" This thing with everyone knowing you, it’s weird, because people have this one-sided relationship where they look at your picture and feel they know you more than someone they actually know. I don’t really know myself that well. "
The Author makes his own books and even goes through the trouble of binding them.
Mabel has a billion scrapbooks and never misses an opportunity to add to them.
The Author is not only a researcher, he’s a bonafide artist who has great technical drawings and craftsmanship skills.
Mabel considers herself a visionary, art-inclined, crafty, and constantly flowing with creative ideas. She got mad potential art skills.
I mean I know the twins aren’t “one or the other” because they are their own characters yeah I’ve always got that but WHATEVER THE AUTHOR IS THE “MABEL” TWIN OF STANFORD AND STANLEY YOU CAN’T CONVINCE ME THAT THEY AREN’T MEANT TO PARALLEL EACH OTHER LIKE STAN AND DIPPER DO BECAUSE
title: a heart that beats so slow summary: Bellamy doesn’t wake up right away after the airlock opens. In response to this post by @bellamyblake
The airlock doors
slide open and time slows. The seconds tick by, each one stretching for miles.
Clarke can hear her own blood rushing in her ears, marking each of her erratic heartbeats.
Emerson lays dead behind her, her friends unconscious before her. She watches
as they gasp in the air, their lungs working to restore oxygen to their brains.
Each one of them opens their eyes, and relief floods through Clarke.
They’re alive, they’re okay. She repeats it in her head like a mantra,
her eyes going from face to face until her gaze lands on Bellamy who is still
slumped against the wall of the airlock, unmoving and unresponsive.
A great way to check if a basic description of Fe (extroverted feeling) is accurate or “sugar-coated”: Check if it still suits Umbridge (ESFJ).
More than with any other function, you’ll find inherently positive descriptions of Fe - usually including terms like warmth, kindness, and caring. But no function is by default “good” or “bad”, they just determine how you perceive and process information (both from the inside and outside), so they’re completely neutral. It’s the character inside that determines in which way you act/use your functions and how the information you access with your functions is judged and used.
“Extraverted Feeling reaches out to attach and interact
with other living things … nurturing relationships. It is about
validating and valuing others, encouraging, coaching, educating and
motivating. It is protecting, helping, and caretaking.“ (Source)
This is filled to the brim with only positive attributes. Take that away and what you’re left with is merely that Fe cares strongly about what others feel and think, and is highly aware of this. As a contrast to the attributes above you could add negative ones like “shunning, gossiping, manipulating, emotional blackmailing.” Would that be fair and give you an objective view on the function? Would those attributes be exclusive to Fe-users?
Of course not.
Here’s another site, which has several definitions of the functions from different sources. For example, this one mentions both positive and negative descriptions, but somehow seems to see the positive ones as more usual:
“Extraverted Feeling often involves a desire to connect with (or
disconnect from) others and is often evidenced by expressions of warmth
(or displeasure) and self-disclosure.”
“Extraverted Feeling – Understanding and working though the motivations
of others, having the need to connect and bring happiness to others.“
Here’s another myth: “High Fe-users live to serve others/are doormats.”
Obviously every type has the capacity to be selfish/selfless/perfectly balanced/anything in between. Caring and being aware of other’s feelings/opinions doesn’t make you anything per se. For example, an egoistical person could try to use their Fe to manipulate others to make them respond in a way which makes them feel good/comfortable or furthers their aim. Think Gaston (ESTP) from The Beauty and the Beast, Mrs Bennet from Pride and Prejudice (ESFJ), or Lotso from Toy Story (ENFJ). There is a definite bias in fiction though. The stereotypes for “villains” are high Te-users. Likewise, high Fe-users (ExFJs and IxFJs) get stereotyped as angels and inherently good people (and guess how the male/female representation is in those two groups).
That’s why it’s so important to keep in mind that functions are neutral. There is so much misrepresentation, distortion, simplification, and stereotyping, that it’s hard/almost impossible not to be influenced by it, especially when you start out in mbti (and even when you’re aware of it). I still find myself thinking or saying stuff that makes me want to slap myself, like “He’s so nice, I think he has Fe.” (translates to: “He’s nice in a way which seems to suggest Fe.”). There’s no causality between being nice and having Fe, but if you’re nice and have Fe, you’ll express it differently from someone who’s nice and has Fi.:)
So, take care, children. If you find yourself in danger of sugar-coating Fe…think of Umbridge, that should balance things out.;3
It’s so wonderful. Both of their self-esteem shoots sky high because Jasper found someone who wants to stay fused with her and Ruby is fused with her literal hero and It JUST WORKS SO WELL OKAY I HAVE LOTS OF FEELINGS.