panickat123 asked:

ive been in my ldr for 5 years now. we have never met eachother in person but we dont lose faith that we will someday. to that last ask you received about feeling hopeless, I know how that feels. I go through it too but you just have to try to stay positive. my family and his family dont approve of us being together and refuse to help but were in this for the long run, no matter how long we wait. just know the ldr community can help to support and lend a shoulder when needed :] stay positive!

thedumbfriend asked:

Please help me. I can't stop sobbing. I feel so hopeless. My boyfriend lives in New Zealand and I live in America. We're both broke, neither of us can get jobs and neither of our families can help us. I feel so defeated. I just want to be with him.

I remember you. 

Come here, it’ll be okay.

I don’t think I could tell you anything that would make you feel any better but here listen to this.


I know exactly how you feel and I feel this way right now. To be honest,  I’m having a really hard time coping. The best thing for you to do is to keep applying to jobs. I don’t know what your situation is whether it be studying, gap year, etc.  If your boyfriend doesn’t live in Auckland, Wellington or Christchurch it would be super hard to find work.  I would keep trying though. Your boyfriend can set up job alerts on seek.co.nz this way he will know when there’s jobs he’s able to apply too. I have this set up for me every day so I can apply to jobs.  I assume you can do the same for monster.com

I’ve basically come to a point in my life where I’ve had to re-evaluate what I want in my life. Basically, if you can’t live without this person in your life.. you continue to work hard to be with them. It’s going to take me a few more years to live with Ben and it’s going to be super hard for the next 1-2 years.  But it’s going to be worth it.

That’s what you need to focus on, that for now things are horrible but one day they won’t.  I hope you’ve applied to lots of Summer jobs if you can!

Best wishes to the both of you
- Desi