Chaos in Pandora’s Box’s Opinions Regarding Free Spirit Shops
Since Pandora and I were new to a lot of these shops popping up, and we are now considered an “older” shop, she requested that I post some information about our personal views. I’ll start with a blog regarding “free” in the metaphysical community that Pandora posted a couple of years ago on another site, by her request. She tends to say things a little more harshly than me, but it was after we’d seen some people actually get hurt due to these free programs.
“A lot of times, when people offer a service on the forums, people see “free” and pounce. Needless to say, this really bothers me. I’ve had to (more than once) undo something that a spell-caster has done because they either a) had no idea what they were doing, or didn’t know the situation and just offered to throw up a shield/do a healing/perform some sort of service anyway. ANY spell-caster should be pelting the person with questions to find out their situation, instead of just trying to sell their services as fast and hard as they can. If they don’t know the whole situation, how the heck can they know what will help and what won’t?
Now, per usual, this is NOT directed at anyone in particular. But I want to make you all aware of something. Spell-casters that do not try to find out more of your situation do not care about you as people. They care about you as marketers and numbers, so once they cast their spell (whether it works or doesn’t) you give them free marketing by telling everyone else how great they are. This draws in more people, and so on, and the cycle continues.
What I’m trying to say is, if someone comes offering you a service, pelt them with questions. What’s their casting method? What precisely will the spell do? (I’m not talking about general “oh, it’ll help you feel better” answers. HOW will it help you feel better?) How will this spell manifest around you? What do they know about your situation as a person? Don’t just take things at face value, PLEASE. I know sometimes we get desperate and want a quick fix via spell, but if a spell-caster can’t answer these questions or gives you unsatisfactory answers, what good does it do you to accept the service?
And the same goes for conjurers. Ask them about their process. They may not share everything, but they should be willing to give you at least a basic idea of what goes on during a conjuration and binding. How do they match your energies, or do they at all? What wards or screening process do they put the spirits through?
So please, think twice before just running to someone and accepting their services when they say “free.”
I’m not saying her views reflect absolutely all of mine, but I do definitely agree that you should ASK QUESTIONS before committing to any free service. You don’t know who or what someone is actually conjuring for you unless you know they have a positive reputation or have been around the block for a while first. Our personal student conjurers are STILL practicing their conjuring, and several of them have no intentions of opening shops at all. We only have one who has recently in the past month, and that was because she had nearly a year’s worth of experience under our scrutinizing eyes first. We want to let you all know that we take our jobs as conjurers very seriously. We don’t perform free conjures because our work is sacred and taxing to us. The money we receive is compensation for the vessels, incense, candles, bags, packaging, time-consuming readings, time-consuming artwork, my expensive art tools, and last but definitely not least… the actual energetically-draining conjures and bindings themselves. Pandora and I both work full time jobs outside of our conjuring work, and we have a family we are raising. We are also going through a lot of life events, which makes conjuring a service. This isn’t always the case since we do offer giveaways and have sales about once every month, but that’s not saying that those giveaways and freebies we sometimes offer don’t come without energetic consequence like all our other services.
Concerning asking questions, definitely refer to this list below to ask these new shops if you have any doubts. Works like a charm, and you will ALWAYS be able to tell if they can’t answer all the questions honestly. As a final note from me, Pandora and I are completely unbiased about all this. These are simply our views as a general opinion from what we’ve experienced, and we are not siding with anyone concerning what’s happening in our community.
What should I ask a seller to see if they’re reputable/ethical or not? - By Pandora
“~The Meta world is full of minefields. People telling you to do this or that, people telling you to buy this or that. It’s understandable why a lot of new people get totally confused. I’ve seen people get so paranoid that they shun anything from the Para world because there’s just too much of a risk that they’ll get cheated out of something. And then there are those that get burned time and time again because they stumble into the dishonest sellers. So…how are they supposed to protect themselves? Well, I’m not an expert, but I have seen a few trends that I can speak out about.
1. Prices are not an indicator of skill.
This is a big one that I think trips a lot of people up. Almost everything from conjurers is self-priced. There’s no “standard” that anyone has to hold up to, because each working is different. However, there’s some common sense to keep in mind–Just because a seller’s prices are low doesn’t mean that they’re not reputable or legitimate. On the opposite end, just because a seller’s prices are through the roof doesn’t mean they’re any more legitimate than someone with low prices. Matter of fact, from what I’ve seen many of the higher-priced conjures have had some not-so-impressive results. But anyway, my point is this: don’t panic if you see quite the price difference between sellers. There’s many different things to take into account: The cost of the vessel itself, the amount of energy and work that goes into the conjuration and binding of a spirit or entity, shipping, and so on. And it’s also important to look at whether conjuring is the person’s only source of income. If it is, then their prices may be a little higher because they’re using the money to support themselves. Those that have other jobs can perhaps afford to have their prices a little lower. (Mind you, this is a general statement and may not be true for everyone.)
2. A conjurer/seller is not validated by anything they say. They are validated by their customers. I don’t care if they’ve had ten years’ experience or ten days. Here’s a saying I live by: Results matter. Someone can have all the experience in the world and even they may slip up from time to time. Or a newbie could do everything right from the word “Go.” The important thing to do here is pay attention to your gut. Does a seller’s bragging about their experience put you off? Does someone’s bashing of a seller intrigue you? Intuition doesn’t lie. People may misinterpret it from time to time and come to an incorrect conclusion, but I like to think that it never lies.
3. Of course, both the above points lead to this one: Ask questions of the seller. If you’re looking at someone new, pepper them with questions. If they answer you readily, and their answers are verified by others, pretty sure it’s safe to say that that’s a green light. If they stall or give you answers that don’t seem to jive with what you’ve read about them, then something’s up. Here’s a few questions you can ask sellers:
What does your binding consist of? (Now keep in mind they may not answer fully, because each conjurer prefers to keep some secrets close, but they should be able to get you a general idea of what they do.)
How do you conjure/What are the protections you put in place to make sure that you’re conjuring the right spirit? (Again they may not share everything, but they should be able to give you a general idea)
When did you conjure your first spirit? What was it like?
Which Arts do you work with the most? White, Grey, Dark, or Black?
What are some safeguards you have in place to buffer the Companion from their spirit if they’re feeling overwhelmed?
What is your return policy for a spirit and Companion that just doesn’t connect well on an energetic level?
And this is a big one: What do you think of other sellers? (You can name specific sellers here, or just leave it general.) This question will give you a feel for the conjurer’s personality.
Have you had issues with customers in the past concerning your conjures? How did you resolve the issue?
Can I follow up with you after I purchase a binding/How available are you after our transaction is completed?If anyone else thinks of some other questions, let me know. My point here being, for the newbies at least, is don’t be afraid to ask questions. If a conjurer doesn’t get back to you right away, ask anyone here. A lot of us have been around the block a few times, and we’ve seen conjurers and shops come and go.”