Ok... what are pronouns for, then? Not trying to be mean, I just genuinely don't get it...
think about it like this: there’s a man named erik. he likes to be called by the name joe. all his friends call him joe. this makes him happy. but joe hasnt gotten the chance to legally change his name yet. someone comes along and says but his original birth certificate says erik… joe isn’t his Real name… i refuse to call him joe even if it makes him happy and doesn’t affect my life at all. all because i value a piece of paper he got no say in over his actual comfort
thats rude and unnecessary. pronouns are a way for people to refer to us without using our name. it helps the flow of a sentence. if a girl wants to use he/him pronouns, that’s not a big deal. respect that. it a tiny thing that goes a long way
also this is interesting to note