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Every now and then somebody will come along to try and tear you down anyway. No matter what you do, no matter who you are, somebody will be there to try and hate on you and it’s best to just ignore it. I mean sometimes you have to address it because sometimes they’re saying stuff that could be really bad for you, or start rumors or anything like that or start some story or some narrative and then other people latch onto it. So, I do like to deal with it every now and then but at the same time like it’s just a waste of energy to try and deal with this stuff. In any sort of reasonable fashion because they don’t like you, they don’t want to like you and nothing you say is going to change their mind. So it’s best to just move on with your life and trust in who you are and believe in what you’re doing is the right thing and believe in yourself,  because at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter what somebody else thinks about you. If you are happy in your own skin then that’s good enough. Like that person said like “Nobody likes you!” It’s like well if I like me then who cares? 

100% truth everyone! Being true to yourself, being comfortable in your own skin, believing in who you are and liking or loving who you are in my opinion is the most important thing you could ever possibly gain.

Don’t waste your time on people who don’t deserve to see the wonderful things about you because no matter what they’ll never see those things because they don’t want to. You’re never going to please everyone! So I think the most important person you could ever please in your life is yourself. At the end of the day people in your life will come and go but you’ll always be with yourself no matter what. You don’t need other people’s validation to be worth something in this world because you’re already worth so much and deserve the best for yourself just for existing. Try to see the best in yourself and treat yourself like your best friend because that’s seriously what you all deserve. You all deserve to believe in and love who are and the best things out of life. :)

totallynotyamatohotsuin  asked:

I never visit Tumblr often but it always does good to see you in your cosplay on my page. Where do you find the time to keep doing things like this?

OMG WOW! Reading this message really made my day! You’re so kind!
( ´ ▽ ` ).。o♡

Well, answering to the question hahaha okay, I have to admit I easily get so stressed out, since I have to study and do other stuff in my daily life, so, always when I get a chance in my free time, I try to work as much as I can on what I’m doing (photoshoot, drawing…) So that I’ll always have something to keep my pages update even on days when I don’t have that much time to spend in these things 

(*´▽`*)

Also, I’m such an active person, is like, is difficult to me to just lie down and relax, I just start having new ideas constantly and that voice in my mind “You know you could do a lot of things instead of just being here “doing nothing”, right?” hahaha But oh well, is good to relax too from time to time ~ ^^ ♡

Tagged by the ever lovely @mooncourt thank you <3

name: Brittany

nickname(s): people call me Brit when they don’t want to take the effort to remember how to spell my name, also Bitty

zodiac sign: libra

gender: female

hogwarts house: pottermore says I’m slytherin (took it twice) but every other quiz tells me Ravenclaw

current time: 7:20PM

average hours of sleep: probably like the typical 9 hours

last thing you googled: “who is zeus’ oldest child”

current number of followers: 2,663

when did I make this blog: fuck idk. i’ve had it for at least two years.

do you get asks on a regular basis: yeah I get them pretty often!

dream job: successful author who never has to do a real job a day in her life but realistically idk

height: 5′1″

what do you post? mythology aesthetics and poetry!
why did you choose your username? It’s supposed to be like Hypnos, Greek god of sleep
if you had a cat, what would you name it? I have a cat and I named him Indie after Indiana Jones
lucky number: i don’t have a lucky number tbh
fictional character you would want as a younger sibling: I don’t want another sibling one is too many as it is
favourite band or artist: The Neighbourhood, Halsey, Panic! At The Disco, Fall Out Boy
dream vacation: Greece but highkey everywhere.
what I’m wearing right now: T-shirt I bought when I was at Hobbiton in NZ, athletic leggings, a robe bc I’m cold
number of blankets I sleep with: the top sheet usually gets kicked down in my sleep so usually just the comforter
last movie you saw: Star Wars Attack of the Clones bc I was in a prequel mood 
the last song you listened to: I think I tried listening to the Carol soundtrack because someone recommended it
last show you watched: The X Files
last thing you ate: macaroni and cheese
if you could be anywhere right now, where would you be: no idea tbh
where would you time travel to: the future tbh but if i was to go back in history, I’d save the library of Alexandria
the first thing you would do with lottery money: put it in the bank as savings, probably go on a vacation, and also pay to have my manuscripts edited and published
fictional character you would hang out with for a day: Henry Winter. We probably wouldn’t do much but I would ask him a lot of questions that went unanswered in the book.

i tag @merflk @persrephone @richavdpapen @sons-of-ilios @archistratego

In the early days of their relationship, Jack asked Bitty to write him a list

It’s hand written and taped next to Jack’s mirror. It reads as follows:

THINGS I EXPECT FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP

  • I expect that you are with me because you want to be with me
  • I expect for you to talk to me and tell me if I do things you don’t like - Use your words, Jack!
  • I expect that you tell me when you want me to do something - In life or in bed or whatever, don’t be shy!
  • I expect that we find time to call/text/skype each other once in a while (there something hand drawn next to it, Bitty says it’s a phone.)
  • I expect that we both work hard to see each other in person when we can

THINGS I DO NOT EXPECT FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP

  • I do not expect you to compromise your career
  • I do not expect you to come out
  • I do not expect you to spend a required amount of time with me
  • I do not expect you to guess my moods - I’ll do my best to use my words too, sweetheart
  • I do not expect gifts of any kind - They’re appreciated, not a requirement!
  • I do not expect you to spend money on me - I would love you poor and hockey-less
  • I do not expect you to do anything you don’t want in bed or in life

THINGS I EXPECT YOU TO REMEMBER

  • I love you
  • I love you
  • I love you
  • I believe in you
  • I desire you (there’s a blushing emoji hand drawn next to that)
  • I like you as a person
  • I want to hear about your good and bad days
  • I know you
  • I know you, therefore I love you

And it’s signed -ERB with a lot of XOXOXOs next to it.

Jack reads it every day when he gets up, and sometimes even more when he’s feeling anxious. Seeing the expectations of this relationship clearly written helps him a lot.


Jack’s list for Bitty

How to Live Without Regrets

1. Discover and follow your own path in life.

2. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to other people.

3. Make character a goal, and top priority.

4. Don’t procrastinate, or fail to do the things that matter.

5. Spend your time with people who affirm and value you.

6. Don’t fear being judged or criticised by other people.

7. Do what makes you happy … All the things that you enjoy.

8. Don’t ruminate on failures, or misjudgments, or mistakes.

9. Do things that you’ll be proud of when you look back on your life.

10. Don’t take yourself too seriously, or worry all the time.

Jack also wrote a list for Bitty

It’s folded on his night stand, hidden under the lamp

Things I expect from this relationship

(nothing, honestly, but you asked, so there goes:)

  • I expect that you’re with me because you really want to be with me
  • I expect that you tell me if things get too much
  • I expect that you answer honestly when I ask how you are
  • I expect that you make your wants and needs clear and explicit because otherwise I stress about it - You know how I am

Things I do not expect from this relationship

  • I do not expect you put up with my moods
  • I do not expect you that put this relationship above other important things in your life, like school, hockey, friends, anything else.
  • I do not expect you to be okay with keeping this relationship a secret
  • I do not expect you to be okay with the pressure of dating me - (There is a hockey stick hand drawn next to this)
  • I do not expect you to come out to your parents or anyone else, really
  • I do not expect you to forgive me for having treated you badly that first year - I still am sorry about it
  • I do not expect that you force yourself get along with anyone that you might dislike, for my sake
  • I do not expect you to do anything you might dislike, for my sake
  • I do not expect you to feed me, or take care of me, or anything else- If you want to do it for your own enjoyment, go ahead.

Things I want you to remember

  • I love you
  • Talking to you calms me down
  • I always want to see you or talk to you, even during my black moods
  • I love you
  • I desire you
  • Your life and what happens in it are as important as what happens in mine, I want to hear about it
  • I love you
  • Never forget that we were friends first, and will work hard to remain friends no matter what happens
  • You are an important part of my life, hockey is not more important than you are
  • Je t’aime

It’s signed -Jack

Bitty reads it before going to bed, and falls asleep with a smile on his face.


Bitty’s list for Jack

clairecosette  asked:

If you had a do-over in life, what would it be? Also is Carmilla still stealing your yellow pillow?

The yellow pillow was lost when our old dorm fell into the pit last fall.

There’s this old song my dad likes, and one of the lines is: “regrets I’ve had a few.” And I have. Everyone has, I’m sure if you asked Carmilla she’d say the same thing. LaF too. 

Asking to do-over anything is like asking to have Clark Kent fall in love with anyone other than Lois Lane. Sure, there are universes where that’s possible, and even happened (why DC WHY), but this is my universe. I’ve made my choices and I have to live with them, no matter how bad the residual trauma is.

Scientists Asked 5,500 Americans To Reveal Their 'Relationship Deal Breakers' — Here's What They Learned

Originally posted by thisismedating-blog

A series of studies on “relationship deal breakers” was released last year, which exposes what are the top three deal breakers for both men and women. Anything from lazy to needy to distance plays a role. Where do you land?

See the table chart below.

Keep reading

Do not let them go.

Throughout life you will meet one person who is unlike any other.
You could talk to this person for hours and never get bored,
you could tell them things and they won’t judge you.
This person is your soulmate, your best friend.
Don’t ever let them go.

he’s purroud to be an ameowican

  • ship a:obviously endgame, led by two characters who are constantly torn in a cycle of will they/won't they, literally EVERYONE knows that they are in love with each other, destined to happily ever after
  • me:nice
  • ship b:shows up OUT OF NOWHERE, decides to SLAP YOU RIGHT IN THE FACE WITH EMOTIONS, obviously NOT endgame, doomed from the start, will probably be destroyed via unnecessary character death or ridiculous characterization write-offs, the bane of your emotional existence, wHY
  • me:THAT'S THE ONE, THAT'S THE ONE RIGHT THERE, I'LL TAKE 10 OF THOSE PLEASE

anyone else kinda terrified you’ll never be able to hold a job in the future because of your mental illness

anonymous asked:

What's your favorite thing about being a Batman comics fan?

how there’s so much material you’re bound to have missed things so you can have conversations with other long time fans that go: "batman dipped himself in orange dye and stuck a piece of celery on his cowl pretending to be a carrot" and you’re like “oh damn that’s wild” even though you’ve been reading comics all your life. do you question it happening? no. there’s what, seven? eight thousand batman issues by now? you can’t risk it. we’ve been through the 70s. do you know the kind of crap that happened during that decade

People who:

●judge others

●make fun of others

●think low of others

●take advantage of others

are the worst.

sometimes i think i might be a lesbian but who tf knows

kksel  asked:

How did you get discovered? Was it social media or from showing in galleries?

I don’t think for most people there’s “a thing”. It’s a combination of all the things you do.

First and foremost is always your art. If your art is shit there’s no amount of promotion in the world that’ll make people like it. Focus on making art that excites you, and experiment as much as possible; it will make your art more unique in the long run.

As your art improves, dedicate time to ‘getting yourself out there’. There are a number of different ways you can do that. Apply to local shows, go to life drawing events, meet other artists, go to their shows and celebrate their accomplishments, and of course, social media.

When it comes to social media people seem to often think that there’s a 'trick’ to it, but there isn’t. Make art that you love, either people will connect to it or they won’t, and there isn’t much you can do about it. Posting regularly and interacting with your followers helps, but God knows I’ve slacked off on both of those things at various points in time. But if you’re making art that you love then who gives a fuck if other people do? Followers unfortunately do not generally equal people who will buy your art. The majority of my followers are young people who love my work but will never be able to buy it. And I’m fine with that, I share my work online because I love it and want to put it out in the world, anything else is a bonus.

I always go off on long rants and lose my point and Tumblr won’t let me see the question, so hopefully that sums it all up. Put yourself out there in as many ways as possible, but don’t forget what it’s really all about: making art you love and supporting others in a community. People can sense (even through the Internet) when someone is all about self promotion, and there’s no bigger turn off. Be a genuine human being and make decisions you can stand behind, success generally follows that.