So N has been talking to a girl he met online (let’s call her W). I talked to her a bit, and she seems pretty nice. She makes him happy, and I’m super thrilled about that.
I’ve been feeling a lot of compersion, but also a twinge of jealousy/insecurity. She lives much closer to him and their dynamic is different from ours, part of which is the NRE. I have to remind myself that just because their dynamic is different doesn’t mean I’m being replaced, it just means that it’s something different. It’s something I’ll work through with N.
W hasn’t been in a poly relationship before, and I tried to impress upon her the importance of brutally honest communication. She seemed pretty receptive, but I feel like it’s kinda difficult to give advice like that without being sanctimonious about it. Overall, I think things are going pretty well.