how do you develop self confidence? this is something i constantly struggle with and im so sick of it?? like im always comparing myself to others and im never happy with what i do and im just never satisfied? idk i just wanna stop feeling so mopey and sad and bitter and you seem like you're rlly comfortable w yourself so,, i just wanna be happy w myself tbh
i’m gonna be 100% honest: no way in hell am i self-confident. i tend to talk about this less on this blog bc i want it to be a positive space for myself and others, but basically, i have problems with my own body image / self-worth / self-confidence. i’m never satisfied with myself whether it be my looks or my achievements or whatever else it may be, and i always feel like i’m taking up too much of everybody else’s resources and time (sorta like a waste of space if u get what i mean). i also feel disconnected from everything every once in a while, and it’s so incredibly jarring.
but i’m trying to get past it by telling myself that yes, i am worth it, and yes, i do deserve to live in this world. you’re gonna have some up days and you’re gonna have some down days, but there’s no way except forwards. i’ve got no other life than this, so i might as well make the most of it.
i guess,,,, it’s sorta like lying to yourself or like a “fake it ‘til you make it” mentality, but it kinda sorta works ? it’s hard to explain, but i’ve found that by surrounding myself with positivity about myself and the people around me has helped me a lot. i’ve also been trying to stop focusing on myself and focusing my love on other things and other passions. it’s a lot easier to love others and as a side effect, i end up feeling happier + other people feel happy too. i think that’s a decent trade-off and a step towards developing myself.
and on the down days, i write. it’s a good creative outlet for me + it helps me confront my own feelings / settle down. also, it’s good to remember that we’re not perfect. we’ve got flaws and we make mistakes. in a way, social media makes it seem as though everybody is perfect and having a great time bc it allows you to filter the best parts of yourself for other people to see. either way, it’s okay to feel shitty at times; you just need to remember to pick yourself up and keep going forwards.
tl;dr: i don’t know how to develop self-confidence, but i’m picking up the pieces of myself and trying to focus on positivity and not on tearing myself down. i don’t know if it’s working, but i hope it is.
i hope this helped, anon, and i hope you feel better ;;