roleplayers are people, not just accounts.
this is something that i’ve been meaning to talk about for a while now. it’s begun to weigh heavily in the community that i write in as well as those of others. it’s the idea that we should take pride in callout culture and completely obliterating accounts. that a callout post needs to be written for any and all transgressions, that one half of a story is gospel, and that roleplayers can be judged as problematic by association.
let’s start with face-saving apologies. the type of apology that a roleplayer will half-assedly give just to have a receipt of one. to appease those they hurt when the harm was intentional and in no way plan on improving themselves as a person. the kind of apology that is issued so they will sympathized with rather than ridiculed. these apologies are absolute bullshit. if you’re going to vague or be a bully or act out, own your behavior. i’m aware this sounds hypocritical coming from a burn book but what happens on the dash is a lot different than sending something to us. when posting on the dash your content is broadcasted to a direct audience. the same community. here, it gets thrown into an aggregate void and spat back out. don’t vague or talk behind someone’s back and believe that it won’t get around to them.
it shouldn’t be a goal to attack someone over petty shit. don’t criticize people for liking or not liking something that isn’t heavily problematic. you can dislike the vampire diaries but write with a stefan salvatore. you can hate damon salvatore as a character and still like the vampire diaries. what doesn’t need to happen is posting harmless opinions on your own blog and then being attacked for them. if someone is so hurt over another rper disliking their fandom then maybe roleplay isn’t for that person. stop being so fucking petty.
to attempt to destroy a persons reputation over hurt feelings is a stupid, selfish thing to do. keep your friend circle bullshit in your friend circle. nobody needs to be put on blast or shunned for actions that were not purposely or outright abusive or otherwise disturbing. you cannot claim to be looking out for your own mental health by seeking to turn people against another roleplayer who may have hurt your feelings. not only is it immature, it puts the other person’s mental health at risk and while some people on this website believe that the world revolves around them, i can assure you that it does not. nobody in this blue hellscape is judge or jury.
finally, it saddens me as well as the other mods to hear constantly from people who have been turned on by their friends and partners and are now having panic attacks because they’re afraid that they’re being slandered in private; that i, as well as many of my close friends, have become too paranoid to interact with certain people after negative experiences with roleplayers similar to them; that we’re still having to hear that people are being called “abusive” and “manipulative” and “toxic” for hurting another roleplayer’s feelings accidentally or handling a situation badly and then having such critical language thrown on their name.
behind every roleplay account is a person with a life and family and friends and feelings. they’re not merely account names to drag through the mud. think before you wild out or gossip or act like an asshole. it’s not all that difficult to have some god damn tact every once in a while.