In regards to the recent Sixpenceee Heals debacle...
I want to just add my two penneth’s worth. I am part of a DID system (traumagenic), have what might be bipolar disorder (NHS wouldn’t diagnose but I might try again over here), definitely have PTSD (therapist diagnosed me and then I had two years of treatment), depression, anxiety, insomnia (all diagnosed and treated by the therapist I mentioned above), and I was in an abusive relationship for almost six years.
The reason I’m saying all that is to just explain that I am coming at this as someone who has multiple mental illnesses, has had extensive therapy for the trauma I suffered, and understands that what’s been going on with Sixpenceee Heals is pretty damn screwed up.
Had I been a member of Tumblr as a young teen, I would have almost certainly tried out Sixpenceee Heals. Fourteen and fifteen agree- they were both very depressed and would have sought help anywhere, including a horror blogger who decided to “offer help” to struggling people.
The whole point of getting proper psychological help, given by a trained psychologist, is so that you can manage your condition/s and learn how to help yourself when your symptoms are screaming at you. Psychologists are there for you to explain your problems to and then for them to explain where those problems might have come from. In our experience as a DID system, we were only able to stabilise once we had been seeing our therapist for a long while. Almost two years, in fact, and then she added extra sessions on to make sure we were working cohesively as a system.
Sixpenceee was trying to emulate THAT.
That’s a huge problem in itself. My therapist was trained in trauma and understood that my recovery, and the health of the system I belong to, was a long haul thing. No dime-a-dozen Google search results will heal that. Hell, we aren’t sure if some of our scars will ever truly heal, but a good therapist understands that. Sixpenceee seemed to think that Dr Google would cure desperate, lonely, depressed people on Tumblr AND that it was ok to charge a fee ($30, no less!) for things I used to Google search myself during my depression.
Exploiting the mentally ill like that is so, so wrong. I’m horrified that Sixpenceee thought it was ok to charge a fee for Google search results. Being a counsellor, psychotherapist, psychiatrist or psychologist requires a lot of work and serious qualifications. Even being a mental health nurse, or a community psychiatric nurse, requires training (a lot) and medical board certified qualifications. As far as any of us in the system are aware, Sixpenceee has none of those.
Giving out unlicensed advice for a fee is highly morally wrong, especially if the people receiving the advice are not well to the point where being told the wrong advice can literally affect their lives, possibly end up with them taking their lives. That’s so wrong. As an example of the wrong advice being given to someone, take me. When the system and I were fighting all the time, at odds with each other, I were told by my then boyfriend that my alters were not real. They were voices that my brain had made up and they were not real people. That lead us to fight more, take up self injury again, end up in hospital on a mental health ward and dissociate so badly we would lose big chunks of time. If Sixpenceee were to give out advice like that… Imagine the damage it could do.
Please, please do not sign up for anything like that unless you know that it is a registered programme with licensed therapists. Please believe that you are worth more than that. Please know that there are many online and phone line counselling services, and please go to A and E/ER if you are suicidal. Please. Honestly, you’re worth much more than you currently believe.
To any of Sixpenceee’s followers who still think she made a mistake… I’m sorry, but she didn’t. Anyone who monetises internet search results has only one thing on their mind, and it most certainly is not helping others.
Stay safe, 27 xxx