objectifying you so much right now

“Don’t Objectify Me” Dean x Reader

Hi guys! So, I know I’ve been very, very absent lately, and that is entirely my fault.  Remember when I said that Junior year was kicking my ass, well, now it has gone from kicking my ass, to killing me dead.  With homework and rehearsals every day, I haven’t really had much time to do anything other than eat, sleep, rehearse, and do school work.  

Nevertheless, here I am.  So, I entered @jalove-wecallhimdean’s ‘Do It Like Dean’ challenge, and I got the iconic, “Don’t objectify me.” So, I remembered that it was due today, and, because I am me, I have waited until the last minute to write it. 

I’ve been sick for the last few days, and you better believe that I need some Dean fluff right now.  So, here goes.  

Happy Reading!

Pairing: Dean x Fem!Reader

Words: 1977

Warnings: None 

Excerpt: “But you gotta sleep on your own pillow,” he said with a small smile, roping his arm around your waist, though you were fine to walk and had told him so several times.  

“Why?” you whined.  “You’re such a comfy pillow.”

He shook his head. “Don’t objectify me.”

Originally posted by themissingthoughtbubble

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Motherfucking Black Paladin Y’all

Aside from attaching all the armor to the body suit (you can see the knees are held on with masking tape right now >> ) and doing some final paint touch ups, my Paladin armor is done! It’s so shiny when it moves and it’s much more flattering than I would’ve guessed! It’s pretty impractical and mobility is AWFUL, but ngl it is kinda sexy feeling. Because it shows off your waist and your ass. Like way to design mildly objectifying armor and still have the boys completely covered, A+ design there. 

I also need to figure out what I’m doing for shoes, get some thin black gloves, and find a better way to pin this wig up because the large collar doesn’t work with long hair so I need to get it in a bun somehow. 

this isn't the band I fell in love with
  • dear 5sos,
  • one direction were supposed to be my only problematic children. I should be care free with no issues right now, but you gotta go pull this shit. nah. I'm fucking disappointed. Luke, Liz is gonna ground your ass. Calum, I'm gonna ground your ass. Ashton, go sit in the fucking corner. I'm not quite sure if you've done anything wrong yet, but I'm waiting for the article to be in my hands to figure you out. Bryana, I love you, you're perfect, don't change a single thing. Arzaylea, you keep being an "internet influencer" or just leave us alone until you two officially go public. I know the article talked about you and Luke, but it was weird and both of you deserve a better way to be introduced as a couple.
  • Michael, I love you so much. we are here for you no matter what. you tried to explain your mental state right now and all anyone could care about is where Luke's dick had been. everything will get better Mikey. please don't give up.
  • sex is not a bad thing when all participants have given willful consent. but when you belittle an entire gender and objectify young women, it becomes a very bad thing. then to talk about it and let it be published in a huge, national magazine, is beyond words.
  • these are not the boys I fell in love with years ago. and I'm very glad they have grown and matured, but not like this. this isn't how it should be. I'm aware I don't know everything, this could all be a lie made up by rolling stone (that's very unlikely.) I guess I just need to wait it out to make a final decision.
  • I love the boys. I always will. but if this is how they are now. I can never love them the same again.
  • -R
Venus Retrograde July 25th, 2015 - September 6th, 2015

“Re"flect, “Re"think, “Re"plan

They say old friends and lovers return during Venus retrograde. It does make it worthwhile to look back at previous Venus retrograde dates and see where it was in your chart and try to recall how it affected you. Personal monies can be easily drained and even difficult to accumulate at this time. When you look at what Venus rules, like personal money, relationships, luxuries, spending money - it is wise to begin things in these areas AFTER Venus stations direct. New relationship? Wait. Old relationships are worth acknowledging though, but tread carefully. Down payment on a house? Wait. Thrift shopping and buying things that you see as valuable but others see as junk are okay to venture into. You are advised to be cautious when buying big ticket, luxury items and entering into new relationships because you may end up paying more than you expected. The temptations are there, Venus is a temptress, but it is important to notice them and resist them for the greater good. You will be rewarded for the sacrifices you make.
Internally, we are often contemplating a re-direction of our values and spend much time reflecting on relationships. What house Venus is in during this time will denote where you may want to refocus your energy. Sometimes we often retreat from the social scene and practice more self-love. With this retrograde in Leo we are challenging the very foundation of power and disempowerment. We may look at our roles and want to shed them to gain a new perspective from being on a different side. It’s a lot about love and war. Leo is the lion so we can often feel a heightened sense of pride for all Venusian related matters. People will be wresting with their image of the feminine. Some may even reckon with their own inner Queen. Nick Dagan Best has demonstrated the Venus Leo retrogrades to critical moments of race relations in the United States. It’s worth researching.

Dates when it is more likely that someone will show up from the past: August 31 - September 1 when Venus conjuncts Mars in Leo. Re-think it and do not jump back in to quickly.

On October 9th, Venus exits the shadow period of her retrograde cycle. The week leading up to actual stations are quite dramatic.


Aries Ascendant - Do not block your own light. Venus will be moving backward through your 5th house. There is new energy being put towards creativity, children, fun, love, and humor. There is much introspection in this area for you, perhaps you are having issues here and need this time to figure out a new way of going about things. To invite love from others think about the love you give. As an Aries Ascendant, you have no reservations when it comes to jumping into things head-on, just make sure it doesn’t concern spending money to feed the ego. Your artistic nature is where the real driving focus should be, for it is abounding! You will also question your expenditures of energy and your connection to the source of it.

Taurus Ascendant - Be honest with who you are. Venus will be moving backward through your  4th house. This is the area of home, family, roots and the past.  You’re more inclined to reflect on your emotional self and private life, how to replenish yourself and restore your spirit. Perhaps your family and home are being uprooted in some way and you seek new ways of putting forth energy here. It may be a time when you are planning to live in a new home or residence. As a Taurus Ascendant, you will want to ground yourself in sensuality, be nourished by touch, and feel the security of material things at this time. Take stock in what you have instead of what you don’t. Acknowledge your need to be recognized for who you are.

Gemini Ascendant - Make room for who you are. Venus will be moving backward through your 3rd house, which is your familiar territory. This is the area of communication, commerce, intellect, siblings, thought, writing and language as well as short trips. It is here you are asked to be more flexible and versatile when it comes to your values. Prioritize. In order to adopt or adapt it is advised that you improve in the way of communication. It is not so much about what you learn but that you learn. A Gemini Ascendant already has great familiarity with the 3rd house, but with Venus retrograde here, you are asked to contemplate and closely examine the changing contours of your environment. This includes people and social interactions in particular. Make room for who you are in your everyday life.

Cancer Ascendant - What are you really worth? Venus will be moving backward through your 2nd house. This is already Venusian territory and is the area of possessions, personal money, material worth. It will be tough for you to tame the yearning for more money because you will feel as though you fall short of what you truly need. Your value is not measured by your valuables. You must ask yourself what it is you truly desire and if you are somehow filling this void with material possessions. Lucrative times will find you when you find your true worth outside of money. Your own self estimation does not have a number attached to it. Do not measure yourself that way for you are much more than that.

Leo Ascendant - Managing your passions and relationships. Venus will be moving backward through your first house. The house of self, potential, ego, physical body. There is much thought being put into how to reshape your image because you want to make the most of your present opportunities. How you value yourself and project that to the world is going to be on your mind and probably even refocused. You seek admiration, and being a Leo Ascendant, you will go about garnering this with much heart and fiery determination. It helps that Jupiter is here too! Reversals of roles and how you adapt to these abrupt and dramatic changes are due to occur. Take care of your heart in both senses.

Virgo Ascendant - Take pride in who you’ve become. Venus will be moving backward through your 12th house. This is the house of self undoing, imagination, daydreams, subconscious, mental health, affairs, escapism. Gee, you may not even know what is going on right now because your mind is busied with your past. It is important to take time for yourself and reflect on what it is you want. Do not speak in absolutes for it is best to not cement any of your decisions at this time. Wait until this period is over. You may feel very rushed right now - rushed to do and to be and to act - but you must realize that you have the right to take all the time you need to work things out for yourself and your best interest. You will receive the credit that you are owed.

Libra Ascendant - Who are you to people? Venus is moving backward through your 11th house. This is Uranus territory so it has much to do with erratic behavior, society, friendships, fame and social interaction. Although you may feel overwhelmed by your friends right now, it is important to focus on them and see their true value. It’s a really personal time when you will be reflecting on the love you receive and how you receive it. You may feel it is not enough. It is worth examining if you are the culprit here - perhaps you aren’t giving enough. Don’t take those you have and objectify them to the point where you push them aside as if they’re just leftovers. Go back to the roots and you will rediscover the true intent of your friendships and what kind of friend you are.

Scorpio Ascendant - The importance of professional relationships. Venus is moving backward through your 10th house. This is the area of public persona, career, goals, the future. How you want others to see you plays a significant role right now in your mind. If you are uncertain about who you are in the eyes of others then that will be reflected back at you. You want admiration in your community, and you want to be loved widely, but it all happens when you truly know yourself well enough to show people just that. Wear who you are for all the world to see. Further introspection and values surround where you are going and what you truly want out of life. Success comes when you project your genuine self.

Sagittarius Ascendant - Re-discover your fundamental passions. Venus is moving back through your home territory of the 9th house. This, as you know, is the area of higher learning and education, long distance travel, culture, foreign lands, publishing and writings of intrinsic value, experiential learning. Values concerning the cultivation of beliefs play a major role. More importantly, you may feel you are biting off more than you can chew right now. Sorting out what you truly care about in the now is what must be focused on. You are spending entirely too much time trying to keep up with what no longer inspires you. The horse is dead - stop beating it. You are not letting anyone down by changing gears but you are dragging yourself down by carrying around what no longer serves you. Use all of your senses in the most delicious ways in order to reinvigorate yourself. Yoke the wild horses within.

Capricorn Ascendant - A knot that needs to be unwound. Venus is moving backward through your 8th house. This is the house of transformation, sex, rebirth, shared resources, hermitic tendencies. Your thinking is deeper now and your mind is filled with thoughts of finding truth. It’s a pretty heavy area. However, your focus is partly on acquiring new things, spending money together for new things and experiences - perhaps with a partner. The trouble here is that you should be focusing on what you already have that is of value. It is a time when Venus urges you to reflect on the unused “junk” you may have left out in the cold. Pick it up, re-shine it, remember why it made you happy when it was new. This will fill a void in you, it will serve as a reminder to cherish what is, and will open you up to a well of emotional energy. This may even be a time when you find something at a yard sale worth a lot of money. Ca-ching!

Aquarius Ascendant - The dynamics of personal truths. Venus will be moving backward through your 7th house. This is another one of the homes of Venus and has to do with partnerships, marriage, your shared self. Oh, the drama. It’s a good thing you know how to detach. You’re focusing too much on what you don’t want from your partner at this time. The thing is that you are manifesting what you don’t want by highlighting it. Instead, you must clearly communicate what it is you WANT in order to jump start this relationship and get it out of the rut it’s in. Find out what it is you truly want by being honest with yourself and honest with your partner. There are, after all, three people in a relationship: you, them, and the partnership itself. All three need to be addressed and free-flowing in order for you to begin anew.

Pisces Ascendant - Heath and daily work habits. Venus is moving backward through your 6th house. Virgo’s terrain. This is the area of service to others, physical health and wellbeing, routines to do with daily life and work. The tiniest necessities and attention to self are the focal point. You need to address how and why certain habits work or don’t work for you. Habits that affect the emotional life of your partnerships are being brought to light. You also need to prioritize and take one step at a time to get to the finish line. Your hard work will pay off if you don’t get in your own way. Look at the habits of others and see what they do and try to adopt some of them if you think it’ll work. Sometimes old routines become stale. Take time to pamper yourself and exercise, go to the doctor for a routine check-up, take vitamins. Take heed of your health and finances. Do whatever you need to do for yourself so you can put your best foot forward when being of service to others.

Slight rant

Recently I have been learning more and more about feminism - it’s very prominent at uni. In Philosophy we learnt about the difference between the phenomenal body and the objective body. After learning about the ways in which women are so often seen as and use their bodies as objects (eg. we use our body like an object when we groom it, shape it and gaze at it), and the reason (according to Young 1980) - we are brought up in a patriarchal society with the expectation that we are to be seen as objects. I can’t help but notice it more and more, and it makes me feel ill. Yesterday I was walking down the main street in shorts and a shirt and I look up, before entering my destination, to see a guy wink at me. Now, it’s not the wink that disgusted me (feel free to show people you’re interested in them, as long as you’re respectful), it’s the way he winked - that creepy smirk that accompanied it. So, I have to wonder if I’ve ever been in that position before or if I’m only just now realising it.
Another example that showed itself to me came about today while I was on Facebook, a girl posted on a job finding sight listing all her qualifications and the first comment on the post was about her profile picture and how it’s inappropriate and she wouldn’t be considered for any jobs because of it. Don’t get me wrong - I don’t agree with nudes or inappropriate photos on the internet but it’s their choice and it really stunned me that the person who commented took the time to go lurking through her profile pictures rather than either commenting a job that was hiring or ignoring the post. Her private life might be completely different to the way she acts at home or on the internet(I can see the future employer perspective as well…but still), I know A LOT of the people I’ve worked with are completely different! SO, of course I’m intrigued what could be so wrong with this profile picture and I have a look, and this is the worst part. You can tell she isn’t wearing a bra - that’s it! Nipple (through clothing) exposure, and the comments on it are revolting! And she hasn’t removed them, they’re 98% from males and they completely objectify her. You do not have a right to comment on someone else’s body without their permission - especially when you’re sexually objectifying her. 
Anyway - I guess 99% of the time I associate with feminist and respectful people which I appreciate so much more now, but these two scenarios really just opened my eyes. Rant over - sorry, had to get it of my chest. I also apologise for the fact that this is written pretty poorly due to frustration. 

anonymous asked:

not gonna lie, i've been considering leaving tumblr. People are so rude and trying to force their opinions too much. No one can just let others be happy, they need to point out flaws or why somethings is "problematic" hell even with david bowie passing, people are like "you can't mourn him bc he said.." you didn't give a shit about what he said before he died so why did you care now. I'm frustrated at this site so much

i know right??? tumblr is becoming really extremist at this point, to the extent that it’s really starting to support censorship - and that freaking terrifies me. 

i mean like, for example, though feeling objectified by a man horrible and shitty, seeing organized masses of people on tumblr saying that women are superior to men or saying that all straight white boys are trash (and to the people who say that: you’ve clearly never met my little brother, who is a straight white boy but is also the sweetest ray of sunshine you don’t deserve to meet) and then hunting down and harassing anyone with a different opinion, is significantly more horrifying to me

here’s the thing: sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic people are awful. don’t get me wrong, i think their opinions are horrible and i’d do whatever’s in my power to avoid them at all costs. But at the same time, THEY ARE ALLOWED TO HAVE THEIR OPINION. 

just because they have a shitty opinion, it doesn’t give you the right to march about on tumblr, all self-righteous, making public call out posts so that they get hit with tons of hate mail and death threats, forcing them to either change their opinion or you ruin their lives.

also this whole culture where, some jerk (who is often of a lower economic class, and lives in a condition wherein saying things that we perceive as offensive are the norm so, even if its a shitty thing to say, they kind of don’t know any better) says something problematic on social media and they and their employers are immediately hit with an onslaught of internet sjws demanding they get fired, and then they do and they lose their jobs and their homes, which subsequently screws up their childrens lives too… and tumblr is 100% in support of this and tbh i find that disgusting

One of my favourite quotes by Voltaire is “I disapprove of what you say, but I defend to the death your right to say it.”

the sjws of tumblr need to get their heads out of their asses and realize that this culture they’re creating of “believe what i believe or i will attack you” is fucking censorship

also i’m really horrified by the david bowie thing holy fuck are people actually saying that??