From the moment a child is born, they crave touch. They want to be held, not just to eat, but for safety, for warmth, for comfort, for affection–for love. A newborn will show preference in who they want to be held by, especially when they’re tired or sick or scared. We are born ready to be loved. Our first need is to be cared for, to be fed and changed, and held. To learn that we are loved.
Don’t let anyone, anyone tell you have to be able to love yourself before you can be loved. You were born ready to be loved wholly, and having self-esteem issues or a mental illness doesn’t make you any less lovable.
You don’t need to fulfill any condition. You are worth loving. You deserve to be loved, and have deserved to be loved since the moment you were born. You are worth loving.
I accidentally answered a question privately just now that I didn’t mean to. OTL
Thankfully I still have the response saved, so I’ll just put it in normal text post form. The question was from tumblr user @bells, and it went like this:
Hello! How do you think things would have been different if Ouma was one of the survivors? In particular, how do you think his relationship with Saihara would have developed? Thank you for all your hard work in writing your meta, it’s been very helpful!
Thank you for asking
this! I feel like as one of the characters who’s left an undeniably huge
impression on the fanbase, Ouma does provide a lot of potential for one of the
most potentially interesting survivors. A lot of people were probably counting
on him making it all the way to the end too, although his death in Chapter 5
does make a lot of sense thematically, and from the standpoint of the previous
Chapter 5s we’ve seen in dr1 and sdr2.
From this point on I’ll just be covering lots of spoilers for
everything in Chapter 5 and onward, so anyone who doesn’t want to get spoiled
for endgame points of the game, don’t read past this! (And again, I’m so sorry for accidentally responding on private instead.)
<b><p></b> <b></b> "shit. i forgot my pants."<p/><b></b> "you need to tongue that harder."<p/><b></b> "you're still off. pull out a little bit."<p/><b></b> "you do a rimshot one more time and i sWEAR TO GOD..."<p/><b></b> "if their flags ever rotate at the same time, it's definitely on accident."<p/><b></b> "nah, we didn't get to battle them. ("why?") director thought it would end in a fist fight."<p/><b></b> "eighteen people in this drumline, and not ONE of you assfaces remembered to grab the cymbals?! unbelievable."<p/><b></b> "he says 'back to one' again, and i'm shoving those claves up his ass."<p/><b></b> "i think the polish fumes got me high."<p/><b></b> "twenty bucks says that stand dumps his music all over the floor."<p/><b></b> "dude! don't tell him, but there's definitely a part in the field show where we form a giant dick for at least a second."<p/><b></b> (OKAY IT'S ALMOST AT 21K NOTES. YOU CAN STOP REBLOGGING THIS NOW. FIGURES THAT THE POST I MADE WHILE SLEEP DEPRIVED AND GIGGLING WOULD BE THE ONE THAT SPREADS. I DON'T WANT THIS TO BE MY LEGACY. STAHP.)<p/></p><p></p>(IF I FIND OUT THAT ANY OF YOU LITTLE SHITS THAT KEEP REBLOGGING THIS ARE MEMBERS OF THE HAZLETON AREA MARCHING COUGARS... I will be so proud. :') BUT ALSO SO DISAPPOINTED IN YOUR LACK OF ABILITY TO FOLLOW DIRECTION. PROBABLY EXPLAINS THIS PAST YEAR'S FIELD SHOW. YEAH. I WENT THERE. GET OFF TUMBLR AND GET BACK TO MARCHING. THE CLASSES OF 2007-2010 WANT TO SEE ANOTHER ACC APPEARANCE BY THIS BAND IN OUR LIFETIMES, PLEASE. THANKS..... Love you.)<p/></p>
eating a full 3 meals a day is really, really hard.
don’t feel bad for taking baby steps. don’t feel bad for eating nothing but an apple for lunch, don’t feel bad for having soup for all 3 meals, don’t feel bad about the days when all you manage to feed yourself is tea.
eating is hard, and not being able to eat is okay. it takes time. recovery takes time. you will get to a place where you can eat again. i believe in you.
NEW VIDEO: “Trying Strange Toys ft. Kellie PIckler” - this might be the most hilariously disturbing episode of The Tyler Oakley Show yet, and Kellie was cracking me up the ENTIRE time. What a goddess!! Reblog with who YOU want to see on my show next!!
I’m going to be
blunt about this, before I go and make my coffee and continue with more memes.
If you want to reblog this─── I don’t mind. That’s up to you but I’m not very
happy with certain behaviours right now.
Let me be
blunt with this,
This blog will not,
nor will it ever, tolerate any kind of vagueblogging directed negatively at
anyone in this fandom.
It doesn’t matter
whether I know them, or whether I do not. It doesn’t matter if we’re enemies,
or the best of friends, THIS IS BULLYING. This is toxic, unhealthy behaviour
that situates someone in a position in which they are unable to defend
themselves. This is not okay ──── this will NOT be tolerated, by any means.
its own, can be something very hurtful. People neglect the facts of saying, IT
CAN PUSH PEOPLE TO HURT THEMSELVES. Let me say that for the people in the back,
a little louder,
VAGUEBLOGGING CAN PUSH PEOPLE TO HURT
Tumblr is a
communal site. What does that mean? It means that just like an out of school
hobby, there is an underlying responsibility to take care of eachother. Does
that mean you have to twist and turn in every direction to babysit someone you
don’t even know? No, but it does mean you need to AT LEAST, be aware of
possibly concerning content you post and it’s affect on others.
Again, I’m going
to be blunt ──── if you have no intentions of at least TRYING to censor your
content, be it through tags, or readmores, or just not posting it at all, I
have no time for you. I don’t care how much we’ve talked, how nice I’ve been, I
do NOT care───
NEVER tolerate someone attacking another person.
I will NEVER
tolerate someone HARASSING another person.
NEVER tolerate someone thinking it is in THEIR RIGHT to PUT DOWN someone in ANY
I will not
tolerate bullying here, and that is absolute.
Sasaki right now is reminding me of Kaneki’s last conversation with Yoshimura, when Yoshimura told him that he had two places to belong and he shouldn’t throw away half of himself:
Kaneki tried to throw away his humanity in order to become stronger when he embraced his ghoul side.
And now Sasaki has been living as a human while denying his ghoul side.
The weakness Tsukiyama saw in Sasaki and Kaneki the last time they spoke was the inability to choose, and now, Sasaki still hasn’t made a choice. He’s trying to help ghouls while working for the CCG. He’s researching Kaneki while refusing to lose his life as Sasaki. He’s trying to avoid choosing between either, and we’ve seen the kinds of things that happen when people avoid choosing in the past (like, Kaneki’s mom refusing to choose between her sister or Kaneki, or Kaneki refusing to choose between a mother and son).
Sasaki is also reminding me of Arima again, and of Fura’s comment about how he does whatever CCG tells him without question. Sasaki has been copying that, behaving the same way, doing what the CCG asks even though he disagrees with their methods and hates killing ghouls. It’s like he’s resigned himself to not being able to make his own decisions, to not having a choice.
And now it seems like the story has put him in a position where he’ll be forced to choose between the CCG and a ghoul from his past.
I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I know what I want to happen. I want Sasaki to finally make a choice, and I want him to choose himself. I want him to make a decision based on himself and not other people. I want him to recognize that both parts of himself are important and I want him to actively choose both.