omg such cute friends why

Can I just remind people that many bisexual and pansexual people, myself included, use gay as an umbrella term for all people attracted to the same sex and we use it as a descriptor for our and everyone’s same sex attraction because it’s specific to that part of our identity. So please stop policing me for using gay to describe my and characters’ same sex attraction. Using gay as an umbrella term is not the same as invalidating and erasing a bi/pansexual person’s identity.

How far into dating someone do you wait to drop the bombshell that you’re aroace?

dykebard  asked:

jeremy and christine have weekly movie nights just the two of them. christine brings movie adaptations of musicals and complains about how the stage version was better. jeremy brings shit like attack of the killer tomatoes. they make jokes about the awkward 2 weeks they dated frequently

thats so cute omg……jeremy and christine as best friends is why im alive

Happy Kaisoo Day!

Happy 22nd Birthday to Do Kyungsoo and Happy 21st Birthday to
Kim Jongin! May this year be filled with more joys and greater

EXO hwaiting~!!! 
My blog as it pertains to Sam/Cait and Outlander

I hope whatever this is about to say makes any sense. I’m running on an hour of sleep, a lot of caffeine, and happiness about my favorite team and three people I consider friends winning a race last night/early this morning. 

But here it is:

I am a shipper. I ship Sam and Cait together. I don’t know what a “super shipper” is. I’m not sure why “anti shipping” is a thing. I think “truthers” are absolutely bananas which I will discuss further down. For me, I am a shipper. What does that mean? It means I look at Sam and Cait together and go, “Damn, I hope they’re together because could two people be any cuter together? I think fucking not.” Do I think they’re ACTUALLY together? I don’t know. I’m about 75% sure on that. Some days, I’m 90% sure. Other days, I think, “Nope, not together.” But mostly, I think maybe they are. But mostly, as a shipper, it means I hope they are. It means I find them cute together. It means I think they should get married and have babies because their children would be hella beautiful. It means I think they have chemistry outside of what’s normal for two costars. It means I squee whenever they have banter on social media.  All shipping means is that you hope two people are in a relationship. 

Shipping is not exclusive to real life people. It’s also not exclusive to fandom. If you can honestly look me in the eye and tell me you’ve never tried to set up your coworker Gary with your neighbor Anne then you’re an exception, not the rule. If you’ve never watched two of your friends together and thought, “OMG, they would be so cute together. Why can’t they just figure out they’re perfect for each other?”, then again, you’re the exception, not the rule. In real life, we call it matchmaking. Except that’s a lame term and I prefer shipping now.

Why would anyone be against shipping? How does it hurt you? Seriously. How the fuck does it hurt you whether or not people hope two people are together? If you’re an “anti shipper” and then turn around and go, “Oh, but Sam and Abbie are PERFECT together”, then you’re a shipper. End of story. You’re just not a shipper of Sam and Cait. That’s cool. That’s like people liking Frank over Jamie. They’re wrong and they’re potentially stupid, but it’s cool. To each his own. But don’t call yourself an “anti shipper” if you’ve ever shipped Sam with anyone.

Oh, and hey, if you don’t want to ship either of them with anyone, if you want to stay out of their private lives, that’s cool, too. Just don’t be a dick about it. Don’t be mean. Don’t attack. Don’t be an asshole. It doesn’t hurt you. It doesn’t change your life.

Which brings me to the “truthers”. As much as I sometimes think the shipper camp goes too far (Audi Q5-gate), there will never be a day where I think the shippers are crazier than the truthers. You know the truth? Really? Sam sat down and told you his life story and told you that he’s a giant manwhore? Told you that he’s been having a fuckbuddy relationship with some blonde girl who goes to the gym with him? Told you about his sad and tragic love story with Abbie? SAM told you that? Cait must have told you about Tony, too. She came over, you guys opened a bottle of wine, and she talked about boys with you. She told you that Tony is the love of her life and she just hates when people ship her with Sam? She told you that she’s playing all of us when she calls him hubby and compliments his ass? CAIT told you that? 

I didn’t think so. A delusional woman who claims to have “sources” who have been wrong about 10005 times is not Sam or Cait. A woman who has been blocked from Twitter numerous times is not Sam or Cait. If you want to follow her, that’s up to you, bro. I think it’s a stupid idea, but fuck, what do I know? If you really want to believe her pile of attention-seeking shit, then by all means, believe it. But don’t call yourself “truthers” because until Sam and Cait give you that information, you don’t know any more than shippers do. And stop being assholes.

I’m a shipper. I really hope Sam and Cait are together. I’m not always sure of it, but in the end…it’s not the highest thing on my list of priorities. My health, my dog, my personal life, racing…those things are pretty damn high up on my priorities. Whether or not two celebrities are together and about to get married? Somewhere near the bottom. But let me explain something…it’s a nice distraction from the other stuff. Shipping is supposed to be fun. It’s supposed to be sexy. As long as there aren’t spouses or children involved, have at it. Because it’s a nice distraction from the day to day shittiness. So stop shitting on the people who do it. There’s no point.

Isn’t there enough cruelty in the world without you hiding behind your keyboard or phone and attacking people who are just trying to have a good time?