my arms then honestly get off my blog. You need to start treating peoples bodies and emotions with respect and realize you protecting people at the cost of others mental state is not the way to go about it.

<:0 aaaa if i could ask that people reblogging my shance art not tag it with incorrect pairing tags? i myself do not ship sheith or klance and while i dont care if others do, it feels bad when i make art of the pairing i love (thats already rare enough lol) and have it tagged as something i definitely did not intend it for.

Its kinda like giving someone a present and they like it so much they turn around and give it to their other friend right in front of you and say ‘this is for you!’ and if you say ‘hey no actually thats not’, you look like the jerk.

i hope u understand ;~; thank you

genuine question as someone who is trans and has written lots of taagnus porn feat trans taako but also has a multi chapter taagnus fic

i get tagging trans taako in smut to avoid making someone dysphoric but like. hm.

i’m not fetishizing trans people. i am writing porn mostly for myself as a trans person. trans people have sex.

however, i dont want porn to be the only thing i write trans taako in and i very much am writing my other works with trans taako in mind

but like. theres so reason to mention it all whatsoever in my other work and i would feel odd about tagging it? cuz its not like taakos gonna be like “yeah im trans ANYWAYS” and i dont foresee a convo where it would. be necessary to say so

and adding a tag with no mention of it in the content seems extra lol

so like. what do i. do

Hating a ship just makes you look like a jerk, and makes other people feel bad

I just needed to get this off my chest…

So being on tumblr, you see a lot of hate, even when you’re clearly not on any anti-ship tags, you’re bound to see something bad about ur otp and maybe you ignore it or maybe you fight back.

I think that its ok to hate something, we’re all different, and we don’t all like the same things, but there’s this fine line between expressing your opinion, and just being plain rude.

For example, you can say, “i dont like the color red” and thats ok cuz not everyone does.

you could even go as far as saying why you dont like it, “it reminds me of blood and murder, and it makes me sick.”

But then theres people who’ll be like, “people who like the color red are disgusting and should go to hell” and that’s not ok.

Technically, its kinda discrimination.

You’re basically telling an entire population of people who don’t like the color red that they’re terrible. Now i’m not saying that we’re all innocent, and maybe some of us are terrible, but that doesn’t give you the right to just hurt us with your words. It just means that you’re no better than the people you’re judging.

If a shipper is being “delusional”, you should probably tell them what you think about the ship and not try to attack them, or maybe just accept the fact that some people will ship it.

If you’re a shipper being attacked, please don’t fight back. Either ignore them, or tell them that you don’t appreciate the bullying….


…Sorry about the rant.