Tonight

My 15 year-old sister got in an argument with a male friend of hers. Apparently he wouldn’t quit ogling and sending pictures of his cousin’s “hot girlfriend” in a bikini and talking trash about the girls at their school who “think they have it but don’t” and wear bikinis even though they “shouldn’t” and make him “want to gag”, proceeding to call them slurs like “whores” and the like.

My perfect 15 year-old sister proceeded to inform this boy that a) he is “full of shit”, b) he has zero room or right to judge or shame any girl for their body and what they put on it, because c) they certainly are t wearing it to impress him. Her words exactly to this boy: “you aren’t the one wearing the bikini, you aren’t the one they’re wearing it for, and quite frankly girls like [a mutual friend of theirs] inspire me with their confidence to be who they want to be and wear what they want to wear”. He told her that it was “the truth”, his “opinion”, and that he knew why she was “getting offended”, but “shouldn’t” because he wasn’t saying that SHE couldn’t pull it off.

It’s times like these when I am both disgusted by the boys in my hometown being raised to believe they get to ogle, objectify, and have a say in everything a girl does/doesn’t do, and at the same time indescribably proud of the woman my sister is growing up to be.

Seriously though, this kid was my student aide last semester and I can confirm he is 100% full of his own bullshit. And just so we’re clear: maybe he’s correct to some extent that some girls can “pull off” a bikini, and some can’t. But you should also take into consideration that some guys have big dicks and others don’t, and since having a tiny dick doesn’t keep them from acting like a big dick, then a girl’s body shape and size shouldn’t stop her from wearing whatever the hell she wants.

Rant over. Holley out.

Women are men’s objects of sexual desire because that’s how to biologically reproduce. I have to explain where babies come from because you’re stupid and indoctrinated. Did you understand that? Probably not.

Manslation: Look, I might’ve missed out on a few biology classes, so what? You can’t tell me that “objectification” isn’t an essential part of the human reproduction process. In fact, FEMINISTS have been trying to trick me with tall tales about sperms and eggs, but I know better since the last time I ogled a lady she had a baby on the spot.

Lauren Stardust

“This is what I was wearing today when two women saw fit to laugh at me in a restaurant while I sat and ordered food with my partner.

It started with one pointing me out to the other.

I watched while the friend "casually” stretched and turned to face me, her head whipping back around to confirm her shared opinion of what I as wearing. They both began to laugh.

I sighed, willing to let it go… but it didn’t stop.

Finally when the friend pulled out her phone to take my photo over her shoulder (disguising it as a selfie) I had had enough.

I got up from my table approached them both and simply asked “I’m sorry but are you both laughing at me?”

They responded that it wasn’t the case, but the obviousness of whole façade made the bullshit buzzer go off in my head.

“Oh good! I was starting to feel really self conscious!” (I finished) and went back to my seat.

What these two women subjected me too today is a symptom of Internalised Misogyny:

“involuntary internalization by women of the sexist messages that are present in their societies and culture.” (for further reading http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/choice-feminism-internalized-misogyny/)

I haven’t mentioned the women’s age or what they were wearing because it’s not relevant.

How they present themselves does not affect me.

It doesn’t change my life in any way.

Women are constantly judged for everything. It’s inescapable.

Let me get one thing straight.

I am fully aware that I dress like I’ve been fucked by a unicorn.

I know because I dress myself every morning… and would you believe? It’s deliberate!!!

I don’t wake up and think “Gee, I wonder how I can appeal to strangers today?”

Our patriarchal society makes strangers -of any gender- think it acceptable to humiliate a woman based on how she woke up that morning and got dressed to please herself.

So next time you catch yourself critiquing someone’s appearance negatively (In particular, how women dress) maybe try to think instead of why you feel the need to make that horrible assessment?

Are you intimidated by them? Are you sexualising them? Are you repulsed because they don’t adhere to your standards of beauty?

Then ask yourself why any of those things bother you in the first place.“

#feminism   #feminist   #internalisedmisogyny   #patriarchalsociety

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So, maybe people have already seen this, but this is a piece by Megan Murphy at FeministCurrent.com and a small snippet of the comments the article received and allowed.

Megan Murphy herself concedes that the naked female body isn’t inherently sexual and for the male gaze but insists that Laverne’s photoshoot is objectification. 

She then precedes to mock what she calls Laverne’s body as a “cartoonish version of a woman””. This kind of language surrounding trans women is not new. I can’t even count how many times I have seen trans women referred to “caricatures” “imitations” and “masquerades”, language layered over the top of each other to mock the very idea of a trans woman and to pick apart her body, but in the name of “feminism”. 

Bodily autonomy pushed aside in order to reduce Laverne to some child who is not capable of making decisions for herself. A decision she made to express her pride in her own black, trans identity becomes fodder for women to infantilise her  and ridicule her. 

But don’t worry, she justifies not allowing Laverne her own bodily autonomy in the comments section, because apparently you cannot aim for collective liberation while having control over your own body and sexuality. 

We need to remember that this kind of feminism exists, the kind that will speak about black, trans bodies with contempt and breeds transphobic “gender critical” nonsense. 

A 2009 Princeton University-based study led by psychologist Susan Fiske revealed how commonplace objectifying women — especially those who reveal their bodies in any way — truly is.

The study found that when men were shown images of “scantily clad” women, the region of the brain associated with tool use lit up. Some men included in the study even had zero brain activity in the area of the brain used to gauge another person’s thoughts, feelings or intentions, according to National Geographic’s coverage of the study.

Fiske and her team also found that men largely associated bikinis with “I” action verbs (like “I grab”) and images of modestly dressed women with third person action verbs (“she grabs”), suggesting that men largely see women as sentient humans rather than objects only when not distracted by their bodies.

20 things women care more about than being attractive to random men:

1. Where do I want to be in five years?

2. Should I ask for a raise?

3. Do I want children?

4. Should I write a book?

5. Should I get this mole on my butt checked out?

6. Is an IUD the best birth control option for me?

7. It is time to stop stealing WiFi from the neighbors?

8. Will I make rent this month?

9. Why does the guy I’m dating keep using the banana emoji?

10. Should I go back to school?

11. Will 3-D Doritos ever come back?

12. Should I run for office?

13. I wish I could unfollow people’s babies on Facebook.

14. Is Greece going to be OK?

15. What ever happened to Cherry Coke?

16. Do I say “just” too much?

17. I wonder if Iran will reach a nuclear deal.

18. Do I need a Boston cream doughnut right now?

19. Why didn’t I get that Boston cream doughnut earlier?

20. I wonder how far I have to walk to the closest Boston cream doughnut.

Got that, former Disney CEO Michael Eisner?

anonymous asked:

Why is it ok for women to look at shirtless pics of Captain America or Han Solo but if guys look at Princess Leia in a bikini it's wrong?

Because when Cap is shirtless (when is Han Solo shirtless in the franchise?) it is an expression of power. When Cap is shirtless in Captain America: The First Avenger, he has just emerged from Howard’s awesome body building- hero making machine. (Get me one of those pronto, I want to be a muscular deity too). This image is one of control, power, heroism and strength. 

When Leia is put in that bikini it is the opposite scenario. It is about stripping a powerful female character of her strength and agency for seemingly no reason but the male gaze. 

xxx

You know how people say that we need to refer to ourselves as “period havers” or “bleeders”?

Well, I’m watching Criminal Minds and there is an episode where a serial killer refers to his female targets as bleeders. And they literally profile him as misogynistic and objectifying his victims. You know. Just sayin.

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Simon Pegg Has Beef with Rebecca Ferguson’s ‘Mission: Impossible’ Poster

“Last month Paramount released several character posters for Mission: Impossible - Rogue Nation in preparation for the film’s nationwide release tomorrow, and it seems one of the film’s stars has a bit of a bone to pick with how the studio’s marketing department chose to portray the film’s female lead in her poster.

“When the posters came out, it was me in a jacket, Tom [Cruise] in a jacket, Jeremy[Renner] in a jacket, Ving [Rhames] in a jacket and Rebecca [Ferguson] in leather with her [butt] sticking out.” That’s Simon Pegg talking to USA Today about Rogue Nation’s poster campaign, and he seems pretty disappointed by it as he went on to add, “It was like, 'No, don’t do that.’ We’re doing something good here. Trying to, at least.”

Pegg certainly has a point. For reference, here are the six character posters Paramount released for the film’s male stars…

… all finely groomed and clothed in very cool-looking jackets. And then here is the one the studio released of Ferguson. Notice she is the only one sexily straddling a bike with her butt facing the camera.”

Read the full piece here

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After 19 years, Lara Croft is still being treated like a piece of meat 

At E3 this week, Lara Croft got a very different treatment than some other game remakes. In a behind-the-scenes glance at her name game, we didn’t hear about the story, the development of her character or the new worlds she will explore. Instead, we got a sneak peek at the creation of her digital body — creating a false sense of empowerment.

“Literally cried when we saw this photo. Such perfect juxtaposition that simply depicts why our work is important and how this movement is affecting the bigger picture. This photo is powerful because it presents the sexualization of women in the industry (and the shift that’s occurring) in a way that’s undeniable, even to those who couldn’t see it before. Thanks @kaiju_niku for taking this photo!”

As seen on the She Shreds Facebook page   

Pretenders’ Chrissie Hynde’s advice to women in rock: “Remember you’re in a rock and roll band. It’s not “fuck me,” it’s “fuck you”!

How can you explain to a stranger that a compliment makes us feel afraid? That words like “gorgeous” and “beautiful” sound like threats when we hear them whispered to us on an empty street late at night? That we feel uneasy, objectified, and uncomfortable when you say this to us while we’re going about our normal routine, not asking to be judged on our appearance out loud? That this thing they do for fun is at the expense of our peace of mind?

adria-a-h asked:

hey would you mind explaining a little more about the white gaze syndrome, Isaw your response to and became curious...

Hi, sure

The white gaze syndrome/effect/phenomenon is a multi-faceted concept. In one of its more popular forms it is commonly used in photography and artwork to depersonalize non-Western cultures, lands, and people (typically from North Africa, the Middle East, South Asia, and East Asia). It is a notion that has come a long way since European colonial fascination and exotification of the East (otherwise known as Orientalism). To back track, Orientalism is the deliberate misunderstanding of the East by constructing it as a mystical land with esoteric cultures and exotic people and goods. This objectification dehumanizes civilizations of the East, reducing them – in the European colonial eye – to backward, uncivilized, and even dangerous entities, but all the while fascinating, intriguing ones that are waiting to be picked and commodified by the white Western man. Orientalism has been used to justify imperialism and exploitation of other people and their lands throughout history.

So where does the white gaze come into play? It’s essentially a tool used to erase the human identity of North African/Middle Eastern/South Asian/East Asian people and cultures by portraying them as exotic people in exotic places. You’ll have white people going to these places to snap wondrous photographs that make distant lands seem alluring and foreign, and inserting themselves in the photos to make it seem like they’re in contact with some far away society. You’ll have white people taking photos of “beautiful” women in villages of Afghanistan and instead of bothering to know their names or where they come from, title their stunning pictures as “Afghan Girl.” You’ll have white people deliberately taking trips to foreign countries for the mere purpose of photographing specific and nameless people and their lifestyles that fall into stereotypical tropes to represent and frame the entire culture and country (See: ”Woman in Canary Burqa”). Then they’ll sell these photos to high-ranking magazines or publications to capitalize on this exotification. It goes on and on.

White people also do all this while domestically berating and ridiculing the very cultures they are so fascinated by. They’ll invade Afghanistan, exhibit racism towards North Africans, discriminate against Middle Easterners and South Asians, but still want to go to their homelands to get fame and recognition, money and popularity through pictures and professional shots of their culture, people, and geography.

The problem with white people doing this isn’t that they go to other countries to take pictures. Tourism and genuine curiosity is fine. It’s that they are more interested in profiting off of and showing off captured stills that feed into the Otherness of the lands they visit rather than acknowledging that the residing people are just everyday civilians living their own lives. They try to, again, make people seem exotic and different, alien and mysterious by representing only specific aspects of the culture and society while ignoring the larger, more normal aspects of these people- all to earn money or get some kind of personal gain. And then on top of that they erase the identity of the people they capitalize off of. There is no name, no face even, and then the individuals in the photograph are reduced to descriptions of their attire or their nationality. In the case of landscapes they attempt to manipulate the images to make it seem more sensual than appreciatively beautiful.

Exotification through the white gaze effect also leads to the intense sexualizing of women of other cultures and their bodies, fetishization, and overall weird obsessions with “foreign” cultures. Ever hear of Asian women being sexualized and fetishized by white men? All because of Orientalism. These women are deliberately portrayed as nimble, submissive, and virginal through art, photography, and conquest throughout European and American history.

So essentially this is the white gaze syndrome. It tries to make other people, other cultures, and other landscapes come off as exotic while disregarding the human element. It tries to fetishize them, erase them, and sexualize them to feed some strange fascination that white people have. Photography and art is at the forefront of this because these media is used to selectively portray people and cultures as mystical, sensual, distant, and different. Then those photos are mass produced, sold at high prices, and the perpetrators are promoted. Meanwhile, it makes white people further misunderstand what the lives of people in different parts of the world is like.