Note: Some of these are total queerbait. But hey, I put them on here anyway.
Captain Jack Harkness (Omnisexual according to John Barrowman) (Romances anything that breaths) (Also could be polyamorous but that’s just a theory in the fandom)
Alonso Frame (Gay?) (Flirts with Jack Harkness after being set up by the 9th doctor)
Ianto Jones (Bisexual usually leaning towards women except with Jack) (only seen kissing Jack)
Toshiko Sato (Bisexual maybe? It mighta been because of aliens) (has a sexual and romantic relationship with a woman but also has romance with a man)
The Doctor (pansexual as theorized by fandom) (kissed Rory as well as pretty much everyone else.) (Other theories on The Doctor’s sexuality include asexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality, omnisexuality, polyamorous, and pretty much anything else you can think of.)
River Song (Bisexual or maybe pan. Moffat has referred to her as bi and I believe Alex has as well, but I’m not sure if the identity is confirmed since Moffat called Jack bi in the same tweet which is not accurate) (Married to at least 2 women and 3 men and flirts with anything that moves.) (Also might be considered polyamorous)
Madame Kovarian (Lesbian?) (Moffat has claimed she used to be married to Tasha Lem)
[Enter the five minutes Amy thought Rory was gay here….]
Madame Vastra (Lesbian) (Married to Jenny. Kisses and hints at sexual relationship.)
Jenny Flint (see above)
Oswin Oswald (Questioning) (First kiss was with a woman -Nina, but she claims it was a phase)
Tasha Lem (Lesbian?) (Mother Superious of Papal Mainfraim, the church in space where you have to be naked) (Moffat claims she was married to Madame Kovarian)
Clara Oswald (Bisexual, identity not confirmed) (Kissed Jane Austen but also had a thing for 11)
[I’ve heard Miss Quill isn’t straight but I haven’t seen Class so I don’t know]
Bill Potts (Gay according to Pearl Mackie in an interview!)
Feel free to add to this list in reblogs if I forgot any!
Shoutout to the gays who feel threatened just by being who they are, the lesbians who feel tired of being seen as a fetish, the bisexuals who feel like they’re just confused, the pansexuals who feel like they’re fake, the asexuals who feel broken, the polysexuals who feel nonexistent, the omnisexuals who feel tired of explaining their sexuality, the demisexuals who feel unnatural, to everyone of every sexuality that is forced into the shadows or marginalized, just hang in there. If we stick together, we can be strong.
Bisexuality is sexual or romantic attraction to “more than one gender or same and different genders” — while pansexuality is the attraction to a person of any sex or gender. Pansexuals can be attracted to cisgender people, transgender people, intersex people, androgynous people, and anyone else.
When I was younger, a lot of people would approach me awkwardly. “Wow, you’d be so pretty if you stopped wearing all those boy’s clothes!” or “Wow, you’d be so pretty if you’d let me give you a makeover!” Sometimes, these people had somewhat good intentions, others were waiting for the moment to join the crowd that bullied me. I experienced all the fake smiles and snickers behind my back. We all know how this goes. Your friends and your family tell you you’re beautiful. They tell you, “oh, honey, don’t listen to them.” You’ve grown accustomed to thinking “well, they are my family/friends, of course they say this to me.” Well, reality check sweetcheeks, you are indeed beautiful. After many years of soul searching and trying to figure out my self worth, sexuality, and gender identity, I’ve finally embraced my own version of beauty.
I’ve mostly presented masculine during my lifetime. However, it comes to a shock to people when I discuss my dating history with men. I’m pansexual/omnisexual, which means I experience attraction despite someone’s biological sex or gender identity. So with that being said, with being masculine presenting, and dating women, the word dyke was heard a lot. I was told to stop lying about my sexuality, to stop looking at men, to stop dating men, because it was a mere cover-up for my lesbianism. This, however, was before discovering my gender identity. I felt stupid not being able to explain how being boyish didn’t correlate whether or not I could be attracted to men or be deserving of any man taking a second look at me. I was made to believe I needed to prove my femininity, which made it even less believable for some.
I love the feel of sweatpants and tank tops, but I also find myself in lust with the “girlish” things in life; make-up, cuddling, teddy bears, cute throw pillows on the bed. Even in same-sex relationships, I have found myself wanting to be the little spoon or be the one to take 30 minutes to look pretty. The only response I would receive is “oh, that’s kind of weird.” I researched for years what this could’ve been called. At first, I was almost willing to give people what they wanted, and acknowledge myself as a boy trapped in a girl’s boy, but that didn’t feel right. I dressed in drag a few times and it felt great. It felt great when I was dolled up too though. I realized with time and research that I was genderfluid but was unfortunately quiet about it for a very long time.
More specifically, the type of genderfluidity I experience is called being fluidflux. This means my gender and the intensity of my gender changes. I loved days where I was feminine, I loved days where I was masculine, I loved days where I was a little in between, or days I didn’t really feel like either. It felt like a balancing scale that my brain would tip in whichever direction it felt like, but I learned to enjoy the ride, though tough at times. Midday switches can suck!
My version of beauty is different than what most are used to. So let me take a second to say this: fuck your standards of beauty. What is beauty to you? Is beauty painting your face everyday with endless amounts of make-up? Is it laying down at just the right angle when you take a selfie so your cleavage shows? Is it pouting your lips and poking out your hips when an attractive fellow walks by? Is it filtering your speech so you don’t offend anyone with your somehow masculine tone and language? Here’s an idea: maybe this is only considered beauty to you because this is what society has conditioned you to believe is beauty. As cliche as it sounds, we all have our own brand of beauty.
So you might ask… what do I believe is beauty? Beauty is being confident in who you are no matter how you present or what kind of clothes you wear. When I present female, I’m beautiful. When I present male, I’m beautiful (and hella handsome, might I add!). When I present female with a touch of masculinity, I’m beautiful. When I present male with a touch of femininity, I’m beautiful. When I present a mix of both female and male, I’m beautiful. When I walk out of the house in plain attire, not really sure where I am on the scale that day, leaving the world to decide what the hell I am, I’m still beautiful.
Beauty is leggings, beauty is jeans, beauty is sweatpants, beauty is skirts, beauty is basketball shorts. Beauty is a bun, a fohawk, a ponytail, hair straightened, hair curly, hair spiky. Beauty is make-up, beauty is natural. Beauty is baggy clothes, beauty is skin tight. Beauty sees no specific sexual orientation. Beauty sees no specific gender. Beauty is whatever you decide. Beauty is whatever you make it. Beauty, my dear, is your invention, and do with that beauty as you will. You are beautiful as you are, don’t be told otherwise.
So I know some youngsters (”young” as in people in their 20s and younger) want to “reclaim” the word “queer”. For those who don’t know, in its most ‘simple’ definition, it means someone who does NOT identify as straight. However, this word has a very dark history.
In the 1980s, HIV/AIDS got national attention. Studies were done during this time, and tended to point their finger at gay men and women (however the public eye typically scapegoated the gay man more than women). “Gay central's” (where gay men/women could feel more comfortable coming forward with their sexual orientation or in cities that were ‘known’ to have more of a ‘gay population’) were hit particularly hard by the HIV/AIDS crisis, with many lives being lost (or permanently debilitated, given the nature of the illness).
Hate crimes went up and the straight community would use ‘queer’ as they were beating up/torturing/possibly killing a gay man/woman. This is why this term is extremely controversial in contemporary times and why one should use heavy caution with this word, when using it in front of others.
*For those curious, this flag is one of the many possible flags for ‘queer’*
putting a label on it, i’m pansexual. sexuality is completely fluid, and it changes constantly, as do preferences. a few months back, i would have said that i preferred ladies/feminine non-binary. i was in a relationship with a lady. right now, i lean towards guys and masculine non-binary people. i’m in love with a guy. and that’s okay.
i think the thing w calling oneself pansexual/omnisexual/”i like everybody!!!”/”hearts not parts!!” is that besides being a pretentious way to identify as bisexual it’s also a way to get around the fact that claiming sexual orientation is based on pronouns/gender identity is totally nonsensical, while still not admitting that sexual orientation is based on, well, sex. bc if you like EVERYBODY and ur just attracted to whoever you’re attracted to regardless of pronouns ….. ur just bisexual bc there are only two sexes. but you can call yourself pansexual to get around the fact that, yanno, that girl you find hot uses they/them pronouns or whatever. and ur still attracted to genders, you’re just attracted to all of them :)))))))