one person i will hate no matter what!

A Letter to the Sherlock Fandom

You may think that this is a lot of text and too long to read but I implore you to try so that you can better understand these points of view.

I apologise if this isn’t as eloquent or measured as I intended it to be but I am honestly so angry at the Sherlock fandom right now. Not all, obviously, many are conducting themselves amazingly no matter their opinion on the episode. However, there are a large (and loud) number who are not and not only are these people making the rest of us look bad and acting as if they speak for the fandom as a whole, I fear that they are doing (and may have already succeeded in doing) irreparable damage to what could have been a great community.

There are several points I wish to address in this post so I will try to dissect each one individually to the best of the ability.

Harassment

No matter what you thought of the episode it is NOT okay, or even productive, to harass members of the cast or crew in any way (whether it be through social media, through official complaints (which can actually have further effects on their professional lives also which are definitely not yours to mess with) etc.). It started with Amanda back when season 3 was announced and that was just downright cruel and now it seems the lesson has not been learnt. They have worked hard on this show and even if it did not turn out as you personally expected it or wanted it to you cannot hate them for having a different view of where things should go than you. I have seen many people on Tumblr saying things along the line of ‘it our show anyway we can do what we want and it can be what we want it to be’. No. It is their show, we merely enjoy it - they created it and they have final say on what happens. I for one would not wish to see a world where the fans get to decide what happens as that would only ever cause further divide in communities and result in one section of a fandom having superiority over the others which is already happening in the Sherlock fandom with some Johnlockers/TJLCers.This harassment also extends to the harassment of other member of the fandom - labelling someone as homophobic because they don’t ship a same-sex ship is not only detrimental to the LGBT+ cause it puts up further barriers for the normalisation of non-traditional relationships.

On a similar topic, complaining to the BBC because you didn’t like the episode is not only petty but also counterproductive - these people are not asking for change in doing so they are calling for an end to the show and a witch-hunt in which those who created it are to be mocked in a public sphere. I have seen many people proudly posting images of their complaints and encouraging others to do the same and even petitions to a similar effect and it saddens me that people have become so arrogant in believing that the show is theirs and they were owed more that they would stoop to such levels. You were not owed anything. You didn’t like it, deal with it, move on.

Queerbaiting

I cannot express how much I dislike this term. Sometimes, yes, the teasing of fans with a potentially queer couple is done in an interpretably malicious way. With Sherlock, this is not the case. The cast and crew have said from the start that Johnlock (the main ship brought up in such discussions) was not going to happen. If you missed that and were not aware - fine; but if you knew this and then continued to be upset that it wasn’t happening - that is on you.  It is not queerbaiting if there was never any potential for the relationship in the first place - especially when neither character has been canonically stated to be queer.

Fetishisation of Gay Relationships and the Anti-Straight Trend in the Progressive Community

Wow, that was a long title. I have seen many of the aforementioned complaints to the BBC, petitions and Tumblr posts claiming that by not making a ship such as Johnlock canon they have let down a large portion of the community who are LGBT+ and have not given them the representation they deserve. Whilst representation is good and everyone does deserve to be able to see someone like them on television, as I said before, we have known from the stat that this was not going to happen with these characters. If you didn’t understand that clear message - again, it is on you, not the creators who have always been honest about the future of such a ship. You can be upset that they did not become canon in the same way that you would for any other ship but you cannot claim that you have been robbed of representation, misled in any way or owed better because you were never promised it in the first place.

As for the title of this section, I have seen a common trend in fandom communities towards making canonically straight characters gay, which whilst harmless if not taken to the extreme (as I feel some members of the Johnlock community have) actually highlights a double standard and serious problem that must be addressed. If one were to take a canonically gay character, strip them of their identity and make them straight they would be called homophobic in an instant. However, when it is the other way around, no one complains. Heterosexual is an identity too and to keep classifying it as separate from the others, in a class of its own, is only going to slow down progress and make it harder for true unity to occur. By stating that two characters, one of whom has categorically stated that they are not gay (and of course only one would be enough) have to be gay because of they way they interact (via your personal interpretation - often though tinted lenses) you are not only arguing that two men cannot be simply very good friends without harbouring romantic feelings for each other, you are also denying John of his own self-proclaimed identity.

The Bad Side of TJLC

(The previous paragraph is also relevant to this section and thus again I must state that whilst shipping two characters is fine, outright ignoring their identity and labelling them yourself is not.)

On paper, TJLC (The JohnLock Conspiracy) is not too harmful, you can speculate as much as you want. Where it becomes harmful is where people delve into the realm of delusion. There are many TJLCers who wholeheartedly believe that Johnlock is already canon or has to be canon and it is these people who appear to harbour the strongest negative beliefs about the recent episode and who are doing the most damage to this community.

I have seen countless posts recently along the lines of the following: 'clearly we know more than Moftiss’, 'how could they not see it was so obvious’, etc. Such arrogance as to your own beliefs is extremely harmful to the wider community. You do not know more than the creators of the show, the show is as they intended it to be - anything that you find within the show (with your TJLC-tinted glasses) that supports your predetermined theory is simply you putting two and two together and making five. It was not intended and therefore not symbolic of your beliefs and so your interpretation is no more than that - an interpretation not fact.

Believe it or not, for those of us not in the TJLC community, JohnLock was not obvious - for someone like me, when I first heard of this ship and TJLC I was incredibly surprised because I saw no romantic connection whatsoever - just two friends; and that was all that they were intended by the creators to be. If you were aware of the cast and crews comment of the subject and still deluded yourself into believing that TJLC was true - that was on you. No one else is to blame for your beliefs not lining up with the facts of the show.

Your ship does not rule this fandom and you do not speak for the whole fandom so those of you saying they didn’t give the fandom what they wanted - you are wrong. They didn’t give you what you wanted. You don’t speak for me and you don’t speak for the countless others like me who actually enjoyed the episode and/or are not in any way JohnLock shippers.

Sherlock Holmes and the Delusion of the Fake Episode

For those of you who still believe in some way that the episode was a fake one, that a  new episode will come out and say that it was all a dream etc. Again, you are deluding yourself and this is not healthy and will only lead to disappointment. It is what it is. Failure to accept reality for what it is and move on from there, living in a constant state of denial is a serious problem.

I have so much more to say and honestly not the words to say it without going off onto too much of a tangent right now. I may add continuations (in fact I most likely will once I can formulate sentences again) to this if I think of anything.

I know that one post on Tumblr isn’t going to make a whole lot of difference and the fractures in this community may never heal but I honestly could not hold this in any longer.

You are welcome to ask questions or for clarification on any point made or any point you wish me to address.

okay so this is the ONLY thing i will be posting addressing the ship hate going around. and i’m not gonna be answering any asks about it (publically. i’ll answer non-anon asks about it privately). this is my opinion on the matter and it probably is not going to change.

as you know, this blog has never tolerated ship hate of any kind. even for ships that i personally do not like, even for ships that personally squick me, i simply blacklist them and do not reblog them. i never post hate.

so i am absolutely appalled by the new surge of hate the antis are spreading against sheith shippers. because of one line: “you’re like a brother to me”

and like? i get why that could make some people - both shippers and antis - uncomfortable. trust me. but you know what other pairing said that? katara and aang. she canonically viewed him as a brother for part of the show. and then, due to the fact that they were - y’know - not actually siblings and were not raised as such either, her view of him eventually changed from that of a friend, to that of a brother, to that of a very close friend, to something more. things happen. people change. bonds change. feelings change.

shiro and keith are also not actual siblings. he says “like” a brother. if they were actually brothers - even adopted brothers, as so many antis like to believe - he would’ve straight up said “you’re my brother” not “you’re like a brother to me”. have they been very close for a long time? yes. but i think this is evidence enough not just for “#brotherzoned” as antis like to put it, but to say that they were not raised as siblings in any way. so that’s that about that. him saying “you are like a brother to me” does not erase all future sheith possibilities. nor does it negate all of the wonderful moments they had together this season. things happen. people change. bonds change. feelings change.

but, what really strikes me hardest is that if klance were ever to get a “you’re like a brother to me” or even a more general “you’re like family to me” moment, antis would be up in arms trying to defend the ship. and before any of you jump down my throat and say “but klance didn’t get a moment like that sheith did!” yes. i know. i’m saying if. i’m speaking hypothetically. but anyways, i’m 100% sure that if klance were to ever get a moment like that antis would defend it to the death. 

but because it is sheith - something they’ve been attacking since day one, even before any legitimate controversy over ages began - they attack it, put it down, spread hate within the fandom, invade tags and blogs, go on a massive witch hunt fueled by mob mentality and venom.

it’s disrespectful. it’s hypocritical. it’s hurtful. it’s spiteful. it’s shameful. and it is completely uncalled for.

so yeah, that’s my stance on the matter. if you’ve reblogged any #sheithisdead posts, i ask that you reflect on your actions, and if you disagree with my above statements, i ask that you unfollow me. and if my stance on things makes you uncomfortable, the unfollow and block buttons exist for a reason. i do not want anything to do with spreading hate within the fandom. so yeah. bye.

tbh u know what i hate: the whole idea that you can’t really be a fan of a celebrity if you call them out on stuff. like, if anything, i think it makes you just as much of a fan as everyone else because you’re recognizing them as a normal, human being who does dumb/shitty things like every other person in the world. & while its DAMN hard to admit that someone you admire isn’t perfect, its super important to be able to humanize them too.

Today and always,

I ask you to forgive yourself,
to treat yourself gently because
sometimes the world hurts you
so bad that you are the only person
that will be kind to yourself that day,
and baby you don’t need anymore pain.


I ask you to look in the mirror and
make amends with your crooked
nose or those freckles you hate or
the way your hair sticks up in one
place no matter how many damn
times you brush it because the truth
is there will never be someone who
has your exact nose or freckles or hair
and it is so uniquely and beautifully you.


I ask you to stop worrying about what
others think of you because people will
find something to make you hurt, because
sometimes we judge others without even
realizing it, because people are messy and
flawed and we are all trying to find space
for ourselves in the cracks of others.


I ask you to love and love and love
your lover and your passions and
your dreams and your art and
yourself because this life is so
very short and I wish I could tell
you it’s going to last forever, but
it will escape us one day and leave 
you with gray hair and feeble hands.

—  It’s time to love yourself this year.

I don’t believe in hating people because they are gay.

I don’t believe in hating people who are black. Or Hispanic. Or Asian.

I don’t believe in hating people who are trans.

BUT.

I also don’t believe in hating people who are straight.

I don’t believe in hating people who are white.

And I don’t believe in hating people who are cis.

Bottom line is, I DO NOT, in ANY WAY, believe in hating anyone at all– no matter what people of their race, religion, sexual orientation or what have you– for things that are beyond their control. No one should have to apologize for their entire race/gender/whatever. I don’t care if you’re a “cishet” or not, you shouldn’t have to apologize for something you personally did not do.

Sincerely, a Tumblr user who is fed up with seeing hate towards every single member of a certain people group for what people who just so happened to be a part of that group did.

so, this might be an unpopular opinion. but – unless a face claim has a literal criminal record, why are we out there trying to decide who others play ? it’s understandable with gross celebs like michael fassbender, lena dunham, johnny depp etc. who are known to have been abusive in one way or another. but when y’all going around saying we shouldn’t play people like… i don’t fricking know, holland roden –– what’s the point ? personally, i hate her guts, but i wouldn’t try & dictate who plays her and who doesn’t. problematic is such a broad term these days and it leaves NO ROOM for growth & it diminishes actual problematic behaviour. you can’t put someone who said all lives matter next to someone who beat their significant other, that’s literally ridiculous. i’m not saying we should blindly stan people who are fucking assholes, but we gotta learn that playing someone problematic doesn’t inherently make you or your character problematic. it’s different with those mentioned above because their acts are genuinely harmful and seeing them on your dash can be triggering. some people are gross, they are. but at the end of the day, you’re using someone’s face – not condoning some problematic tweet. does that make sense ? 

“But, we must always respect each other’s ‘right’ to disagree, no matter what! That’s democracy!”

No. That is polite discourse and complex thinking. Your racism is not polite, and your homophobia and xenophobia is about as damned complex as a one celled amoeba. You’re a frightened, hateful, spiteful person if you believe that I must continue polite discourse with you, when my safety, liberty, and even my damned life are at stake.

“Actually, in the original myth she wasn’t even kidnapped. She wandered down there and liked it so much she wanted to stay and Hades like this pretty lady” - someone’s comment from a Pinterest pin about Persephone and Hades.

I hate it when someone puts forth a version I personally like and endorse, but in terms that I have to admit aren’t entirely accurate. I didn’t bother correcting it on Pinterest, but for the record here, my understanding of the matter is:

1) There is no one “original myth”; or at least, we have no way of knowing, this many thousand years in the future, what it was.

2) Our earliest versions of the myth of Persephone are in Hesiod’s Theogeny and the Homeric Hymn to Demeter, both of which clearly paint it as a kidnapping (the Homeric Hymn does so in great detail).

3) There were other female divinities in the Mediterranean area who underwent a similar “descent to the underworld/death and return to upper world/life” and who did so via taking a lover, and they might indeed have been conflated with Kore/Persephone later, but that isn’t entirely clear.

4) But, sure, given that Persephone ends up more powerful than before and embraces her Underworld duties, and given Hades and Persephone’s marriage is remarkably stable for Greek mythology, I’ve always figured we can assume she ended up rather liking both the Underworld and Hades. Not just in my romantic version, but in actual myth.

Any Kpop Idol could be gay

I hate when people are okay with idols being gay but when it comes to their bias, their bias has to be straight. Like why the hell can’t your bias be gay or bi? What is wrong with that? For example, yesterday one of my friends said “I support kpop idols being gay, but honestly if Sehun came out as gay it would hurt me a little.” Why the hell does it matter if he is straight or not. Sehun is still an amazing person, who loves his fans. The chances of you dating him is so slim anyway. And this applies to every idol. Who cares if they are gay, lesbian, straight or bi? All that matters is that the idol is happy and that you continue to love and support them no matter what.

anonymous asked:

I think it's kinda funny and sad how I can handle the worst customers with a blank slate for a face now, but when one sincerely compliments something I've done or me in general, I tear up. It's kinda screwed up how accustomed we become to being treated like dirt in retail and food.

Omg I can always tell when someone I compliment is so used to abuse that they can’t handle kindness. It’s so sad and makes me want to protect them so damn much. Fucking hate what this world can do to people. No matter what you experience personally, know there are people out there that relate and care! -Abby

8

In case you were wondering what happened to Alex’s backbone in season eleven, 
apparently he left it somewhere in season ten.

So wait a minute what the fuck is this shit. I don’t know how many photos I will post and tell my opinion on the whole thing. But it gets out of hand. This is ridiculous. How can people say that. I’m so disappointed I never felt so bad. We’re supposed to be a family. Have each other’s backs. We’re a fandom that accepts one another for what we are no matter what, we don’t judge people. We are one of damn family. Then how can we hate on a person that just tells his opinion because he thinks that he can be fucking honest to his “fans” he doesn’t deserve this and now people start to hate on jared ? You can ship your fucking ship as long as you want nobody cares just accept that everybody has different opinions and stop fucking crying and annoying jensen with all your destiel question. Y'all know he doesn’t like that so that’s your own fault if you keep asking him those questions. If you want to hate then just leave this fandom cause we do not want to have these type of people in it. Bye

I’m all for equality , but this social justice warrior stuff is so ignorant. If you seriously defend 4 people , torturing a person with a mental disability because the attackers are black, that is bull. It is not a mistake , it is a evil hate crime. This goes for all hate crimes made by any race. It’s all a terrible horrible act for anyone. No one with a sane mind in this day of age would be defending if 4 white people kidnapped and tortured a black man with a disability. It’s not right whatsoever. These hate crimes will create more tension. It is infuriating and sad. I love people no matter what race, gender , sexuality they are etc. But hating people and committing these acts just brings chaos.

I’m going to tell y’all right now.

There is some serious bull going on in the Writer’s Room. Back when they hired new people (can’t remember exactly when that was) they let in someone who obviously is a Rumple hater. Which, a hater, no matter what character they hate, is a STUPID person to use in writing a show. 

That crap that Snow said last night about “The way he treated you, no one could blame you”. I wanted to punch the frickin’ screen. The writers have taken Rumbelle, broken it down, changed Belle’s character choices so she isn’t the same, and pitted everyone against Rumple. 

I’M SO FRICKIN’ UPSET WITH THIS SHOW.

Originally posted by geekylaugifs

The signs as I know them:

Aries: you act tough and abrasive but you’re actually like a giant toddler lost in a crowd, looking for their mom. You’re so sweet when you’re not being competitive and sassy and when you don’t let the jealousy get the best of you. You are so much better than you realize and I hope you know even those who hate you, secretly love you.

Taurus: everyone thinks you’re this giant toddler searching for food and cuddles. You’re actually just this silly stubborn person I always want to hug. You think no one takes you seriously- well honestly we don’t, until you’re mad and have our attention. I wish it was easier for you to grab our attentions and make us listen because you do say some peculiar things. (Ps. Stop eating all my food.)

Gemini: you’re not a two faced bitch. No matter what anyone says. You’re actually the people I’ve met with the most depth and pain, but also the ability to see the bright side and hope for the best. You’re so curious and bring a new light to life and I’m genuinely grateful for each little gemini I’ve met. Thank you for being so adaptive and loving in ever situation, even when its hard to be.

Cancer: I know I call you whiny but it’s only because you have something I long for. You’re so in control of your emotions and loyal and loving and I wish I was able to love the world at the depth you do.

Leo: people say that people you dislike are usually ones you see the bad qualities of yourself in. Maybe thats why I don’t get along with you. But you guys are so stylish. Like how? You guys are the definition of perfection in your looks and although at times your selfish, you are loyal and brave. You shine like the sun.

Virgo: please please please see yourself for what you truly are. You are smart and loving and unique and so quirky but youre so busy thinking you need to fix yourself that you’re miserable and don’t see it. You’re so busy pleasing others that you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way. You’re so much stronger than people see and for that I am proud. Beauty doesn’t always have to be outward, and you are truly beautiful inside.

Libra: you’re always so starry eyed and in love. Even when your heart has been broken and used you forgive and trust and love and I admire that. Don’t let players turn love into a game for you. Because your love is so genuine when you mean it.

Scorpio: you guys have the most wonderful smiles. You make the greatest friends- protective, loving, sweet, charming. I wish you would let more people see the real you- soft and loving, nurturing.

Sagittarius: you guys say what you want and do what you want and you’re such badasses like wow. I wish I was capable of conquering the world like you do. You’re intense and dazzling and you basically are the it girl from every teen flick and I am slightly jealous of you. You have a fire in your soul and don’t ever let anyone take that from you.

Capricorn: you make me laugh so hard constantly and I love that. You have such a pessimistic view on life but you still find a way to allow jokes and laughter and love into your heart. You’re fierce and loyal and genuine. I never have to guess what you’re thinking and I applaud you, genuine people are hard to find in this day and age.

Aquarius: you truly are an angel. You see the world and you try to be outgoing and have everyone love you, but you understand that that’s not possible and you keep your head up. You’re a fighter. You’re so smart and curious and peculiar, your head is lost up in space. But I’ve caught a few of you and I will hold onto you, because as detached as you seem, you feel so much and are always down to talk about space

Pisces: you’re the true hippie child. The old soul. You’re like floating through time and space with stars in your eyes and I don’t know how you stay so perky and driven but you do. Don’t let anyone take that from you. Please.

I'm Tired of This Shit

So someone on my other blog just told me that I’m a disgusting excuse for a black woman because I like men of other nationalities. Let’s be real fucking clear right now…. I LIKE HUMAN BEINGS!!!! The color of your skin does not matter to me, yes I have personal preferences, and yes I like to support interracial relationships. But how does any of that give you the right to say I’m not black because of it. Who the fuck do you think you are. I hate this, I hate feeling like I’m not worthy of my own people. One person told me I should join the KKK since I hate black people…… Like what the fuck. Who says that to someone. I love my skin, and I embrace my heritage and social issues, so how dare you say those sick, vile things to me!! Yes I do like men of other races, but why is that any of your business, why does it matter to you who I love. This is my fucking life, and I will do with it what I please.
I’m so fucking mad that I’m shaking and crying. I hate feeling like this and your a horrible person for making me feel like this.

Hey guys guess what?? Ryan hasn’t been following Brendon for a while now so it doesn’t really matter. And second of all who cares if he unfollowed him. And if I see one more person hating on Ryan for unfollowing Brendon I’m going to lose my mind because Brendon never even followed Ryan in the first place even after he had to have known Ryan followed him. And stop commenting on Ryan’s instagram about it. Its obnoxious and he shouldn’t have to deal with it. Leave him alone.

anonymous asked:

I have never been a part of whole luchoout thing&neither will i be today its disrespectful towards a person who is barca legend even before being a coach. As a coach he has had a marvelous record too no matter ppl denying it its just evrry cycle needz to end at one point&this will too lucho will leave end of season we shall move on&regroup but isit soo hard for ppl to do all this respectfully ppl hating endlessly on players tgese r d same guys who gave us joy once everyone has der bad phase.

Absolutely! That tag exists since he began. It’s disrespectful and I didn’t understand it. No matter what happens, no matter how hard they scream Lucho will be part of Barca’s history. As a player and coach. He is going to leave after this season, I am ok with that because we need a change. But I will forever be grateful because he got us our second treble. Season 14/15 was one of the best seasons in Barca’s history. But the team and coach need our support until the end of the season.