Stephen King once wrote that “Nightmares exist outside of logic, and there’s little fun to be had in explanations; they’re antithetical to the poetry of fear.” In a horror story, the victim keeps asking “Why?” But there can be no explanation, and there shouldn’t be one. The unanswered mystery is what stays with us the longest, and it’s what we’ll remember in the end. My name is Alan Wake. I’m a writer.
Thank you all so much for all of the super sweet messages!! It honestly made my day!! You have all been so supportive, loving and caring!! I cannot thank you all enough!! 💕💕💕 I hope I continue to make you all proud!! 💕💕💕
Hello there! I'm a HufflePuff, although I've been told I have strong RavenClaw attributes. I know this isn't really a question. Feel free to ignore it if you wish. But I wanted to thank you. After looking through this blog, I see how you've helped people, I see how you've used a common intrest to help people feel more connected with you and open about their problems. Thank you. One of my best friends, a Slytherin actually, and I thank you for what you're doing. I wish this could be longer. :)
It was plenty long enough.
Thank you. So much. Messages like this help me more than I can say and they make me so happy. I’m glad that I can help you guys and that you feel like you can talk to me.
I love feeling like I can give back to you. Help you like I’ve been helped. Make sure you have someone. That’s all I really want. To be here if you need it.
-Mel (the Slytherin)
I love it, I love everything so much and I can’t believe I’m leaving it all. But I am so thankful for every smile, laugh, tear, goofy moment, and every sad moment I’ve gotten to share with these amazing people.
You know, I could go through and tell you what each of these pictures means to me, how these people have effected me, but there’s too much too say in so little time.
So for now, life is amazing, and I am so absolutely in love with everything. Here’s to beautiful beginnings ❤
Before I continue with this, I just want to say that there is no need to rush the process of accepting yourself and your body. It takes months, years even to get to a point where you feel you are perfectly fine the way that you are and even then you may fall back into that cycle of hating certain aspects of yourself that you may or may not be able to change. Hell, I’m still working through the little things about myself that are still bothering me, even now that I’ve accepted most of my flaws. And what worked for me may not work for you, as you are a completely different person from me. But I will do my best to give you as much advice as I can, so you can possibly find something that works for you :)
What I would first suggest for you to do is look at yourself in the mirror and take note of the things about yourself that make you feel unattractive physically. Coming to terms with the things that bother you on the outside is a good way to start the long/lengthy process of coming to terms with who you are and what it means to be you. Choose the feature that stands out to you the most and spend some time thinking about why it bothers you so much. Keep doing this until it eventually stops playing on your mind so much and move onto the next feature till you’ve gone through them all and worked out why they are affecting you so much.
Another thing that has worked a lot for me, is simply smiling more and walking more confidently. It honestly makes such a big difference to how you feel when you are at home or in public. Not only does it help boost your confidence and make you feel more comfortable in your own skin, it also helps people notice the certain type of beauty you have. It may not be considered the conventional thing people go for but that doesn’t mean it isn’t beautiful or dazzling in it’s own amazing way that no one else can replicate.
Something that helps the mental aspect of feeling unattractive is simply ignoring what others have to say about beauty (appearance wise, personality wise etc.) and just do your own thing. And if there is someone in your life constantly criticising you for things that you can’t control, do your best to get them out of it as much as you can. Even if it is a close relative. Because their negativity does nothing but hinder your chances of working towards that stage in your life where you finally feel comfortable in your own skin.
And while it may seem a little vain or difficult to do, simply believing you are attractive works wonders on how others, and in turn yourself, perceive you. Its having that inner confidence that draws people in and causes them to look deeper into who you are as a person to see the incredible qualities you have hidden underneath your insecurity/doubts/worries.
Personality wise, just be you. It doesn’t matter what others think about who you are as a person, what you act like, aspire to be etc. And if people seem to think they can have a say in how you act, tell them to fuck right off. No one has the right to order you about or tell you to change something about yourself because they don’t like it. It isn’t the end of the world if they do. You will eventually find the people that treat you the way you deserve and appreciate you for the amazing person you are. Succumbing to the suggestions of negatively minded individuals will hinder this entirely and leave you feeling more isolated and alone than you ever have before.
I really hope that this helps you in any way, I apologise sincerely if it doesn’t :( Please don’t hesitate to message me again if you need more advice or if my advice isn’t working for you. I’m here if you need and will do my best to help you in any sort of way I can :) And I want you to know that I think you are absolutely beautiful and you are so brave for reaching out for help, I know how hard it is to do so sometimes and I’m so proud of you and honoured that you came to me for help. I hope this works for you ^_^