Sixth grader Molly Neuner broke her school’s dress code on purpose to take a stand against sexism

On a Friday not long ago, sixth grader Molly Neuner went to a community meeting.

At that community meeting at King Middle School in Portland, Maine, half of her grade, both boys and girls, gathered to talk about the dress code. 

That’s when Molly realized something: There were wildly different rules for the girls and the boys, with far more attention paid to what the girls were wearing than the boys.

“It made me feel uncomfortable, because I don’t want boys looking at me in weird ways and it was awkward. It made me feel sad, because I knew friends in that room who were lesbian or gay who were left out, and I saw another girl look down and looked upset because they said that.“

The following Monday, Molly experienced firsthand what it felt like to get called out at school because of her clothing, with a teacher telling her and a friend to stand up in front of the class and measure her shirt strap. 

If she wore that shirt again, she was told, she’d get detention. When she came home and told her mother, Christina Neuner, this, that’s when the wheels started turning.

“I thought, ‘Oh hell no, this is not happening,’” Neuner said in an interview. “The next day, we started looking online at ‘girls and dress codes’ and saw it was a problem at other schools, and we found the #IAmNotADistraction campaign.”

So last Wednesday, Molly wore a tank top that she loved with lace at the top, but also one she knew would be breaking the dress code. 

She paired it with the words #IAmNotADistraction written on her arm. Read more (4/17/17)

It’s honestly so alienating to see almost every narrative about romance insist that a woman’s beauty is, if not the primary reason to love her, at least a basic requirement for her to deserve love.

Like, men can be loved for being brave or strong or vulnerable or funny or warm or charming. Women who can’t be loved for just those things, we also have to be beautiful.

Even in the stories intended to be escapist fantasies for women, being treated according to our value as decoration is still front and centre.

Watching natural-looking people engaging in sex that is consensual, mutually pleasurable, and realistic may not be harmful–heck, it might be a good idea–but the occasional feminist porn site aside, this is not what the $97 billion global porn industry is shilling. It’s producers have only one goal: to get men off hard and fast for profit. The most efficient way to do so appears to be eroticizing the degradation of women. In the study of behaviours in popular porn, nearly 90 percent of 304 random scenes contained physical aggression toward women, while close to half contained verbal humiliation. The victims nearly always responded neutrally or with pleasure. More insidiously, women would sometimes initially resist abuse, begging their partners to stop; when that didn’t happen, they acquiesced and began to enjoy the activity, regardless of how painful or debasing it was.

- Peggy Orenstein, ‘Girls & Sex’

From the same people that brought to you the blatant objectification of women in the media, we now bring you the blatant objectification of women in the media but with a little explanation WHY we’re doing this

And from the same people who brought to you whitewashing in the media, we now bring to you whitewashing in the media but with a little explanation to WHY we’re doing this

few things are more obnoxious than a man deriding women as a class for being obsessed w how we look or for how long it takes us to get ready or for how much shopping women do etc etc and taking some smugly superior tone abt how men don’t do that shit

like fuck you!! maybe if you being treated as a person was conditional on how you looked, you too might feel compelled to look as palatable as possible, wouldn’t u!

stop treating the problem as a natural feature of our silly frillsome lady-brains and maybe notice the cultural context. we don’t need to be condescendingly reassured that none of this really matters, we need u and ur guy pals to stop making it matter

They tell us our sexualization, objectification and submission is “empowering” so that we will be content with that and let it suffice; so that we won’t demand more, so that we won’t demand real liberation, real power and true equality. It’s a bait playing at our ingrained belief that a woman gets her value through men’s validation, leading to the trap that is our continued subordination.

So let me get this straight

This is fine

This is fine

This is fine.

This is fine

This is fine

This is fine

This is fine

This is fine

This is fine

But these are bad

Here’s the thing, any gender can be sexualized. So when criticizing the way a character dresses, don’t let your personal thoughts interfere, try to be objective.