you can keep claiming that aces and lgbt people are equally oppressed, but it has been illegal to be lgbt.
it has been legal to let gay people die, it has been legal to mistreat gay people.
it is still seen as a ~fun debate topic~ whether or not lgb people should have the same rights as straight people.
it is still up for debate as to whether or not trans kids get what they need to stop dysphoria.
it is still up for debate as to whether or not trans people are even valid, while at the same time they are openly mocked in the name of comedy.
aces aren’t as oppressed as lgbt people, even if they are opppressed.

One of the things I dislike the most about liberal politics is how it’s based on pretending that the world is the way we want it to be. Rhetoric like “all people are equal”, “we are all the same”, “race/gender/sexuality doesn’t matter” erases people’s real life experience and the power hierarchies in society. It tells us that in order to achieve “equality”, we need to ignore systems of opppression. This is why some people are accused of being “racist”/“sexist”/etc. themselves when they acknowledge that these constructs exist.

Bottom line: “is” isn’t “should”. Society isn’t the way it should be, and ignoring that doesn’t help. On the contrary, it hinders discussion about actual issues.