things to remember:
  • there will always be a tomorrow
  • nearly all problems are fixable
  • even your smallest achievements are something to be proud of
  • being alone can be exactly what you need sometimes
  • always get back up, no matter what it is that pushes you down
  • new opportunities will come along
  • you are not alone
  • you are valid
  • you are loved
  • and you are going to be okay.

Pretty boys with greasy curly hair & wolf smiles buying me drinks

Raw girls who don’t know how to forgive their mother holding my hand

Fragile in their vulgarity with shimmering nail polish 

And eyes teary from too much vodka

They all make me feel

Bad about myself

You said my tenderness was your shelter

So everyday I find new ways

To burn it down to the fucking ground

I carry this grief in my bosom

Like a mother protecting her baby

While you’re bleeding into

Somebody else’s mattress

Stars glowing like claw marks in the sky

All this time

They were warning me about the danger of

Being the stranger nobody knows what to do with

I know that this world only takes

Attributes The Signs Should Develop & Tendencies They Should Let go of


Attributes to Develop

  • Independence
  • Self-awareness
  • Trusting one’s instinct
  • Courage
  • Moderation in giving

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Being Mr. or Mrs. nice
  • Attachment to fairness & justice
  • Seeing oneself through someone else’s eyes
  • Having a “tit for tat” mentality


Attributes to Develop

  • Loyalty
  • Awareness of boundaries
  • Taking things one step at a time
  • A sense of self-worth
  • Awareness of personal values
  • Patience
  • Honoring the needs of others and yourself
  • Gratitude
  • Forgiveness

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Getting into other people’s personal life
  • Attraction to crisis situations
  • Inappropriate intensity
  • Judgmental tendencies
  • Having a “my way or the highway” mentality when working with others
  • Overreacting
  • OCD tendencies


Attributes to Develop

  • Healthy curiosity
  • Seeing both sides of a situation
  • Logic
  • Talking about your feeling to someone you trust
  • A positive approach to life as well as other people
  • A nonthreatening approach when expressing new ideas
  • Listening
  • Open-mindedness
  • Seeking factual information before making decisions

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Self-righteousness
  • Aloofness
  • Assuming people can read your mind
  • Needing to always be right!
  • Speaking the “truth” without taking other’s feelings into account
  • Careless spontaneity
  • Taking shortcuts
  • Taking yourself much too seriously
  • Prejudging present situations on the basis of past experience


Attributes to Develop

  • Noticing & validating one’s feelings
  • Empathy
  • Being honest about your feelings & insecurities
  • Independence
  • Humility
  • Accepting other people’s emotions

Tendencies to Let go of

  • The need to be in control of everything surrounding you, that includes people
  • Acting before you think
  • Feeling completely responsible for everything
  • Doing everything that is “socially acceptable” rather than doing what is truly honest
  • Thinking things have to be challenging to be important
  • Caring for others’ feelings and neglecting your own


Attributes to Develop

  • Individuality
  • Willingness to take “center stage”
  • Following your heart’s desires
  • Strengthening your willpower
  • Enthusiasm
  • Self-confidence
  • Taking risks
  • Relating to the childish actions from others
  • Enjoying life
  • Looking at life as if it’s a game

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Accepting peer pressure in order to “belong”
  • Detaching yourself from emotional situations
  • Aloofness
  • Waiting for others to prompt your own actions
  • “Overlooking” the reality of a situation
  • Waiting for more knowledge before taking action
  • Excessive daydreaming
  • Running away from confrontations


Attributes to Develop

  • Participation
  • Bringing order to chaos
  • Creating routines
  • Living in the moment
  • Selflessness
  • Being caring to others
  • Analyzing and categorizing
  • Moderation
  • Taking risks in spite of your fears
  • Noticing and valuing details

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Having a victim consciousness
  • Confusion
  • Not planning ahead
  • Escapism
  • Oversensitivity
  • Self-doubt
  • Feelings of being worthless
  • Withdrawal
  • Vagueness
  • Giving up


Attributes to Develop

  • Cooperation
  • Tact
  • Increasing awareness to other people’s emotions
  • Selflessness
  • Creating win/win situations
  • Sharing
  • Seeing certain things through another’s eyes
  • Communicating self-identity

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Impulsiveness
  • Thoughts of self-assertion
  • Lack of awareness to others need of support
  • Self-centeredness
  • Lack of good judgement regarding money
  • Expecting others to be like yourself
  • Indifference to how one is seen by others
  • Outbursts of anger
  • Over concern with survival


Attributes to Develop

  • Self-discipline
  • Choosing constructive change
  • Releasing whatever is holding you back from enjoying yourself
  • Getting rid of non useful items
  • Enjoying things without owning them
  • Accepting support from others (ideas, opportunities, etc.)
  • Open-mindedness

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Possessiveness
  • Questioning past decisions
  • Stubbornness
  • Doing things the hard way when there is obviously a easier way
  • Resistance to change at the expense of other people


Attributes to Develop

  • Reliance on intuition
  • Selflessness
  • Trusting yourself
  • Spending time alone in nature
  • Patience
  • Hearing the meaning behind the words

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Indecisiveness
  • Second-guessing what others are thinking
  • Gossiping
  • Saying what others want to hear
  • Invalidating intuitive knowledge with logic
  • Perpetually seeking more information
  • Impatience
  • Trusting other people
  • Not including other people


Attributes to Develop

  • Self-control
  • Self-respect
  • Staying goal oriented
  • Sensible approaches to problem solving
  • Self-care
  • Keeping commitments and promises
  • Accepting responsibility for success
  • Letting go of the past
  • Approaching life from an adult position

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Dependence
  • Moodiness
  • Insecurity leading to inaction
  • Limiting yourself because of fear
  • Using the past to avoid the present
  • Isolation
  • Lack of self-respect
  • Avoidance to change
  • Controlling others through emotional overreaction


  • Attributes to Develop
  • Desire for friendship
  • Willingness to share unconventional  ideas
  • Making good decisions in the group’s best interest
  • Awareness of equality
  • Active participation in groups
  • Relating to others as individuals
  • Creating win/win situations
  • Recognizing how others are special

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Insistence on getting your way
  • Making changes to exercise authority
  • Attachment to taking risks
  • Melodramatic tendencies
  • Doing what’s expected of you instead of following your heart
  • Prideful responses based on fear


Attributes to Develop

  • Being non judgmental
  • Compassion
  • Focusing on the spiritual pathway
  • Trusting in positive outcomes
  • Welcoming change with open arms
  • Meditation and self-awareness

Tendencies to Let go of

  • Inflexibility
  • Hypersensitivity reactions
  • Overanalysis
  • Obsessive worry
  • Exaggerating the importance of details
  • Critical first reactions
  • Being Mr. or Mrs. perfect
  • Staying in unpleasant situations

- You know I trust you, Icarus. We have waited enough, until we were sure this was going to work. This will work.
- …I-I know. This *has* to work…
- Are you alright?

- …No…I’m scared, Dandy…what if it goes wrong, what if…?
- Then you will do what we talked about.
- B-but-
- You promised me.
- …This will work…One way or another.

who are you / now that my name
is no longer shaking holes into your mouth?

I asked for the rain to come and here
it is now. here we are, now.

                                    I mean, I could never
write about love until I forgot what the letters
tasted like. how the syllables felt concrete-heavy
weighing down on my tongue. forget the fog. don’t

you sometimes want the sky to just
open up above you? aren’t you sick of
being kindling & not burning? God, doesn’t

anyone know
how to feel anymore?

                                            your love,

and my glasses in the boot of your car. an empty
mug. your hand fisted in the folds of my
collar, dragging me relentlessly towards a
kind of tragedy. no one in the theatre, but
we still play our parts like the whole world is watching.

I’m talking about the first time
you kissed me / my whole body like a crime scene.

this is my empire of things.

there aren’t enough red words to elaborate
further. but i’m unsketching the angular curve
to your jaw that used to fit against my palm.
i’m unwriting your anatomy from this
poem. I mean it / i mean it / I mean it.

where were you when I was kind?

Yves Olade, The Cathedral

Hello everybody! My name is Icarus. Nice to meet you all.

Maybe some of you remember me from the m!a, isn’t it? It was some time ago… After that, Dandy and I became separated beings, and I have been all this time in heaven doing paperwork to become an official angel. Now I came back to Earth to help my dear brother and his friends, so I will answer questions for you guys! I hope to befriends with everybody!


Tell yourself
One more day
Or tomorrow
Is non-existent
At the cost of
Being complacent
And to no other
But your own.

- J. Pigno