nurturing balance

Numerology 101

In my time running this blog, I haven’t seen a single post about numerology, maybe just because nobody knows it, or maybe because witches have a pathological fear of math. Either way, it’s a shame! The basics of numerology are painfully easy to grasp, and I would mark it down as one of the easiest divinitory systems I’ve tried to date. So let’s hit the basics!

We’ll jump right into it.

The Math

Actually, we need to work out the numbers we’re using first. While a person’s birthday is already very handily in a numeric form for you, their name is written up in pesky letters. But every letter has a corresponding numerological number, and by noting the number for each letter in a name, you’re able to calculate what you need.

Here’s a chart of the numbers, nice and easy and not necessary to memorize at all.

The numerological ‘alphabet’ if you will, only goes from the numbers 1-9. The letter ‘A’ marks 1, then J does again, then S. The more you work with numbers, the more you’ll come to just know what letters are associated with what, but even if you don’t, this chart is easy to replicate and even easier to find online.

The next part comes in writing out the numbers for a person’s name. You’ll want to keep this organized rather than messy, as  you’ll be using different parts of the numbers to calculate different things. I like to write out the names, then write the numbers for all the vowels above the name, then all the numbers for the consonants below the name. When you’ve done so, it should look something like this:

Some things to note:

  • Y is treated as a vowel when there are no other vowels in a syllable (Ex: Lynn, Carolyn)
  • W is treated as a vowel when preceded by a vowel and when it produces a single sound (Ex: Bradshaw, Matthew)

The birthday, again, is already in numeric format, so now all of your numbers just need to be added properly. Which brings us back to the scary part.

The Actual Math

Really, it’s nothing more than basic sums. If you can add, you can figure out your numbers. Hell, if you can’t add, you can have a calculator figure it out for you.

It is a little more involved than adding all the numbers you’ve so dutifully marked down and calling it a day, but let’s work through it first.

First, add all the numbers from the vowel section together. Then, add all the numbers from the consonant section together. If we go off the name I provided above, it should look something like this:

Congrats, the hardest bit of math is over!

“But Shay,” you say. “You said the numerological alphabet only consists of the numbers 1-9!”

And so I did. But I also said only the worst of the math was over. Next, we need to break down the numbers we got until they fall into that range. What you do for this is you take each numeral in the number and you add them together.

Let’s break it down. Looking at the vowel section, we’ve been left with the number 22. To get the numerological number, you take each numeral and add them together - here, that looks like 2 + 2 and leaves us with the number 4, perfectly within our range.

Our consonant number at the moment is 54, or 5 + 4, which adds up to 9. Again, in range. Should you get a number that’s still too big, keep breaking it down until it’s only one digit. For example, the number 98 becomes 17 (9 + 8), but then 17 becomes 8 (1 + 7) and is now within the acceptable range.

You’ve just calculated the Inner Dreams number and the Soul Urge number. And by adding those two together (and reducing as necessary) you will have the Destiny Path number. In this case, it’s 4 (The Soul Urge and Inner Dreams numbers 9 and 4 add up to 13, and 13 as 1 + 3 equals 4).

That’s three numbers down, one to go.

We’ve largely neglected the Life Path number, but all it really requires is the reduction method we just covered.

Take my birthday. April 27th, 1993, or in number terms, 04/27/1993. All you have to do is add all these numbers together, then once they’re nice and neat in one giant number, you simplify it as you learned. 04 + 27 + 1993 = 2024, which gives us a number to reduce. Even though it’s more than two digits, you handle it the same way. 2 + 0 + 2 + 4 adds up to 8, making a quick work of the reduction and giving us our Life Path number.

For you visual learners out there, it looks something like this:

Breaking it Down

So now, we have all four of our numbers! And with minimal tears shed. For the sake of having everything in one place, all of my numbers put together look something like this:

A number showing up more than once implies a strength of presence in that number - two or three times indicates that the traits associated with that number are strong, as do numbers that ‘resonate’, such as how 4 fits evenly into 8 or 3 fits evenly into 9. If there are too many repetitions of a number, expect to see more and more of the negative associations of those traits brought to light. Keep your eye out for these, as they will amplify one another.

Okay, but what does it all mean?

The Divination

There are four major numbers you go for when putting someone’s numbers together. The Life Path number, the Destiny Path number, the Soul Urge number, and the Inner Dreams number.

Life Path:

The life path number is the sum of the numbers in one’s birthday (date, month, and year). It relates to the path in life one will take and the traits one has at birth.

Destiny Path:

The destiny path number is the sum of all letters in one’s full name. It relates to the tasks one was meant to achieve in their lifetime.

Soul Urge:

The soul urge number is the sum of all vowels in a person’s name. It represents a person’s inner cravings, their likes and dislikes, and what they value most.

Inner Dreams:

The inner dreams number is the sum of all consonants in a person’s name. It represents secret dreams, inner desires, and fantasies.

And lastly, the meaning of the numbers themselves. This post is already long enough to the point where I’m not going to write up a paragraph about each and every number (they are all available and more if you look them up online), but I’ll give you a run-down for each.

1:

Positive Traits:
Initiator, pioneering spirit, inventive ideas, strong leadership skills, independent
Negative Traits:
Overly assertive, aggressive, domineering, impulsive, egotistic, boastful

2:

Positive Traits:
Cooperative, adaptable, considerate of others, sensitive, diplomatic, modest
Negative Traits:
Shy, timid, fearful, drowns in the details, easily depressed

3:

Positive Traits:

  • Self-expressive, inspired, happy, fun-loving, keen imagination
  • Negative Traits:
  • Scattered energies, self-centeredness, unfinished projects, lack of direction

4:

Positive Traits:
Strong sense of order, highly practical, steady growth, fine management skills
Negative Traits:
Lack of imagination, stubborn, fixed opinions, argumentative, slow to act

5:

Positive Traits:
Expansiveness, new visionary ideas, quick thinking, versatile, resourceful
Negative Traits:
Restless, discontent, edgy temperament, dissatisfaction, overhasty, impatient

6:

Positive Traits:
Responsible, artistic, nurturing, community-oriented, balanced, sympathetic
Negative Traits:
Self-righteous, obstinate, stubborn, meddlesome, egotistical, dominating

7:

Positive Traits:
Methodical, analytical, intelligent, scientific, studious, solitary, perfectionist
Negative Traits:
Hidden motives, suspicious, overly reserved, isolated, inflexible

8:

Positive Traits:
Good leader, strong sense of direction, sound judgement, decisive, commanding
Negative Traits:
Overly ambitious, oppressive, impatient, stressed, materialistic

9:

Positive Traits:
Hearty friendliness, humanitarian instincts, giving, selfless, creative
Negative Traits:
Self-adulation, scattered interests, possessiveness, moodiness, carelessness 

So there you have it! Put the numbers you calculated to their associated meanings and work it out in your head, just like with tarot or other divinatory practices.

Just a few parting comments before I end this post.

In Summation

This is the setup for a slightly above basic numerological reading. The most basic that I ever use involves taking just the Life Path and Destiny path numbers. To take an even more complex spread, you could break down the person’s full name by each individual name, analyzing the vowels, consonants, and overall number for the first, middle, and last name individually, so that you can study what builds a person up into their full name and their path numbers. This gets very extensive very fast, and even with just the four above, you may end up doing three numbers per name plus the Life Path number. For your standard 3-name schema, this would involve ten numbers. Still manageable, but quite a lot.

On the topic of nicknames: generally, the rule in numerology is that you should use the name a person has held the longest. For example, Shay isn’t my birth name, but I’ve been called Shay for just over half of my lifetime. This is a good guideline, but please consider it only as a guideline. If someone has a name they do not wish to be called, respect them, and analyze the name they give you instead. An interesting thing to do - if the subject is comfortable - is to compare the birth name with the chosen name numerologically, and they can comment on advances that you have made through your life.

This is all I can think of at the moment! Go forth and numerolocize!

Lastly, I put together a blank template so you can practice on your own :D

Ceres

Ceres in Aries
With Ceres in Aries there is a strong need and yearning for independence and expression of the self. They help and nurture others by teaching them how to be independent and self-sufficient.

Ceres in Taurus
Ceres in Taurus natives tend to feel at their most secure when they have stability in every aspect of their life. They appreciate the simple things in life and doing little things for themselves and others such as pampering, a nice shopping spree and more makes them feel nurtured.

Ceres in Gemini
With Ceres in Gemini, there is a need to communicate and they are excellent at listening to and communicating with others. They expect to be listened to, understood and spoken to. All this makes them feel secure knowing that they have someone who listens and understands.

Ceres in Cancer
Ceres in Cancer needs to be cared for in an almost motherly way. They know how to care for others and provide a home for them and they do expect the same thing back in order to feel nurtured.

Ceres in Leo
With Ceres in Leo there’s a strong need for attention, to be validated and respected. Ceres in Leo provides support, adoration, attention and affection back so they do expect the same thing from others in order for them to feel fulfilled.

Ceres in Virgo
Ceres in Virgo feels nurtured when they are close to perfection mentally, physically and emotionally. To them, things should go according to plan and they help others how to organize and plan things as well. They feel fulfilled when things are falling into place.

Ceres in Libra
Ceres in Libra feels nurtured through their balanced relationships with other people and simply being around things or people they consider beautiful. They try hard to make others surroundings just as beautiful and pleasing.

Ceres in Scorpio
With Ceres in Scorpio, they feel nurtured through intimacy. Being able to dig deep into someone and helping them by forms of healing are fulfilling to them. They are loyal and honest to others and they expect the same back.

Ceres in Sagittarius
Ceres in Sagittarius feels fulfilled when people are being honest to them, enlightening them and also supporting them and making them laugh. Ceres in Sagittarius does an excellent job at coaching and supporting others.

Ceres in Capricorn
Ceres in Capricorn feels nurtured when they are in control and being acknowledged for the work they put out and get the credit they deserve along with success. They know how to help others succeed and do a great job at inspiring.

Ceres in Aquarius
With Ceres in Aquarius there’s a need for being accepted for who you are and being around those you love. Ceres in Aquarius natives are generally open minded and they are accepting of others and are willing to lend a helping hand.

Ceres in Pisces
Ceres in Pisces can take on the feelings and problems of others as their own so they greatly need their alone time because they’re prone to getting easily overwhelmed. They nurture and fulfill others through their compassion and tolerant nature.

Random Thing About Magick, And The Occult #1

The elements can be invoked to bring forth what they are associated with in to your life. This would be things such as:

Fire for: Passion, creativity, banishment, aggression, energy, and much, much more.

Water for : Calmness, sensitiveness, intuition, healing, loving, and much, much more.

Air for : Intelligence, wisdom, clarity, The mind, inspiration, and much, much more.

Earth for : Grounding, centering, balance, stability, nurturing, and much, much more.

taurus and virgo

(taurus and virgo are like a masterpiece. they draw each other in slowly, elegantly, and one can lose themselves completely in the details of their loving. nature and nurture, can they be balanced?

taurus, who is steady, soothing and practical, trustworthy and secretly passionate. virgo, who is fussy, flexible and rational, dedicated and softly sensitive. perhaps they seem like a match made in heaven; perhaps they seem like one made in hell itself. the truth is, they are neither. they are earthly beings, and this is an earthy love. full of simple pleasures, ritualistic comforts and stormy moments to punctuate the homely feeling the relationship offers. taurus especially is prone to sulking when upset, while virgo tends to stress and nitpick when they are feeling down. neither of these things go down well with the other, and the odd sour look can quickly turn into bitter arguments. i think it’s important to realise though, that while arguments are horrible experiences, they aren’t necessarily bad things. oftentimes arguments bring up the root of the problem, unearthing things that neither sign was able to talk about gently, for whatever reason. both signs are sensitive and sensible, and once things cool down they can talk reasonably and work out the problems and their solutions.

and once they’ve worked through their problems, things are smooth, tender and comforting. taurus is definitely the more romantic of the two, while virgo tends to be a secretive and shy lover, doing all number of tiny things to make taurus’ life more pleasant and beautiful. taurus can soothe all of virgo’s worries, absorbing them and comforting their lover with tender coaxing and gentle words. in return, virgo lights up their lives with little gestures and hard work, a flexible, positive attitude and a penchant for finding beauty in the humblest of things. together, they make a very pretty picture.

main qualities - caring, faithful, worrisome, maddening, homely

She Who Hears the Cries of the World

by Christina Feldman

Compassion is no stranger to any of us: we know what it feels like to be deeply moved by the pain and suffering of others. All people receive their own measure of sorrow and struggle in this life. Bodies age, health becomes fragile, minds can be beset by confusion and obsession, hearts are broken. We see many people asked to bear the unbearable — starvation, tragedy, and hardship beyond our imagining. Our loved ones experience illness, pain, and heartache, and we long to ease their burden.

The human story is a story of love, redemption, kindness, and generosity. It is also a story of violence, division, neglect, and cruelty. Faced with all of this, we can soften, reach out, and do all we can to ease suffering. Or we can choose to live with fear and denial — doing all we can to guard our hearts from being touched, afraid of drowning in this ocean of sorrow.

Again and again we are asked to learn one of life’s clearest lessons: that to run from suffering — to harden our hearts, to turn away from pain — is to deny life and to live in fear. So, as difficult as it is to open our hearts toward suffering, doing so is the most direct path to transformation and liberation.

Compassion and wisdom are at the heart of the path of the Buddha. In the early Buddhist stories we find young men and women asking the same questions we ask today: How can we respond to the suffering that is woven into the very fabric of life? How can we discover a heart that is truly liberated from fear, anger, and alienation? Is there a way to discover a depth of wisdom and compassion that can genuinely make a difference in this confused and destructive world?

We may be tempted to see compassion as a feeling, an emotional response we occasionally experience when we are touched by an encounter with acute pain. In these moments of openness, the layers of our defenses crumble; intuitively we feel an immediacy of response and we glimpse the power of nonseparation. Milarepa, a great Tibetan sage, expressed this when he said, “Just as I instinctively reach out to touch and heal a wound in my leg as part of my own body, so too I reach out to touch and heal the pain in another as part of this body.” Too often these moments of profound compassion fade, and once more we find ourselves protecting, defending, and distancing ourselves from pain. Yet they are powerful glimpses that encourage us to question whether compassion can be something more than an accident we stumble across.

No matter how hard we try, we can’t make ourselves feel compassionate. But we can incline our hearts toward compassion. In one of the stories in the early Buddhist literature, the ascetic Sumedha reflects on the vast inner journey required to discover unshakeable wisdom and compassion. He describes compassion as a tapestry woven of many threads: generosity, virtue, renunciation, wisdom, energy, patience, truthfulness, determination, loving-kindness, and equanimity. When we embody all of these in our lives, we develop the kind of compassion that has the power to heal suffering.

A few years ago, an elderly monk arrived in India after fleeing from prison in Tibet. Meeting with the Dalai Lama, he recounted the years he had been imprisoned, the hardship and beatings he had endured, the hunger and loneliness he had lived with, and the torture he had faced.

At one point the Dalai Lama asked him, “Was there ever a time you felt your life was truly in danger?”

The old monk answered, “In truth, the only time I truly felt at risk was when I felt in danger of losing compassion for my jailers.”

Hearing stories like this, we are often left feeling skeptical and bewildered. We may be tempted to idealise both those who are compassionate and the quality of compassion itself. We imagine these people as saints, possessed of powers inaccessible to us. Yet stories of great suffering are often stories of ordinary people who have found greatness of heart. To discover an awakened heart within ourselves, it is crucial not to idealise or romanticise compassion. Our compassion simply grows out of our willingness to meet pain rather than to flee from it.

We may never find ourselves in situations of such peril that our lives are endangered; yet anguish and pain are undeniable aspects of our lives. None of us can build walls around our hearts that are invulnerable to being breached by life. Facing the sorrow we meet in this life, we have a choice: Our hearts can close, our minds recoil, our bodies contract, and we can experience the heart that lives in a state of painful refusal. We can also dive deeply within ourselves to nurture the courage, balance, patience, and wisdom that enable us to care.

If we do so, we will find that compassion is not a state. It is a way of engaging with the fragile and unpredictable world. Its domain is not only the world of those you love and care for, but equally the world of those who threaten us, disturb us, and cause us harm. It is the world of the countless beings we never meet who are facing an unendurable life. The ultimate journey of a human being is to discover how much our hearts can encompass. Our capacity to cause suffering as well as to heal suffering live side by side within us. If we choose to develop the capacity to heal, which is the challenge of every human life, we will find our hearts can encompass a great deal, and we can learn to heal — rather than increase — the schisms that divide us from one another.

In the first century in northern India, probably in what is now part of Afghanistan, the Lotus Sutra was composed. One of the most powerful texts in the Buddhist tradition, it is a celebration of the liberated heart expressing itself in a powerful and boundless compassion, pervading all corners of the universe, relieving suffering wherever it finds it.

When the Lotus Sutra was translated into Chinese, Kuan Yin, the “one who hears the cries of the world,” emerged as an embodiment of compassion that has occupied a central place in Buddhist teaching and practice ever since. Over the centuries Kuan Yin has been portrayed in a variety of forms. At times she is depicted as a feminine presence, face serene, arms outstretched, and eyes open. At times she holds a willow branch, symbolising her resilience — able to bend in the face of the most fierce storms without being broken. At other times she is portrayed with a thousand arms and hands, each with an open eye in its center, depicting her constant awareness of anguish and her all-embracing responsiveness. Sometimes she takes the form of a warrior armed with a multitude of weapons, embodying the fierce aspect of compassion committed to uprooting the causes of suffering. A protector and guardian, she is fully engaged with life.

To cultivate the willingness to listen deeply to sorrow wherever we meet it is to take the first step on the journey of compassion. Our capacity to listen follows on the heels of this willingness. We may make heroic efforts in our lives to shield ourselves from the anguish that can surround us and live within us, but in truth a life of avoidance and defense is one of anxiety and painful separation.

True compassion is not forged at a distance from pain but in its fires. We do not always have a solution for suffering. We cannot always fix pain. However, we can find the commitment to stay connected and to listen deeply. Compassion does not always demand heroic acts or great words. In the times of darkest distress, what is most deeply needed is the fearless presence of a person who can be wholeheartedly receptive.

It can seem to us that being aware and opening our hearts to sorrow makes us suffer more. It is true that awareness brings with it an increased sensitivity to our inner and outer worlds. Awareness opens our hearts and minds to a world of pain and distress that previously only glanced off the surface of consciousness, like a stone skipping across water. But awareness also teaches us to read between the lines and to see beneath the world of appearances. We begin to sense the loneliness, need, and fear in others that was previously invisible. Beneath words of anger, blame, and agitation we hear the fragility of another person’s heart. Awareness deepens because we hear more acutely the cries of the world. Each of those cries has written within it the plea to be received.

Awareness is born of intimacy. We can only fear and hate what we do not understand and what we perceive from a distance. We can only find compassion and freedom in intimacy. We can be afraid of intimacy with pain because we are afraid of helplessness; we fear that we don’t have the inner balance to embrace suffering without being overwhelmed. Yet each time we find the willingness to meet affliction, we discover we are not powerless. Awareness rescues us from helplessness, teaching us to be helpful through our kindness, patience, resilience, and courage. Awareness is the forerunner of understanding, and understanding is the prerequisite to bringing suffering to an end.

Shantideva, a deeply compassionate master who taught in India in the eighth century, said, “Whatever you are doing, be aware of the state of your mind. Accomplish good; this is the path of compassion.” How would our life be if we carried this commitment into all of our encounters? What if we asked ourselves what it is we are dedicated to when we meet a homeless person on the street, a child in tears, a person we have long struggled with, or someone who disappoints us? We cannot always change the heart or the life of another person, but we can always take care of the state of our own mind. Can we let go of our resistance, judgments, and fear? Can we listen wholeheartedly to understand another person’s world? Can we find the courage to remain present when we want to flee? Can we equally find the compassion to forgive our wish to disconnect? Compassion is a journey. Every step, every moment of cultivation, is a gesture of deep wisdom.

Living in Asia for several years, I encountered an endless stream of people begging in the streets. Faced with a forlorn, gaunt child I would find myself judging a society that couldn’t care for its deprived children. Sometimes I would feel irritated, perhaps dropping a few coins into the child’s hand while ensuring I kept my distance from him. I would debate with myself whether I was just perpetuating the culture of begging by responding to the child’s pleas. It took me a long time to understand that, as much as the coins may have been appreciated, they were secondary to the fact that I rarely connected to the child.

As the etymology of the word indicates, “compassion” is the ability to “feel with,” and that involves a leap of empathy and a willingness to go beyond the borders of our own experience and judgments. What would it mean to place myself in the heart of that begging child? What would it be like to never know if I will eat today, depending entirely on the handouts of strangers? Journeying beyond our familiar borders, our hearts can tremble; then, we have the possibility of accomplishing good.

Milarepa once said, “Long accustomed to contemplating compassion, I have forgotten all difference between self and other.” Genuine compassion is without boundaries or hierarchies. The smallest sorrow is as worthy of compassion as the greatest anguish. The heartache we experience in the face of betrayal asks as much for compassion as a person caught in the midst of tragedy. Those we love and those we disdain ask for compassion; those who are blameless and those who cause suffering are all enfolded in the tapestry of compassion. An old Zen monk once proclaimed, “O, that my monk’s robes were wide enough to gather up all of the suffering in this floating world.” Compassion is the liberated heart’s response to pain wherever it is met.

When we see those we love in pain, our compassion is instinctive. Our heart can be broken. It can also be broken open. We are most sorely tested when we are faced with a loved one’s pain that we cannot fix. We reach out to shield those we love from harm, but life continues to teach us that our power has limits. Wisdom tells us that to insist that impermanence and frailty should not touch those we love is to fall into the near enemy of compassion, which is attachment to result and the insistence that life must be other than it actually is.

Compassion means offering a refuge to those who have no refuge. The refuge is born of our willingness to bear what at times feels unbearable — to see a loved one suffer. The letting go of our insistence that those we love should not suffer is not a relinquishment of love but a release of illusion — the illusion that love can protect anyone from life’s natural rhythms. In the face of a loved one’s pain, we are asked to understand what it means to be steadfast and patient in the midst of our own fear. In our most intimate relationships, love and fear grow simultaneously. A compassionate heart knows this to be true and does not demand that fear disappear. It knows that only in the midst of fear can we begin to discover the fearlessness of compassion.

Some people, carrying long histories of a lack of self-worth or denial, find it most difficult to extend compassion toward themselves. Aware of the vastness of suffering in the world, they may feel it is self-indulgent to care for their aching body, their broken heart, or their confused mind. Yet this too is suffering, and genuine compassion makes no distinction between self and other. If we do not know how to embrace our own frailties and imperfections, how do we imagine we could find room in our heart for anyone else?

The Buddha once said that you could search the whole world and not find anyone more deserving of your love and compassion than yourself. Instead, too many people find themselves directing levels of harshness, demand, and judgment inward that they would never dream of directing toward another person, knowing the harm that would be incurred. They are willing to do to themselves what they would not do to others.

In the pursuit of an idealised compassion, many people can neglect themselves. Compassion “listens to the cries of the world,” and we are part of that world. The path of compassion does not ask us to abandon ourselves on the altar of an idealised state of perfection. A path of healing makes no distinctions: within the sorrow of our own frustrations, disappointments, fears, and bitterness, we learn the lessons of patience, acceptance, generosity, and ultimately, compassion.

The deepest compassion is nurtured in the midst of the deepest suffering. Faced with the struggle of those we love or those who are blameless in this world, compassion arises instinctively. Faced with people who inflict pain upon others, we must dive deep within ourselves to find the steadfastness and understanding that enables us to remain open. Connecting with those who perpetrate harm is hard practice, yet compassion is somewhat shallow if it turns away those who — lost in ignorance, rage, and fear — harm others. The mountain of suffering in the world can never be lessened by adding yet more bitterness, resentment, rage, and blame to it.

Thich Nhat Hanh, the beloved Vietnamese teacher, said, “Anger and hatred are the materials from which hell is made.” It is not that the compassionate heart will never feel anger. Faced with the terrible injustice, oppression, and violence in our world, our hearts tremble not only with compassion but also with anger. A person without anger may be a person who has not been deeply touched by harmful acts that scar the lives of too many people. Anger can be the beginning of abandonment or the beginning of commitment to helping others.

We can be startled into wakefulness by exposure to suffering, and this wakefulness can become part of the fabric of our own rage, or part of the fabric of wise and compassionate action. If we align ourselves with hatred, we equally align ourselves with the perpetrators of harm. We can also align ourselves with a commitment to bringing to an end the causes of suffering. It is easy to forget the portrayal of Kuan Yin as an armed warrior, profoundly dedicated to protecting all beings, fearless and resolved to bring suffering to an end.

Rarely are words and acts of healing and reconciliation born of an agitated heart. One of the great arts in the cultivation of compassion is to ask if we can embrace anger without blame. Blame agitates our hearts, keeps them contracted, and ultimately leads to despair. To surrender blame is to maintain the discriminating wisdom that knows clearly what suffering is and what causes it. To surrender blame is to surrender the separation that makes compassion impossible.

Compassion is not a magical device that can instantly dispel all suffering. The path of compassion is altruistic but not idealistic. Walking this path we are not asked to lay down our life, find a solution for all of the struggles in this world, or immediately rescue all beings. We are asked to explore how we may transform our own hearts and minds in the moment. Can we understand the transparency of division and separation? Can we liberate our hearts from ill will, fear, and cruelty? Can we find the steadfastness, patience, generosity, and commitment not to abandon anyone or anything in this world? Can we learn how to listen deeply and discover the heart that trembles in the face of suffering?

The path of compassion is cultivated one step and one moment at a time. Each of those steps lessens the mountain of sorrow in the world.

One of the things that fascinates me so much about Andreil is this balanced dichotomy of good and bad that they have.

Neil, at his core, has darkness. It’s in his genes, in his upbringing, even embedded in the story of how he found his family. It’s death and destruction and Bad.

But /Neil/ is Good. He loves deep and fights hard and is just so enchanted by all these people who’ve become his family. He comes from darkness, but he is trying very very hard to be a good person– and he succeeds. He is sunshine personified.

Andrew, I really think that he, at his core, is good. Even the Andrew we know is a protector, caring for whoever he can– just imagine if he’d grown up better, safer, happier. This boy could’ve been a match for Renee.

It’s just that that good was corrupted by all the people who hurt him and took advantage of him because of that goodness. They turned him darker than he ever should’ve been and poisoned that light inside him, took someone who would’ve been there for any kid who needed him and turned him into someone willing to kill to eliminate threats to his family.

Neither of them are pure one or the other. In the end they’re both fiercely loyal, devoted to protecting and helping those who need them, absolute sweethearts who’ve weathered the storm. And they’d both do and condone terrible things far more quickly than most of us would be comfortable with. I’m not saying either of them are better or bad or worse– I just find the balance of nurture v nature to be a fascinating one in their characters

agapevincit  asked:

may I have a reading with the positive deck??? o(-(

Sure thing! I went with a simple three card spread;


For your Past it was the Eight of wands! Your key words are: direction, boldness, activation, passion, acceleration

For your present it was the Queen of Wand! Your key words are: nurture, motivation, inspiration, balance, happiness

And for the Future it seems to be a Ten of Cups! Your key words are: harmony, abundance, community, elation, achievement


From the way things look, it seems something you are passionate about is going to give you some form of recognition and joy! It already seems to be set in your mind what you need to do; So keep it up!

As Salaam Alaikum,

When we talk about Islamic education and our children, the discussion usually revolves around strictly academic issues related to technical aspects of curriculum development, testing standards and methodologies, balancing between secular and religious education, and similar concerns. Sometimes we miss the greater objective of an Islamic education. That objective, in terms of what is necessary for the immediate success of our children in this world, and their ultimate success in the next, is nurturing balanced, wholesome, honest human beings who live lives based on principle and who exemplify good character in their dealings with other people.

—  Imam Zaid Shakir

Just surviving the daily toil of this world is not enough. Find purpose, love, serenity and joy. It can be as simple as cooking for loved ones, exploring the natural world, or quality time with someone special. Find yours. 

Look Within … Our Journey to Balance 

note to self: on relationships

Relationships are a delicate thing.

The plants teach us this. A seed, a life, will lay dormant in waiting until just the right relationship exists for it to grow. The right amount of water, sunlight, nutrients and pressure has to show up. And then continue to show up, or the plant will sicken. If the relationship is not restored to balance in a finite amount of time, the plant will die, perhaps short of reaching its full potential. Short of using all the gifts it was given it to share with the world.

We have to be careful in our relationships.

Colonial violence surfaces as poison in our thoughts, our words, and our actions, unless we fight it every single moment of every single day. Colonial poison causes sickness by every name. In our most intimate relationships, we spread sickness when we do not create space for the healthy sharing of emotions. We spread sickness when we gossip. We spread sickness when we take to social media as our outlet for expression, rather than having real conversations. When we are not honest. When we are so consumed by our own agendas that we can’t listen. When we project our trauma onto one another. We allow sickness to spread and fester when we are not willing to do the work, the work of fighting back.

Relationships require work.

When we fight sickness in our bodies, our minds, our spirits, and in our relationships, we fight colonial violence. Or, instead of the word “fight”, let’s call it what it really is: self-love. And so we have to find the courage to believe that we are worthy. That we belong. We have to find the courage to do the work of planting, growing, harvesting, and honouring the relationships. In this work, it is kind to ask for help. We are such pitiful beings, there is nothing we can do on our own.

Our bodies are water, our bodies are plant, our bodies are animal, our bodies are spirit. When we feed ourselves with good medicine we give ourselves the strength to do the work. We cannot fill our lives with packaged foods, booze, and television and expect to have the strength to say ‘no’ to a world that only wants to hear ‘yes’.

Relationships are the most precious gifts we have.

It is our responsibility, then, to cleanse ourselves of the heaps of bad medicine that affront us on a daily basis. To sit in silence. To fast. Sweat. Cry. Sing. Cough up grief. Forgive. That’s how we (re)discover that the strength that is already there, it’s how we hear the muffled voices of our ancestors… it’s how we decolonize.

Learn how to love, to really truly love, by fighting for that balance. And in the balance, we nurture life, according to the values and philosophies of our ancestors. And that right there? That is the work of Indigenous resurgence, my friends.

roojon  asked:

The differences between the water signs? xx

There are a lot of similarities among the water signs, intuitive, emotional, artistic, etc. All of them are associated with magic but a different type. Scorpio takes on dark magic. Pisces spiritual and sometimes new age like magic. Cancer gets the middle ground by being associated with witchcraft, spells, paganism, etc.

Scorpio is the most intense water sign. They are more vindictive, dominant, secretive, and jealous than the other water signs.

While Scorpio is associated with passion and deepness, Cancer with sensitivity, and Pisces with emotional outburst or change all of the water signs are equally as deep, passionate, sensitive, etc. Scorpio does however have the most fixed personality out of all the water signs and is associated with transformation. While Pisces and Cancer are more adaptable and easygoing, Scorpio might face the most changes in their life and personality. 

Cancer is the most protective and private out of the water signs. They are protective over their loved ones and fiercely protective of themselves. They are also more nurturing and balanced than the others. 

Pisces is the most fluid of the water signs and is the most open about their emotions. Scorpio is all about secrecy with the way they feel and Cancer is protective about their emotions. However you will always know how a Pisces feels. Pisces expresses their emotions in almost all ways, communication, art, actions, and the list can go on. Cancer and Scorpio might have to turn to creative outlets more so to express themselves and needs others to sometimes crack them open or inspire them to share. The best way to inspire a water sign is through love, romance, and general human connection. All three of them desire a full on connection with others. Pisces wants to become one with their partner, engulf them. Cancer is all about unity and building a home and/or life together. Scorpio is about fully understanding each other and accepting one another. 

Scorpio also have an urge to understand and master the world. Cancer wants to guard and take care of others in the world. Pisces wants to create as well as learn and live the human condition. 

Scorpio is associated with self-healing, Cancer the healing of others, Pisces is linked to both. 

Scorpio always knows they are right, Cancer will refuse to be wrong, and Pisces will somehow trick you or manipulate you into thinking they are right. 

Cancer holds a grudge, Scorpio wants revenge, and Pisces forgives. 

Scorpio likes to show off their individuality, what they like, how they are, etc. Scorpio gets really into their fandom and hobbies. They are active players in stuff they like. Is normally sure about what they like and who they are in the present. 

Cancer is open about what they like as well but can be a little less active in their fandoms or hobbies and Cancer is associated with a lack of self. But that just means it is part of their life journey to create themselves in a solid way. 

Pisces is always changing what they are into. A gamer Pisces might be obsessed with Dark souls one week and the next they are all about Elder Scrolls or Zelda. They will like screamo and then surprise you with randomly being obsessed with a pop song. 

Pisces is associated with compassion and empathy. 

Cancer is associated with kindness and sympathy. 

Scorpio is associated with emotional inspiration and guidance as well as boosting another person’s energy. 

anonymous asked:

Hey Momma. Can you please show me a few gemstones and their meanings? I am so fascinated by them @w@ Love u

Okay baby. I’ve had to add them together in photos because otherwise there would be too many images. I’ll list them left to right for you.

Amethyst: Inner Peace, Soothing, Psychic Protection, Assists Sleep, Good for Meditation.

Clear Quartz: Clarity, Personal Power, Energy Focuser, Powerful Healing.

Ruby Zoisite: Amplifies the bodies energy field, Amplifies and stimulates psychic ability.

Tektite: Strengthens Aura, Helpful for telepathy and Clairvoyance, Fertility Talisman, Encourages Spiritual Growth.

Bloodstone: Cleanses Blood, Symbol of Justice, Great Healing Stone.

Prehnite: Stone for dreaming and remembering, Aids meditation, Stops Nightmares, Enhances your protective field.

Red Coral: Good for visualisation and meditation, Aids depression and lethargy.

Kyanite: Clarity and understanding, assists with dream recall and sleep, Opens the third eye, Aligns all Chakras.

Angelite: Promotes a protective field, Symbol of communication of love and light. Promotes compassion and understanding, Enhances Astrological understanding, Helps with telepathy.

Blue apitite: Draws out your negative energies, stimulates psychic energy, stimulates creativity and intellect, helps abolish ones confusion.

Chrysocolla: Enhances communication and Activation of female qualities, brings forth past life memories.

Carnelian: Positive Motivation, Cleansing and Physical healing, helps give a sense of humor, calms a temper, stops negative vibrations.

Labradorite: Magic, assists communication with your higher self and connection with intuition, reflection.

Aqua Aura: Purifies and energises the body, cleanses and soothes the aura, attracts honour, wealth and happiness.

Moonstone: Self Expression, emotional balance, nurturing, assists with feminine issues, helps read the future, inspires, Bad bitch stone, Symbol of women.

Emerald: Love and affection, clarifies dreams.

Sapphire: Enhances telepathic abilities.

Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.

Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.

Stay Blessed. As always, I send you much love.

Our Journey to Balance 

The Empress.

Give yourself to the Mother of The Earth. Bask within her beauty. Through creativity, grace, and harmony, align yourself with your Feminine Principal, and plant the seeds for a nurtured balance between Heaven and Earth. The Moon and the Sun. Man and Woman. Goddess of Fertility, give yourself to her.