‘harsh’ aspects and ‘easy’ outlets both have their positives and negatives. conjuncts, sextiles, and trines are considered harmonic aspects (blue) and squares and oppositions are considered hard aspects (red). an ‘easy’ trine can supply a natural flow of talent, but the person can be too lazy to tap into it or develop it, they are spoiled with ease so it just stays dormant. the opposition and square indicates the resolution of conflict and putting in the hard work to develop qualities and skills so the person is pressured into action so these talents can be developed. the opposition will involve signs that are opposite one another. these signs share the same axis so they are just reversed mirror images of each other. the opposition basically demands that dualities be resolved, the amalgamation of opposite forces (both are same energy but polar from one another) so when they are ONE they activate the complete archetypal potential for that apex. its difficult for the easy aspects because the initiative isnt there, they get away with doing nothing too easily. its difficult for the former because two planets are trying to dominate each other and win. but you must compromise, negotiate, try multiple ways, be frustrated, elated, then watch them work together. then you will know talent
Hi Lori, I'm the college anon. I appreciate your response! I think I needed to hear a lot of that. I've really only started to be interested in dating recently, so it's new to me still. I was just hurt yesterday by something a guy said/did to me, so I came to you. I will say that there's only been a handful of people I've liked and I feel like I'm doing the opposite of forcing anything, but I can see now that my way of thinking may be a little warped. I need to relax about all of this.