you may not agree with the Supreme Court ruling today, but many do. people gained LIFE today. people FOUND STRENGTH today. people RECEIVED HOPE today. people get to marry WHOMEVER THEY LOVE today. that sounds pretty great right? abunch of amazing things for humanity happening today and not once did I mention the word “gay”. it’s not that I believe that being gay is right, but I don’t believe it isn’t right. my outtake on relationships is marry who makes you happy, makes you feel important, and loves you for who you are. if that happens to be a girl or a boy then who cares. im a Christian and that by NO MEANS means that I hate LGBT. my religion says man and woman and that’s what I believe is right, so that makes being LGBT a sin. people sin everyday, no big deal. the BIBLE SAYS that every sin is equal in God’s eyes. so that means murder is as easily forgiven as lying. so lying is EQUAL to being “gay”. being gay isn’t wrong, it makes people happy and there is absolutely no way anyone can possibly tell me that being happy is wrong. there is no reason to hate someone because of ONE life decision. ONE CHOICE does not send you to hell. ONE CHOICE is ONE CHOICE and I LOVE the people standing up for their decision because if it was me, and it was something in my heart that I thought was right I would have done the same thing. don’t hate today, don’t hate others. today is about equality for all, embrace it. love has won.
Today, Dom Leon-Davis and and I are celebrating our two year anniversary and because what I wrote last year still stands true (With some edits of course)…
Two years ago today, Dom and I jumped out of bed and literally pranced around our hotel room (yes, just how it happens in the movies) as we sang along to Bruno Mars’ “Marry Me.” Just a couple of hours later him and I were surrounded by our family members and friends in Central Park at the very location him and I had our first NYC date. The day as you can imagine, was filled with love, laughter, and freezing hands since we had decided to have an outdoor wedding at the end of the year. We took pictures at our hotel room, we walked through Times Square, took a cab to Central Park and rode into our wedding on a horse drawn carriage. As soon as we got to our wedding location we walked down the aisle together to see the faces of our family and friends standing there waiting for us to unite our lives. What I failed to realize at that moment was just how AMAZING it really was. How the people who had once questioned me or Dom because of our sexuality, or had failed to accept us as we were, were now standing there in support of our love.
As I look back at these two years I am grateful not only to Dom, for putting up with me as a crazy ass human being, but to all of those people who were there supporting us. Just about everyday since then I have thought about how privileged Dom and I are to be married. How privileged we are to be young, in love, married and living out our dreams in NYC. We actually talk about it often and are amazed because even 5 years ago, this wouldn’t have been possible. Of course, we still get harassed and we are still finding the courage to be our true selves in all spaces, but the fact that we are HERE is amazing. And we know that it wouldn’t have been possible without all of the amazing people fighting for justice everyday.
On a final note, whoever says marriage is easy is a damn liar. Marriage means working as hard as Beyoncé to remind each other everyday that having each other is a blessing and that rough times come and go. At the end of the day, it’s about the love between you and your partner. I thank God everyday for the blessings in my life, but today, I especially thank him for bringing Dom into my life and for showing me that everyone has their meant-to-be.
Dom Leon-Davis, thank you for stealing my heart four years ago and for taking me off the market two years ago. I am so blessed to wake up next to you every morning and bug the shit out of you! I love you.
Why I no longer identify as bisexual (and why I'm okay with that)
I am a nineteen year old girl going to one of the best Christian schools in the country. When I chose my college, I also chose to give up a part of myself. When I was filling out my request for housing information, I had to say I was straight because otherwise no one would want to room with me. It is not the most conservative of Christian schools, and many of the students support marriage equality. However, tolerance is different than acceptance.
I live in fear that my friends would look at me differently if they ever found out that my first kiss was with a girl or that I dated my best friend for four months. I worry that the word “lesbian” or “bi” will accidentally slip out of one of my sisters’ mouths in a conversation with my college friends. I’m scared that someday I will raise my children in a religion that condemns their mother.
I live in fear of who I used I be, and who I, under layers of fear and faith, still am.
Today, on June 26th, 2015, the Supreme Court took a huge step toward equality. This fills me with mixed emotions personally, but the joy is overwhelming. I have no desire to marry someone of the same gender, but this is a big deal for me - and everyone, no matter what their sexuality, gender, or personal beliefs.
I have a very unique, yet simple, belief: everyone is entitled to their own walk of life. You want to marry someone of the same gender? Fine. You disagree with homosexual marriage based on religious grounds? That’s okay too. In fact, I respect that because it’s a difficult stance to take, especially now. As long as you aren’t interfering with anyone else’s life, you do what you believe in! That’s why I, like many other Episcopalians, defend the separation of church and state. The government has no right to tell a couple they can’t get married, but the government also has no right to force a church to allow homosexual marriage if it is against their code of conduct. If the church can’t tell the government what to do, then the government can’t tell the church what to do.
The fight does not end here. Legalization of homosexual marriage does not necessarily mean equality has been reached. Homophobia is still visible, whether through words of ignorance or hate crimes. But we are closer.
A little late but Happy 1 Month anniversary of being a married couple to my beautiful wife! Thank you for being the best wife and friend I could ever ask for. This past week has been extremely difficult and I couldn’t do it without you. I love you the most, Mrs. Jones