You did not deserve the trauma.
You are not responsible for what your abuser did.
You are innocent. You deserve love, support, and a life full of nothing but happy days.
Don’t ever let yourself think it was your fault that those bad things happened.
It wasn’t your fault.
Talking to a guy who knows my parents but doesn’t know me very well, and he tells me that his friend (indeed, a very nice and talented actor) recently put out a horror movie. And I’m interested until I hear the words “So it’s about this guy with OCD…” and at that point my mom and I give each other a sidelong glance.
I say, “I don’t know, because I have OCD and it’s a pretty serious thing for me.”
To which he follows up, “Oh, you don’t have it like this guy! You’re totally functional!”
Okay, dude. Yes, I am standing before you in a fancy club, dressed nice, and looking relatively balanced. But you do not know me. You do not know OCD.
You do not know that I have been non-functional, and that in order to maintain my current balance of sanity, I take daily medication and see a weekly therapist, and I still have downward spirals and panic attacks.
OCD can add to a story, for sure. The Aviator is a great example–albeit, it was on the voyeuristic side, kind of “check out what a weirdo this guy really is”, but his condition was portrayed in a realistic and *sympathetic* manner, because it focused so hard on his anxiety and entrapment.
I don’t need a horror movie about my disorder for a couple reasons.
1. I already live the horror movie that is OCD.
2. Just like people with psychosis, schizophrenia/schizotypal disorders, dissociative identity disorders, and any other number of mental disorder that makes us act in unusual and yes, sometimes frightening ways, I don’t need it to be the hinge for your horror flick, a handy device that makes more people like you scared and misunderstanding of people like me.
3. And for people with the above disorders who may not be diagnosed, they don’t need to be told that they are dangerous monsters and cause them to avoid treatment out of fear. (This goes double for people who experience paranoia or delusions as part of their symptoms.)
This post ended up way longer than I meant, but really, truly, hear me out creators:
MENTAL ILLNESS IS A TRAIT AMONG AN INFINITE VARIETY OF PEOPLE. IT IS NOT A CHARACTER FLAW, AND IT IS DEFINITELY A POOR PLOT DEVICE FOR THE HORROR GENRE. YOU CAN DO BETTER.
As a person with OCD,
what I love about the way Shiro treats Slav is how well Shiro navigates the
fine line between keeping his priorities straight and respecting what Slav has
to deal with.
Slav can’t help his
anxieties and ridiculous-seeming coping mechanisms, but he is unnecessarily obnoxious about them, and the situation is
extremely dangerous and time-sensitive.
circumstances, Shiro would be expected to just toss Slav over
his shoulder and charge ahead to complete the mission, but he showed an
incredible amount of patience and tried to accommodate Slav as best he could,
never once mocking or belittling him. (I think he can be forgiven some
frustrated incredulity, given the urgent circumstances.)
Even when Shiro
finally did lose his last scrap of patience, he still struck me as being
strangely respectful despite his exasperation.
“We’re traveling by teludav. So just count
your hair follicles or fluff a pillow, or whatever you need to do to make sure
we survive the wormhole trip in this reality!”
way I interpreted that was Shiro basically saying, “I have a
responsibility to keep my kids people safe and complete this extremely important
mission. Within those limits, I am totally fine with you doing whatever you
need to do so that you feel as safe as you can in this situation, which is
probably even more stressful for you than it is for the rest of us.”
There’s no real judgment, just prioritizing what’s truly important while delineating
a space where Slav can cope with his anxiety.
also seems to be keeping the possibility open that all of Slav’s fretting about
alternate realities might actually be legit. XD Even though he himself probably
doesn’t believe it, he still gives Slav the benefit of the doubt instead of
automatically writing him off as crazy.
I love Shiro. Kudos to the people who wrote his
lines in these episodes.