often minimal

good: acknowledging that bisexuality is often erased and minimized in a specific way and that bisexuals, especially bi women, may have different experiences when asserting their sexualities than gay men and lesbians

not good: acting like being gay and being straight are considered equally acceptable and are both presented as viable options to questioning people by straight society

anonymous asked:

how do you think each of the signs in mercury would text?

Aries Mercury probably texts in caps a lot, their words and sentences are filled with enthusiasm and tons of energy, they potentially stir a lot of drama though

Taurus Mercury probably texts calmly, giving short and reasonable responses; they prefer to get straight to the point and they’re quite honest in their messages

Gemini Mercury is probably a scattered texter - they send so many random messages all at once and they write a lot because their mind is brewing at a quick pace

Cancer Mercury probably texts with a bunch of emotion; so when they’re happy, they will be very goofy and when they are moody, they’ll give half-assed replies… Their texting style varies because the Moon has an unpredictable influence on the emotions

Leo Mercury probably makes tons of jokes via text and they are entertaining - in group chats especially, they like to be the center of attention and will say very funny stuff

Virgo Mercury probably texts with humor and humility - they are nice and clever through the way they communicate, and will write a lot too since they’re ruled by Mercury; they may also be “grammar nazis”

Libra Mercury probably texts with a polite attitude, and they like asking questions because they’re so people-oriented

Scorpio Mercury probably is a cryptic texter, there is always a sense of mystery surrounding what they say… They may be dark-humored in their messages too

Sagittarius Mercury probably texts with excitement and eagerness, and you could potentially see them writing about deeper topics of life, also has a blunt style

Capricorn Mercury probably texts with a good amount of sarcasm, and they could also be preoccupied with correct punctuation/spelling, there’s elegance in their messages

Aquarius Mercury probably texts with their own quirky style, often incorporating abbreviations and saying weird things, but their replies are often minimal and small

Pisces Mercury probably is a laid back texter, having a chill vibe and coming across like a stoner… They are good to vent to, and they’ll tell you how much they care about you in their messages, it is sincere

So earlier today I got rather pissed off when some rude anon who has probably never made a GIF in their lives decided to attack my friend (and one of the best GIFmakers I know) for no reason telling them not to talk about GIFmaking like it’s a big deal since it’s just taking clips from existing video. I was hoping to forget about this, but I couldn’t stop thinking about how many non-GIFmakers really do think that’s all GIFmaking is (including myself before I started making GIFs to some extent). Luckily, most people aren’t that rude about it and know not to insult content creators over a topic they actually don’t know much about…but I still feel the need to discuss some of the often lengthy effort that goes into making medium to high quality GIFs.

As a disclaimer, I’m NOT trying to be elitist and I honestly don’t consider myself one of the top tier GIFmakers. I also don’t think that GIFmakers HAVE to put in a lot of effort to alter GIFs from the original video frames if they don’t want to. It’s just a hobby where we try to capture/highlight cool moments using a severely limited and dying file format lol…so it’s really up to the individual how much they wanna put into it. However, the truth of the matter is that many GIF and graphics makers that contribute greatly to numerous fandoms DO put in a significant amount of effort to make their GIFs look different from and better than the original video.


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anonymous asked:

You're not a true bearded man if you don't do boat stuff™ with a girl.

Yeah, it does seem it’s a thing. A trope? A play out of the fauxmance handbook? And I guess I can see why. Pleasure boats are synonymous with vacations–i.e. voluntary and by choice. And that’s a key selling point fauxmances need to make to seem “real”. There’s also often minimal clothing involved (ooohh heterosexy) and that’s the perfect backdrop to “sell” a fakelationship.

This ask must be because of my tags on the Cristiano Ronaldo post, right?

I tagged his latest yacht shenanigans like that because 1) I think he’s closeted  2) It reminded me of his previous yacht shenanigans…

…I mean, come on dude. Some celebs really, really, really struggle to find any privacy. Even on open water. *eyeroll*

3) It reminded me of other celebs widely rumored to be closeted….

…like Bradley Cooper. He’s here with Irina Shayk who is also pictured above with Cristiano and also hails from the Victoria’s Secret beard farm. What a series of coincidences.

There’s so many pix of Leonardo DiCaprio on boats with Victoria’s Secret models that it’s farcical at this point. I guess there’s no need to switch it up because heteronormativity comes with an I-want-to-believe power pack, apparently.

And 4) It definitely reminded me of 1D. And many of us know what the deal is there.

Oh Liam. A gondola ride through the canals of Venice should be super romantic.

Yeah…not so much. Danielle is having an intense relationship with her phone, though.

This was back when Payzer 1.0 was circling the drain and unofficially over (post Zayn vs Liam vs Danielle Vegas showdown). Hence, it’s not a very cute, cuddly or romantic moment.

The water based foolery would continue for Liam.

All the yuck. At least Cheryl’s affinity for getting her face tweaked (she needs a lot of time out of the public eye) has limited the stunts for Chiam. I’m probably tempting fate by writing that. LOL *cue Chiam’s stunt coordinator inquiring about yacht rentals*

But Liam wasn’t alone, sadly.

This mess is one of my faves (meaning I hate it a lot). Not only was this on my home turf, but because it was on my home turf I can verify it was HOT that day. Hot and humid–around 85 degrees F. I guarantee you this airboat went nowhere. But relationship goals, according to this easily duped fandom.

Poor Louis. Faking it via group again, this time in Sydney and with Liam again. I remember back in the day someone posted that it was unfair that Liam never had to stunt. Ummm…excuse me?

Is everyone having fun without Louis and Liam even though Louis and Liam are physically present? That would be a yes.

Harry didn’t get away unscathed, either. Here he is doing his part pre-Freddie My Boy Lad Baby Son’s arrival.

Good thing he was wearing sunglasses to hide the dead-eyed thousand yard stare he was probably rocking at that moment.

Louis, sadly,  gets back at it again. Out with fake babymamas. In with thirster doomed to failure.

She’s trying to make it look legit. He’s trying to to fight the urge to jump overboard.

And now a moment of hilarity, courtesy of Zigi.

They never even left the beach, God love ‘em. Zayn lighting up with no life jacket is a dead giveaway. If he could swim by this point I’m sure he still wasn’t a strong swimmer. And of course, those pesky paps stalked them so hard (in Tahiti, no less) that they made it out into the ocean before Zigi did. Imagine that.

So yeah, boat stuff seems to be a thing. A thing that only gets shadier upon closer inspection. But hey, if people wanna believe it, it’s whatever. As for me and Liam, we know better.

Amphibious Mermaids

I talked about oceanic mermaids in a previous post, but I’ve recently been neglecting a question about amphibious mermaids because I wanted to give it due time and detail in a response. I’ve finally found some time in my procrastination schedule to give it a proper go.

Amphibians are generally restricted to fresh water, and I envision amphibious mermaids would need a large amount of fresh water mixing with land to take full advantage of amphibious adaptations, so large expanses of swamp, wetland or bayou are the most likely environment. Mermaids are often thought of as associating in small groups or ‘sisterhoods’, to a large enough territory to support multiple predators is necessary. A small stream isn’t going to cut it.

And I do think they would most definitely be predators, or at least scavengers. Lots of things drop into the water, and a curious predator is well equipped to make the most of that opportunity. I envision multiple rows of small, needle teeth, ideal for gripping fish or tearing chunks out of the drowned.

Using skin for respiration works best for small animals, becoming less efficient as the volume to surface ratio of the organism increases. It’s probably useful for a tiny, baby, amphibious mermaid, but useless for an adult. As their oxygen demands increase, the larger adult mermaids need more surface area for diffusion, so external gills like the axolotl may be a useful adaption. The older the amphibious mermaid is, the larger it gets, and the more gills it requires, so the eldest amphibious mermaids would likely have vast expanses of external gills sprouting from their head, which may be mistaken for hair from a distance.

Lungs may still be useful for mid-sized amphibious mermaids, or in times of drought or hot weather, as lungs will still function even if the skin and gills go dry. This is probably uncomfortable for the largest specimens, who would be more dependent on their expanse of external gills. Lungs also allow these mermaids to sing, a classic mermaid feature, though their voices are probably smaller and higher than their body size would normally dictate.

These mermaids would likely retain four limbs and a tail, though they may only have their tail at birth, similar to a tadpole. They would retain their tail, making the most use of their legs when mid sized, either to migrate to new waters or perhaps lure prey to the largest adults lurking in the waters. The large adults would also retain their tail for swimming, though their legs would be relatively less use and spend less time on land, much like a crocodile or alligator does.

They have to be egg laying, and most likely laying a clutch of eggs, perhaps a few dozen, with larger specimens laying more. I think they’d be intelligent enough to guard their clutch and may even herd food towards this school of small carnivorous tadpole-like mermaids. It’s possible they may even have a degree of family structure, with offspring from previous years helping to protect and feed the youngest tadpoles.

Also, there’s often minimal sexual dimorphism in amphibians. Sometimes males are a bit smaller, but usually no external markers. Perhaps male amphibious mermaids do not reach the same size the females are capable of, but for external purposes the two are indistinguishable, so I will refer to them all as female, even though some are not. I’m confident the mermaids can figure it out.

So where does this leave my amphibious mermaids?

Picture a man walking through the swamp, finding a child-sized being with a tangled mess of red hair (blood-filled cranial external gills), wet and splattered with mud. She climbs trees, darts under roots and swims fearlessly through the shallows. It sounds like she’s laughing, or sometimes singing or humming a small fragment of song. Her eyes are large and she always smiles with her mouth closed. Perhaps she steals small objects. She’s curious, strange, but seems harmless.

Her older sister, a little shorter than the average human woman, with an even more impressive expanse of red hair, has actually mastered singing, even though the words don’t quite make sense. She moves with grace, despite her long, smooth tail dragging behind her through the mud like the train of a bridal gown. She frolics in the clear water, laughing, winking, always smiling with her mouth closed.

Then there’s her youngest sisters. Swarms of them in the water around you. Small, fast and with rows of needle teeth. They do not laugh or sing, only feed.

And the matriarch, like a colossal crocodilian sliding up from the deepest water, her red gills trailing behind her and wicked rows of needle teeth. She grabs the man with arms that are really too small for her body, pulling him under the water with her sheer mass, waiting for his struggles to cease so her young can feed with greater ease. Perhaps when they are done she will store his corpse under a submerged log as crocodiles do, until the next traveller wanders by.

I should write a horror story. 

JonBenet Ramsey - Patsy Ramsey's 911 call
  • From www.statementanalysis.com/jonbenet-ramsey-murder/
  • 911: 911 Emergency.
  • PR: (Inaudible) police.
  • 911: What's going on...
  • PR: 755 Fifteenth Street
  • 911: What is going on there ma'am?
  • PR: We have a kidnapping. Hurry, please.
  • 911: Explain to me what is going on, ok?
  • PR: We have a, there's a note left and our daughter is gone.
  • 911: A note was left and your daughter is gone?
  • PR: Yes.
  • 911: How old is your daughter?
  • PR: She is six years old, she is blond... six years old.
  • 911: How long ago was this?
  • PR: I don't know. I just found a note and my daughter's missing.
  • 911: Does it say who took her?
  • PR: What?
  • 911: Does it say who took her?
  • PR: No, I don't know it's there... there is a ransom note here.
  • 911: It's a ransom note?
  • PR: It says S.B.T.C. Victory... please.
  • 911: Ok, what's your name? Are you...
  • PR: Patsy Ramsey... I am the mother. Oh my God. Please.
  • 911: I'm... Ok, I'm sending an officer over, ok?
  • PR: Please.
  • 911: Do you know how long she's been gone?
  • PR: No, I don't, please, we just got up and she's not here. Oh my God Please.
  • 911: Ok.
  • PR: Please send somebody.
  • 911: I am, honey.
  • PR: Please.
  • 911: Take a deep breath for me okay?
  • PR: Hurry, hurry, hurry.
  • 911: Patsy? Patsy? Patsy? Patsy? Patsy?
  • After Patsy terminated the call the line apparently stayed open. She may not have placed the phone properly in the cradle. The 911 operator thought she heard three faint voices in the background. Audio experts enhanced the recording to see if they could make out what was being said. They thought they may have heard John Ramsey say, "We're not talking to you." Patsy Ramsey say, "What did you do" and Burke Ramsey say, "What did you find?"
  • 911: What is going on there ma'am?
  • PR: We have a kidnapping. Hurry, please.
  • When the 911 operator asked Patsy Ramsey what was going o n she replied, "We have a kidnapping. Hurry, please." Notice that Patsy's plea for help lacks specifics. She does not tell the 911 operator who was kidnapped. We would expect her to say, "My daughter" or "Our daughter has been kidnapped." Most people do not want to lie and will avoid telling a lie. When people do decide to lie they will often not tell a direct lie. They will soften the lie. Saying, "My daughter has been kidnapped" may be a direct lie. Saying, "We have a kidnapping" may be a lie that lacks specifics.
  • The word "please" appears to be too polite. She does use it eight times in the 911 call. There is a chance she is not being polite but is using this word to add emphasis to the fact she needs help.
  • 911: Explain to me what is going on, ok?
  • PR: We have a, there's a note left and our daughter is gone.
  • At this point the 911 operator only knows there has been a kidnapping. She does not know who has been kidnapped. Therefore, she asked Patsy, "Explain to me what is going on, ok?" Patsy responded, "We have a, there's a note left and our daughter is gone." Patsy has an unfinished sentence; "We have a." It appears she was going to repeat what she told the 911 operator in her previous statement; "We have a kidnapping." However, this time she could not make that statement. Perhaps she could not lie twice.
  • She then said, "There's a note left." She referred to the three-page handwritten letter as a "note." Her use of the unique word "left" indicates she may have withheld some information. She could have avoided using this word by saying, "I found a note."
  • She finished this sentence by saying, "Our daughter is gone." Order is important. This sentence appears to be out-of-order. She first told the 911 operator about the note. Then she told her that their daughter was gone. The most important thing is that JonBenet is missing. That should have been the first thing she told the 911 operator.
  • Patsy said that their daughter was "gone." We will see how her personal dictionary plays out in regards to the word "gone."
  • This may be a truthful statement. There was a ransom note in the house and JonBenet was gone (deceased).
  • 911: How long ago was this?
  • PR: I don't know. I just found a note and my daughter's missing.
  • Some transcripts show the pronoun "I" is missing before the word "just." The missing "I" indicates a lack of commitment to the statement.
  • There are several ways you can use the word "just." The word "just" is often used to minimize things. If you walk into a restaurant by yourself, chances are the hostess will say to you, "Just one?" She is minimizing how many are in your party. When people minimize their actions using the word "just" it is an indication they may have done more than what they are telling you; "I just went to McDonalds and came home." There is a chance Patsy may be minimizing her actions that morning. However, she may also be minimizing time. By using the word "just" she is telling the 911 operator that her action of finding the ransom note was immediate.
  • She is consistent in using the word "note." However, she does change her language when she used the word "missing." Earlier she said, "Our daughter is gone." Now her daughter is "missing." Truthful people will usually use the same language. Something caused her to change her language. That something might be she is being deceptive. Then again, there may be a justification for the change in language. When she used the word "gone" she used the plural pronoun "our." When she used the word "missing" she used the singular pronoun "my." We can't read people's minds but we can recognize a change in language.
  • 911: Does it say who took her?
  • PR: What?
  • Answering a question with a question indicates the person was asked a sensitive question. It is often used as a stall tactic to allow the person to think about how he or she should answer the question. We do have to take into consideration that it is possible Patsy did not hear what the operator said.
  • 911: Does it say who took her?
  • PR: No, I don't know it's there... there is a ransom note here.
  • When asked if the note said who took JonBenet, Patsy said, "No, I don't know." In reality, the note said that a "foreign faction" signed by SBTC was responsible for JonBenet's disappearance. In her answer to the next question she will mention the SBTC.
  • Patsy had another change in language. She now calls it a "ransom note" and not a "note." As I look at this 911 call, I do not see a justification for the change in language. Therefore, it is an indication of deception.
  • 911: It's a ransom note?
  • PR: It says S.B.T.C. Victory... please.
  • The ransom note was signed "Victory! S.B.T.C." Patsy reverses the order and says, "S.B.T.C. Victory." If she had the ransom note in her hand while talking to the 911 operator, we would expect her to look at the ransom note and mention the signature in sequential order. If she did not have the ransom note in her hand and was relying on her memory from what she had read, that would be a reason for her to unknowingly reverse the order. It is possible she looked at the very last line in the ransom note, S.B.T.C., mentioned it and then look at the word Victory above it.
  • 911: Ok, what's your name? Are you...
  • PR: Patsy Ramsey... I am the mother. Oh my God. Please.
  • Notice that Patsy used the article "the" and not the pronoun "her." Saying, "I am her mother" makes it more personal. It shows ownership. Saying, "I am the mother" shows distance. If she knew JonBenet was dead, she may not have wanted to take ownership of a dead body.
  • 911: Do you know how long she's been gone?
  • PR: No, I don't, please, we just got up and she's not here. Oh my God Please.
  • Again she used the word "just." Is she minimizing her actions or is she minimizing time?
  • 911: Ok.
  • PR: Please send somebody.
  • The reason people call 911 is because they are seeking help either for themselves or for someone else. Most 911 calls begin with a plea for help; "I need an ambulance" or "Someone is breaking into my neighbor's send the police?" Patsy's plea for help appears towards the end of her call, "Please send somebody." She only asked for help after the 911 operator said to her, "I'm sending an officer over."
  • Towards the beginning of her 911 call, Patsy told the 911 operator, "We have a kidnapping. Hurry, please." Saying, "Hurry, please" insinuates the 911 operator should send the police to her residence. However, she does not specifically ask for the police. At the very beginning of her call, she did an inaudible statement, "(Inaudible) police." It is possible she said, "Send the police" or "I need the police."
  • There is one other odd thing with this 911 call and that is Patsy hung up the phone. The 911 operator is your lifeline. This is the person who is going to help you. They are going to send you help. They may get the word out to be on the lookout for a certain person or vehicle. You will want to stay on the phone with the 911 operator until help arrives. Once she reports the kidnapping, Patsy hangs up the phone.

i agree men shouldn’t refer to themselves as boys to dodge responsibility for their actions but i also want to take this time to say that it has been surprisingly meaningful for me to make the conscious choice to refer to myself and others as women instead of girls. women are often minimized & denied agency through very small language choices & i encourage you all to try freeing urself of that

anonymous asked:

Ok im like a bit lost when ever people call FinnPoe the cute safe ship? Like did we not watch the same movie? Cuz the one I saw had Poe go through the same force torture bullshit that Rey did with out having the force to psychologically fuck with Kylo like Rey did. And Finn was with the First Order for years being stripped of a identity and who knows what else. Plus no doubt Poe has been through alot of shit being with the resistance for so long. Why do people think he and Finn pt.1

have less emotional baggage than Rey and Kylo Ren? That they wouldn’t suffer the emotional reprocussions of that. I’ve seen a few people point Finn would but like no one points out Poe would too? What am I missing here? Is it cuz those two got away from the first order early in the movie while Reys torture was later in movie? Is it cuz Finn and Poe don’t seem angsty enough for the fandom?pt.2

`For Poe it may be partly be for the reasons you stated, and the fact that the movie didn’t delve into his trauma the way it did with Finn and Rey. I don’t think that fully explains it, though, because while we might not have had many introspective scenes with Poe his pain is all there in the script and in Oscar Isaac’s amazing acting. We see Poe conflicted to leave the village even though he sort of has to go save the galaxy, we see him stay behind to fight despite hopeless odds, we see him so desperate to save Lor San Tekka that he breaks his cover, we see him scream “No, no!” when Kylo Ren gives the order to slaughter the village, we see him beaten bloody, we see him scream in pain and terror under torture, we see him dazed and in pain in the aftermath, we see the wounds he still bears from torture while he leads heroic air raids time after time and… wow. Thinking about what Poe went through always makes me a little emotional.

The point being, we have watched Poe suffer from the very start of the film and saw the physical wounds right up to the end, There is absolutely no reason for anyone to dismiss the mental and emotional effects on him–none, except a serious gap in empathy between him and other characters. As you point out we see this gap with Finn, too, despite the fact that we watched him be traumatized on literally his first appearance and continually afterward.

Finn’s pain is often dismissed and minimized because he’s strong and good enough to handle it or whatever, even though some of the best and strongest people suffer trauma. As for Poe, the idea of him having an internal life doesn’t seem to register on some fans’ radars at all. In both cases their pain is often waved away under the guise of admiring their strength, burying their very real trauma and emotional baggage.

Not only are Finn and Poe both complex characters who have suffered so much, their relationship itself could be as fraught as it is loving. In addition to their individual baggage, I think a lot about the fact that Finn was right next to Slip when Slip fell to Poe’s blaster. It could just as easily have been Finn who was shot. I wonder if that adds to Poe’s many nightmares, and if he wakes up in a cold sweat grabbing for the man he loves, to make sure he’s alive and not… I wonder if Finn has to soothe Poe through the terror to assure him that yes, it is another man, not Finn, who bled out on the desert sands of a distant planet.

I wonder if they have to grapple with the fact that Poe’s actions defending the village left indelible trauma on Finn, and yet Poe was very much justified and would have been right to kill Finn at the village, yet is so very glad he did not. Do they marvel at how fragile chance and love can be? Do they cling the harder to what they have because of the irony of it all, that they met as enemies on a battlefield where either of them could have killed the other (according to the novelization Poe thought Finn was his executioner, and that was my impression as well), yet beyond all odds they are here, breathing in each others’ lives, holding each other close despite the thorns?

But sure Stormpilot is the cute safe ship. I mean, of course they can be, fluff can be all the more precious precisely because there’s so much potential between these two for pain. But to think Stormpilot can only be cute and fluffy? Ha. As if.

anonymous asked:

Why don't people like TBB? I honestly don't understand and I want to! Lol.

The semi-official stance for a lot of people is that TBB is bad because it’s racist.  And well…  it is indeed kinda racist.  The Asian characters are all thinly-drawn stereotypes and the vaguely Arab swordsman at the beginning is even worse: a nameless, faceless, voiceless bad guy.  Not even a token attempt to make him seem like an actual human being with a distinct backstory and motivation.

I do disapprove of that approach, but personally, that alone wouldn’t ruin the episode for me.  (ASiB has similar problems, but I love it anyway.)  There’s a lot of racist, sexist, or otherwise problematic art in the world that is brilliant and amazing in other ways, and I for one don’t believe in throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

For me, my impatience with TBB has more to do with the pacing.  Too many long, slow shots of people pouring tea, too many plot-advancing scenes featuring one-off characters I don’t care about, and that circus scene, while lovely, feels *interminable*.  The fact that the climax in the tunnel is basically a repetition of the circus scene doesn’t help.  All this adds up to the very rare Sherlock episode that makes me check my phone a few times when watching.

I think TBB also suffers (in my eyes) from being a mostly self-contained episode that doesn’t tie in well to the larger narrative arcs, which makes it feel a bit slight – like you could skip it and not miss anything.

That said, TBB does have many lovely elements that I do enjoy – Sarah, Amanda, Seb, and Dimmock are all great, richly imagined characters, despite having little screen time.  There are some really wonderful moments between Sherlock and John.  And the case has one or two features of interest, as someone might say.  ;)  Plus a hair ruffle!  Episodes always get extra points for hair ruffles. 

FWIW, some fans do love it.  I think many fans who prefer self-contained mysteries and/or John and Sherlock having an easy rapport with minimal angst often name TBB as a favorite. 

Thanks for the ask!

What she says: I’m fine
What she means: Titans continuously use Lilith Clay and Donna Troy as romantic carriers for Garth, Roy, and Wally and I’m SICK OF IT. Lilith is one of the smartest Titans with actual compassion for these people, but she’s just reiterated as a potential threat and/or Garth’s girlfriend, with no plot development that the guys have! Donna is, undoubtedly, the most physically powerful member of the Titans. Garth has magic abilities, and Dick has his training, but neither of them could match up to the sheer strength she moves with. In multiple issues, she is seen PROTECTING THEM because she doesn’t think they could handle the situation and yet these ladies are both often minimized to just girlfriends of The Real Manly Titans


/ plo͝or’əl’ēən/


1. One who is attracted to more than one gender; an umbrella term for being attracted to more than one gender, regardless of one’s gender identity (similar to “sapphic,” “achillean,” and “enbian”) 
“The pluralian decided to date John, because he just broke up with Marie”

2. One who prioritizes, or is proud of, all of the genders to whom they are attracted equally; one who celebrates their multiple attraction (similar to certain usages of “sapphic,” “achillean,” and “enbian”)
“I am proud of the fact that I like boys and nonbinary people,” Carol declared, “So I guess I’m pluralian.”

3. The community of people who are attracted to more than one gender; the “mspec” community
“The pluralian community consists of bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, and other people attracted to more than one gender.”


1. A descriptor of the attraction someone who is attracted to multiple genders feels towards anyone of any gender; similar to “gay,” “straight,” or “diamoric”
“My love for Jen was so pluralian,” Scout sighed, “As was my love for Alex…”

Why was it coined? 

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anonymous asked:

Hey! Do you have any tips for binding pain? Thank you! I love your blog btw, keep it up!

Thanks, dude! I’ll do my best with this.

I actually don’t bind frequently enough to deal with this personally, so I probably won’t have advice you can’t find anywhere else. Most of these will be safe binding tips to try and minimize how often you experience pain from binding. If someone else who knows more about this wants to add onto this, please do so!

  • Take breaks from wearing your binder. If you’re at home, don’t wear it. If you’re sleeping, definitely don’t wear it. If you’re at the gym, please do NOT wear it. If you’re swimming, don’t wear just any binder. There are binders out there made for swimming (I know gc2b has some). An alternative is to wear a sports bra under one of those sun-protection shirts. My personal alternative is to not go swimming lol But anyway, as strong as your dysphoria may be, your health is important, and screwing yourself up with binding too much can make getting top surgery more of a challenge than it has to be – and depending on the extent of the damage binding has done, you may not be able to get top surgery. If you’re out in public and need to take it off, bring a sports bra to swap out your binder for. It won’t provide the same compression, I know, but it’ll help you feel less exposed as opposed to just taking your binder off and not wearing anything else under your shirt.
  • Stretch and move your arms when wearing your binder. If you’re in classes at school wearing it, take any opportunities you can to get up and move around. When you take your binder off for the day, do the same stretches and force yourself to cough a few times. Take deep breaths. Get comfy.
  • Take days off from wearing your binder. I’m not sure how many days apart, since I don’t even wear mine on a weekly basis, but taking 2 or 3 days a week to not wear it will probably help.
  • Don’t hunch when you wear your binder. This might be hard to do, and some trans guys just hunch anyway to try and hide their chest even when not binding, but good posture will help you breathe easier.

That’s honestly all I got. There’s truly no safe way to bind that won’t eventually cause pain of some sort, especially if you’re binding almost daily. Even if your binder fits you properly, the strain it will put on your body will still happen. Binding puts a lot of strain on your ribs, and ribs aren’t made to handle pressure like that, they’re made to expand when you breathe. I’m sure binding isn’t a good option for guys with spinal issues either.

I don’t know how big your chest is and how flat you feel you need to look, but some guys wear tighter sports bras instead of binders. Those feel better than binders for sure. Some guys wear bulky hoodies, but it’s not always cool out enough to do that without sweating bullets. It’s miserable to do that when it’s hot out. I wish I had more helpful things to say here, but I don’t have much experience with binding at all, just because I really hate how it feels and can deal with being misgendered more than I can deal with the feeling of being strangled. But some guys aren’t like that, and I’m not saying that’s a better way to be, just that if you’re gonna bind, make sure you understand just how risky it can be and please be careful about it. Your health should come first, because if you do want top surgery later on, bad binding can ruin that for you.

Once again, if anyone else has advice for this anon, please add onto this! I hope this was even remotely helpful.


Anglo-Japanese Style

The Anglo-Japanese style developed in the period from approximately 1851 to 1900, when a new appreciation for Japanese design and culture affected the art, especially the decorative art, and architecture of England.   The wider interest in Eastern or Oriental design and culture is regarded as a characteristic of the Aesthetic Movement during the same period. The style developed in advance of the British Arts and Crafts Movement, but both are best regarded as branches from the mainstream Aesthetic Movement. In the design of furniture, the most common and characteristic features are simple rectilinear structure, minimal decoration, often limited to incised and gilt lines or motifs such as ‘mons’, and most particularly an ebonized finish (or even ebony) echoing the well known ‘japanned’ finish.  In commercial mass-produced table wares, the style was most represented by transfer prints depicting Japanese botanical or animal motifs such as bamboos and birds; scenes of Japan or Japanese objects such as fans. Often these were placed in a novel asymmetrical fashion in defiance of Western tradition. 

Gaslighting Definition, Mental/Emotional Abuse Techniques & Being Gaslighted, used by Feminists & SJWs

Are You a Victim of Gaslighting Emotional Abuse?

According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern, Ph.D., the signs of being a victim of gaslighting emotional abuse include:

  1. You are constantly second-guessing yourself.
  2. You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” a dozen times a day.
  3. You often feel confused and even crazy at work.
  4. You’re always apologizing 
  5. You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happy
  6. You frequently make excuses
  7. You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
  8. You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
  9. You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.
  10. You have trouble making simple decisions.
  11. You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.
  12. You feel hopeless and joyless.
  13. You feel as though you can’t do anything right.

Signs, Symptoms of Mental Abuse in Children

Mental abuse in children can result in:

  • Relationship difficulties – emotional abuse leads to a lack of trust in the parent and this follows through the rest of the relationships in life. Without a positive early relationship on which to base others, emotionally abused children may choose not to have relationships or continually get into other abusive relationships because they don’t know what a non-abusive relationship is like.
  • Feelings of being worthless or damaged in some way – emotionally abused children are typically told they are no good so frequently that they come to believe it. This can lead to un-fulfilling adult roles as the person feels they are not worth a good education or job.
  • Trouble regulating emotions – because emotionally abused children are often punished for expressing their emotions, they never learn how to express them in a reasonable, safe way. This leads to emotions coming out in unpredictable ways such as in anger, depression or anxiety.

Signs, Symptoms of Emotional and Mental Abuse in Adults

While children often physically cannot escape their abuser, many adults feel as though they cannot escape their abuser either. Mentally abusive relationships involve chipping away at a person’s self-esteem to the point where they don’t feel they deserve anything better than the abuse and they feel that without the abuser, they have nothing.

Signs of mental abuse in relationships take many forms. Mental abuse symptoms can revolve around:

  • Dominance – the abuser needs to feel in charge 
  • Humiliation – the abuser puts others down by embarrassing them
  • Isolation – the abuser segregates person(s) from others in order to increase dependence
  • Threats – the abuser makes threats to make person(s) feel unsafe
  • Intimidation – the abuser indicates that if you do not obey, there will be dire consequences
  • Denial and blame – the abuser denies the abuse and blames other(s) for “making” them do it

Mentally abusive relationships can be of any type and involve either gender.

Characteristics of Emotionally Abusive Men and Women

Emotionally abusive men and women are of all different types but some common characteristics are found among many of the abusers. Emotional abusers tend to believe they are “owed” by everyone and thus everyone (including their victim) should give them what they want. This makes them feel entitled to give orders, control and abuse in order to get what they want. Similarly, emotionally abusive people tend to be self-centered to the point where they feel they can, and should, tell others what they are thinking and feeling.

Other characteristics of emotionally abusive men and women include:   

  • Low self-esteem – some abusers abuse others to make themselves feel good about themselves, although some people feel that the opposite is true in many cases.  
  • Rush into relationships – some abusers enter relationships and claim “love at first sight” very quickly, perhaps fearing being alone.
  • Extreme jealousy – an abuser may see jealousy as a sign of love rather than possessiveness.
  • Having unrealistic expectations or demands – an abuser will demand that the victim be the perfect spouse, lover and friend and fill every need, even when this isn’t reasonable or healthy.
  • Create isolation – an abuser will work to cut off ties to the victim to keep the victim completely centered on the abuser.
  • Have poor communication skills – abusers may have trouble with open conversations about their feelings so they abuse instead.
  • Are hypersensitive – abusers often take the slightest action as a personal attack.
  • Appear charming to others – abusers tend to hide all their abusive behaviors in other scenarios so that the victim is the only one that sees their abusive side making it very difficult for the victim to reach out for help 

And although emotionally abusive people set out to purposefully hurt victims, they often minimize their role and blame the victim for the abuse. “She made me do it,” or “he should have known not to talk to me when I was in that kind of mood.” Abusers often claim they have no control over their abusive behaviors.

Personality Disorders &Emotionally Abusive Men & Women

It is also known that many emotionally abusive men and women have a type of mental illness known as a personality disorder. Personality disorders are estimated to affect about 10-15% of the population. In the case of a personality disorder, a person develops hurtful and maladaptive patterns of thought and behavior that are consistent throughout their lifetime.

Three personality disorders are linked to emotionally abusive behavior are:   

  • Narcissistic personality disorder – this disorder involves the perception of being grandiose and requiring the admiration of others. People with narcissistic personality disorder exaggerate their own accomplishments, have a sense of entitlement, exploit others, lack empathy, envy others and are arrogant.   
  • Antisocial personality disorder – this disorder shows a pattern of disregard for the rights of others and the rules of society. People with antisocial personality disorder tend to lie, be aggressive, disregard safety, violate the law and have a lack of remorse.
  • Borderline personality disorder – this disorder involves intense and unstable relationships, self-perception and moods. People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) tend to have poor impulse control. People with BPD frantically avoid abandonment, are impulsive, are suicidal or self-harming, feel empty, feel inappropriate anger and may be paranoid.

I hope you people who are convinced you are some counter-culture radicals soon realize you are being manipulated, mentally abused and gaslighted by the establishment.

Is Poor Sleep Posture Causing Your Back Pain?

The spine is a column of 24 individual bones called vertebrae that support the body’s weight and protect the spinal cord. Spinal disks, located between the vertebrae, hold the spine in shape and act as shock absorbers. The spine has three natural curves if viewed from the side of the body. These are the cervical (neck area) curve, the thoracic (upper back) curve and the lumbar (lower back) curve. These three curves give the spine an “S” shape when viewed from the side of the body. When viewed from the front or back of the body, a healthy spine forms a straight line.

Good posture refers to a body position that keeps the spine in the natural shape described above. Good posture reduces strain on the muscles and ligaments of the spine, and prevents muscular pain(9). Unfortunately, common sleeping positions often lead to poor sleeping posture and neck and back pain when sleeping(1,4,6,7).

Side Sleeping Posture

The side sleeping position is considered the most popular. In this sleep position, the spine maintains its natural S shape, which promotes good sleep posture. Normal side sleeping does have some disadvantages though. When the body is lying on its side, gravity pulls the spine from its naturally straight shape (when viewed from the front or back of the body). This can lead the neck and lower back regions of the spine to bend toward the sleep surface and cause neck or back pain when sleeping. Side sleeping may also result in lower back strain due to over-rotation of the pelvis.

The key to proper posture in this position is to keep the spine in a straight line (when viewed from the front or back of the body). Traditional head pillows can raise the head at excessive angles, but sleeping without a pillow typically results in a lack of support. To maintain the spines straight shape, a neck support pillow should support both the head and neck and position them parallel to the bed. To prevent strain in the lower back, a support pillow should be provided beneath the waist and under the upper leg. By positioning the spine in a straight shape and the legs parallel to each other, the body maintains good posture by raising the lower back into alignment and preventing excessive rotation of the pelvis(1,4,6,7).

Back Sleeping Posture

This sleep position is the second most popular as it is preferred by approximately 30% of people. The typical back sleeping position places strain on the lower back and neck. Normally, the buttocks and the upper back are in contact with the sleep surface, while the lower back is minimally supported. This posture can strain the lower back and cause pain and discomfort. Traditional pillows often provide minimal neck support and induce neck strain in this position.

To achieve better sleep posture, research studies and leading medical institutions recommend supporting the neck, lower back, and knees during back sleep. Placing a support pillow between the neck and sleep surface will maintain the cervical curve of the spine. Placing a support pillow under the lower back and knees reduces strain on the lumbar curve of the lower back. The use of a neck support pillow can improve support for the curvical curve of the spine. Altogether, these practices distribute the force of gravity across the length of the spine and reduce the probability neck or back pain during sleep(1,4,6,7).

Stomach Sleeping Posture

For adults, this sleep position places the greatest degree of stress on the spine. Perhaps for that reason, it is the least common. Stomach sleeping, especially on soft surfaces, forces the lumbar curve of the lower back into a flattened position. This is known to cause muscle strain and can lead to lower back pain. Stomach sleeping also forces rotation of the head which can result in strain to the neck. Medical professionals often encourage stomach sleepers to try to adopt another sleep position for these reasons.

People who prefer this sleep position can prevent muscle strain by making changes to their sleep posture. Placing a back support pillow under the pelvis will raise lower back and help maintain the lumbar curve. Individuals who experience neck discomfort should consider placing a pillow support under the shoulder on the side to which the head is turned - this will reduce the degree of head and neck rotation(1,4,6,7).C

Via: TruContour. Sleep System (2014)

B.A.P as Dog Breeds

What breed of dog would they be? Based on the personality of the idol and dog, not looks. ^^

Yongguk – Spinone Italiano

Even-tempered and dependable, these dogs exude a quiet strength. They have an almost dual personality based on its work and home life. In appearance they are serious and almost have a wise grandfatherly-type air. When relaxing with their people they are silly and playful, even goofy at times. Working in the field they are relentless and methodical, never tiring until their goal is met. They may not have the flash that some of the other hunting dogs possess but they get the job done remarkably well nonetheless. It’s important to socialize this breed or they can be prone to shyness.

Himchan – Standard Dachshund

These outgoing and lively dogs get very attached to their families. They adore comfort and require minimal exercise, often preferring to be curled up in warm blankets during their downtime. Although usually good with other dogs they can get irritable if pushed too far. Jealousy and possessiveness over things they view as theirs are also common traits. These dogs absolutely need companionship. Depriving them of affection leads to depression and loneliness. This breed is stubborn but very smart and sensitive to harsh criticism.

Daehyun – Jack Russell Terrier

High. Energy. This breed needs people and activity or they can get destructive. They can be exceedingly vocal and while they are good dogs, a lot of control and direction needs to be applied to keep them on course. Typically cheerful yet brash, they sometimes rush into situations without much thought. Hard workers, they are quite clever and pick up on training very quickly, especially with food motivation. While generally amiable they have a strong prey drive and can sometimes antagonize other dogs.

Youngjae – Schipperke

If the dog world had an official smart ass it would be this dog. More than just fox-like in appearance, these jovial little guys are exceptionally clever and alert. They are always watchful of their surroundings and quite capable of out thinking you or taking advantage of being indulged. Mischievous and stubborn with clear cut preferences and tastes, this breed will get downright sassy (but not mean) with its people if it doesn’t agree with something. Despite their willfulness they are quite sensitive and do not like being teased or harshly trained.

Jongup – Newfoundland

Newfies are generally sweet, quiet, shy, and their calm disposition frequently attracts people to them. As a working breed they need a job to give them purpose and will happily handle any task set before them. Very kind and gentle they get along with almost everyone. However they do possess an independent streak so they are not easily pushed around if they don’t like something. While not as clingy as some of the ‘velcro’ breeds they are social creatures that need their people around them. Despite their powerful build they have a sensitive heart and mind that should never be handled with a heavy hand.

Zelo – Greyhound

This breed is reserved one moment and startlingly athletic the next. All dogs run but no other breed is as fast as this one. They are extremely loyal to their people and prefer to stay with them rather than interact with strangers, although they are exceedingly polite when made to do so. To build their confidence they need gentle exposure to many different situations. Greyhounds don’t do well in stressful environments and freeze when spooked or touched unexpectedly. Playful and sensitive they need positive reinforcement when training for best results and personal growth.

All About Context

“So, what do you think of Victoire Weasley?”

The steady scratch of Teddy Lupin’s quill came to an abrupt halt.

“Fit,” came the reply. He didn’t need to twist around to identify the speakers; they shared his dormitory. “Especially for a fourth year. Why?”

Adam Kennet’s voice was so confident it was bordering on smug, which instantly made Teddy want to hit him. “I was thinking of asking her to Hogsmeade.”

Teddy’s quill dropped softly onto his parchment. He was so intent on listening to the conversation that he failed to notice the ink slowly seeping across the essay he’d been working on for an hour and a half. After all, his friends were being inappropriate - minor concerns like studying for his N.E.W.T.s took a backseat to such offenses.

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anonymous asked:

I was wondering if you could go in depth about autistic people who need help doing cretin things like going to the bathroom,washing hair, remembering to eat, ect. You don't really hear about that much I and I would like to learn more about people with autism who have trouble with task that for most people are 'simple'. I often forget to eat/drink because i don't notice I'm hungry

Hi anon. This is a very big topic that is difficult for me to write about here, seeing as how every autistic person is different and will have different disabilities and difficulties.

There are lots of daily tasks that neurotypical and able bodied people tend to think of as simple or easy but that can pose real challenges for autistic, neuro-atypical, and disabled people. Many of these are what is known as “self care skills”. Personal hygiene (brushing ones teeth, showering/bathing, dressing, etc.) and basic homemaking (preparing food/meals, cleaning counters and sinks, sweeping/vacuuming, maintaining a tidy living environment, etc.) make up most of the “self care skills” people talk about.

There is a stigma surrounding those who, for whatever reason, need assistance or accommodation with self-care skills. This is partly because of a lack of understanding or empathy on the part of the able bodied/neurotypical majority. The able bodied/neurotypical thinking appears to be something like, “I learned to brush my teeth when I was four, and I have never had any trouble brushing my teeth, so idea of someone who does have trouble brushing their teeth is confusing/pitiable/unbelievable to me”.

I think another part of the stigma is that many of the self care skills people talk about were “supposed” to be learned and mastered in childhood. The able majority is all about the normative milestones, and there is a definite link in the average able/neurotypical person’s mind between the mastery of self care skills and adulthood. This means that disabled people who struggle with or who need accommodation to perform self care skills are often infantilized and presumed to be less competent overall, even in areas where they display no disabilities or challenges.

When it comes to autistic people specifically, there are many reasons that self care, like showering or remembering to eat or drink, might be difficult. In my mind the three biggest reasons are sensory processing issues (SPD), executive function issues (executive dysfunction), and comorbid conditions (other disorders or conditions that are also present).

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Allergy season.

Most people found their soulmates during allergy season. It wasn’t the most romantic thing, sneezing at the same time as someone to find out if they’re made for you, but it was something that made everyone’s hopes rise during the season of pollen.

It was a time that was a source of mixed emotions for Marinette. She loved the riots of blooms emerging from warm soil, she loved the hopeful light in everyone’s eyes as winter washed away, leaving everything clean and new. She loved that giddy feeling too. The feeling that the person who was made for her could appear at any moment.

She hated it for two reasons. One, she had a raging pollen allergy. She sneezed every two seconds. But all of those sneezes had been unmatched all her life. The second reason was a fairly new thing but it was one that set her on fire. Chloe’s allergies had come in far earlier than anyone else’s and she was doing all she could to sneeze with Adrien. Adrien, however, was not a victim of pollen allergies. So she had taken to waving feather beneath his nose when her nose tingled.

So when Marinette woke up with her first stuffy nose of Spring, she was, needless to say, a little pissed.

“Don’t forget your medication!” Tikki dropped the pill into her hand.

‘Ugh. It’s only the first day, Tikki. I know I told you it would be bad but you don’t need to worry.” Marinette brushed the kwami away as she tucked her hair into pigtails.

“Paris doesn’t need a sick Ladybug.” Tikki scolded.

“I’m not achoo! sick.” Marinette groaned, rubbing her nose.

“Sure.” Tikki giggled. “You’re late for school.”

She groaned again, shoving her sketchbook into her bad before rushing down the stairs.

“You’re late for school, cheri!” Sabine cried, urging Marinette out the door.

Marinette’s sneeze could cause an earthquake throughout Paris.

“Oh dear, let me get your med-”

“No, Mama, I’ll be late!” She pressed a kiss to each of her parents’ cheeks before rushing out into the morning air.


Achoo! Adrien groaned as another sneezed rocked his body.

“Dude, what’s up? You catch a cold?” Nino inclined his head.

“I have no idea, I’ve been sneezing all morning.” Adrien rubbed his nose as it tingled.

“Seasonal allergies?”

“Don’t usually have them.” He shrugged.

“Maybe your soulmate has allergies.” Nino winked.

Adrien’s heart fluttered. Was Ladybug sneezing away somewhere in Paris or was it another person who was made for him?

He had pretty much ignored the soulmate thing until the pollen season began this year. Sure, people caught colds during the rest of the year, but often, everyone’s sneezes were minimal. Very few people find their perfect matches in seasons beside Spring.

This month, everyone’s been finding their other halves. Kim and Alix, Rose and Juleka, and about hundreds of other Parisians.

Seemed easy, sneeze, find the person whose soul called to yours. The catch was you had to have physically seen the person before. The sight triggered some recognition in your soul, which in turn, synced your… sneezes.

Adrien didn’t know about all that. All he cared was that Ladybug was his soulmate and he could be finding out soon.

The sound of someone crashing to the floor jolted him from his reverie. The sight that greeted him brought an amused smile to his face. Alya was helping Marinette up,  who had taken a dive to the floor.

“You okay?” Alya laughed as Marinette rolled her eyes.

He sighed, she was never like that around him. He didn’t know what he did. Maybe she was still upset about the chewing gum thing. Her grudge seemed to impair her ability to speak full sentences, apparently.

His nose tingled as he stuffed it into the inside of his elbow, prepared for the sneeze. It came out like a small burst but still made him a little lightheaded.

He sighed, wondering if this would last all season.


Marinette couldn’t stop staring at Adrien. She was so shocked that she couldn’t even move, forcing Alya to lead her to their seat.

She was boring blatant holes in the back of his head in her seat, completely drowning out the teacher with her own thoughts.

Could it be?

Could Adrien Agreste be her soulmate?

sneeze soulmate AU bc why the fuck not

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