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milord/milady vs m’lord/m’lady vs my lord/my lady

For writing purposes, I used asearchoficeandfire to look up exactly how GRRM uses these different forms of address (because why take Roose Bolton’s word for anything). 

“Milord” was the least common, used by some King’s Landing prostitutes and Osmund Kettleblack (also of the Crownlands). It was also used by the daughter of the captain of the Myraham, a ship out of Oldtown.

“Milady” is slightly more common that “milord” and lowborn characters from Dorne to the Wall use it. For example, Harwin of Winterfell uses “milady”, as well as Tom Sevenstrings and servants in King’s Landing. 

“M’lord”/”M’lady” is the most common form people of low birth use to address the nobility. Members of the nobility, such as Theon and Sandor, adopt the term when they present/disguise themselves as lowborn. Interestingly, Oswell and Osney Kettleblack use “m’lord” unlike their brother. 

“My lord”/”my lady” is obviously the way the nobility speak, but there were some interesting exceptions. For example, Ser Meryn Trant addresses Cersei as “m’lady”. 

Some members of the “middle class” ie merchants, skilled craftsmen, and very minor nobility use “my lord”/”my lady” (examples: Tobho Mott the armorer, Rennifer Longwaters) while others use “m’lord”/”m’lady) (example: Hallis Mollen) so I think in cases like this, the usage depends on how the reader is supposed to perceive the character, whether the person has been educated or if they wish to be perceived as more important than they are (like Longwaters), etc.