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anonymous asked:

Hey there :), I just want to know is it okay to make fanarts based on this AU? I've seen some but I just need to make sure. If it would make you feel any better, I can ask for your permission/thought about the concept first before start drawing it. Thank you for your attention. Have a nice day, Sasuke (and Admin too, of course)

Admin//wraps arm around you//:“Owh cutie, of course you may! It is so adorable that you asked. I like fanart, and I love seeing them!

As long as you tag me somewhere so it appears in my notification, I am 100% fine with it. I will be even honoured if you do😀.”


There, have some nb peeps & trans & queer ladies of color with their loved ones. ♥


Tumblr please don’t kill the quality too much.

Okay, jumped on the bandwagon of @beanpots‘s Day and Night AU, which is so gorgeous I couldn’t help but draw the precious kings in a mural style. Looks a little asymmetrical (especially Yuuri OH GODS WHY), but that’s cuz I can’t do digital lineart to save my life (I definitely prefer digital colouring tho) so I just did it over my ink sketch from the paper version. Still, I’ve definitely come a long way with my digital arts, so I’m really happy with how this turned out. :3

Anyways, hope y’all like it, especially the creator of the AU LOL.

Tips on dating for when YOU have BPD

I’ve seen so many articles and posts on “how to date someone with BPD”, or worse “warning signs your partner has BPD” or “how to recover from dating someone with BPD”. But I could only find ONE article giving advice to people WITH BPD in relationships. So, I’ve made my own. Here are some tips on maintaining a good relationship when YOU have BPD:

  • Be open. I know you’ll be scared that if you’re too honest, you’ll scare the partner away. But you need to be truthful, or you’ll end up bottling things up, and then they explode.
  • Saying that, sometimes it’s okay not to express your fears. Small fears such as how your partner hasn’t texted back as fast as normal, don’t need to be expressed when they occur. Once you’ve calmed down, take the time to express it. Say “It makes me a bit sad when you don’t reply fast, but I understand that sometimes that happens” This way, your partners understands your fears, but also knows that you understand their limits too. Sometimes our fears are small and go away if we wait, so take a minute to thing logically (if you can).
  • It’s okay to show symptoms! Don’t be mad at yourself if you have a mood swing in front of your partner, it;s not your fault
  • Avoid expressing when you’re splitting. It’s hard not to let every things out when we’re mad and splitting, but try not to if you can. Try and suppress for a little time and express your feelings once you’ve settled. This way you can express them neutrally, without bias, and make sense when you do so.
  • Keep reminders of your partner’s care for you. Screen shot texts and keep them in a folder. When you feel unloved or the person isn’t responding, read through these to remind yourself that they love you
  • Ask your partner to give you small reminders. Ask “every now and again, can you remind me you love me?”. This isn’t a big ask- a small text once a day is not manipulative or needy, and your partner should be ahppy to as this makes you happy
  • Set guidelines. It’s okay to have certain things you get paranoid about. Tell your partner that there are some things you don’t like- e.g. “I don’t like it when you use full stops, it makes me think you’re angry, could you avoid doing so? I understand if you mess up though.” A relationship is about caring for each other and making each other comfortable, so your partner should be ahppy to make small changes to make you happy, just as you’ll make small changes to make them happy!
  • Be prepared to compensate. Sometimes we get paranoid about things that we just have to let happen. We get worried when our partner talks about other people, when they see other people. It’s okay to express this, but we have to learn that we can’t stop our partners doing this. This is hard, and something I struggle with myself, but it’s needed to make our partners feel comfortable. If your partner is out doing something you don’t like, distract yourself. 
  • Find someone else, with BPD is best, to vent to. I have a close friend or 2 who I vent my worries to, and they have BPD as well. They understand and validate my fears, so that I don’t feel needy or mean. This way you can express these fears without controlling and hurting your partner. E.g. I say to my friends “My partner is seeing his ex today. I get that’s his right to but it’s pissing me off and I just wanted to tell someone.” 
  • Remind yourself it’s okay to express yourself. Telling your partner you’re scared they’re going to leave you isn’t automatically abusive or manipulative, it’s true.Tell them you feel suicidal isn’t manipulative, you deserve support and love.
  • When splitting, learn to distance yourself. If you notice you’re splitting for an unfair reason, it’s okay to distance yourself. It’s okay to walk out a room, to stop replying for a minute to compose yourself. This way, you won’t lash out, and you can avoid getting more angry. Inform your partner you are splitting, so they can give you space.
  • Don’t let yourself be invalidated. If your parter says something invalidating, mean, or hurtful, tell them. We get scared that if we tell our partners they hurt us they may leave, but it’s important not to let our partners hurt us.
  • Tell your partner about your BPD- and if not that- about your symptoms. Tell them you split (you sometimes hate people for no reason), tell them you have abandonment fears (get scared they’ll leave you). This way your partner can adapt and help you. Give them tips to help you. e.g. “If I’m scared you’ll leave me, tell me you love me, and tell me why you love me”
  • Learn to say sorry. Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we get irrational and hurt our partners. this may not be our fault, but it is our responsibility. Learn to say “I’m sorry I lashed out”.
  • You deserve someone who’s willing to help you. You deserve someone who is willing to send you little messages, who is willing to validate and support you. Don’t settle for someone who gets mad at you for your mood swings or invalidates your feelings.
    We deserve a kind, loving, supporting relationship as much as anyone else.
Why shipping abusive relationships in fiction does not mean that you support or excuse abuse: an essay

Sigh.  Okay.  Hi, I’m a long term shipper of Hannigram and Sauron/Celebrimbor with two degrees that basically amount to art analysis and the institutional teaching of historical and context and analysis.  I was hoping I could just get away with not writing a long post about this but now that I’ve seen the excessive amount of hate in the Percival Graves/Credence Barebone tags…sigh.  okay.  Let’s talk about shipping abusive relationships in fiction, and how shipping abusive relationships is not necessarily glorifying or normalizing abuse.


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I’m trying to stay out of drama but 



I don’t even know how the hell to tag this. Do I tag this as Lazytown? Do I NOT tag it? I’m gonna tag it as Lazycity. Sorry folks. 


aaa i got tagged for the six selfies of 2k16 by @skelli0n @hosok @mothi @tsutsusi @chinas @damiantwayne @wineredlipstick @noodleyo @toastoat @unown @saeyoungch0i @hauntli and @delphinidinrose hoobo ahahha
man this year hasn’t been too good selfie game wise rip
uhm i tag @ra8it @motherearthsign @arogogo @bigbucky @daytimedisco keo (who’s url i can’t remember) and anyone else who hasn’t done it yet aaaa


(Pssst…there are captions) Lots of Galra!Keith, since i’m not TOTALLY on board with the theory, but it is fun to imagine :’) There’s so much angst surrounding it, when really all I want is for the Keith to only grow closer to his team mates once the secret gets out, y’know? Also I like the idea that Glarans just kinda act like cats lol (some of Keith’s behaviors here are very much based off my own cat Olliver, oops) The last one is a younger Galran Keith :( Poor boy…

Also the scenes with Shiro are very much inspired/based off this lovely fic my friend Raberba wrote recently! Go read it, it’s so good <3 She may be the reason I finally cracked and drew some Galra!Keith in the first place X’’’D

These are all intended to be purely platonic; please respect the artist’s wishes and do not tag with any romantic ships! Thank you!

Gorgeous (Bucky x Reader)

Request: I just wanna say i’m so in love with your writings aaaand i was wondering if you could write a bucky x reader and the reader is so friendly with everyone, but she feels so alone because thinks nobody can fall in love with her, but bucky did. one day, she feels so down the she starts crying and saying awful things to herself looking in the mirror, but bucky hears everything and that makes him confess his feelings. i’m sorry it’s too long,. and if you don’t want to do it, it’s okay <3  

Bucky x reader imagine where she had really horrible anxiety and he is the only one that can calm her down? would you mind putting some angst in there and like one of the other avengers caused her to panic (she isn’t an avenger) thanks doll ;) xx

Words: 2,917

Warnings: Self shame, anxiety, FLUFF

Tags: @annadier @happelu970 @shamvictoria11 @spookass @pabegay1(message me if you want to be tagged in any fics or if I forgot to tag you! Sometimes I forget, my apologies!

You were no Avenger.

You weren’t as badass as Natasha or Wanda. You weren’t as sarcastic and outgoing as your father, you were just you. You lived with the Avengers because your dad was Tony Stark, the Avengers were like your huge, crazy, loud family. You loved having them as a family, you loved every last bit of it, but sometimes it’s hard not to doubt your looks or skills.

You were clumsy. You ran into walls, got your shirt caught on pointy objects, face planted into gardens, and tripped going up the stairs.  You weren’t as strong as the others,  you never worked on your upper body strength because you never really cared about it.

You would run twice a week for exercise and that was it. You hated working out, it was the worst thing you’ve ever experienced. You would much rather be drinking a milkshake while watching the Victoria Secret Fashion Show. Like you were right now.

“Oo, fancy.” You were sitting criss crossed on the couch, a blanket spread across your bare legs and your baggy long sleeve shirt rolled up slightly on your arms. A milkshake in one hand while your eyes remained glued to the screen projecting the fashion show.

“That looks painful.” Scott spoke with a mouth full of his own milkshake. He was slouched next to you, his legs spread out in front of him and his back surrounded by toss pillows. He was tilting slightly onto the arm of the couch but he seemed to be comfortable.

“I would never wear something that heavy looking on my dick.” Scott took another large gulp of his shake, twisting his face in pain as a brain freeze clearly took over his mind temporarily.

“But it’s so pretty.” You admired the glammed up bra, “Oo, look she has wings! I wish I had wings, how fun would that be?”

“Super fun! I would strut around in wings all day if they looked like that.” Scott glanced over at you, but you were still consumed in admiring all the glamorous outfits and models.

“I have wings.” Sam called out from the chair on the other side of the couch. His legs hanging over the arm of the chair and his back resting against the other arm. His phone rested on his chest and his shake was long gone, the empty cup sitting on the coffee table. “They’re even cooler because mine work.”

“Mm.” Both you and Scott made the same sound and twisted your lips as you both looked at Sam.

“Not the same thing. Yours aren’t as glamorous, now are they?” You turned your attention back at the screen and made your lips in the shape of an ‘o’ as you looked at Gigi Hadid walk down the runway. She was your favorite model, her and Cara Delevingne.

“Yeah. You get feathers, sparkles, jewels and glitter on your wings, then we’ll talk.” Scott nodded his head swiftly and ignored Sam’s narrowed eyes as he directed his eyes back to the Fashion Show.

“I know a girl who can hook you up with some bedazzlement on those wings of yours, Sam.” You winked in his direction, a smirk tilting on your lips. “And by girl I mean me, and by bedazzlement I mean some superglue and a trip to Hobby Lobby.” 

“I hate both of you.” Sam chuckled under his breath and shifted around a little in his chair.

“Man, I wish I had legs like those.” Scott  shook his head and moved the straw in his shake around, trying to get a good sip. You giggled at Scott’s comment, you always found him to say the strangest but most awesome things. 

“You know who has legs like those?” Sam paused, waiting for Scott to answer but when Scott kept gulping down his shake, Sam answered himself. “Natasha. She even has the walk down too, she would slay all those other models.” 

Scott hummed in agreement. “And Wanda has the hair of a Victoria Secret model. I wish my hair was as luscious as hers, that would save me fifteen minutes in the morning.”

“You spend fifteen minutes on your hair?” Sam scuffed and tilted his head back to look at Scott.

“This,” Scott motioned to his hair. “doesn’t just happen, Sam. It takes time, effort and skill, okay?”

“Man, you’re crazy.” Sam chuckled, shaking his head and slouching back down in his chair again. “For real though, Wanda and Nat are hella attractive-”

You shuffled around in your seat, the thoughts that consumed your mind were driving you insane. All they were talking about was how beautiful Natasha and Wanda were, of course you had to agree, they were both stunningly gorgeous. They were badass, strong and attractive all at once. They were your best friends, but it always hurt you when you would go places with them and everyone would notice them and not you.

You weren’t as stunning as them, you weren’t as flawless and beautiful as them. Of course you weren’t. Everyone expected Tony Stark’s daughter to be drop dead gorgeous, but somehow they always seemed surprised to see you. You were never what they were expecting.

You stood up suddenly, your nose tingling and your eyes starting to twitch with tears. Your chest felt tight and your hands felt clammy, you needed a moment to pull yourself together before you came back out here and pretended to not even care. You dropped the blanket previously covering your bare legs on the couch where you used to be sitting and placed your milkshake, that suddenly made you feel bloated, on the coffee table.

“I have to pee.” You announced it as a joke, happily your voice didn’t shake and you seemed to be holding it together on the outside fairly well. You knew you were about to break, you had to hide.

“Okay.” Scott and Sam both watched you speed down the hallway. “Be back soon, the Angels are about to come out!’

“Man, seriously though, Nat and Wanda have the legs and hair, but damn, Y/N has the whole package. The face, hair, walk, legs, and even the hips.” Sam shook his head in astonishment.

Scott nodded his head in agreement and pulled a part of your blanket on his thighs, he knew it was your favorite blanket but he loved it just as much. It was soft and always smelled good.

“She looks more like a Victoria Secret model than some of the Victoria Secret models.” Scott talked with another mouthful of his shake, he didn’t even care though. “Have you seen the way everyone looks at her, she steals the attention away from Nat and Wanda every time they go out.”

“Hell, she steals the attention away from us Avengers. And we’re Avengers.”

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Living with anger issues I can’t work on
  • I get angry at technology A LOT
  • When people tell me how to feel the only thing i feel is ANGER
  • I’m not gonna calm down because your voice is whispered and kind
  • i’m still angry
  • there are some days where i don’t want to here a single person’s voice.
  • if you try to tell me something you found on the internet i will get extremely impatient
  • i fucking hate when i’m being so unfair but i don’t know how to not be unfair
  • there are sometimes i really want to cry but i can’t because I’M ANGRY. 
  • I am a total ass to everyone and everything 
  • i’m a pacifist but even i wanna throw a bag of bricks at your face when you tell me how i’m supposed to react

Maybe at once upon a time this was about whether he was innocent, or y’know, some sort of psycho murderer. But that ship sailed a long time ago, along with your career at Nelson and Murdock. So why do you still care?

Mor/The King of Hybern Mating Bond

A response to this post and specifically @acotarian‘s theory about Mor and the King of Hybern being mates (this got a bit too long to add onto that already mammoth post but I wanted you to be able to reply to this if you wanted??) 

Okay, so, I’m here for twists. I’m here for conflict. I’m here for people not getting their happily ever after. And I agree with people that all of our current favourite couples being paired up and happy by the end is too neat and therefore unlikely. But to be frank I’d rather Mor was dead than mated to the King, if those are my options for things not working out the way they’re supposed to/we expect them to.

Also this just…doesn’t make any sense as far as the whole mate thing is concerned as far as I understand it??

I know there’s the argument that Rhys’s parents were mates but they weren’t fully suited to each other and that means that Mor/Hybern could be bonded similarly but…Rhys’s parents were mates, yes, and they grew distant and weren’t wholly suited to one another…But when they first met one another, Rhys’s father saw his mother about to have her wings clipped and he stopped it from happening. He misted the guards holding her. He saved her wings. He allowed her to fly whenever she wished. He gave her her freedom. He gave her respect. They remained equals. Giving her a house that he cannot reach by magic; that can only be reached with her Illyrian wings, giving her space for herself there, allowing her to have her son trained in the Illyrian camps and educated by her. These all indicate equality. They all indicate respect. They may not have loved each other at the end but they remained equals. Which is the point of a mating bond. it is not guaranteed love. It is not guaranteed happy ending. It is equality. This is the thing Feyre gets so hung up over, wondering how she can possibly be Rhys’s equal because this is the canon be all and end all of what mates are. Equals.

Which is…The exact opposite of what we see in that scene with Mor and the King. He looks at her like she’s a piece of meat, he looks at her and sees a trophy, a ‘prize’ a sexual object. He would do to her what Tamlin did to Feyre but a hundred times worse. He does not see an equal. He does not want an equal. He wants a ‘prize’, he wants something he can display, he wants a toy for him to use. Mor would not be his queen she would be his possession. Mor is already a queen in her own right. The characters repeat this idea several times she is ‘a queen who bowed to no-one’ (And the entire point of that is that she now rules the people who abused her. Which adds yet another to layer to why this is nope) She does not need to be associated with the King to be one. She already is. He would take that away from her. He would reduce her to the violence, cruelty and abuse that she suffered and survived all those years ago. He is not her equal. He is not her mate.

The idea that an abuse survivor has a mate who would be a carbon copy of the abusers she survived is gross. I don’t care if she rejects him. I don’t care if she ends up with Azriel anyway. I don’t care if she makes the choice. It’s not a choice she should have to make. It’s a choice that she already made 500 years ago when she chose Cassian instead of forced marriage to a sadist (and we all know how well fandom reacted to that particular choice….really supportive so they were….) She will not have to make it again. 

And I just…Don’t get how anyone can genuinely think that this is a legitimate theory??? Like…we had an entire book of our main female character being abused by her romantic partner…and the entire point of her relationship development and arc with Rhys was finding someone who gave her the freedoms that she deserved, who loved and respected her, who treated her like an equal. That is the entire point of their story and the entire point of their bond.

This completely undermines that and I just don’t get it?  It’s not a cool twist it’s gross and it’s utterly baseless. Mor can dodge his magic because she is a skilled warrior in her own right  (we’ve been told this from the start, it’s one of the first things Feyre notes about her. And tbh the insinuation that it wasn’t a woman’s skill but a man’s inability to harm her is..kinda gross) and she stops because otherwise it would have meant Azriel’s death. There’s no question there.

Mates can hurt each other. The point behind that is that they would rather die than harm their mates because of how deeply they love them and how powerful their connection but there isn’t some kind of physical/literal shield that prevents them harming them. Rhys literally grabbed and twisted Feyre’s mangled arm in ACOTAR and caused her excruciating pain in that moment and they are the mate-iest mates ever to exist, that’s not how it works. Mor stopped herself from killing him because she chose Azriel, she chose saving Azriel’s life over killing the King.

I don’t think moriel necessarily need to be mates. And I don’t think they’ll even necessarily end up with each other at the end of ACOWAR (personally I’m pretty sure Az is going to die and that’s going to mess up the pairings) but this just…completely undermines Mor’s story arc/the entire point of her character. It completely undermines the mating bond system. It completely undermines Feyre and Rhys’s narrative in ACOMAF.

And it’s just…grim. And not in a good way. SJM doesn’t do perfect but she also doesn’t have her female characters used and harmed by male characters purely for the sake of drama/shock value/plot twists. Feyre’s abuse narrative is handled incredibly well and very delicately. The focus of it is on the survivor; it’s on Feyre. We see the damage that it does to her. We see her struggle to escape the situation. We see her slowly begin to heal and recover and realise that she deserves nothing less than what Rhys offers her. This isn’t a story about abuse as a plot device this is a story about abuse and the horrendous damage that it will do to a person and how hard they have to work to overcome it. This is a story about Feyre and it is about her survival and her recovery, not what was done to her. That’s the point of it. And I also think it’s incredibly telling that, of the 4 instances of sexual assault in these books three of them are with female perpetrators and male victims and the one male perpetrator/female victim is never actually shown within the canon of the text itself. That isn’t accidental.

There can still be a story with Mor/the King and her making choices and rising above those who still want to use her as an object or a brood mare..It does not involve her being mated to a manipulative, abusive sadist who would use her as a bitch for breeding, sees her as a prize to be won and is responsible for the injury and near death of two of the people that Mor loves most in this world. The King can still unhealthily fixate on her and obsess over her and perhaps even come to possess her if he kidnaps her/she makes a deal with him. It could be foreshadowing for that. But them being mates romanticises that situation in a way I’m not comfortable with and in a way that I don’t think SJM would do. It undermines mating bonds in a way that the other bonds that haven’t been entirely perfect (Rhys’s parents/Tamlin’s parents) have shown. No they weren’t suited to each other but those relationships were not abusive or toxic or controlling or imbalanced in the way this one would be. 

TL;DR: Mor and the King of Hybern are not mates. There is no evidence to support that they are: Mor dodged the King’s magic due to her own battle experience and skill and she stopped her assault on him because she knew it would have directly resulted in Azriel’s death. It undermines the rules of mating bonds that have already been set out as well as Feyre and Rhys’s relationship. It forces an abuse survivor into a potentially abusive situation (whether or not she has the power to reject it, if it had caused her to not kill him for what he had done to her family he already has too much control over her and it’s already toxic) Can we stop this now? Please? 

anonymous asked:

How do you draw the head and bodyplease help!

Okay so, as I said, I’m completely self taught. So I don’t have any awesome tips or whatever.

I usually begin with the chin or a semi circle (which is supposed to represent the skull or a head without hair). Some people start by eyes, that’s fine too. You can start by everything, just do what’s easier for you.

As you can see, I draw a cross which the intersection is “in the middle”. I put eyes on the horizontal line (and use the vertical line as reference to situate the symmetry axis). I draw the nose a bit under the intersection.

Though, I don’t do this anymore. I completely skip it and I directly draw everything. (Still, it’s pretty useful, I used to do this for a while.)

left: starting by the top - right: starting by the chin (well, it’s more like by the cheek)

I use head part as central point of my drawing. Like, I’m too used to drawing the head first, so now I always begin with it.

Then, I always draw the body without clothes. That’s easier for me, so I can check if body proportions are correct.

(speed up x4)

Tip: Women’s hips are wider than men’s. In fact, I try to draw shoulders and hips with the same width (for women). 
As for men, their shoulders are wider than their hips. 

Everybody’s morphology is different, but it’s roughly something like this:

And if you need to vizualise it with geometric shapes:

I suck at drawing men though. lol

So yeah, I always draw bald and naked characters first. Then, I draw their face and add clothes.