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NCT MTL to date a tall vs. short girl

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Anon: Could you do a MTL to date someone short? (I’m almost 18 but at 150 I have to resort to climbing on the countertops and using BBQ tongs to reach things on the top shelf >.< so frustrating)

Heya!! xD this was interesting to write to say the least, and extremely hard since I was forced to put biases lower down :’-( why am i so tall? Tell me what you think and if you’re pissed your bias “won’t” date you according to this 

THIS ALSO APPLIES TO TALL BOYS AND SHORT BOYS

ANYWAY ENJOY AND I HOPE THAT ALL THE ANONS I SPEAK TO LIKE THIS LOL remember that time when i literally made 23872832889 tall friends? yeah same

Originally posted by nctuhohahyes


Tall girl

Johnny
WinWin
Jaehyun
Taeyong
Doyoung
Hansol
Jeno
Jaemin
Chenle
Renjun
Kun
Ten
Mark
Jisung
Taeil
Yuta
Haechan

Short girl


Johnny would obviously date a tall girl because his height would allow this. He’d easily date both tall and short people, but I think he’d prefer tall people purely because he’d easily get annoyed by the height difference comments. He gets them a lot already, so if he were to get them all.the.time he’d feel offended and very irritated.

WinWin I feel would date a noona or noona-like girl who gives off that mature and protectiveness vibe, and with tall girls, he’d feel this vibe with them too. He wouldn’t want to look after someone in his relationship or help them with everything in life, since he’s quite dependent on others as it is. A taller girl would also be easier for him physically.

I’ve already said in another MTL that Jaehyun would date and usually models are tall. He’d chose a sexy girl over a cute girl any day, and with taller girls, there’s usually more of a sexy vibe with them. Practically would be a big thing for him too in a relationship, and it’d be practical to have someone of similar height who would be able to lean on him physically but also vice versa.

Taeyong would just have a slight preference for taller gals. Like Jaehyun, the practically would be better but also he’d like the fact you could share everything. In private of course he’d be very clingy, but in public he’d be shyer, preferring to show affection/love through objects. Like this he’d be able to wear your jumpers or baggy clothes and vice versa.

Doyoung, I’m not saying he’d prefer taller girls but because he is fairly tall, it’d be possible (as in he’s quite tall as well) If ever he saw a tall girl in public, he’d probably stare not expecting to see someone so striking and tall as that in public. It’d be attractive to him, but he wouldn’t be the type to just go up and talk to them. Basically, if he liked your personality, your height would just be an added bonus for him.

Again, with Hansol, dating a tall girl would be possible for him since he’s twin towers with Johnny lol. The only reason why he’s not further up is because he probably has very traditionally Korean preferences in dating so a short girl would be his “ideal type”. However he’d happily date a tall girl, if she fit the rest of his preferences or if he liked her that much.

This is where it basically got real hard lol. NCT Dream are still teenage boys who are still growing and although they’re quite tall, I still think their growth spurt is waiting for them lol. That’s why I’ve put most in the middle where they could potentially date either. Jeno, however, is probably the most mature out of all of them so wouldn’t feel too intimidated if he were to date someone tall or taller.

Jaemin obviously is a little hormonal what with being a teenage boy so probably thinks taller girls are sexy and generalises all of them as models lol I wish but they’d have to be his height or shorter. Anyone taller would emasculate him a little.

Chenle, I think I’ve said this before, but he would fit with anyone, any kind of physical appearance and any type of personality. So he’d easily date a tall or short person, as long as he liked them of course! He’s still growing so is fairly short, so probably not someone too tall at the moment!

Renjun probably wants a little cute girlfriend whose small and cuddly and sweet, but then again, he’s not that tall himself and will get taller, so could date someone taller later on in life. He’d still like the cuddliness and cuteness of a shorter person, that taller people can lack a little.

Kun, unfortunately we don’t know much about him or his personality so I was a little stumped here. Even though we have like zero information on him, I think he’d like smaller girls but then again, we don’t know how “traditional” he is in his preferences so it could be that he’d date someone tall too.

Ten, I see with someone tall or small, however, he’d want a shorter girlfriend because he’d like being the alpha male. He’s very skinny and lean, so someone tall could make him slightly intimidating, but of course, if he liked them enough and they were perfect for him, he wouldn’t really care.

I just see Mark with someone way shorter, and a large height difference. Maybe it’s because I still think of him as a small little baby, and I can’t believe he’s maturing lol, but I just can’t see him with someone tall. But because of his Western influences, he might be open to dating someone taller.

Jisung, like the rest of NCT Dream, is still growing up and he’s quite tall for his age as it is! But he is the baby of the group, and would want someone who he could baby over and protect. He’s probably bored of being the one looked after and babied over, so someone small as well would help him build his confidence.

Taeil, like I’ve said before, probably has traditional Korean preferences in life in general. Therefore a small, slim, and cute looking girl would be his preference. However, he is the oldest, so is very mature and could possibly overlook a factor like height if the person was worth it.

Yuta has already specified that his ideal type is someone 15cm shorter than him, so I think there’s no doubt he’d chose a small girl over a tall girl (that broke my heart lol) I do think he’d look adorable with someone shorter, although I can see him with both extremes, and he’d obviously be the type to always tease them about their height.

Like Yuta, Haechan would be the type to always tease his partner. Someone shorter would allow him to tease them for that reason, but of course he’d be be very playful and secretly sensitive about it. I just see him with someone tiny and sweet and they’d look so cute together.

So I’ve been reading the classic Amazing Spider-Man comics for about 2 or 3 years now on my Marvel Unlimited service, and over time I have grown more and more fond of Mary Jane Watson’s character. I just finished issue #259, and I am now completely amazed that this character is so commonly shrugged off as a cheap replacement for Gwen Stacy, and is regarded as the weaker character. I beg to differ. Unlike Gwen Stacy and other love interests, she has interesting flaws, a rich backstory, and much more history with Peter Parker, which in my opinion makes her the best love interest in the story.


When we first meet MJ, she is certainly this silly, over-the-top, stereotypically attractive and fun-loving person. And I think that this first impression may have been what doomed her reputation in the long run. But here’s the thing… It’s not who she is. This is merely how she wants other people to see her. At her core, Mary Jane is a broken person who uses her “fun-loving” personality as a coping mechanism, and avoids commitment and responsibility because of her past experiences with family.


Mary Jane grew up in a very unstable environment. Her father abandoned her, and her mother could barely take care of her. Her sister got married way too soon, and had two kids with a guy who didn’t know what he was getting into. MJ, deep down, is a helpless romantic who would love nothing more than to live a “happily ever after” story with a great husband. But she is so afraid and convinced that she will only wind up in the same situation her mother and sister were in. So she’s flaky. She loves Peter Parker, but refuses to admit it, and even originally rejects him when he proposes to her. They share this vaguely defined, complex relationship until she finally understands her problem, and marries Peter.


What I absolutely love about this relationship though is that Peter doesn’t just take a beating from her, either. That’s one thing the Sam Raimi movies entirely failed at, and that’s why the relationship is so frustrating to watch in the movies. Peter just seems to absolutely obsess over MJ, while MJ seems to not give a single shit about Peter and treats him like garbage until it’s convenient for her to date him. But this isn’t the case in the comics. In the comics, Peter doesn’t put up with any bullshit. If MJ can’t settle down, she’s not the woman he wants. And Mary Jane totally gets where he’s coming from, too. After she rejects his proposal, she doesn’t come “crawling back” to him. There isn’t some stupid cat and mouse game where one of them is always more interested than the other. It’s a very mature relationship where both of them are trying to find compromise, and are working out their own issues and discovering what they want in life.

Let’s talk about Gwen Stacy now. Look at every iteration of Gwen Stacy we’ve seen outside of her original appearances. In Ultimate Spider-Man, she’s this rebellious punk chick. In Spider-Gwen, she’s kind of a feisty female version of Peter who plays drums. In the Amazing Spider-Man movies, she’s a strong, brilliant science student. In Spider-Man 3, she’s a ditzy model type. Every single Gwen we’ve ever seen is totally different, and that’s because there’s almost nothing to use as reference.

Gwen Stacy had barely any chance to display her personality, her motivations, or just generally anything about her life outside of her brief conversations with Peter. I can’t even remember a single issue where we simply see them on a date. Most of the time, her appearances pick up where a date is ending, or are cut short with Peter running off to fight crime. Yes, Stan Lee did not approve of her getting killed off, but that doesn’t make her the better character. I would go as far as to call Gwen the “pretty face” character, and Mary Jane the one with any real chemistry with Peter. We simply don’t see enough about Gwen to really know what kind of girlfriend she was.


So to those of you still reading this oddly specific wall of text, I hope this helps change the general opinion that Mary Jane is some shallow generic hot girl who replaced Gwen. I can understand where this opinion comes from, but I find that it stems from the characters being altered and misinterpreted in many different adaptions and retellings. I would absolutely love for new Spider-Man movies to tell Mary Jane’s story more accurately than the Raimi movies did. I think there is a lot of potential in there for a very complex, original type of love story that happens to also be pretty iconic.

anonymous asked:

Hello I was just wondering how u found out ur aromantic cuz I think I might be aro but I am not sure

I found out about aromanticism sometime around February or March of last year, soon after researching asexuality. I couldn’t find many articles about it, or information beyond the “doesn’t experience romantic attraction” definition, and that was a real problem for me. “Romantic attraction” is so subjective and hard to define that it’s unhelpful for a lot of people, especially since aro folks have no internal experience of it.

What I needed was discussion about aromantic people’s experiences, what it’s like to live as an aro person, and an aromantic community that I could hang out in and learn from. There’s not much out there yet, and even the Tumblr aromantic community is small and disorganized. But I highly suggest reading aro bloggers’ posts about their feelings, problems and experiences. I’ve also contributed a few articles on this topic.

But I didn’t have those things available at the time, so here’s what I did instead: I spent several months going “???” and waffling about it. Like many people, I was reluctant to “label myself” and wanted to be absolutely sure that an identity label was right for me before I started using it for myself.

But in reality, I never developed certainty about an identity label until after I had been using it for a while. I needed the experience of thinking of myself as an aromantic person in order to figure out that this identity felt right for me. So I encourage people to take labels “for a test drive”—try privately identifying as something for a few months, then you can re-evauate it and see if it still fits. If it does, great; if not, discard it and don’t worry about it.

Below the cut: discussion about different kinds of attraction, past experiences, and identity labels as a way of exercizing your autonomy.

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anonymous asked:

I just want to put this out there, Camille is actually really informed on a lot of political issues and events. She will put them on her instagram story a lot. In that sense I think she is very different from the past girls he has dated and its kind of refreshing. Yes she is another model, but I think she is more down to earth and just seems like a very caring person

She doesn’t really seem like a mean person, but the model stigma is what gets most ppl– it’s hard trying to be normal and be happy w/ yourself when all your idol does is date women who are seen as nothing less than perfect

That’s not her fault tho, so I’m not bashing her an any way. I’m just ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

anonymous asked:

A new blog deserves a cookie! 🍪 may I request angst with happy ending? Kise had broken up with his s/o because he didn't want to tie her down when he could barely see her due to his hectic schedule~ but a few weeks after he hears she got a new boyfriend (whose actually a moron who took advantage of her emotional state) he can't stand it and goes to talk/win her back? Is that too detailed? I hope not >.<

No problem, anon! Sorry this took so long, my internet was down for a long while :P Anyways, enjoy! -Admin Fyre


Kise hadn’t wanted to do it, but it wasn’t just his agency that was forcing him to break up the relationship. With a landslide of paperwork, publicity and upcoming projects coming up, he knew it was only a matter of time before it would be more than just a distraction to the two of you. He had the decency to do it personally at least, showing up with flowers and chocolates and an awkward apology.

He knew you weren’t satisfied with the reasoning. “Just because I understand it doesn’t mean I agree with it,” you’d said, grumpily, but no matter what compromises you offered to try and make the relationship work, Kise was adamant. “_______cchi shouldn’t be tied down to a crappy relationship with a guy like me. You deserve someone who can actually make time for you.”

You didn’t object because you knew he was right. It just wasn’t going to work out. Kise assumed you would be strong enough to move on, which was why he left with a heavy heart but an optimistic mind. You’d be fine.

Or so he thought.

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On polyamory

So, polyamory. It’s time to write an essay about this. It’s usually grossly misunderstood, and many people think it’s disgusting and immoral. Let’s try to dispel some illusions.

What is polyamory?

Polyamory is, quite simply, a philosophy about love. See it this way: you don’t choose only one parent to love. You don’t choose only one sibling to love. You don’t choose only one friend to love, and cling to them and never let them go. That’s now how love works in general.

So why would romantic love be any different?

The main idea is rejecting that. Rejecting that romantic love is exclusive, that you need to be satisfied with only one person forever, and that if they ever feel anything for someone else then you lose them forever. That’s what polyamory means.

So it doesn’t mean you’re afraid of commitment. It doesn’t mean you’re going to live a life of debauchery, going from bed to bed (not that there’s anything wrong with that, of course). It doesn’t even mean you’re going to be with more people! It just means that you reject the notion that romantic love is, necessarily, tied to only and exclusively one person.

So how does that work, then?

It really depends on each person. Once you realise that romantic love has no reason to be exclusive, a lot of other things follow.

First of all, being polyamorous doesn’t mean you’ll even be with more than one person. You can find yourself satisfied with one single person in the end! That happens, and it’s okay! You don’t have to have more partners if you don’t feel comfortable with that!

But many other important concepts come with embracing polyamory. For instance, the concept of possession is destroyed. You do not own your partners, nor they you. You do not get to tell them what they can or can’t do. You do not get to control their lives.

But how can a relationship work without that? Without some tacit agreement of what’s allowed and what isn’t? Well, in general, with communication. You can explain what you want, what your boundaries are, and what you expect. You explain your feelings and thoughts, and you both go from there.

And many models of relationship can exist. Sometimes you have a primary partner and a few secondary ones. Sometimes you have many equally “important” partners. Sometimes you have one partner but you have romantic/sexual encounters with other people. Sometimes you’re part of a V, where one person dates two other people who don’t date each other or anyone else; or a triangle, which is a V where those other two date each other.

And you’re not forced into any kind of relationship you don’t want, or aren’t comfortable with. You simply do what feels more natural, and you’re free to choose.

How do you deal with jealousy?

Jealousy is indeed hard to get rid of. But not impossible. And of course, you can just override it. How and why?

Well, see, jealousy usually is a kind of fear. Why are you jealous of your partner? Because you feel they will leave you if they meet someone else, usually. A more primal part can also whisper that the person is yours but of course you’re not an animal driven by instinct, right? People aren’t things, you don’t own them.

And why would you be afraid of them leaving you? If they didn’t want to be with you, if they didn’t love you, then it’s not some silly monoamorous binding that’s going to keep them with you. They’ll break up with you and go away, or they’ll use you as a comfortable chair. And of course you don’t want that.

But if they really do love you, then they can meet other people and they’ll still love you. They’ll still be with you. It’s not seeing other people that’s going to make them stop loving you. So you have to keep that in mind. You’ll still be with them, they’ll still love you, but they’ll also love other people. And isn’t that… well, great?

Compersion

Compersion is a sort of ecstatic empathic feeling. It’s being genuinely and sincerely happy because of someone else’s happiness. It’s seeing that your lover is meeting someone new, is falling in love again, and being ecstatic about it. A person you love is happy! How joyous is that?

This is the aspect of polyamory that most people find absolutely baffling. It’s one thing to tolerate your significant others having other significant others, but actually celebrate it? No, that’s insane.

Except it’s really, really not. You can, in fact, hack your own mind into feeling compersion for your lovers. I know I feel it. I know people who didn’t but learned to. You just have to remember: they are not going to leave you! They love you, they want to be with you! It’s not some bogus rule or restriction that’s keeping them with you, it’s the fact that they want to be with you.

With me, that usually takes the form of *ahem* shipping. Yes, I ship real life people, shut up. I don’t currently have any partners but I have quite a few crushes. And you know what? When they tell me about their partners, or their own crushes, it's awesome. I’m like, yeah, go get them! I get genuinely happy about it.

So try to imagine it. Try to do it. It certainly helps.

What kind of person wants to be polyamorous?

Given that the status quo is monoamory, why would anyone be polyamorous? I mean, if everyone else can do it, why can’t you, too?

First of all, that’s not true. Have you seen people who have a really hard time not cheating? And who have cheated but don’t actually want to leave their relationships? Yeah, so, guess what? Sometimes people are born polyamorous.

That’s really true. Sometimes, people just can’t actually be genuinely happy in a monoamorous relationship. They suffer, their relationships are crappy, they are never fulfilled, never happy. That exists.

And conversely, there are in fact many people that could not do polyamory. They really do only need one person, and cannot even imagine being with other people. That happens.

The vast majority of people, though, are somewhere in between. They go with monoamory because they’re used to it, but if they’re exposed to polyamory and feel up to it, they do it. Most people are that, indeed.

I, personally, was always polyamorous, even before I knew the concept. I didn’t know it, didn’t name it, but I never felt like being with only one person. If you ask my parents, when I was a child and a teenager I used to say that I would never ever marry anyone because it didn’t seem like it would make me happy. Now I’m kinda the opposite? I want to marry multiple people. I think it was for fundamentally the same reason: I never saw myself being happy with only one person forever.

So, how about you?

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