or something... whatever.. god i hope this makes sense

thewildwoodwoman  asked:

Hello! I recently read your post on astral travel and over complicating things and I was wondering if you had any tips on starting astral travel in general. I know the whole "relaxing your body, feel tingly" thing but, I'm just afraid that I won't get "out" so to speak. Any tips? Thank you!

I feel like I get asked this all the time and usually I do the equivalent of a ‘huh’ face but god damn I will try this time!

As you saw in my post, I think it’s a real barrier to astral travel to focus on ‘getting out’ because imo there are quite a few people that will never actually achieve an 'OBE’ type sensation associated with the astral. And imo again I think that’s because it’s legitimately a risk to let your soul go wandering about without you because that’s a state we usually associate with death–and thus it follows that it would be hard to actually achieve that because our bodies probably freak out and try to do everything possible to prevent that outcome! And there are other risks with actually physically leaving too, like getting lost or other entities seeing an open body sans soul and thinking 'opportunity!’

I say this because I got caught up in trying to achieve an OBE and thus when I actually started seeing the astral and it wasn’t Dramatic and I never really lost my body connection I got in my own head about it–and thus in my own way.

I think a better goal is starting small. Identify what you’re actually having problems with. There are many working parts to astral skills–they include a lot of the same skills we develop in basic energy work, trance work, and witchcraft. So you need some level of mastery of slipping into altered states, some decency at visualization, and I would argue some skill at creation energy magic (for when you actually get over there)

If what you’re saying is you can’t relax enough to achieve an altered state (when you’re in a proper trance or deep meditative brain wave state you naturally forget you have a body trust me) then start with that! Research methods that work for you and allow you to hit that. If you prefer moving methods, try that too. I know after a solid yoga session I tend to slip right into the astral with zero effort on my part because I’ve expended so much energy that my body is happy to just let me go. When you can achieve that state of calmness it’s so much easier to focus on the astral side. And when you’re at the level where you can consistently forget you have a body, you can do quick pop ins to see what’s going on over there, then pop back here.

The major difference in this method vs the obe situation is I’m not focusing on moving my actual soul around. Instead I’m flipping the tv channel in my head to see what’s up, which is less invasive so to speak imo. It’s a subtle thing!

If you have trouble visualizing (because by far the fastest way for me to slip into an astral state when I haven’t been in a while is picturing a door or gateway as I said in my other post) find basic exercises to get you exercising that imagination muscle. And if you don’t prefer that sense, find exercises that strengthen other senses. My favorite one is the fruit test:

Locate a fruit (irl) and use every sense to really get to know this item. Get it so you could take a test on this fruit and ace it.

Close your eyes and focus really hard on recalling those facts you mentally recorded on the fruit. Get it so you could reach out and touch it, taste, smell it in your mind. Do all of those things. That’s already a really solid visualization.

Then, using what you just learned, create in your mind an alien fruit that doesn’t exist. Do the sense exercises again. If you can do this last step, you’re entirely capable of visualizing a door, or a gate, or a tunnel to get you there. And the combo of the altered state and the visualization is usually more than enough to help you forget the body.

Also be aware when you first start to astral there’s a really solid chance you’re going to be spending a lot of time in a home base area that isn’t on the astral proper. I’ve seen this enough times now to think it’s the norm for a LOT of people. If this applies to you, that’s lucky! You have the space and time to play around with wacky astral things in relative safety. If you’re stuck in one place for a while, don’t panic, and don’t get caught up in doubt this isn’t the real deal. Use the time to sharpen your skills and get really good at connecting.

On the connecting note, DO IT A LOT! There are some days where absolutely nothing is going to happen, and it happens to me too, and all I can tell you is the planets aren’t aligned that day or the server is down or something. It’s not on you. But try and connect often anyway, even if you reach out and absolutely nothing is there. I say this because it’s literally like exercising. If you do it consistently and often you are going to get better and it will become easier. If I do reiki every day for a week, for example, I’m exponentially more sensitive and in tune than if I take a week off–I firmly believe this applies to most spirit work stuff.

And this last tip is so common sense but I feel the need to state it: when you’re just learning to do this astral thing for the love of the gods don’t try it when you’re going to be interrupted! There’s nothing more jarring than almost achieving it and being wrenched back into your body by someone slamming the door or whatever. Seriously, it’s shocking and disorienting. Make sure you have a gradual come back to your body at the end!

Anyway, I feel like I ran around the globe twice on a simple ask but I hope something in there is helpful to you!

I'm Not Good Enough

Is it only me, or does that statement seem ridiculous to you as well?  In fact it sounds like something that might be conjured up by an extremely unhappy five year old, which actually was about my age when I internalized those most painfully destructive feelings of being somehow not good enough.  I don’t know if I had words for it yet, but I definitely took ownership of the role.  So what would lead a five year old to arrive at such an admittedly false and unhealthy conclusion?  Apparently I was guilty of the most unpardonable crime of “choosing” a role model that obviously was quite unimpressed with my performance as his child.  Though I later discovered this was unfortunately not a unique situation by any means, it became all too clear that I could never please this large fearful godlike presence known as dad, that I so greatly admired and tried vainly to emulate.  Many years after I learned intellectually that the true problem was not my inadequacy as a member of the human race, but rather the fact that my father like so many other people simply was incapable of  appropriately expressing his affection, and as the old saying goes “threw praise around like manhole covers”.  Later still I understood that he too had been a victim of less than perfect parents and could give no more than he possessed.  I finally was able to forgive him and intellectually at least even understood the why behind his actions, yet for whatever reason, emotionally I remained forever fated to be not good enough.  Maybe one day these feelings will pass, and I’m not quite sure why I decided to write this today, as the truth is it almost certainly won’t be self healing.  Whatever the reason may be, it would seem that I’m either incapable of or unwilling to change my self image, yet I do somehow hope it might reach at least one other wounded child out there who may be dealing with similar feelings of inadequacy and/or self image issues.  Perhaps in reading this, they’ll see just how absurd and ludicrous this concept actually is, or at the very least understand and find hope in the fact that they’re not alone.  While not good enough may be a valid concept in certain situations such as being a professional athlete or for most of us even receiving payment for our writing, it isn’t necessarily a good reason for not trying, and I hope you’ll agree with me that it’s absolutely meaningless when applied to someone’s value as a human being.  Think about it for a moment, whatever your faith may be, most of us generally believe we’re the creations or perhaps even the children of something far greater than us.  Does it make sense to you that any sort of loving god would actually be that cruel, much less even willing to waste their time and effort in the altogether useless endeavor of creating inferior children?  As I said before, the very concept sounds ridiculous.  It is, and you may as well know the truth now, because like it or not, you dear child are indeed good enough.  I’ll close now with one of my all time favorite quotes.  While it hasn’t “cured” me, it has certainly helped, and if anyone out there needs to hear these words, please take them and make them yours, as they were shared with love both then and now.       

“Sometimes we ask for a hug from a man who has no arms.”
- A dear friend long ago

anonymous asked:

Heyyy ! So I love your writing and idk if you still take prompts but if you do here's one for you : "i have the biggest crush on you but you're completely oblivious and your friend told me you really liked this thing so now I'm pretending I love it too but shit you started buying me so much stuff about it and idk how to tell you I don't like it" bye xx

Thanks so much for this! It was a lot of fun to write and it ended up kind of getting away from me, so I posted it on ao3 if that’s easier! Hope you enjoy!

(Also I wasn’t entirely sure who this was supposed to be for, so I hope Bellarke is okay!)

“Clarke, would you just go talk to him?” Wells asked, startling Clarke, who hadn’t realized just how obvious she was being, staring at Bellamy from where he was sitting across the room from her.

“And what do I say? Every time we talk we end up fighting,” Clarke groaned, knowing that there was virtually no point in lying to Wells about it- he knew everything, without ever having to be told. It was kind of scary.

“Just talk about something he likes,” Wells suggested, making it sound like the easiest thing in the world, which it definitely wasn’t- the conversations her and Bellamy had could be classified as less than civil, at best.

“Great idea Wells,” Clarke replied, sarcasm evident in her voice as she threw her hands up in the air, almost spilling her drink in the process, “Only one problem- Bellamy Blake doesn’t like anything.”

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