You just have to play with the cards that you’re dealt. Piper, that girl is an ace. Jason is the King up my sleeve. Hazel is my old maid. Annabeth is my queen. Frank is the instruction card you throw away. Nico’s a solid seven. And yeah, you know what? Leo is probably, like, a two. But sometimes twos can be wild. So watch out. And I am obviously the joker.
dear, from the first moment you stepped foot in my class, I sensed that
you did not possess the proper spirit for the noble art of
Divination…You may be young in years, but the heart that beats beneath
your bosom is as shriveled as an old maid’s, your soul as dry as the
pages of the books to which you so desperately cleave.
Honestly, the argument over Lyanna’s consent could easily be settled by answering only four questions:
Was her consent voluntary?
Was her consent free?
Was her consent informed?
Was her consent ongoing?
going to set aside Lyanna’s age for now despite how this alone invalidates
any argument for consent since Lyanna was a minor even by Westerosi
standards and thus incapable of giving consent. But I know that people
will come out from the woodworks claiming that “this was how things were
back then” which is factually incorrect,
and “we shouldn’t apply our modern world’s rules to medieval period”
which…. why shouldn’t I? The text calls Lyanna a “child-woman” and goes a long way in establishing her youngness, powerlessness and impulsiveness. It
shows how a somewhat similar “relationship” between Cersei and Lancel - which
also includes a fucked up power dynamic and an older “partner” using the
younger one’s naivete for their own purposes - was devastating to
Lancel’s psyche. We argue about the skewness of Dany\Drogo and what it
means for the definition of their relationship, we argue about how
Cersei and Lancel’s relationship could not be considered consensual despite Lancel
saying yes. So why should I ignore the same considerations when it comes
to Lyanna and Rhaegar?
However, let’s put that aside for a little
while as we try to answer the above questions. Consent is not just
about saying yes: for Lyanna’s consent to be valid and accepted, it had
to be voluntary, free, informed and ongoing, otherwise it was not
consent. But did these adjectives truly apply to Lyanna’s situation?
imagine being so salty that you curse a prince, his servants and his entire kingdom (village) for an indefinite period of time, disguise yourself as an old maid to stay in the village that was cursed by your own hand and watch everybody suffer without their memories from afar while being despised for years