nt as pretty as i wanted it to be

there is a huge difference between normalising stimming and aestheticising stimming. I want stimming normalised. I want nts to stim. if neurotypicals stim, it doesn’t look weird when I do. that’s normalising stimming.

I DON’T want stimming aestheticised. if nts are only okay with stimming if it’s pretty? that does jack fuck shit for autistic people. it doesn’t matter if chewlery gets normalised if chewing it in public is still stigmatised! in fact, it could be looked at worse because it would be seen as destruction of something pretty.
stimboards are great, I love them! but they don’t normalise stimming when nts embrace them, because they aren’t considering it anything weird. Enjoying the look of calligraphy being written is not stigmatised. slime is a children’s toy, gifs of it aren’t stigmatised. stimboards, to nts, are going to look like a relaxing breed of aesthetics and moodboards. That’s fine. that’s basically what they are. but I don’t want that glorified as normalising of stimming when the nts embracing it don’t know or care about the origin.
Anyone can buy a stim toy if they want one, but if they still stigmatise nd people for using them? if they don’t actually stim with them? that’s not! normalising anything!

when neurotypical people take something autistic people do to survive, ostracise autistic people for it, and fashion it into something they think is pretty for themselves to consume, that’s not normalisation. And that is what they do every time! the “pretty” ways of stimming are normalised, and the “ugly” ways are stigmatised. autistic people are literally profiled as criminals on the streets for stimming publicly. it’s a problem.

so @neurotypicals: if you like stimboards, great! if you like the look of chewlery, cool! if you want stim toys but don’t need them, cool! all of these things are fine! but you need to make sure that when you see someone stimming publicly, that you don’t treat them differently. don’t call them slurs. don’t think that they should “know better” or that they’re “up to no good”. don’t infantilise them. don’t be a dick to neurodivergents. normalising stimming is a result of people not thinking stimming is abnormal. that’s all you’ve gotta do to make a difference: change your perspective, and change that of others if your friends think poorly of us. it helps.



ENTJ-  You scare me. You are such and incredible leader, how do you do that?? But also I hate authority and feel a need to disagree with you at every turn because you’re so bossy. You’re not as cool as you think you are, but you’re almost as cool as you think you are and that’s pretty damn cool. Be my friend.

ENTP- Fuckin’ chill out you memelord. You’re either coasting through life or putting WAY to much effort into shit. You’re a bit of a narcissistic fuck but you’re still my favourite type (*coughs*). You’re too excitable and too much of a dick and you’re personality doesn’t make sense. Stop being mean to you’re friends. Learn to be more comfortable with emotions, it’ll be important later on in life. Be the friend that can cheer others up with jokes when they don’t really wanna talk about what’s wrong.

INTJ- You’re cool, you get shit done and you’re a bit of a supervillian. What’s not to love? You’re a rare bird. There aren’t many of you out there, but you are important. If you weren’t here, who else would the ENFP’s annoy? You’re a behind the scenes leader most of the time, pulling the strings from a safe (and smart distance) but you aren’t afraid to get you’re hands dirty. You’re good at shit.But don’t forget, you’re not superhuman. Remember other people have these pesky things called emotions, be wary of them STILL i want you to be proud of you’re inherent assholeness.

INTP-  Mad scientist. I’m constantly searching for your approval because of my unresolved daddy issues and it freaks me out. Yes, you are a daddy. Some of you have your heads shoved up a little too far in you’re own arse. Just because you’re introverted and intuitive and darn cold, does not make you better than others honey. Basically, you’re a condescending shit. But hey I still put you on this weird pedestal, so we’re both guilty. You’re the genius on tv shows that isn’t diagnosed but falls on the aspergers spectrum somewhere.


ENFJ-  Baby, I worship the ground you walk on. You are so cool, calm and controlled while still being awesome, enthusiastic and excitable. Don’t be my friend, date me. But stop trying to fix everything. Think about yourself a lil okay buddy, and use logic sometimes too. Actually scratch all that, you’re perfect, I love you.

ENFP-  You are a beautiful, annoying bastard. You’re too nice and I don’t feel comfortable making mean jokes at your expense (because you’d probably take it seriously and cry yourself to sleep), but you have effortless charm. Stop thinking about the individual and start thinking about the bigger picture, you’re not realistic. Be my friend, but not like close friend, y'know.

INFP-  Hello, the human equivalent of tumblr. Fuck. People either love you or hate you. I don’t know where I fall on that scale tbh. Sometimes you’re just a little too much honey, I’m not sensitive enough for you. Other times you are too precious for this world and I just wanna wrap you up in a blanket and protect you. I am strangely attracted to you despite how awkward you probably think you are. You have a lot of knowledge in that head of yours. Be that person I have a weird co-dependant relationship with, that really isn’t healthy but I can’t exactly live without you and I’m not sure why.

INFJ- Ah INFJ, I haven’t met many of you but BOY, are the ones I know pretentious. You’re one of the least common MBTI type, and you probably know and take pride in this. You’re good at reading people, I know, but you can just talk to me instead of analyse from a distance bud. You’re ultimately very cool and creative, a little bit of a know it all but it’s justified. You’re a sweet bundle of joy and I love you. Be my best friend. You’re good at being a friend. Really good.


ESFP-  I like you a lot kid, you remind me of a younger me. We shouldn’t get along but I love/envy you. You’re caring and you have a great childlike spirit. Make some art and ramble to me some more. I seriously appreciate you so much. You bring me back down to  the ‘now’ with you’re crazy impulsive attitude and caring demeanour. Just learn to listen to me a lil more when I tell you you’re thinking with you’re heart instead of you’re brain again. You do it a lot, buddy. Be my lover.

ESTP-  You’re cool man. You’re Ferris Bueler. You’re a salesman that’s constantly selling me on your personality. Look we get it, you’re good with one liners and you’re athletic and everyone loves you, but also hey, think about others you little sociopathic flirt. Also, sometimes people really DO know more than you, I know! Crazy. Be my Idol.

ISFP-  You probably reaallly like music. Chill out buddy, I don’t know much about you but you seem stressed and too fierce for ur adorable demeanour. I know you are your own individual beautiful creative person, you don’t need to tell me. People DO care about you, i know sometimes you doubt that, but you got this life in the bad. You’ll probably never grow out of your angsty teen years tbh but it’s okay, find yourself an ISFJ and you’ll be okay.

ISTP-  So you’re just as cool but less attainable, loner ESTP. You’re in control of your own everything but also out of control and mildly self destructive? Be the mysterious kid I rarely talk to, but everytime I do I fall in love with you a little bit.


ESFJ-  Hey there soldier. In the best case scenario, you’re cutie Monica Geller, that’s a lil anal and mildly manipulative but really! very! sweet!. In the worst case scenario you are literally my worst nightmare. Your the squad’s glue tho. Sometimes you offer a cool third perspective, but you over simplify things and don’t try to understand my crazy theories and that’s annoying. Learn to get over yourself a lil, stop playing the victim buddy and compromise. Be my friend in a few years when you learn to self reflect better.

ESTJ-  You’re a manipulative bitch. You’re so judgemental, you’re Rachel McAdams in Mean Girls. You’re pretty cool. Even more of a rampant psycho than ENTJ. I don’t like you all that much (and something tells me you don’t really care) but I respect you a LOT. Stay a safe distance away from me and please don’t judge me. You’re too savage.

ISFJ-  Hey my emo saviour. You understand everybody and nobody truly understands you. You’re the reliable Colin Firth that the world of Bridget Jones’s run to after their crazy escapades with Hugh Grant. Just remember to have standards baby, and don’t accept everyone that runs into you’re arms. You’re worth more than what most people are willing to give. Be my favourite sweet emotional little kid brother (even if you are female.)

ISTJ-  You say 'interesting’ a lot. If life were a tv show, you’d be a sassy little hate muffin that tumblr idolised that everyone would remark didnt get enough screen time. You’re all business and sometimes you should let down that gaurd fam :) Think about people a little bit more bud. I respect you. I’ll be your friend! But it will probably take three years to build up our relationship and it will probably be accidental, but im here for u anyway.

What it feels like to try and pass as NT for over 30 years.

I’m fine about food

(Orders the same thing in every restaurant I go to, will vomit at the wrong textured food, gets easily upset when food is wrong, would prefer to eat the same three things over and over forever, was severely food limiting as a child.)

I’m fine about routine change!

(Gets upset when the husband has a lie in and wreaks my morning routine of checking my phone for ten minutes, has a full blown panic attack when people are somewhere I didn’t expect them to be, has full blown melt down when I came home and found the husband had moved something.)

I don’t even stim!

(Flaps hands when frustrated, leg bounces when upset, scratches when upset, rubs fingers together nearly all the time, touch touch touch touch) 

I have a wide range of interests

(Reads the same books and watches the same movies and TV shows over and over and over and over…. Gets upset when I can’t write)  

I guess I’m pretty social

(Keeps friends an average of two months, can’t go to parties, only wants to hang out with two people at a time, or preferably one to one, has to go to bed after being in a crowded place for longer than a couple of hours.)

I don’t find my environment upsetting at all!

(Can’t stand fluorescent lighting, light through trees, heights, riding on escalators, loud noises, overlapping sounds, needs long periods of silence, gets distracted by moving water and lights)  

Yup… totally not autistic.

Bloom Ch. 2 (biadore)- Taurus's Splattered C*nt

A/N- We’re back back back back back again! Your favourite triple threat is back. Sorry for the wait, we hope you continue to enjoy this story and feel free to leave feedback. Thanks for all the love and support!

I just want to put it out there that our group chat gives me life. I have learned so far that Taurus and I are going to get married and move in with C*nt and Mrs. C*nt to mooch off of them. Also, Taurus is a ninja spy and has a really hot voice, and both of them are really freaking pretty and it’s not fair because I’m a toe (YOU ARE NOT A TOE YOU ARE AN ETHREAL GODDESS OF THE OCEAN -C*nt [She’s lying. I’m a toe. -Splatt]). That is all. Love you two ladies! That’s all. Hope you all enjoy! (C*nt and Taurus didn’t know what to put for an author’s note so I got to write it! Yay!)

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Real talk: where the crap did Keirsey get the idea that NFs are necessarily well-liked?? Maybe that was more the case back in the 70s when Please Understand Me came out but uh… if you talk to most of us nowadays, you’ll likely hear a pretty consistent narrative of us having to contend with people thinking we’re idiots and lunatics, and with having our interests devalued and our words misconstrued by our peers and even our own families sometimes. We usually don’t become well-liked until we start doing things that put us in spaces where people need and want what we have to offer.

Also, Keirsey had a huge and extremely disconcerting hate-boner for the NT types (“They have nothing to offer socially!!! All they do is KNOW STUFF. Fuckin’ nerds.” i.e. typical maladjusted Fi-user blah-blah about Those Poor Soulless Rationals) but that’s a bitch-fit for another day.

frejaann31  asked:

Hey mama normally I have so many questions and things to say but know I'm actually asking you I have know idea what to say! You've probably been asked this a lot but who do you ship and where did you get your inspiration? Also I want you to know how much I look up to you so please keep going! I also noticed that season two isn't nt enough for an entire arc so does this mean that there will be a season three? Have a lovely day mama!

Season two should be enough to fit one arc, since season one featured two arcs and had twice the episodes, so I think we’ll manage to get done with the Clash Of Titans arc in this one. Season three seems pretty likely to me, but that also depends on the studio and it’s capacities, so I wouldn’t promise anything there. 


so i found it interesting how ezra sees spencer, and it looked like he hesitated , maybe that hesitation was when he noticed wren was with her and he decided to retract. why would’nt he want to go up to spence and say hi, he was about to until he noticed wren. heres some clues that ezra and wren have connected in the past and could be working together or even related.

1. the friend out of town that ezra says he borrowed the cabin from

2. also in that cabin, was the drawing of a train that was half colored in red, just like the family drawing wren was coloring in “red”

3. i also did theory with some clues to suggest some of ezras roots trace back to england, so maybe him and wren are related

4, the spot wren squated at for a while back in season 1x03 when we see him and spencer on his stoop, now i did a connection to ezra and wren years ago, connecting ezra to that spot where wren was staying at, i cant seem to find my theory but i remember finding a connection there lol

but yeah, it seemed like an odd reaction , with ezra at the airport and seeing spence, yes we might jsut be seeing ezra and wren speak words and actually meet on cam for the first time but doenst mean they already knew each other. just like in the deleted scene, aria had wren drop her off at the library or something,and we never seen aria and wren in any scenes together, but apparently she trusted him and knew him well enough to have him taking her places while she was with ezra?? why did they even shoot that scene to begin with! then byron gives a look as if he didnt approve of wren taking her anywhere

anonymous asked:

Honestly after everything I don't want the Azoffs nowhere near Louis - or the band in the future, and I think a lot of people feel the same, which is pretty ironic considering the Azoffs were considered the saviors and the miraculous NT for such a long time.

yeah i don’t want them near louis or anyone else in the band until they learn how to manage an artist in the 21st century.

we’re not in the 70s or 80s anymore. you’ve got to adapt your tactics for the modern world (and yes, that includes harnessing the MILLIONS OF FOLLOWERS your client ALREADY HAS on social media).

anonymous asked:

Okay but what about a squip diagnosing you with a sickness early on or something?? Or like if your parents don't have money to bring you to the hospital to because I'm pretty sure that's pretty expensive. Also, squip diagnosing you with as not neurotypical (like I feel like I might not be neurotypical but I don't want to ask my parents to look into me getting diagnosed or something?? So a squip would be helpful with that)

i’m fairly sure i’m not NT, but i’m really worried that because of negative associations with autism my parents will start treating me with less respect if they know i’m autistic, so i’m too scared to ask for a diagnosis. the squip could definitely help with those diagnoses! that would be great


The Future of Football → Martin Ødegaard
The 16 year old wonderkid, the Norwegian Messi, the youngest ever debutant for a senior team.

“It is an honor and a dream come true. The reason I chose to join Real Madrid is that this team has the best conditions for both sporting development, as a player, and externally to develop as a person. It is the best option for me. It seems incredible to be playing for a team like this.”


Now before I begin, NO. I am not taking requests on Nextale AUs or specific characters for said AUs. This is purely for fun and personal enjoyment and if I want to do more of these will depend on if/when my motivation and inspiration are properly aligned. Failure to acknowledge this will result in your request messages being automatically deleted.

🌙: Anyway, where to begin here.

In regards to the idea of “NexSwap”, I was always indifferent. Yesterday, when I saw the fanart of the NS-Skelebros, I was like “oh that’s cool!”

And then the ideas for NexSwap Frisk and Chara came and then they didn’t stop coming.

Holy shit, think about it! Beautiful Queen Chara is Magnificently Edgy King Frisk, the cold and calculating leader of the army and admittedly a bit more of a loose cannon compared to Nextale’s more composed Queen. (also fyi, I don’t mean actual kings and queens, that’s just my pet names for em.) and seriously look at this guy he is edgy as fuuuuuuuk

And the Queen here is a badass female protagonist~! Compared to NT!Frisk, she is definitely less shy and actually pretty sweet during certain times :D Also….determination katanas. Her design feels a bit more…ornate compared to Frisk’s. Actually, I think I might go ahead and tweak it a bit sometime…later.

Oh god, the thoughts don’t stop there! I get shit like “HHHH NEXTALE FRISK/CHARA VS NEXSWAP FRISK/CHARA I NEED THIS IN MY LIFE” and then the fun thought like “NexShift” and just….oh god help. 

Anyway ye, this be the designs for NexSwap Chara and Frisk~! I enjoyed this a lot~

also lots of people want NexSwap Frisk for Christmas, help

anonymous asked:

So I'm 16 and I haven't been formally diagnosed with autism (my family would stop taking me to the doctor every time we came close to a diagnosis) but I'm pretty sure I'm on the spectrum, and I've been sorta trained out of the more obvious behaviors and it makes me so self conscious and anxious when I want to stim. I have shut downs a lot and I'm wondering if there's any ways you know of how to pass as neurotypical? How to cope with overloads and social situations? I really would appreciate it.

Generally, passing as NT involves supressing all your autistic traits and coping with sensory overloads means stimming and allowing yourself to be autistic. Our sensory overload tag has information on that.

I’d suggest surrounding yourself with autistic and stimming positivity and addressing why you feel self-conscious and anxious when you stim as a way to let yourself feel more free to stim.

- Os

anonymous asked:

goopy I have to go to my moms tomorrow and i super don't want to. I should'nt have to worry about escaping her house but her husband is a crazy drug addict. I have literally 5 friends on stand by because it could get that dangerous at my moms, the only reason shes still in my life is because she has all of my money for college...While Im there im also grabbing my things from the house and not going over again for another month or so because I still dont even have a bed there anyways.

Oh yikes this is a pretty sticky situation… 

Look, angel, most than all I want you to be safe

ALWAYS have your phone near to you, try to find ways to escape in case something gets bad, i hope it doesn’t tho.

If its necessary have something that could help you defend yourself in case things get too fucked up. I know it can be scary to stay in the home of someone you do not trust and more someone you know its dangerous… 

Try to avoid any kind of talk that could lead to conflict and PLEASE please stay safe… 

I am sorry you are forced into this…

mylittlestlife  asked:

you said that as long as you have a mental health diagnosis you can stim... I may have misinterpreted this, but what if you don't have anything different with your mental health? Is it just a case where usually 'normal' people don't stim in the first place? Or something else? I guess I'm somewhat worried because I'm pretty sure that I have anxiety, but I haven't been told that I do by anyone professional. I do stim to calm myself down all the time, though.

(ok I had a whole fiasco about this a little while ago so I’m gonna explain my feelings here then not answer any asks about this cause I don’t want drama to start again)

It’s my feeling that if you are neurotypical you shouldn’t be in the stim community. NT people fidget, yes, I know this, but it’s not necessary to soothe themselves like it is for neurodivergent people. That being said, if you’re pretty sure you have anxiety, you should look into going to a professional. Therapists are almost always very kind and very happy to give you the proper diagnoses.

i just read a post that says that nt people ask things like “what are you watching/doing/etc?” because they want to join the person theyre asking to and im pretty sure that’s just a cultural thing. it seems like in europe at least none of us do that? we ask about the thing we are interested in, and then if we are really into it we’ll ask them to join them or directly sign up to it if the contextual circumstances allow it.

asking people about interesting actions just to secretly join them seems a little bit dishonest to me because: what if the person doesn’t want you (generic) to participate???? it feels like you are pushing yourself into the activity without asking…

anonymous asked:

I'm 19 and I still suck my thumb to stim, I went back to the habit after a year due to a traumatic experience and now I can't break it, so I wanted to divert to another stim, any ideas?? I know a lot of NDs have chews, but I'm scared to use them :(

My main suggestion is to use chews. There are a lot that look like normal jewelry and won’t seem odd to NTs. I’ve actually had several of mine complimented by NT people who just thought they were pretty necklaces. Stimtastic has a great selection of chews, many of which make for nice jewelry pieces. 

If you’re too uncomfortable to use a chew, you can try chewing on gum or sucking on a mint or other hard candy to see if that works as an alternative stim. 

Followers, does anyone have any other suggestions?



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(I made these gifs myself, I’m pretty proud of them since I’ve never actually made a gif before. If you use them please credit me! 💕)

(The videos I used for these gifs are “say what you mean music video” and “drop dead tour montage” if you want me to leave a link to any of these videos just let me know!)

((EDIT: I had to delete the babysitters on acid gif bc tumblr fucking sucks and won’t let me upload that one gif))

anonymous asked:

i have a problem with replying to people in like texts and stuff. i just...a conversation starts and then like halfway i dont want to anymore. i get bored. sometimes i dont and others times i do. sometimes with certain people and not with others or vice versa. is this common? do other kittens have this issue? and how do i do this without ignoring messages? people are getting the wrong idea!!

I guess I do this to an extent, yeah ? But so do my allistic (non-NT) friends so I assume it’s pretty common in neurodivergent people.

I’d just let people know that it can take you a while to answer messages but that you have nothing against them ? Actually I say to pretty much everyone I meet for the first time that unless I’m actively cursing at them, I’m not mad, even if it might seem like I am.

- Sister Cat

anonymous asked:

i know you have a tag for the cancelled show but why do you think they cancelled the show?

I have honestly no idea, but all 4 were healthy and fine, to me at least that is 100% sure. 

It was a power game, and they wanted to get something which they didn’t so they were like well then we won’t go on stage - an extremity they never went to before, and probably their team thought they were just bluffing, so I can only assume that it was something big. 

Especially because the boys LOVE their fans and would have never done that - cancelling their show - if it wasn’t for something very important and serious for them. And when their team called them out on their bluff they probably said: ok then watch us.

Which was one of the first times when they publicly rebelled against their old team, and I can only assume it was against Syco, because Modest only had mere days left, but this is all speculation. But taken the situation they had a management company with little to no power and a Syco record label who was still relentlessly pushing babygate down their throats. I am fairly sure they could have only done this rebellion and be successful with it with the help and support of New Team - which is pretty amazing. I cannot wait to see what NT is going to bring. And we can see now this Chiam thing, we can see that OT also had plans for Niall, probably they knew that months before, and yes please do not forget that babygate was still on, Briana attended 6 London shows, so it must have been some fucking crazy war behind the scenes. 

Maybe the boys did not get what they wanted but they definitely showed that even though they have the contracts where they can work them as slaves, they could still have the upper hand and show they are not afraid to fight.

If you look at the timeline you can see that RIGHT after that concert the RBB twitter was created and immediately started the countdown. 

Which in itself is too much of a coincidence to just brush off.