While browsing a random tumblr blog last week, I came across a series of tweet screenshots of a man justifying women’s overt fear of men. Other than it being a sweeping, fearmongering generalization (and obviously sexist), it tugged at me in a way that wouldn’t leave me alone. Something about it made it more personal than I thought it should have.
Then it hit me. It hurt me because men I love and adore who help women, and others that I do not know yet do the same, were just thrown under the bus. Women who could have benefited from being shown this reality were being hurt as well!
Do you know what my husband has gone through with me to help me heal from my sexual assault? Far more than some fucker with a twitter account. Do you know how much my male friends stand up against violence on women? Far more than some boy feminist looking for some progressive points. Do you know how hard male investigators work to find the rapist? How much hell male family members go through with their daughters who were hurt??? How much male victims of abuse and assault have to hide and bury because of “fearing men and blaming them is totally justified!” BS agenda?
You get the point. And I am sooo sick of it. I am so sick of blame being assigned to a single gender and carrying it around as a legit talking point. I want to stand side by side with good men - whether as “allies” or fellow victims -, hold them up, and let the world know that fear only leads to hate and won’t help the human condition.
Your inflammatory tweets aren’t going to do that, so keep that garbage away from me.