Since becoming aware of O Magazine’s comments on flat bellies and crop tops I’ve been thinking a lot about how women’s clothing is policed and how much turmoil that causes within the many different subgroups of the feminine identity experience. I’m going to talk about that more in the future, but piggybacking on that, I want to say this:
That statement ripped open an old wound for me as I’m sure it did for many others. I don’t have a flat stomach. In fact, this is the smallest my stomach has ever been. I remember being young and feeling like I didn’t deserve to explore the physical aspects of my womanhood because it was co-occuring with morbid obesity. It’s statements like these, published for all eyes, that make girls and women succumb to the allure of unworthiness. It’s statements like these that make wet pillows at night and starving stomachs during the day. It was statements like these that made me stop believing in myself time and time again.
Body equality is important to me and I don’t ever want to stop challenging those old and harmful ways of thinking. I want to help shape a world where a woman doesn’t have to defend her right to be in a crop top or in her underwear if she so chooses. I’m sending good vibes to everyone who has been negatively impacted by the media’s harsh regulations on your freedom of style and I hope you never stop wearing whatever the f*ck you want.
Sorry for any typos. Typing this on the fly.
But like… what the fuck is wrong with him? I have so many things to say I don’t know where to begin.. if you have a problem with fat girls, fuck you, if you have a problem with curvy girls, fuck you. If you honestly think that “stating an opinion in which you shouldnt be judged for” is when you’re trying to hurt, discriminate, make fun of and humiliate someone on a public platform.. fuck you. And of course she had to be black. There are skinny women out here with diabetes, can’t go up a flight of stairs without being winded, have high blood pressure, can be just as unhealthy as she is, but because she’s looking at confident as ever and so happy, this stupid, ignorant, dumbass has the nerve to run his mouth about it? I can’t why do people think that this shit is okay? Why do people make fun of overweight people? It’s so commonly accepted. Why don’t people with their rib cages, hip bones and collar bones protruding from their skin get made fun of? I fucking cant.
Those of you who can afford to buy organic, or even just buy fresh produce: please do.
The more healthy food we buy, the more in demand it becomes, the cheaper it will be.
The cheaper it is, the more people in poverty will be able to afford healthy food, the more kids won’t grow up obese, the more adults won’t be trapped in a cycle.
Every time you buy something, you cast a vote for it to be in supply, to be produced more, to be cheaper.
You’re the first doctor to actually touch me in 17 years. The rest of them just see a fat guy and write a prescription.
480-pound man with intertrigo.
WTF, my colleagues? Just because a person weighs more than another person doesn’t mean that you get some kind of Physical Exam Not Required modifier. Since when does “patient is obese” = “patient’s self-description of their medical concern is enough for me, wouldn’t want to actually use my skills to make a proper diagnosis”?!
This rage isn’t just targeted at “the rest of them” – I’m upset when I recall the times that I’ve convinced myself that a physical exam of an obese [or smelly or wheel-chair-bound or hyperactive or or or] patient isn’t worth the hassle. Sure, some of those times it probably wasn’t necessary in order to manage the presenting complaint – but what unknown overlooked conditions did I miss by being lazy, by stereotyping my patient and offering 2nd-class medicine? SMH.
So let’s make this our guiding slogan when faced with internal pulling-back from providing the usual standard of care, my colleagues:
Diet books are a multimillion-dollar industry, and it’s no surprise, since millions of people struggle with their weight and long for answers about what they can do to slim down. Books can provide valuable tips on healthful patterns of eating. Some are more outlandish than others. But the problem with all of them is what they promise when it comes to weight loss.
No doctor has ever uncovered the solution to weight loss. If someone had found the fix for this immensely vexing and complex problem, we wouldn’t be facing an obesity crisis.
But unfortunately, more and more respected doctors, despite their good intentions, are complicit with the publishing industry in confusing science and obscuring hard truths about obesity to sell diet books. It’s one thing when actress Gwyneth Paltrow tells people to avoid “nightshade vegetables” on an elimination diet, and quite another when a highly trained and credentialed physician sells a weight loss lie.