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You most certainly do indeed

anonymous asked:

As a gay man, do you find the term 'yaoi' offensive? I'm trying to prove a point to my friend

I mean… not really? If anything, it just weirds me out a little, but that mostly depends on the context in which it’s used, I guess? At the end of the day it’s just a word, lol. Not a term I’d ever use, and it just sounds/looks a little odd to me whenever I see/hear it, but it doesn’t upset me or anything, if that’s what you’re thinking.

Idk what point you’re trying to prove, but I hope my answer at least made sense. XD I mean, I’m not a spokesperson for all gay men, either, that’s just my opinion on the matter. I know that some people get offended because there are cases in which others simply use it to ‘ridiculously sexualize’ us or whatever, but all in all, I really don’t see the point in getting your knickers in a knot over it, y’know? I’m pretty sure that most people that use it aren’t trying to be offensive or anything (but yes, sometimes there are people that can be kiiinda creepy about it, and in cases like that, I understand why that might upset somebody). 

Overall, it’s really just a word, and words only carry the weight we give them. I guess just try not to be ridiculously offended/overreact over it for those of you seeing it, and try not to be creepy for those of you who use it. Idk, lol

Unfucking Dungeons & Dragons

The concept of some humanoid or near-humanoid species being naturally inclined to evil is a racist one, and, unfortunately, a prevalent one in Dungeons & Dragons, exacerbated by the fact that these “evil species” are frequently the “ugly” ones. Drow are a particularly glaring example - “made black because of their ‘evil’”?! Fuck you - but the duergar - “the slaves … learned only to enslave, really makes you think don’t it” - and the orcs - “they feel the CALL to evil in their Gruumshy HEARTS” - are also super not good. (There’s also a fair degree of ableism, with “insane” monsters - in such cases, I honestly think “unaligned” would be a better description for “too far gone to understand morality”. Evil implies a choice.)
Honestly, I wouldn’t mind so much if these weren’t supposed to be naturally-occurring species - always evil demons or fey are fine, because they’re made of magic and stories, although care should of course be taken not to make them look like naturally-occurring species - but elves are really just fragile pointy-eared monkeys, and they have excuses.
However, these evil humanoids are also genre staples and often quite aesthetically good. To that end, I offer the Unfucking D&D Guide, which provides what I think are solutions to this problem. (It should be noted that I am whiter than plain yogurt, so my ideas should be taken with a grain of salt and definitely not take precedence over the ideas of non-white folks. If I’ve said something fucked-up in this, please let me know and I’ll fix it.)

  • Duergar. Keep the “enslaved by illithids, made grim & psionic” bit, toss the “learnt evil from them” part. The duergar are joyless, or can appear so - you can play them either as gloomy and fatalistic or as eccentric and unreasonably concerned with “corruption” - but despite whatever mood they possess, make sure that they are thoroughly dedicated to making sure the horrors of the Underdark stay in the Underdark, and are as righteous and honorable as their hill and mountain cousins.
  • Derro. The derro are an “insane” species; I bring them up only because I saw them confused with duergar in one post about racism in D&D. Their lore has not been constant - the current lore is “dwarves enslaved by illithids, tortured into madness, and now they’re eeeeeeeevil”, which is ableist, not racist - but their metatextual origin is among the detrimental robots, or Deros, of pulp author Richard Sharpe Shaver’s stories (or possibly delusions). “Born from the dreams of a mad author” would actually be good lore if you can make that author a tragic sufferer of schizophrenia in a time before it was understood rather than an ~*~eViL mAdMaN~*~, but in any event, change their type to construct, fey, or fiend, and, most importantly, don’t take them seriously. The derro are pulp villains, and their evil is grandiose and nonsensical. They ought not to be seen as realistic; they ought to be seen as Snidely Whiplash, Commander Claw, or Heinz Doofenshmirtz. “Reasons” are for other genres.
  • Drow. Return drow to their mythical roots as trow, nocturnal hunters, tricksters, and magical artisans dwelling in the hollow hills. There’s high and wood elves; dark elves can find a niche. Lolthite culture is good villain fodder, but make sure that you can handle an “evil religion”, and make sure that all types of elves participate.
  • Goblinoids and trolls. Make them fey, and abandon Tolkien for Rossetti and folktale. Goblins make cruel bargains; hobgoblins attend faerie courts; bugbears hide in closets and create electricity from feed on children’s screams; trolls lurk under bridges and love riddles. As fey, they’re not evil, simply alien and lacking in empathy towards mortals.
  • Gnolls. If you use the Volo’s lore, change their type to fiend and be done with it. If you want to have them be natural humanoids, go read Ursula Vernon’s Digger for the best-written hyaena-furries in literature and base gnolls off that once you’re done crying.
  • Kobolds. Kobolds are already draconic cleaner wrasses in lore; there’s no reason that metallic dragons can’t enjoy them as well and influence some populations to good.
  • Illithids. The mind flayers certainly have great potential as villains. However, there is nothing about their psychology that impels them thither. Their biological requirements could easily be met by feeding on those close to death, whom I might imagine would willingly donate their brains as food or tadpole incubators in exchange for a painless death and the surety that their memories would live on in the illithid. Also, create food and water spells exist.
  • Ogres. Ogres are wilderness-dwellers who prefer to maintain their personal territories through fear instead of actual force of arms; the idea of the monstrous, anthropophagous ogre is a deliberate sham. They are actually capable of great heroism, even if they aren’t exactly the sharpest tools in the shed and okay to be honest I started out trying to build up to a Shrek joke but I think I’d take this over canon lore.
  • Orcs. Orcs are an easy fix; all you need to do is remove Gruumsh from the equation and they don’t have a bullshit “call to evil”; in Eberron, without objective gods, the people of the Shadow Marches believe that half-orcs are the proof that orcs and humans are one people, so there’s even in-game precedent for orcs as members of society.
  • Yuan-ti. There are two ways to do this. One is to dump all the lore and just have sexy snake cults, although don’t dress them like Asian or Aztec stereotypes like a lot of the art does. (The 3.5 Monster Manual yuan-ti pureblood looks like she’s constantly accompanied by an inappropriate bamboo flute riff, I swear to Istus.) A sexy snake cult (and I am including malisons, abominations, and anathemas in the term “sexy”, not just purebloods) should be fun for everyone.
    • The other way is to keep their personalities and dump everything else, because if you keep that, you get truly excellent villains. I mean, these fuckers. How dare they drag something as pure as snakes into their Ayn Rand bullshit. Villain yuan-ti should be something transformed from willing or deluded humanoids (histachii raise the sacred snakes and the children of the yuan-ti, who possess their parents’ original race at birth). Couple that with the fact that since snakes very definitely have emotions, yuan-ti logically should as well, which means that they only think they’re above emotions. Now you have Objectivists roped into a magical pyramid scheme, which should offend no-one who doesn’t deserve it. You can mourn for the beings they once were, or just laugh in their dumb faces. Also, the sexy ones all look like Ayn Rand.
The Emotional Glo Up

Some glo ups aren’t always physical. Some are mental & emotional. Here are my first tips to help you glo up emotionally, baby.

1.) Get rid of niggas who don’t fucking care about you. I can’t stress this enough. Some boys don’t give a shit about you. “Oh, I don’t want a relationship” usually means “I don’t want you, but let me just keep you on the side for validation and usage”. 

2.) Stop comparing yourself, hoe. You’re cute as hell.

3.) It’s okay to think highly of yourself. You fucking matter. You really do. If your confidence makes someone uncomfortable/offended, then THEY’RE the ones with the issue, not you.

4.) Self care. Self care. Self care. And, it doesn’t have to be doing your nails or getting your edges laid. It can literally be watching movies all night or crying. As long as you feel okay, at the end of the day, you took care of yourself.

5.) You can’t please everyone, boo. Don’t hurt yourself trying to get everyone to like you.

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EDIT: Ok I did that late at night yesterday and failed to do my research about the Hindi thing. I was sure it was synonym with Indian, but as that one rings weird to my Latina ears I made that decision. Sorry about that and sorry if it offended anyone. Please reblog THIS ONE now.

(and about the “kid” in McCree and only took it out because “Architect kid” sounds awful. But I stand by the “kid”. “Kid” is the best word ever. You can be a “kid” even if you’re on your 60s. You just have to be a little younger than the person. It’s the ultimate condescension and I love it)

medical au where yuuri and phichit are pediatric nurses who bond over their favorite animals!! ( 。・ ∀ ・。)人(。・ ∀ ・。 )

(more of the yoi medical au here)

  • wattpad fanfic: so he's a serial killer who has fallen in love with me after he kidnapped me but he won't tell me about his dark and tragic past so he turned to drugs and he physically abuses me but it's okay bc we sleep together like every other chapter
  • deviantart fanfic: *inserts an OC into the canon universe*
  • Quotev fantic: my name is [insert author's first name here] Payne/Purdy/Quinn/Fuentes/Barakat/Irwin/ect. and my parents hate me so they're making my brother take me on tour with him and his band and I fell in love with his bandmate who helped me conquer my depression and now I'm pregnant with his baby and my brother wants to kill us both
  • AO3 fanfics: literally the most well-written stories you'll ever have the privilege to read. better than most classic literature. you've read published novels that weren't this beautiful. you feel like a better person after having read this story.
  • fanfiction.net fanfics: stories that tried and came close but weren't good enough for AO3
  • tumblr fanfic: *all of the above*