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Sibling Abuse in ACOTAR

I am writing this post to deal with the misconceptions about what constitutes sibling abuse in the ACOTAR fandom. When replying to this post, it is very important to keep the discussion polite and respectful. Please also consider that the trivializing and belittling of this subject can have a negative impact on survivors of this abuse who are reading your comments. I would also request that we leave other characters out of these discussions, especially if they have no bearing on the topic. When using information from one of my sources, I will use a number that I assigned to that source. A separate post with information from different articles will be posted and tagged “sibling abuse sources”, and labeled by the same numbers. I will also be using direct quotes from ACOTAR. I am writing this post in between different school and regular work, so I did not have time to detail the parental abuse (mostly in the form of neglect) also found in ACOTAR. I will only touch on it and its tie to the sibling abuse. If needed, I will do a post on other familial abuse later. I am a survivor of familial abuse – both parental and sibling. Unlike Feyre, the abuse I suffered was physical as well. When reading this post remember that I have a lot of experience with this topic, and that others who read it and your comments may too.

           Family violence is awful in all its forms, but is usually depicted inaccurately with men as just perpetrators and women solely as victims of abusive family acts. This study’s findings indicate that there are no gender differences related to surviving sibling abuse or perpetrating emotional and physical abuse among siblings (3). There are three factors to consider when defining sibling abuse - perception, intent, and severity. Perception refers to how each sibling sees the interaction. If one sibling involved in the sibling relationship views the behavior as abusive, there is a dynamic beyond normal sibling rivalry (3). Intent refers to what a sibling hoped to accomplish through an action or behavior. When sibling abuse is present, the intent of the perpetrating sibling is primarily to cause harm. Severity is related to the duration and intensity of the sibling behavior. As severity increases there is greater chance that the sibling relationship is abusive. Perception, intent, and severity exist within three primary categories of sibling abuse: psychological, physical, and sexual (3). Psychological abuse is typically not recognized by parents and is often dismissed as normal sibling rivalry. This type of abuse includes belittling, intimidation, provocation, destroying possessions, and torturing/killing pets. Psychological abuse is different from “normal” behavior based on consistency and intensity. Examples would include words and actions expressing degradation and contempt that have an impact on the sense of well-being (insecurity and self-esteem) of a sibling, such as daily harassing statements like, “No one in this family cares about you and we would all be happier if you were dead” (3).

           The most prominent perpetrator of sibling abuse in ACOTAR is Nesta. There are numerous words and actions found in the beginning of ACOTAR that support this statement. One of the most prominent instances, was this exchange between the sisters, “What do you know?” Nesta breathed. “You’re just a half-wild beast with the nerve to bark orders at all hours of the day and night. Keep it up, and someday—someday, Feyre, you’ll have no one left to remember you, or to care that you ever existed.” She stormed off, Elain darting after her, cooing her sympathy. They slammed the door to the bedroom hard enough to rattle the dishes. I’d heard the words before—and knew she only repeated them because I’d flinched that first time she spat them. They still burned anyway.” The last insult she told Feyre is almost identical to the example given by Source 3, “No one in this family cares about you and we would all be happier if you were dead”. The text shows that Nesta had said similar hurtful statements before, and said them knowing that they emotionally hurt Feyre. By analyzing this exchange with the three aspects of sibling abuse in mind, this exchange is clearly psychologically abusive. Feyre clearly perceives this as a verbal/emotional attack, and the words Nesta use greatly wounds Feyre emotionally. Nesta’s intent in this situation is also clear – she is seeking to hurt Feyre. Nesta is looking to wound Feyre for her disapproving of Nesta’s possible marriage proposal. Nesta uses this specific phrase because she has used it in the past and knew it had hurt Feyre’s feelings. The last aspect of sibling abuse, severity, is also evidenced by this exchange. Nesta has used almost those exact words to hurt Feyre before, and she actively looks for ways to wound Feyre emotionally, as evidenced by more quotes found from the book.

           More exchanges that reek of abuse found in ACOTAR include, “… so you can have enough time to paint your glorious masterpieces.” She sneered at the pillar of foxglove I’d painted along the edge of the table…” In this quote from Nesta, she is knowingly and purposefully mocking the only activity Feyre enjoys – painting. Her sneering at Feyre’s work also highlights just how sarcastic Nesta’s words are when she called Feyre’s painting masterpieces. Sarcasm on its own is not abuse, but when paired with Nesta’s actions (like trying to hurt Feyre’s self-esteem and pride of her artwork) shows that Nesta has the intent to emotionally wound Feyre. And Nesta succeeds in her attempt to belittle Feyre’s art, “I drowned the urge to cover up the painting with my hand. Maybe tomorrow I’d just scrape it off the table altogether.” Nesta’s next psychological abuse tactic is to humiliate Feyre in front of their father and other sister by exposing Feyre’s sexual activity and trying to use it to shame her. “She added with a small smile, “At least I don’t have to resort to rutting in the hay with Isaac Hale like an animal.” My father let out an embarrassed cough, looking to his cot by the fire. He’d never said a word against Nesta, from either fear or guilt, and apparently, he wasn’t going to start now, even if this was the first he was hearing of Isaac.” The role their father plays in allowing and propagating the abuse will be discussed later, but is seen in this quote. It is also interesting his potential “fear” of Nesta. This is an example of an abuser humiliating their victim to elicit shame in the target of their attacks. As will be discussed later, lowering a victim’s self-worth and increasing their shame is a tactic to gain power over them. Sex shaming an individual on its own, while hurtful, is not only abusive. But when the other factors of the situation are considered, it adds to the narrative of daily abuse Nesta bestows on Feyre. When analyzing this situation with the three sibling abuse factors, perception, intent, and severity, it is easy to see that Nesta is being abusive again in the text.

Siblings who resort to bullying view it as a means to exert power, often in response to the fact that they have been victimized by parents, older siblings, or someone outside the family (1). The aggression of the perpetrators can be a means of getting back at a favored child and releasing the anger stemming from their own abuse or an attempt to claim a sense of mastery over the trauma of their own abuse or situation. The aggression can also be a form of mimicry that is reinforced by other aggressors in the family (1).

The whole power dynamic of Feyre’s family is entirely turned upside down. The father no longer has control or power over his children, and they are left to grapple for it between each other. His lack of control is seen not only in how he never tells his children what to do or reprimands them for their treatment of each other, but also in the ways Nesta looks to use his painfully injured leg against him, “His simply carved cane was propped up against his chair—a cane he’d made for himself … and that Nesta was sometimes prone to leaving far out of his reach.” Nesta is malicious in her behavior towards him, and while it is understandable for her to be angry and hurt by his negligence, it does not give her the right to lash out at him and Feyre. No human is perfect, so occasional outbursts would be understood, but her consistent and calculated actions against the members of her family show that the situation they have grown up in has affected her enough to use abuse tactics to try to regain power in the situation. The following quote from the book is another instance of her seeking to claim power from the others, “From beside my father, Nesta snorted. Not surprising. Any bit of praise for anyone—me, Elain, other villagers—usually resulted in her dismissal. And any word from our father usually resulted in her ridicule as well.” Anything that could help lift Feyre’s sense of self-esteem is instantly destroyed by Nesta. Nesta is almost certainly in pain, and she is looking to make sure everyone not only stays that way – but hurts more than her. Some might argue that Feyre is the one with the most power in the family, since she is the only provider and source of food and money. There might be credence to this, if it weren’t for two things. First, Feyre would never withhold food, or money for survival necessities, from her family in order to control them. Second, it is possible that one of the reasons Nesta resents Feyre is because she is the sole provider (Nesta could change this by trying to help support the family, but doesn’t) and used psychological means of taking any power that Feyre might have. An example of this can be seen in the following exchange between the sisters, “Nesta picked at her long, neat nails. “I hate chopping wood. I always get splinters.” She glanced up from beneath her dark lashes. Of all of us, Nesta looked the most like our mother—especially when she wanted something. “Besides, Feyre,” she said with a pout, “you’re so much better at it! It takes you half the time it takes me. Your hands are suited for it—they’re already so rough.”” Nesta will eventually chop the wood, but she did not do it prior to the book starting when Feyre originally asked her to, and most likely only does it to try to curry some favor with Feyre before they head to the market, which will be addressed later. In this exchange, Nesta is using what, at first glance, looks to be a compliment, but is really intended to insult Feyre. First, Nesta offered an excuse not to contribute to the family’s survival, then she compliments Feyre’s ability to chop wood, and followed it up with a compliment that Feyre had an affinity for wood chopping – since her hands were rough. This is, of course, an insult since Nesta believes that manual labor which impacts the hands is a task only poor people – people lesser than her – should do. Her belief is evidenced by the perfectly kept state of her own hands and fingers. Feyre, the provider, theoretically should be able to demand help from her family. But she at most offers empty threats, since she promised her mother that she would care for them no matter what. If Nesta did not chop the wood, Feyre would have eventually done it. This is a fact that Nesta knows and exploits. That is why Feyre does more than the bulk of the work needed for the family’s survival. These, along with other exchanges in the book, show that Nesta is using psychological abuse to claim power from her family.

           Several studies over the past three decades found data which shows that sibling abuse is pandemic and can have fatal results. One study found that as many as 40% of children in the United States engage in physical aggression against siblings, and as many as 85% engage in verbal aggression against siblings on a regular basis (1). Many factors, such as the severity and intent of an act by one sibling and the emotional impact of that act on another sibling, is used when determining if an interaction is abusive. Negative sibling relationships are characterized by fear, shame, and hopelessness. Negative relationships indicate that some form of abuse is occurring (1). Examples include ridicule, which involves both words and actions that express contempt and degradation, which deprives the victim of a sense of self-worth. The sibling who can exacerbate fear gains control in the relationship through minimizing the other’s self-esteem (1). Emotional abuse includes numerous and often cruel forms of abuse, such as belittling, intimidation, scorn, provocation, destroying possessions, and torturing/killing pets.

As discussed earlier, Nesta is looking to gain control from the other family members through contempt, degradation, belittlement, scorn, and goading. This is evidenced yet again in the following excerpt, “My sisters had gone quiet, and I looked up in time to see Nesta crinkle her nose with a sniff. She picked at my cloak. “You stink like a pig covered in its own filth. Can’t you at least try to pretend that you’re not an ignorant peasant?” I didn’t let the sting and ache show. I’d been too young to learn more than the basics of manners and reading and writing when our family had fallen into misfortune, and she’d never let me forget it.” Nesta is belittling how Feyre provides for the family by insulting her appearance after hunting and bringing home food. She is also purposefully picking at Feyre’s insecurity – the fact that she was never able to learn to read and other skills the upper/middle class have in their society. Examining this interaction with the three factors of sibling abuse in mind, Nesta is yet again abusive. Perception – Feyre feels the “sting and ache” that Nesta’s words create in her. She is emotionally hurt by her sister yet again. Intent- Nesta is looking to undermine Feyre’s accomplishment in killing a deer and looking to use a known insecurity to hurt Feyre more. Severity – the text states that Nesta has used illiteracy, manual labor, and lack of education to mock Feyre before, and this is yet again another instance of her calculating what the best words to wound Feyre are in that situation. Yet another example of Nesta finding ways to exert control on her family members is seen here, ““Take those disgusting clothes off.” I took my time, swallowing the words I wanted to bark back at her.” Some might argue that Feyre is abusive as well, and while it is important to keep in mind that all interactions are seen from Feyre’s perspective and might be biased, Feyre’s intent is also very clear. After Nesta negatively orders her to disrobe, she feels the insult in the order, but tries to keep her anger inside her and not lash out. That is not a commonly found trait in abusers, and Nesta certainly doesn’t display it. When angered, Nesta instantly lashes out, and looks to find ways to severely hurt those who she is upset with.

The family environment is an important factor in sibling abuse because sibling abuse often is a reflection of behavior that has been witnessed or experienced within the family. The family is an interdependent unit, and the actions of one family member have an impact on all the other members. Conflict over the number of emotional and material resources available, and how parents handle it, heightens stress among siblings. Children are at greater risk of sibling abuse if their parents are unavailable to meet the children’s needs and are unable to help them to resolve sibling tensions (1). Experts on sibling abuse have proposed that maladaptive parental behavior and dysfunctional family structures play key roles in fueling sibling abuse. In a study conducted by Wiehe (1997), the normalization of abuse by parents was found to be a key factor in the severity and frequency of abuse between siblings (1). It’s been proved that an abused child may inflict abuse on a sibling because they are modeling the actions of their parents.  Some victims of severe sibling abuse have reported that their family environments were toxic. Wiehe (2000) reported that some victims have “described the atmosphere in their home as a ‘battleground.’ A culture of violence developed for all family members living in this culture”. Raised in such an environment, children learn to survive through intimidation and cruelty. Families who live in chaos are at risk of sibling abuse. Chaotic and disorganized families move from crisis to crisis, and it seems that no one has control. Parental stress and overburdened caretakers are two factors that result in the assignment of parental responsibilities and tasks to children. It has been shown that there is a strong link between lack of parental supervision and the frequency and severity of sibling abuse (1).

The father in ACOTAR is neglectful to the point of abuse, which will be discussed in a different post in the future. His emotional unavailability, inability to / lack of trying to provide for the family, and refusal to protect the siblings from each other all display his neglectful abuse. The chaotic situations the family endures – losing their mother, losing their fortune, moving to a hovel, watching their father beat, living without parents who provide for them – all deeply impact the sisters. All of them are hurting, and this leads some of them to turn to abuse to deal with the issues. “But at least Nesta didn’t fill our heads with useless talk of regaining our wealth, like my father. No, she just spent whatever money I didn’t hide from her, and rarely bothered to acknowledge my father’s limping presence at all. Some days, I couldn’t tell which of us was the most wretched and bitter.” The losses this family has faced has brought them all low and filled them with pain, but it seems only Feyre is looking to actively improve their situation.

Some families promote the development of alliances at the expense of other family members. When this happens, an unhealthy triangle develops in the family structure. Triangles are not always bad. However, when rigid rules and patterns are established in the triangle, problems may arise. When this type of triangle exists in a family, resolution of emotional problems is often prevented (1). 

There is an unhealthy trio in the house – and Feyre got the short end of it. Nesta and Elain are the most bonded, and Nesta actively looks to undermine and cause Feyre pain. Instead of Elain trying to heal the rift between the other two sisters, she takes Nesta’s side – even though Nesta is predominantly cruel. This unhealthy partnership, the support of an abusive individual, and neglectfulness to the point of abuse along with the father, all show that Elain is not innocent when it comes to sibling abuse. Textual evidence of this will be provided and analyzed in a different post. Nesta also psychologically abuses Elain – but to a much lesser extent than Feyre. This again, will be covered in a different post. This post has grown too long, and so it will continue to mostly focus on the sibling dynamic between Nesta and Feyre.

           According to the National Family Violence Survey, the rates of sibling abuse “make the high rates of other forms of family violence, such as parents abusing children or spouses abusing each other, seem modest by comparison”. Even with the high incident rates, sibling abuse is the least reported and researched form of abuse (4). Emotional abuse may include verbal intimidation or name calling, degradation, insults, and threatening or completing acts of violence (4). The differences between sibling violence and abuse are that violence showed reciprocal aggression between siblings, and abuse was a result of one sibling exerting power over the other. Capsi defined sibling abuse as, “unidirectional hostility where one sibling seeks to overpower the other via a reign of terror and intimidation and reflects an asymmetrical power arrangement” (4). When assessing psychological abuse, questions related to emotional aggression can be used. These include, “what is happening that hurts your feelings?” and intent “[insert example from student’s story], did this happen accidently or on purpose? What tells you that it was ‘on purpose’?” Questions such as these will likely elicit concrete descriptions of the behavior between children (4).

           There is another source of power found within families – money and material items. Feyre is the provider of the family, the one who risks her life to hunt and bring back game. The animals can be used for a few purposes, for instance, some parts will be used for food, and other parts sold for money. Feyre, the main/only real source of income for the family should be able to decide how the money is spent. This right is undeserved and should be revoked if the provider is selfish and wasteful with the family’s funds. The book shows that Feyre is neither. Instead, her sisters are the selfish ones when it comes to money:

“I’d love a new cloak,” Elain said at last with a sigh, at the same moment Nesta rose and declared: “I need a new pair of boots.””

“I kept quiet, knowing better than to get in the middle of one of their arguments, but I glanced at Nesta’s still-shiny pair by the door. Beside hers, my too-small boots were falling apart at the seams, held together only by fraying laces.”

“She drew out the two syllables of my name—fay-ruh—into the most hideous whine I’d ever endured, and Nesta loudly clicked her tongue before ordering her to shut up.”

“I drowned them out as they began quarreling over who would get the money the hide would fetch tomorrow…”

           Why should either Elain or Nesta be given the funds the hides would earn? Neither of them hunted the animals. If they weren’t being selfish, they would be discussing the ways to use the money to best provide for the family – every member. Instead, they bicker over which one of their unhelpful and lazy selves should spend the money for their own individual benefit. Clothing is of course a necessity, but Feyre’s clothes are in far worse a state than their own, partly due to her physical activities she performs to provide for them. Since she is the youngest, it is also likely, though not specifically stated, that she got the hand-me-downs over the years as many younger siblings do, especially in poor households. Yet the siblings who did not earn the money argue over how they will spend it. Many abusers are willfully ignorant of their selfish behavior and how it affects others. Other abusers, as is likely in Nesta’s case, also selfishly seek to use money they have or haven’t earned as a power ploy. Nesta, who constantly points out Feyre’s shabby and poor appearance, has no doubt noticed the differences between their apparel. She certainly knows that Feyre’s are in a worse state, but still seeks to better her own wardrobe at the cost of her sister. Though Feyre earned the money, Nesta is trying to take away Feyre’s power to use it.

Physical and emotional sibling violence are one of the most common forms of violence against children and the consequences of physical and emotional sibling abuse can affect children and adults. Research has found children and adolescents who have experienced sibling violence to have experienced mental health, loneliness, psychological problems, and poor peer interaction and behavioral problems (2). Violence against a child, regardless of, is still violence against a child, unfortunately sibling violence has been mostly ignored in child welfare. Children and teenagers who had experienced sibling aggression reported higher mental health issues than children who had not experienced sibling abuse. Children who were victims, and perpetrators, of sibling abuse were found to be more likely to end up in abusive romantic relationships later in life (2). Both the victims and the perpetrators of emotional sibling abuse tend to have significantly lower levels of self-esteem as adults than do nonvictims (1).

The unhealthy dynamic that Feyre and Nesta grew up with was rife with the possibilities to become a selfish and psychologically unhealthy individual. Nesta had considered an engagement, which implies a prior attachment/relationship, with a man who would most likely be abusive. Feyre did end up in love with a romantically abusive partner, Tamlin. Tamlin was not just abusive towards her, but also arguably to Lucien. All sisters were unlucky enough to live in a situation that can create abusers, but only one sister did not show any indications of being abusive – Feyre. Unfortunately, she was romantically involved with an abuser, but thankfully got out and found someone who would not abuse her for the first time in her life.  

Almost all interaction between Feyre and Nesta in the beginning of ACOTAR is Nesta trying to emotionally hurt Feyre and purposefully lower her self-esteem. When reading the book, it is important to remember that Nesta has been treating Feyre that way for years – not just the few days the readers see. Feyre has been living in a hostile environment, one that Nesta inflames, for years. She has suffered emotional and mental trauma at the hands of Nesta’s psychological abuse.  

Abuse is abuse. Siblings are fully capable of abusing each other, and do so in ACOTAR. Nesta’s later actions in no way erase her abusive behavior. Future actions do not change past ones, but can begin to try to make up for it. Some abusers can and will look to protect their victims from outside threats and dangers besides themselves. Some abusers will love and care for their victims. Some abusers will do nice and kind things for their victims. Some abusers will even change their behavior. But none of it, none of it, will in any way lessen or erase their current or past abuse. Some readers don’t think Nesta did anything wrong. Some don’t want an apology from Nesta, and think it would be out of character, in that sense, they would be right. It is out of character for abusers to apologize for their behavior. But that does not mean the abusers don’t need to, or shouldn’t, apologize for their actions. Or be held accountable for them.

In order for an abuser to deserve forgiveness they need to recognize their actions as wrong. They then need to meaningfully apologize. Lastly, abusers would need to change their behavior and keep it that way. Then they would not fit the criteria for an abuser any longer. Simply stopping abusive actions do not undo abuse, erase it, or mean a person no longer deserved the title of abuser.

Nesta was an abusive sibling. The fact is that she actively sought out ways to hurt her sisters continually on a daily basis for years. The problem isn’t just that she wasn’t unconcerned with other’s feelings, it was that she calculated ways to hurt them. Whether she still is, or is not abusive is not what is being discussed in this post. Nesta’s character is an excellent opportunity for the author to show how an abuser can grow and change and be redeemed.

Personally, I will never enjoy reading about Nesta’s character. Many of her actions in ACOTAR are nearly identical to many of my brother’s. Her treatment of Feyre is very similar to some of the ways he treated me. I can’t read parts of the book with Nesta’s character and not be reminded of my brother. It is certainly possible for Nesta to grow and change, like my brother could, but even if they do, I would still not want to read about, or associate, with them. Many readers who have not suffered through sibling abuse will have no problem reading and enjoying Nesta’s character, and there is no problem with that. The problem is only when readers erase negative aspects of a character, and claim there were no misdeeds done by characters they like.

There is nothing wrong with liking a strong, willful, sarcastic, uncaring character. There is nothing wrong with liking a morally gray character. Or a villain. Many do, including myself. The situation only changes to being not okay when people refuse to acknowledge a character’s misdeeds and mistreatment of others. Everyone can have problematic faves, the only problem arises when fans refuse to acknowledge their fave’s problematic behavior. We are all capable of critical thinking and liking complex things. There is no reason to blindly pretend a character has no flaws, or that the flaws aren’t harmful to others. We can still love characters, flaws and all.

Again, I ask that only polite discussion takes place on the subjects of abuse in the fandom. There is no reason to write words that can be construed as hurtful to people who have suffered sibling, and other, abuse in the past. Please remember that survivors could be reading anything you post and say. I am tagging everyone who liked/reblogged a post I saw earlier stating there was no sibling abuse in ACOTAR. I am not looking to call anyone out, but only to shed light on a very prevalent and harmful form of abuse that has been swept under the rug far too many times.

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BTS Reaction to Their Best Friend Accidently Confessing to Them; Rap Monster Version

Originally posted by pjkook

“Joonie!” Y/N yelled, stomping out of her room with her arms folded across her chest. She marched her way into the living room and huffed when she saw her roommate, and best friend, with his headphones blaring and computer in his lap.

He was nestled into a little blanket cocoon on the living room couch, his head nodding along to whatever music he was composing. Namjoon hummed gently under his breath as he listened, clicking around on his computer occasionally to create the perfect music for his ears. Y/N noticed the empty drink cans and snack bags scattered about the coffee table and floor and she sighed, her eyes softening. She reached over and pulled the headphones off Namjoon, smacking him gently upside the head with a pile of papers he held in her hands.

“What did I tell you about playing your music so loud? You’re going to go deaf someday.” Y/N chastised as Namjoon rubbed the spot where she had hit him.

“And I thought we talked about your mental abuse issues as well?” he teased lightly, stretching his stiff limbs and running a hand through his messy hair.

“You’ve been out here for a long time.” Y/N commented as she moved around to clean up Namjoon’s mess.

“Eleven hours.” Namjoon said as if he were talking about the weather.

“And you’re not even close to done?”

“Nope.”

“You know that your demo deadline is in four days.” Y/N sat down next to Namjoon on the couch, crossing her legs underneath her. Namjoon groaned and ran a hand over his face.

“I know, I know, it’ll get done.” He sighed, propping his feet up on the coffee table.

He let his gaze slightly wander over his friend, noticing that she was wearing those tantalizing night shorts that kept him awake in the wee hours of the morning. Namjoon could feel his heart stir up, and the fact that Y/N was also wearing one of his shirts (his favorite black one that was way way too big on her and that slipped off her shoulders) wasn’t helping the situation in the slightest. Namjoon noticed the stack of papers Y/N held in her hands and diverted his attention from his beating heart to those instead.

“Whatcha got there?” he asked, pointing at the papers with his eyes.

“Oh, this?” Y/N flipped through the papers absentmindedly, “It’s a partner scene we have to do in my intro to drama class. It’s actually what I wanted to talk to you about.” Namjoon looked at Y/N curiously, but stayed silent, urging her to continue with a nod of his head.

“My partner for this honestly doesn’t care about the class, I think he’s just taking it for the elective credit but you know how much acting means to me. Anyways, I want to do a good job in this, but without practicing with anyone it’s kind of hard to get into character. I was wondering if you could…you know…” her sentence trailed off and Namjoon’s eyes widened in realization of what she was asking him to do.

“Oh yeah! Totally Y/N, I’ll help you out. Who’s this guy? Do you need me to give him a talking to?” Namjoon asked. Y/N stared at him for a long second before doubling over in laughter, leaning against his shoulder. Namjoon was confused, and his face matched his feelings as he watched the girl laugh her heart out. Y/N wiped the tears from her eyes and rubbed Namjoon’s back.

“Joonie you’re such a dork sometimes. No, I was hoping that you’d be the one to practice with me instead. The grades are individual, so even if he does a crappy job it won’t affect me. Is that okay? I know you have your deadline so?” Namjoon let out a soft ‘oh’ in understanding.

“Sure Y/N, I guess that’s okay. I need to focus on something other than major and minor chords anyways.” He admitted, grabbing the stack of papers and shuffling through them.

“You still have to get your music done though! Only two or three run-throughs is all I need and I’ll be out of your hair for the rest of the night.” Y/N promised, taking and separating the stack of papers into two piles. She handed one to Namjoon, who gave her a smile in return.

“Yeah, yeah. Whatever mom,” Namjoon teased, “So, what kind of dialogue are we actually doing?”

“It’s a romantic comedy called ‘Quippage’; it’s kind of a satire about the awkwardness of first dates but has a romantic and happy end.” Y/N explained as she turned more to face Namjoon on the couch.

“I’m guessing you don’t want me to play ‘Julia’ right?” Namjoon chuckled and Y/N slapped his shoulder.

“There you go with your mental abuse again, how do you expect me to help when you keep beating me up?” Namjoon laughed and covered his face as Y/N continued her onslaught of playful slaps.

“Kim Namjoon, you’re supposed to be helping me, not teasing me!” Y/N said, although deep in her heart she knew that Namjoon’s constant teasing was one of the things that she loved about him.

The two friends proceeded to act out the short, fifteen-page play. The two quickly embraced the awkwardness of their characters and they honestly forgot that they were acting as they read off line by line. The laughter was real, and the actions they added in only made the play better as they ranted to each other as the characters they portrayed.

“Oh,” Namjoon said with panic in his voice as his character became embarrassed, “I don’t have a backup question.”

“Well I have one.” Y/N said.

“Oh?”

“Why did you ask me out?” Y/N said quickly, and Namjoon blanked as he acted confused.

“What?”

“Why did you ask me out?” Y/N asked again, putting more emphasis on the ‘you’. Namjoon sighed.

“Is this supposed to be a trick question?” Namjoon asked and Y/N looked at him with a puzzled stare.

“No?”

“You’re not recording this are you? No one is gonna jump out from behind the trash cans Punk’d style, right?” Namjoon asked, his voice turning soft and Y/N felt a rush of sympathy towards him.

“What are you talking about?” Y/N asked and Namjoon took a deep breath.

“Well, the truth is,” Namjoon paused, looking around like a spy undercover before leaning in close to Y/N’s face. She felt her breath hitch in her throat as she stared deep into his eyes. “I asked you out because I like you. You’re funny in class, and I wanted to get to know you better and see what else the funny and cute girl in math was made up of.” Namjoon smiled softly and allowed his eyes to wander over Y/N’s pink cheeks. She cleared her throat before speaking again.

“Now, why was that such a big deal?”

“What do you mean?” Namjoon asked as he backed away, and Y/N missed the warmth that radiated off his skin.

“You went into spy mode before saying why you asked me out? Is it such a big deal to keep it a secret?” Y/N’s voice was laced with hurt, and Namjoon’s eyes widened at her words.

“It’s not.” He assured.

“Then why-“

“Okay,” Namjoon cut her off, taking a deep breath before speaking again. “I’m just surprised. I’m surprised you said yes. I’ve been waiting for that friend of yours, the one with the shaved head and that yells at anyone who tries to eat her hotdogs-“

“Sheila?”

“Yeah, Sheila. I’ve been waiting for her to jump out, pull my underwear up and over my head as the two of you cackle and walk away saying ‘Loser, loser.” He explained.

“We don’t cackle!” Y/N said, offended by Namjoon’s words.

“So…why did you say yes?”

“And atomic weggies aren’t our style anyways.”

“You’re avoiding the question.” Namjoon pouted, crossing his arms over his chest.

“Ordinary weggies maybe.”

“Julia!” Y/N sighed and looked up at Namjoon’s angry expression.

“Why do you think I said yes. I like you too, you dork.” Y/N smiled, speaking sincerely.

“Really?” Namjoon asked. Y/N nodded.

“Ever since we moved in together. I’ve liked you and always found you attractive. You’re a big dork, but you’re smart, passionate, and driven and I love that about you. You make me happy, and I’ve wanted to tell you that for a long time.” Y/N confessed, looking down at her lap. She realized her mistake of breaking character much too late, and spoke from the heart instead.

“Y/N,” Namjoon’s voice was soft as he gently nudged his finger underneath her chin, tilting her face up towards his own. He could see her eyes turn red and tears start to form in her eyes at her embarrassment. Namjoon cupped her cheeks, using his thumbs to wipe away the stray tears as he leaned down to place a kiss against her lips.

His kiss was soft, tender as he held Y/N close in his embrace. He stroked her cheeks gently and brushed his lips against her immobile ones. He felt her arms climb onto his shoulders as her lips tentatively kissed him back. Namjoon kept the kiss innocent and light; though their lips barely touched anyone could see and feel the warmth, comfort, and hidden promises laced between velvet breaths and brushing hands. Namjoon broke the kiss first, and laughed airily when Y/N tried to chase his lips back to her own.

“That wasn’t a part of the script, Y/N.” Namjoon teased, leaning up to pepper her nose and cheeks in soft kisses.

“Neither was that kiss.” She quipped back, giggling at Namjoon’s affection.

“Need I say that I like you too?”

“No, but I still need to practice and you still have a deadline.” Y/N reminded, although her words lacked their usual malice as Namjoon’s lips slowly worked their way down Y/N’s neck.

“I’ve waited too long for this moment, please, let me relish in it for a while.” Namjoon gave Y/N a look and her heart melted at the sight, sighing as she allowed his lips more access.

“Five minutes Joonie, then we get back to work.”

you’re on my mind

fandom: bts
pairing: park jimin/jeon jungkook
rated: g
summary: Jungkook wished it was appropriate to punch himself in the face, because that was the only way he would shut up at that point.
genre: fluff, soft
wordcount: 1240 


The first time Jimin told Jungkook he loved him was during the early years before their debut.

Jimin experience homesickness in waves, some currents stronger than others. It was worse during stressful periods, and lately Jimin had been calling his parents every other night, speaking softly about how much he missed them and how he wished he could be playing with his baby brother instead.

The night he made his routine phone call, he was out in the living room while Jungkook sat at the table doing homework. Every so often Jungkook glanced up as Jimin snorted or complained at whatever conversation he was having with his mother. Soon the topic of food came up, and Jimin’s excited voice shrunk back as he stared at the floor.

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Word of the Week: Biergartenwetter

It is no secret that Germans have some of the best beer. The country also has plenty of beer gardens. On a beautiful, sunny afternoon, these beer gardens are often filled with people. After all, most of these locales are outside (thus the term beer “garden”).

Beer gardens are emptier when it rains, although some brave souls may choose to sit under the umbrellas. If you’re in the mood for a beer and good company, you may find yourself wishing for Biergartenwetter.

Biergartenwetter is the German word for “beer garden weather”, and it describes the most favorable weather conditions to enjoy a day at the beer garden. Biergartenwetter is usually sunny and warm (but not too hot). Imagine a 70 degree day with plenty of sunshine and perhaps an occasionally passing cloud: the perfect beer garden weather!

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But even if you have no plans to visit a beer garden, you can still use the term Biergartenwetter to describe the beautiful weather. In Germany, even weather channels will sometimes talk about Biergartenwetter in the forecast. When you step outside and feel the rays on your shoulders, you may be tempted to go meet your friends at a Biergarten - even if you’re just having a soda (or a snack). Better yet: pack a picnic basket with bread, radish, cheese and sausage to take with you and just buy an Apfelschorle at the Biergarten, as many Germans do. Because after all, who wouldn’t want to soak up the sun with friends at a Biergarten?

Headcanons!

I needed something to do, so here, take headcanons ^-^ Hmm… Generic relationship headcanons. I’m gonna go ahead and do the SFW ones first, maaaybe I’ll do a few NSFW ones later. Either way, I’m gonna do these in order, I think… IWATOBI BAES FIRST!!


Haruka

  • I don’t think he’d be the one to ask out his S/O. Unless it was an unusual circumstance (Nagisa forcing it upon him the little so-and-so), I think he’d probably just suppress the feelings for them until they noticed, and asked him. Or until he accidentally said something. Which he might do.
  • When at home, Haru’s S/O would probably have to cook for themselves a lot. Unless they really like mackerel. Even when he grew into an adult, Haru never did manage to grow out of his… Issue (obsession?) with mackerel.
  • Sometimes, Haru will invite his S/O into the bath with him. If they’ve spent a lot of time apart, or if Haru’s feeling particularly affectionate, etc. Of course, they’d have to keep in mind that they’d probably have to have an hour or two free if they were to take him up on his offer.
  • Dates with Haruka either went really well, or really badly. Taking him to an aquarium, for example, was a bad idea. The last thing that his S/O wanted was him stripping down to his swimming suit and trying to get into the shark tanks in the middle of their romantic date… On the other hand, Haru’s tendency to get attached deeply to people does pay off, and occasionally, he’ll plan the perfect date.
  • If his S/O went to watch one of Haru’s races, they will often sit in the stands, along with as many of his closest friends as possible, and cheer for him in the loudest, most cheesy way possible. He pretends to hate it. He doesn’t. (he’s pretty sure it’s 90% of the reason he wins some races)

Makoto

  • Makoto’s S/O is a lucky person. He’s the perfect partner - caring, kind, loving, attractive. The best part is, he has almost no idea about any of this, and so is completely oblivious to why his S/O is so protective of him.
  • Makoto is quite an easy person to tease - he’s fairly gullible, and he loves his S/O so much he’s willing to believe pretty much anything they tell him. This can result in some fairly hilarious pranks, courtesy of poor Makoto’s naivety.
  • Although a sleeping Makoto is an adorable Makoto, he can be a bit of a pain in the night. He’s quite tall, and as a result, takes up a lot of the bed. Not only this, but he has a tendency to swat out his arms and legs, and if his S/O isn’t fully braced in bed, a blow from Makoto can have them tumbling out of bed in the middle of the night.
  • Despite this irritating habit that he has, Makoto is an amazing cuddler. Like, amazing. He can just wrap his legs and arms around his S/O, and particularly if they’re smaller, then he can pretty much envelope them entirely. He’s pretty easy to fall asleep with, too.
  • Makoto’s S/O gets along well with his siblings. They gave them a hard time at first, as siblings always do, but eventually they realised that Makoto was so ridiculously in love with his S/O that they may as well give in and like them too. Makoto quite often sees his S/O playing with Ren and Ran, and is really grateful that someone as amazing as them wanted to be with him.

Nagisa

  • Nagisa’s S/O would have to be able to put up with a lot of nonsense. Pranks, tricks, and a lot of junk food eating would be on the daily look-out list of Nagisa’s S/O.
  • Speaking of junk food, Nagisa would likely want to date someone with whom he could consume his favourite non-health food, and it would likely drive Gou absolutely insane that his S/O would often be egging him on, too.
  • Nagisa is a toucher… Not in that way, pervert (well yes but that’s for another discussion~). He loves a lot of skin-on-skin contact, whether that be holding hands or full out cuddling. This means that quite often, he’ll seek out his S/O throughout the day, just to hold hands with them or to kiss them, before running off again, waving goodbye.
  • Nagisa likes to buy his S/O lots of cute gifts. Phone charms, cute plushies, whatever. He just loves how cute his S/O is, and believes that it’s only fitting for them to have gifts that are just as cute as they are.
  • Sleeptalking. Sometimes, it’s hilarious, sometimes, it’s downright strange, and others, it’s terrifying. He once threatened to fill Haru’s ‘beloved pool’ up with cream in stead of water.

Rei

  • Rei can be difficult, sometimes. He has a tendency to not stop doing something once he’s perfected it, and so he can sometimes begin cooking dinner at six, and, come bedtime, he’s still in the kitchen, flour all over his face and olive oil down his clothes.
  • Rei compliments his S/O all the time. In the morning. When they’re getting ready. When they’re getting breakfast. And it almost always involves some variation of the word 'beautiful’. Of course, his S/O finds it sweet, and he means it sincerely every time he says it, but it’s almost comically repetitive at times.
  • He can be a little rigid at first, so his S/O has to coax him out of his shell. Once he is, though, he can be very affectionate, enjoying cuddling with his S/O (in private).
  • If his S/O came to watch him swim, he’d probably get ridiculously flustered, but then realise that getting flustered was a silly, un-beautiful thing to do, and try to do the best he had even done to impress them.
  • People always seemed to say about Rei that it was 'a shame he opened his mouth’, which is why, when his S/O came along and giggled at his ranting, appreciated his calculations and understood his love of beauty, he fell in love pretty much instantly.

anonymous asked:

Hello!~~~ I read the rules, and it seems OK to request a scenario with just Seven, if it makes anything easier for you :). Can I please request Seven walking in on MC naked, getting changed? How screwed up is this poor blushie tomato nerd? XD Thank you so much! I love your fics (I read them all lol) and have a lovely day! :) (p.s if you want you can include Saeran and Yoosung???)

Second part of this ask: 

Hello again!~~~ I was the one who requested the Seven walking in on MC thing. If you can, can it be NSFW??? Thank you!

Hello anon, I don’t know how to make it NSFW. So I only implied a bit NSFW here. And I think it strayed a bit from your request, hope you’re still okay with it. 

Enjoy!

It was one of the cold-war day between Seven and MC. It happened when Seven on his wrong mood pushed MC away with his words. It was quite bad that day. 

“I told you before not to love me. Now you’re this far, you should blame yourself for things!”

The bunker become as quiet as a grave. Seven was locking himself inside his room working, MC locked herself in her own room distracting herself with TV. Wanting to forget the words that had stabbed her in the heart. 

Seven can be like that occasionally. No one is perfect, things can happen, but still whenever Seven said something harsh it hurts her. 

After a while, Seven wanted to change. It was weird, he was sweating on a fully conditioned room. Maybe it was his anger, his grunting inside that made him hot. 

He went out of his work room to the silent living room, to their shared bedroom. For a moment, due to the silence, he completely forgotten MC’s presence. He opens the door to the sight of bare naked MC, with a shirt over her head. 

Seven’s eyes widen the moment he froze. 

“What?”, asked MC. 
“Nothing.”

He closes the door back again. With all his might, he tries to contain his beating heart. The image was burned to his mind. 

The droplets of water from her hair that falls to her smooth shoulder, the puckered tips of her chest and …… Seven stopped himself from thinking any further. He was fighting all the lustful urges in him, especially the straining in his pants. 

MC opened the bedroom door, this time in a plain shirt and panties. 

“Do you need anything?”, she asked. 
“I need to change.”
“Then change.”

With awkward steps, Seven went back in to the room. MC followed behind him but went to their wardrobe, tidying up things. Seven watched as MC bent down or step on a stool to reach the top. Her sculpted back on full display, why is she not wearing any shorts or something, Seven thought in frustration. 

Together with the sight of MC naked before, he reached his limit. With brute force, he lifts MC and threw her on the bed. He pinned her hand over her head and nudged her knees apart. 

“Why are you testing me?”, he groaned. 
“Who is testing you?”
“Don’t joke with me.”
“You sure thinks too highly of yourself, you think the world revolves around you?”

Seven gritted his teeth. With swift movement, he took off his shirt and threw it somewhere. He was going to change after all, right. 

He towered over MC and gave a dark look. 

“I’ll make you beg for forgiveness for the things you just said.”

MC grinned at his words. Hell, Seven was the one that started this, he should ask for forgiveness first. 

Challenge accepted. 

Seth Macfarlane

He gets a lot of hate from this site, but I don’t think people understand him. Often they say he pedals right wing views. This is in no way correct. It’s often a great weakness of the Americans to not understand irony. He is always showing right wing views in an ironic light, and makes them looks silly because of this. If you look at his points in American dad and family guy he is very tolerant and liberal. A great example is when Francine thinks left handed people are the devils minions. All the parallels are to gays and yet people can’t see that he’s trying to show how how silly conservative views are. The character he’s most sympathetic to is by far Hailey, who is basically our generation. He may not be perfect and occasionally be make a faux pas but that’s being human, at the core he sympathises with humanity and liberalism!

As a perfectionist I have a terrible habit of feeling guilty for not spending literally every second of my day polishing up a piece of work. When I am working on something I usually spend more time fixing it than actually completing the task - often to the detriment of my other, more pressing work.

So if you’re just like me what should you do?

Why is this important?

To help combat perfectionism, you need to figure out what is actually important to you. What are your values and where would you like to end up in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? Where does what your doing fit in?

One technique I like is the 5 whys. This is aimed at problem solving but I think it fits in well here.

  • Write down the task you’re working on (a.k.a. spending too much time perfecting)
  • Ask why the task needs 100% of your effort
  • Ask why reason #1 is necessary
  • Ask why reason #2 is necessary
  • Repeat until you reach a suitable answer - sometimes this can be that you realise the task doesn’t have to be 100% perfect, but occasionally there will be tasks that require more effort

Set a time limit

Start small. Choose one task that you need to complete today and estimate how long it should take. Leave a reasonable amount of buffer room.

Now for the hard part; get started on the task, keeping note of the time and stick to the task duration you agreed on earlier. There is no going back once the time is up, you’re done and you aren’t going to look at it again! (This is so hard but I promise it is worth it)

Think 80/20

There is something called the Pareto principle, which states that for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. What this means for you is that 20% of your effort results in 80% of the results. So if you spend 10 hours working on a piece of work, you should have completed about 80% of the work in 2 hours. The other 8 hours only achieves around 20%!

If you realise you’ve been spending hours and hours doing something, you’ve probably realised that the last few hours hasn’t really achieved all that much. More hours =/= a huge amount of productivity.

For less important tasks, keep the 80/20 rule in mind and spend less time working on it. Sometimes 80% is all you really need and additional time put in is not really worth it.

Will this matter in 5-10 years

So you’ve spent the last 2 hours editing an essay worth 5% of your final grade. Time well spent? Probably not. Very little of what we do now will matter to us (and others) 5-10 years down the track. The key takeaway? Focus on what really matters and forget about the rest.

Wow this sounds so depressing - but this doesn’t have to be. You can use this way of thinking to your advantage. Have a presentation coming up and you’re nervous? Remember that even if you 900% embarrass yourself no one will probably remember in 5-10 years and it’s not that important in the long term.

Forgive yourself

Even if I’ve spent hours trying to make something perfect, I’m rarely happy with the end result - it could always be better right? I could have spent even more hours?

You need to accept that you could always spend more time on something but in the end it’s not worth your while. Forgive yourself and remember that you’re only human, sometimes our expectations are so high that we can never reach them. Try to be realistic and remember that it’s not the end of the world when things don’t work out the way we want them to.

[ best friends ]

you love being best friends with wonwoo but lately he’s been acting rather cold. you’ve tried to see if there’s a problem but he won’t budge and eventually things start to crumble.


You loved having Wonwoo as your best friend. There were many benefits to his presence such as getting free strawberry milk in the cafeteria or sinking underneath the covers in his fluffy sweaters. On bad hair days he would lend you his bucket hat and whenever you were upset his long arms always caged you in the perfect hug. Occasionally, you couldn’t bring yourself to fall asleep so you would roll out of bed and toss on a jacket along with a pair of shoes and wobble out the door. Pulling out your phone you would send him a simple text and the next thing you knew loud cackles of laughter were escaping your mouthes from the night streets. Sometimes you would study at his place, your limbs sprawled out across the carpet while you propped a text book on front of your face.

As you asked him questions you would focus on the sound of his deep voice giving mostly the wrong answers until you fell asleep and the boy had to shift you into his bed. Today you were rushing to school, flinging out of your Dads car with a heavy backpack slung around your shoulder. You easily identified the bucket hat that belonged to the boy sitting on the steps, his friend mindlessly chatting away in his ear. Collapsing next to him you yanked out your notebook and dropped it in his lap with the page open to a list of questions. “Quiz me real quick.” You asked sharply with clenched fists. Wonwoo scrunched his nose and glanced at the questions while Mingyu hovered by his shoulder. “You don’t have to worry, sometimes over studying can make you forget.”

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boyfriend!wonho

insp. 

  • will buy you expensive clothing that matches with his but ends up never wearing it because it’s “too embarrassing”
  • which leads you to only wearing couple rings 
  • encourages you to wear his sweaters a lot because it smells like him and he knows that your his
  • probably talk about you a lot to the monsta x members just because he misses you
  • the other members will skype you and show you a shy and red wonho
  • he’ll act tough and flirty but is actually a teddy bear who just wants you cuddle you all night
  • his ipad wallpaper would be a selfie of you and him, one where he has his arms around you
  • 100% will have an excuse to hold your hand the entire time you two are together
  • he’ll feed you too, no matter who you’re with or when it is
  • but sometimes, when you’re hungry he’ll feed himself and only say things like, “give me a kiss and then i’ll give you food!~”
  • he wants to talk to you every minute of the day so when he’s practicing, he’ll facetime you with the members, “look at our dance!” “do i look cool!”
  • if you compliment the others, he’ll say things like, “what about me?” “he’s not even that good looking compared to me!”
  • let’s be real here, he’ll always have his eyes in contact with yours
  • a lot of lip biting
  • too much
  • haunted house time! he’ll act protective, “stand behind me, and if you’re too scared you can hug me.” and not get scared at the expected scares
  • but the little things will frighten him like the door squeaking
  • he’ll sing you songs to sleep
  • if you sleep with him, he’ll stare at you before happily falling asleep
  • once you wake up, he won’t let you go from his arms and will start whining
  • at first he’ll get embarrassed but afterwards he wouldn’t mind doing more ‘couple’ things with you
  • sometimes he’ll get home earlier than you and he’ll leave a watergun infront of the door as you step in, he initiates the water fight
  • tour?? wonho will send you letters whenever he can, with small souvenirs from where ever he went
  • will apologise for everything - whether if it was him hitting you slightly and accidentally or winning a game
  • will invite you to working out with him if you’re feeling self concious
  • wins a game with the members infront of you? “see, i’m good! your boyfriend is a professional” “this is nothing” “i deserve a prize!”
  • he’ll call you things like “angel” or “perfect”
  • occasionally will ring the door at 2am with a bouquet of your favorite flowers, “we’re going on an adventure” 
  • no matter what, he’ll pick you over anything - you’re in line with his beloved family
  • a protective puppy, he’ll defend you from anything
  • he’ll get jealous and pull you away from the members if you say things like “minhyuk, you look good this comeback!” or “hyungwon, i like your hair!!”
  • wonho will compliment you a lot, to make you feel good everyday
  • but he is very childish so he’ll imitate you a lot and tease you
  • will steal your blanket at night, “if you’re cold, you should hug me!”
  • he’ll make a playlist of your favorite songs and his favorite songs, both listening to it in the car or bus
  • shin hoseok is boyfriend material!

I’ve come to the conclusion that if you’re doing any kind of httyd AU, the dragons kind of…can’t be human?  not unless you want to change up their relationship with the “vikings”.  I mean, it’s not as though the dragons in canon are exactly…subservient, but at the same time there’s this feeling of “and now everyone has one!” that wouldn’t sit well with me were they, you know, human people.

so the conclusion would have to be just a simple “and now we’re all friends” instead of “and now we have augmented our society with the powers of these former enemies!!”  also, the whole “we’ve killed thousands of them” thing would be a lot harder to just gloss over.

Some Things Change

Fluffy Lapidot Highschool AU

A/N: Once again, I didn’t write this fic! It was submitted by fic anon!! But this time, I actually got to suggest to them some little details to put into the fic. This is the first fic that I suggest skimming through the fluffy lapidot highschool au tag in chronological order and getting a sense of the loose timeline. Or at least reading the other anon fics first. Anyways thanks so much to anon again for writing this amazing fic! I love this one a whoooole lot, gets a lil spicy HAHA.


“Did you eat?”

“We had dinner.”

“But did you eat? Like, enough.”

It’s easy to tell when Lapis doesn’t feel well. She’s subdued. She gets all quiet – doesn’t cling or tease or pry like normal. Like, she still does those things, but she accepts the first shrug-off way too easily. Zero harassment or headache. Not so much as a whine.

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anonymous asked:

I remember a while ago you said you had book binding experience. Would you be able to talk about that more? I'm super interested in it.

Oh yeah I minored in printmaking in college, which involved some book arts classes. Then I worked at an indie print shop for a couple of years, where a huge part of my job was doing bookbinding for stuff like comics and art publications, with the occasional perfect-bind here and there (we actually had a ton of artists I recognized from tumblr come through– I got to read their stuff before it was released heheheh). I also had to do color calibration and check paper/prints for quality, but that’s a whole other thing…

Sounds kinda neat, but it was like 90% yelling at the stitcher for crumpling up the paper, or spending two hours looking for one of the 20 missing bone folders, or tearing your hair out bc the guillotine machine cut an eighth inch of text off 50 books and you had to start the entire stupid freaking project over ughh. 

I can tell you how exactly how something was made, what it was made on, and whether it was made well… but otherwise there’s not much for me to talk about haha. Book binding as an art form is fun and interesting, but regular old labor was kinda beat :’)

The Mercs' Penmanship

Credit to Scooty Got Dat Booty for the idea! This is just how I imagine the mercs’ handwriting and such. 

Scout writes everything with super human speed, which is handy, but it screws up his handwriting to the point of it being illegible. He’s never even attempted to learn cursive, so he prints everything. That, mixed with his horrible handwriting, usually results in everything he writes looking like it was written by a seven-year-old. 

Soldier can barely read, much less write, but when he does, it’s in ALL CAPS AND EVRTYNG IS MISPELD. He also likes writing with sharpie, so most of the furniture in the base is stained with black smudges. 

Pyro is illiterate, however they’ve been trying to learn for quite some time. After some help from Heavy, they began to write every once and a while, but only in crayons or glitter pens and only if they can decorate the page they’re writing on with pictures of unicorns, suns, and flowers. 

Demo’s handwriting looks as drunk as he is most of the time. It slants so far to one side that people usually have to turn to the side, just to read it. He also had a bad habit of ending words with excessively long lines where his hands slipped when he writes in cursive. 

Heavy can write in Russian and English and has a surprisingly big vocabulary when it comes to writing. Despite this, his handwriting is sloppy, not necessarily bad but sloppily written. He doesn’t put much care into perfecting his letters and they’re often almost just big smudges. 

Engineer went to a private school in the south, which means he knows cursive left, right, and upside down. He still prefers printing, though, since it seems more sensible when writing out blueprints and the like. His printing is very angular and boxy, and a lot of times, his letters start to somehow look like numbers. 

Medic is a doctor, what more can I say about his handwriting? It is illegible it everyone but himself. He writes in shorthand and cursive that loops all over the page. He also often switches to Latin or uses codewords, so even if you could understand his handwriting, you wouldn’t understand the words. He always has perfect grammar, spelling, and punctuation. 

Sniper only writes when it’s time to send a postcard back home to his folks in Australia. Since his mother always comments on his handwriting, he’s learned to print nicely. Cursive, however, is still a mystery to him. He can read it fine enough, just not write in it. 

Spy is the king of cursive and all other types of fancy lettering. It would take nothing short of a miracle to get him to print. Although his letters are always perfect, he occasionally makes small grammatical errors, but if anyone points them out (*cough*Scout*cough*) they will receive a long lecture on the idiocy that is the English language and probably end up with a knife to the leg. He can write in any of the Romance languages, Morse code, and shorthand. 

Clean Eats for a Dirty Mind

On Twitter I occasionally do an #AskLzzyAnything hour, where you guys ask me about well… Anything! I’ve noticed a lot of you inquire about my eating and exercise habits on the road. But it’s tough to fit all the info So I thought I’d let you all in a bit and give ya the scoop on what my daily plate looks like. But before I do I must make a few things clear, I’m not a dietitian, I’m quite average in my body type, and like everyone in this world I’m not perfect and occasionally indulge in a favorite dessert or killer burger! What I’m sharing with you is what I strive for and consume 90% of the time. Also I’m aware that everyone has their own thing (paleo, vegetarian, primal, all American, etc) this post is not me saying you should adopt my habits, I’m just sharing what I do. Ok? Oh! And one more confession, I’m partially writing this to kick my own ass back into shape. By sharing this with you, it reminds and inspires me to stick with my plan!.
Ok… Now for the good stuff.

Eats.
My eating habits are very simple. I eat as close to nature as possible, as in “could my food have developed on its own in nature”. For example, a cow is born, a carrot grows. Sugars, Grains and Dairy are manufactured. So I stay away from processed, “man made” products as much as possible. My diet consists of 70% meats, 20% vegetables and 10% fruits on any given day, but I’m not too strict with those percentages because it’s about the quality of the food not the quantity. You can’t really go wrong with those three categories. I do eat potatoes, but stay away from fried versions.
Now for the booze…I break my rules and indulge in good beer and red wine, because I’m human and like to have a good time. You just have to be careful to not over do it because too much a good thing is a bad thing. On a sad note, this is the year that I had to quit liquor. Something strange happens when the shots come out to play, my lights go out, and I become someone I don’t want to be (remember my past post about balance?)But it’s ok… Cuz that just means less shit to worry about.
Ok now on to Exercise.
Let me be honest, I hate exercise, and I hate gyms. But I’ve found 4 things that I absolutely love that still count as workouts and you don’t need a gym! 1. Walking. I walk everywhere and average about 3-4 miles a day. 2. Jump Rope. I carry jump rope with me on tour and put in about 30-45 mins whenever I can, I do this off tour as well! It’s such a great Whole body workout! Of course number 3. Rock Show! Even if you are a fan in a crowd rocking out in the pit! That is actually exercise. I burn an approximate 300 calories during a 90 min rock set. And…..
Last but not least… You guessed it.. Sex…get into it, its fun and is a great workout… With some awesome rewards too!
So there we have it! Hope you found this entertaining, and as always thank you for letting me into all of your lives!! If you have any questions I did not address… Feel free to write me!
Love, Lzzy

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Why doesn’t our Universe have magnetic monopoles?

“So he built this device and waited. The device wasn’t perfect, and occasionally one of the loops would send a signal, and on even rarer occasions, two loops would send a signal at once. But you’d need eight (and exactly eight) for it to be a magnetic monopole. The apparatus never detected three or more. This experiment ran for some months with no success, and was eventually relegated to being checked up on only a few times a day. In February of 1982, he didn’t come in on Valentine’s Day. When he came back to the office on the 15th, he surprisingly found that the computer and the device had recorded exactly eight magnetons on February 14th, 1982.”

The laws of electromagnetism could have been incredibly different. Our Universe has two types of electric charge (positive and negative) and could have had two types of magnetic pole (north and south), but only the electric charges exist in our Universe. At a fundamental level, between electricity and magnetism, nature is not symmetric. But it could have been! Magnetic charges could move and make currents; a changing electric field could induce them; north and south poles could be separated an infinite distance. Magnetic charge could even have been a fundamental property of black holes. In 1982, Blas Cabrera announced the first detection of a long-sought-after magnetic monopole event, and the physics world went crazy. But nearly 35 years later, a second monopole has never been found. Despite our dreams, it looks like nature isn’t symmetric after all.

The Promposal [ I.M. ]

plot: prom is only a couple of weeks away and you nor changkyun have a date. you two have been friends for a while and he has plans to ask you in a very special way.
length: 1147 words
genre: fluff

This was just a random idea that popped in my head and i thought it would be really cute to put into a scenario ; u ; enjoy! also a thank you to admin di for the promposal idea - u -

“why don’t you just ask her right now?” 
“you better ask her before somebody else does!”
“at this rate she won’t even want to go to prom!”

all these thoughts from his friends ran through the young boy’s mind as he sat in lunch. all these promposals have been occurring left and right which got him thinking of what he could do to ask you. you never said anything about wanting a big promposal but lowkey changkyun knew that you wanted one, and a very special one at that. 

the two of you were sitting silently listening to the chattering around you until the sound of violins filled the cafeteria. a line of string players entered the lunch room as the head of this whole plan slowly followed behind them. they all walked to the target’s designated table as they continued to play the sweet melody. the boy was holding a bouquet of flowers, holding them out for the girl as he asked the one question every senior girl wanted to hear– “do you want to go to prom with me?”

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McCree Headcanons

-He doesnt know how to braid his s/o’s hair at all but he tries.
-He gives little neck kisses to his s/o.
-Incredibly cheesy, stop this man.
-Puts his hat on his s/o’s head out of nowhere. It’s too big for them and covers their eyes.
-Very into cuddling
-Gives cute pet names “Sugar” , “Darlin’.” You name it he probably says it.
-He’s the little spoon, even if he is 6ft tall.
-Tries to make his s/o flower crowns occasionally, they’re not perfect but they’re still made with love

Nino has figured out that Adrien is Chat but won’t mention anything about it until Adrien tells him. Mari is put in a position where she has to show Nino that she’s Ladybug. He’s super chill about it, they grow closer and he always helps her out by keeping Alya a little ways away from the action scenes when LB and CN are fighting to help protect her identity. And of course when Adrien mentions his interest in LB, he can’t help but laugh at the stupidity of his friends. Adrien becomes jealous at the growing bond between them, but Nino is the perfect wingman, occasionally dropping hints that LB should give Chat a chance outside of their work.