nt as pretty as i wanted it to be

there is a huge difference between normalising stimming and aestheticising stimming. I want stimming normalised. I want nts to stim. if neurotypicals stim, it doesn’t look weird when I do. that’s normalising stimming.

I DON’T want stimming aestheticised. if nts are only okay with stimming if it’s pretty? that does jack fuck shit for autistic people. it doesn’t matter if chewlery gets normalised if chewing it in public is still stigmatised! in fact, it could be looked at worse because it would be seen as destruction of something pretty.
stimboards are great, I love them! but they don’t normalise stimming when nts embrace them, because they aren’t considering it anything weird. Enjoying the look of calligraphy being written is not stigmatised. slime is a children’s toy, gifs of it aren’t stigmatised. stimboards, to nts, are going to look like a relaxing breed of aesthetics and moodboards. That’s fine. that’s basically what they are. but I don’t want that glorified as normalising of stimming when the nts embracing it don’t know or care about the origin.
Anyone can buy a stim toy if they want one, but if they still stigmatise nd people for using them? if they don’t actually stim with them? that’s not! normalising anything!

when neurotypical people take something autistic people do to survive, ostracise autistic people for it, and fashion it into something they think is pretty for themselves to consume, that’s not normalisation. And that is what they do every time! the “pretty” ways of stimming are normalised, and the “ugly” ways are stigmatised. autistic people are literally profiled as criminals on the streets for stimming publicly. it’s a problem.

so @neurotypicals: if you like stimboards, great! if you like the look of chewlery, cool! if you want stim toys but don’t need them, cool! all of these things are fine! but you need to make sure that when you see someone stimming publicly, that you don’t treat them differently. don’t call them slurs. don’t think that they should “know better” or that they’re “up to no good”. don’t infantilise them. don’t be a dick to neurodivergents. normalising stimming is a result of people not thinking stimming is abnormal. that’s all you’ve gotta do to make a difference: change your perspective, and change that of others if your friends think poorly of us. it helps.

WHAT AN ENTP WANTS TO SAY TO ALL OF THE TYPES.

RATIONALS (NT)

ENTJ-  You scare me. You are such and incredible leader, how do you do that?? But also I hate authority and feel a need to disagree with you at every turn because you’re so bossy. You’re not as cool as you think you are, but you’re almost as cool as you think you are and that’s pretty damn cool. Be my friend.

ENTP- Fuckin’ chill out you memelord. You’re either coasting through life or putting WAY to much effort into shit. You’re a bit of a narcissistic fuck but you’re still my favourite type (*coughs*). You’re too excitable and too much of a dick and you’re personality doesn’t make sense. Stop being mean to you’re friends. Learn to be more comfortable with emotions, it’ll be important later on in life. Be the friend that can cheer others up with jokes when they don’t really wanna talk about what’s wrong.

INTJ- You’re cool, you get shit done and you’re a bit of a supervillian. What’s not to love? You’re a rare bird. There aren’t many of you out there, but you are important. If you weren’t here, who else would the ENFP’s annoy? You’re a behind the scenes leader most of the time, pulling the strings from a safe (and smart distance) but you aren’t afraid to get you’re hands dirty. You’re good at shit.But don’t forget, you’re not superhuman. Remember other people have these pesky things called emotions, be wary of them STILL i want you to be proud of you’re inherent assholeness.

INTP-  Mad scientist. I’m constantly searching for your approval because of my unresolved daddy issues and it freaks me out. Yes, you are a daddy. Some of you have your heads shoved up a little too far in you’re own arse. Just because you’re introverted and intuitive and darn cold, does not make you better than others honey. Basically, you’re a condescending shit. But hey I still put you on this weird pedestal, so we’re both guilty. You’re the genius on tv shows that isn’t diagnosed but falls on the aspergers spectrum somewhere.

IDEALISTS (NF)

ENFJ-  Baby, I worship the ground you walk on. You are so cool, calm and controlled while still being awesome, enthusiastic and excitable. Don’t be my friend, date me. But stop trying to fix everything. Think about yourself a lil okay buddy, and use logic sometimes too. Actually scratch all that, you’re perfect, I love you.

ENFP-  You are a beautiful, annoying bastard. You’re too nice and I don’t feel comfortable making mean jokes at your expense (because you’d probably take it seriously and cry yourself to sleep), but you have effortless charm. Stop thinking about the individual and start thinking about the bigger picture, you’re not realistic. Be my friend, but not like close friend, y'know.

INFP-  Hello, the human equivalent of tumblr. Fuck. People either love you or hate you. I don’t know where I fall on that scale tbh. Sometimes you’re just a little too much honey, I’m not sensitive enough for you. Other times you are too precious for this world and I just wanna wrap you up in a blanket and protect you. I am strangely attracted to you despite how awkward you probably think you are. You have a lot of knowledge in that head of yours. Be that person I have a weird co-dependant relationship with, that really isn’t healthy but I can’t exactly live without you and I’m not sure why.

INFJ- Ah INFJ, I haven’t met many of you but BOY, are the ones I know pretentious. You’re one of the least common MBTI type, and you probably know and take pride in this. You’re good at reading people, I know, but you can just talk to me instead of analyse from a distance bud. You’re ultimately very cool and creative, a little bit of a know it all but it’s justified. You’re a sweet bundle of joy and I love you. Be my best friend. You’re good at being a friend. Really good.

GAURDIANS (SP)

ESFP-  I like you a lot kid, you remind me of a younger me. We shouldn’t get along but I love/envy you. You’re caring and you have a great childlike spirit. Make some art and ramble to me some more. I seriously appreciate you so much. You bring me back down to  the ‘now’ with you’re crazy impulsive attitude and caring demeanour. Just learn to listen to me a lil more when I tell you you’re thinking with you’re heart instead of you’re brain again. You do it a lot, buddy. Be my lover.

ESTP-  You’re cool man. You’re Ferris Bueler. You’re a salesman that’s constantly selling me on your personality. Look we get it, you’re good with one liners and you’re athletic and everyone loves you, but also hey, think about others you little sociopathic flirt. Also, sometimes people really DO know more than you, I know! Crazy. Be my Idol.

ISFP-  You probably reaallly like music. Chill out buddy, I don’t know much about you but you seem stressed and too fierce for ur adorable demeanour. I know you are your own individual beautiful creative person, you don’t need to tell me. People DO care about you, i know sometimes you doubt that, but you got this life in the bad. You’ll probably never grow out of your angsty teen years tbh but it’s okay, find yourself an ISFJ and you’ll be okay.

ISTP-  So you’re just as cool but less attainable, loner ESTP. You’re in control of your own everything but also out of control and mildly self destructive? Be the mysterious kid I rarely talk to, but everytime I do I fall in love with you a little bit.

ARTISANS (SJ)

ESFJ-  Hey there soldier. In the best case scenario, you’re cutie Monica Geller, that’s a lil anal and mildly manipulative but really! very! sweet!. In the worst case scenario you are literally my worst nightmare. Your the squad’s glue tho. Sometimes you offer a cool third perspective, but you over simplify things and don’t try to understand my crazy theories and that’s annoying. Learn to get over yourself a lil, stop playing the victim buddy and compromise. Be my friend in a few years when you learn to self reflect better.

ESTJ-  You’re a manipulative bitch. You’re so judgemental, you’re Rachel McAdams in Mean Girls. You’re pretty cool. Even more of a rampant psycho than ENTJ. I don’t like you all that much (and something tells me you don’t really care) but I respect you a LOT. Stay a safe distance away from me and please don’t judge me. You’re too savage.

ISFJ-  Hey my emo saviour. You understand everybody and nobody truly understands you. You’re the reliable Colin Firth that the world of Bridget Jones’s run to after their crazy escapades with Hugh Grant. Just remember to have standards baby, and don’t accept everyone that runs into you’re arms. You’re worth more than what most people are willing to give. Be my favourite sweet emotional little kid brother (even if you are female.)

ISTJ-  You say 'interesting’ a lot. If life were a tv show, you’d be a sassy little hate muffin that tumblr idolised that everyone would remark didnt get enough screen time. You’re all business and sometimes you should let down that gaurd fam :) Think about people a little bit more bud. I respect you. I’ll be your friend! But it will probably take three years to build up our relationship and it will probably be accidental, but im here for u anyway.

Okay, real talk : my boss has just outed me last week without my consent. I wasn’t there and she told my colleagues (I don’t know which ones, but I’m sure of one at least, because she talked about it with me) that I’m autistic.

And, apparently, she’s waiting for me to go into therapy to… get better ? I sincerely don’t know what to think about this. I’m pissed off because I never gave her the permission to talk about it, especially without me.

This is a conversation I would have like to had, once my job was secured and with all the cards in my hand. I could have explained myself, I could have talked about my autism way better than she ever could. I’m… I’m also sad and anxious.

I’m pretty sure my colleague is pitying me now (she said that she was “sorry” for things she has done and said, but honestly, I have no idea what she’s talking about).

And I don’t know what my boss is implying by… “getting better” ? I already done so much efforts, I’m going spontaneously to the patrons in my library, talking to them and guiding them, I’m working super fast and I’m helping my colleagues, I actually managed to organize a pretty good public event…

What am I supposed to do, then ? I’m already working my ass off at getting Neurotypical passing, to the point of causing a lot of meltdowns and shutdowns, I honestly can’t do much more efforts. I can’t become Neurotypical, no matter what.

I never, ever got outed as autistic before, especially without my consent. It’s seriously shitty and I don’t know if I want to cry or to scream. I feel like I’ve been taken a right and I will never get it back…

Please, NTs, allistic… Ask before talking about our autism. Ask us and let us have the control of this discussion. Please. We’re not here to allow you to make small talk about us, especially without us.

I once saw this post that said they want them being autistic to piss people off and you know what? Sometimes I do too.

Sometimes I want me being happily autistic to upset people who get upset. I want a sense of power over allistics and NTs for once. Because if someone’s very existence upsets you, they have power over you. You know?

We need more badass autistic positivity. Yeah, we’re cute, we’re pretty, we’re beautiful, we’re downright damn gorgeous. We’re sweet, we’re innocent.

But you know what else? We’re tough as nails. We’re fucking badass. Some of us go through abuse everyday. A lot of us face ableism, dehumanization, infantilization, etc,. on a regular basis. And yet we keep going.

I dunno.

What it feels like to try and pass as NT for over 30 years.

I’m fine about food

(Orders the same thing in every restaurant I go to, will vomit at the wrong textured food, gets easily upset when food is wrong, would prefer to eat the same three things over and over forever, was severely food limiting as a child.)

I’m fine about routine change!

(Gets upset when the husband has a lie in and wreaks my morning routine of checking my phone for ten minutes, has a full blown panic attack when people are somewhere I didn’t expect them to be, has full blown melt down when I came home and found the husband had moved something.)

I don’t even stim!

(Flaps hands when frustrated, leg bounces when upset, scratches when upset, rubs fingers together nearly all the time, touch touch touch touch) 

I have a wide range of interests

(Reads the same books and watches the same movies and TV shows over and over and over and over…. Gets upset when I can’t write)  

I guess I’m pretty social

(Keeps friends an average of two months, can’t go to parties, only wants to hang out with two people at a time, or preferably one to one, has to go to bed after being in a crowded place for longer than a couple of hours.)

I don’t find my environment upsetting at all!

(Can’t stand fluorescent lighting, light through trees, heights, riding on escalators, loud noises, overlapping sounds, needs long periods of silence, gets distracted by moving water and lights)  

Yup… totally not autistic.

anonymous asked:

Ahhh I love the MC proposing hc, but it is missing one important thing! Saeran! (And V if you'd like ,,,) Love your blog A++ content ✌✌

yaaaaaaaay i finally got this done!! -Green

Saeran:

-you think you’re finally ready. and you think that saeran is too

-you two never really mentioned the idea of marriage, but… you want it. You want it bad.

-all in all, you think that the idea of marriage is ridiculous, and you know Saeran does too. you don’t need to be married to be bonded together forever.

-but just thinking of it… the two of you at the alter, hand in hand… it feels too good to be true for someone like Saeran, but you want to at least try. And try not to get your hopes too high.

-you want to make it somewhat of an event, because what if he says yes? you want to have some kind of a proposal story to brag about. that’s half the reason to get married anyway

-but also oh god what if he says YES

-god dammit now you have your hopes up look at what you did to yourself

-but when you actually finally get the courage to propose guess what happens

-you propose to saeyoung instead because he wanted to fuck around with u but woops now you’re proposing to me what do i do

-the only reason you know it’s saeyoung is because he drops to the floor and starts sobbing

-you kick him

-GOD DAMMIT THIS IS NT  HO W  ITS SUPPOSED T O GO??????

-now you’ll never propose because not only did you propose to the wrong twin but now he’s telling you how lame it is and you couldn’t be more mad

-though you don’t get too mad because saeyoung is pretty helpful with figuring out a nice proposal for saeran and is very supportive 

-you take saeran out for a drive in one of his brothers babies, you don’t really tell him where you’re going 

-the two of you end up in his old hometown, just outside of it parked on the side of the road. he’s hesitent to get out but since you brought him here… okay.. 

-you’re parked right at the bridge and there’s a small lake, and you go down there 

-it’s very very quiet. there’s a huge tension being held right above your heads and honestly saeran is panicking a little 

-all the sudden you just tell him how much you love him and want to be with him and?? he doesn’t know what to do with all of that all of the sudden A aA a a???

- “i know that you’re not really hand in hand (haha) with the idea of marriage… and neither was I. but… I want to try it with you. You’re the only one I want to do this with. So will you let me, saeran??” 

-you take out the ring, and mentally pat your back for being so smooth

-now you have to deal with him being basically frozen in place and crying

- “bABE?!????? oh my gosh are you okay???” 

-MAYDAY YOU WERE NOT EXPECTING HIM TO CRY

- “why did you bring me here of all places to propose, you dork?” he’s still sobbing but manages to call you a dork

-you are h u r t 

- “i don’t know?? i know this place sucks for you and you don’t really have any good memories here so… i wanted to make this place good. so when you remember it, you don’t think of… everything. you think of us.

-just because of that he’s hugging you and telling you to put the dumb ring on his finger already

-you two stargaze there that night and while saeran thinks it’s really fuckin cheesy

-he loves it

V:

-man oh ma N

-the cutest

-you decide to control date night and you tell him this and he’s pretty excited

-you won’t tell him what’s planned so he’s hurrying you out the door because he’s so excited to see the idea you have for date night

-you two walk for awhile and it’s dark at night with a nice familiar chill in the air; you spend the time getting there flirting and talking about everything

-once you get close he can hear the rush of water

- “Where are we? Did you take me to the water bridge?

- “not quite. There is a stream though.”

-you took him to a quiet little garden park; flowers are everywhere and different exotic trees.

-you sit him down at a cute little table with two chairs and a prepared dinner, little white Christmas lights around your sitting area so you can see

-you are seated right next to the river and can see the city lights

-needless to say he’s very flustered! you were so thoughtful, and this is so cute of you… you even got his favorite dinner?? and he can practically see everything in his head with all of the different, wonderful smells.

-he says thank you 300 times

-when he’s finishing up his meal that’s when you grab his hands and smile at him, saying you have a gift for him and he almost cries because you’ve been so thoughtful and he didn’t get you anything???!!

-you walk around the table and get on both of your knees, telling him how much you love him and how proud you are of how far the both of you have come in your relationship

- “i know… that there’s still a lot we have to cover. that old wounds take time to heal. but i want to do it together. I want to be with you as long as I can, Jihyun. And if you would let me, I’d be honored if I could do it with you as my husband.”

-the boy can’t see much so you put the ring in his hand and curl it into a fist before kissing the back of it

- “you don’t have to answer right away, it’s a big step. I just want you to know I’m ready for it. I’m ready for you.”

- “I’m ready for you too.”

- “what?”

-v is smiling so beautifully under the wind and flowers, the lights shining down on him that you really think he is a fallen angel. he’s so beautiful. “I want to be yours.”

-your so happy that you almost make him fall over the chair when you try to hug and kiss him

-you just laugh it off, because it’s a beautiful night, and who cares about awkward moments when you just got engaged?

How to deal with failure after a test: NT edition

ENTJ: Feels the need to make amends immediately. Makes a plan to get better at the subject.

ENTP: Scours through the paper to hopefully find marking errors. Smirks smugly upon gaining more points as the class looks on jealously.

INTP: Wants to do what ENTP is doing, but is afraid of actually being incorrect, and stays quiet.

INTJ: Compares test score to others’. Suddenly it’s not so bad. (But not in INTJ’s eyes.)

spanish one is asking for a full body pic of Venuz.

female version? have i done that?

also, yes i keep drawing NT related, it’s just that i am stuck in Cuphead bc not much people seems to be interested in something else and it’s pretty rare if someone asks for NT stuff, so, if you have any requests about something that ISN’T Cuphead, let me know. And don’t get me wrong, i enjoy drawing Cuppy, but i can’t read minds to draw what you want me to, and when i post something else, it goes unnoticed like everyone gives a fuck, and that’s kinda sad for me.

so, yeah, here you go your NT stuff. enjoy it.

Bloom Ch. 2 (biadore)- Taurus's Splattered C*nt

A/N- We’re back back back back back again! Your favourite triple threat is back. Sorry for the wait, we hope you continue to enjoy this story and feel free to leave feedback. Thanks for all the love and support!

I just want to put it out there that our group chat gives me life. I have learned so far that Taurus and I are going to get married and move in with C*nt and Mrs. C*nt to mooch off of them. Also, Taurus is a ninja spy and has a really hot voice, and both of them are really freaking pretty and it’s not fair because I’m a toe (YOU ARE NOT A TOE YOU ARE AN ETHREAL GODDESS OF THE OCEAN -C*nt [She’s lying. I’m a toe. -Splatt]). That is all. Love you two ladies! That’s all. Hope you all enjoy! (C*nt and Taurus didn’t know what to put for an author’s note so I got to write it! Yay!)

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The Honey House, Chapter 21

Breakfast

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Negan rolled over in the bed, his voice thick with sleep as he mumbled “wrap me up in those long legs baby doll.”

Rae pressed herself against the warmth of him, happy to oblige as he eased her leg around his waist and her cheek found a home on his shoulder. She liked being the big spoon, squeezing Negan tight and hiding under the covers as a new day crept into the room. It was the morning after the night before and it felt good, better than she’d expected.

She brushed her fingertips through the soft hair of his chest, letting her breathing fall in sync with the rise and fall of Negan’s body. It was like any lazy Sunday with a new boyfriend, the only thing missing was breakfast in bed and a broadsheet she could pretend to be interested in while the radio hummed in the background.

“You hungry baby?” he said, as if reading her mind but more likely hearing the gurgling of her stomach. Last night Negan’s body had seemed to satisfy her every craving, this morning she needed fuel for that fire that had burned for him.

“Starving,” her teeth grazed his shoulder like she might eat him up and he moaned happily at the attention before rolling over to face her.

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otterfluff  asked:

Do you have any suggestions for reading about being a parent with ADHD? I have twin toddlers and I ferl lately all my brain power goes to getting them through the day and then I sit down at night and can't get my work done. Is there any new mom's or young mom's want to have a group just talk about how add and adhd affected your pregnancy or parenthood?

I have a 2yo and I feel you. I have a book I haven’t read yet that has a section about parenting with ADHD. Most resources about parenting and ADHD are about being an NT parent of an ADHD child, which is pretty useless for us!

I think a group for ADHD parents would be fantastic. Are you thinking here on Tumblr (like a blog for people to gather around like Actually ADHD) or over on Facebook, or somewhere else?

-J

Chains And Shackles

For @backseat-negan‘s Writing Challenge

Pairing: Negan x Salem (Original Female Character)

Summary: A mystery woman turns up at the Sanctuary and takes Negan’s life by storm, though she turns out to be something much more than he ever could have expected. 

Warnings: Supernatural stuff. (Like witchcraft kind of supernatural, not John Winchester Supernatural lol.) Mention of past death. Tears and feels.

A/N: My word for this challenge was “control” and the super smutty route was too predictable so I tried something a little different.

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A list of k-music I’ve enjoyed so far in 2017 that you might want to check as well (I’ll probably keep updating this list every month)

January:

  • PERC%NT - Weekend (LISTEN 003)
  • S.E.S._한 폭의 그림 (Paradise)
  • (AKMU) - 리얼리티(Reality) ; the whole album -Winter- tho
  • AOA - Excuse Me ; and shoutout to Melting Love, tho the whole album is pretty great
  • INA - Rainbow
  • NCT127 - Limitless ; but Heartbreaker
  • Koh Nayoung - 차가운 밤, 따뜻했던 너
  • WJSN - 너에게 닿기를(I Wish)
  • April - April Story
  • DAY6 - I Wait
  • SPACECOWBOY - 헤어져야 하는 이유
  • LaybackSound - 4 hours
  • Hello Venus - Mysterious
  • Aggie - 시무룩
  • 자꾸 - 림지
  • Sonamoo - I Think I Love You
  • Dreamcatcher - Chase Me
  • LOOΠΔ - Kiss Later
  • Yoon Do Hyun - Sparks Fly
  • Ants - 딱10분만
  • Seohyun - Don’t Say No ; one of the albums of the year tbqh you better have listened to it all
  • CLC - Hobgoblin
  • Luna, Hani, Solar - Honey Bee
  • Kasper - Lean On Me
  • Gain, Jeff Bernat - I Pray
  • Yesung, SEULGI – Darling U
  • Suzy - Yes No Maybe
  • LUVAN - oi
  • Kassy - Dream
  • Klang - The Wanted
  • Zion.t - The Song ; but specially Cinema, tho the whole album is great
  • Red Velvet - Rookie ; I better never see Rookie slender on my dash, another album of the year ; and a special mention to Body Talk
  • Cheetah - Blurred Lines
  • Cross Gene - White Mind

February:

putting the rest under a read more just so the post doesn’t get too extent on the dashboard

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The Future of Football → Martin Ødegaard
The 16 year old wonderkid, the Norwegian Messi, the youngest ever debutant for a senior team.

“It is an honor and a dream come true. The reason I chose to join Real Madrid is that this team has the best conditions for both sporting development, as a player, and externally to develop as a person. It is the best option for me. It seems incredible to be playing for a team like this.”

frejaann31  asked:

Hey mama normally I have so many questions and things to say but know I'm actually asking you I have know idea what to say! You've probably been asked this a lot but who do you ship and where did you get your inspiration? Also I want you to know how much I look up to you so please keep going! I also noticed that season two isn't nt enough for an entire arc so does this mean that there will be a season three? Have a lovely day mama!

Season two should be enough to fit one arc, since season one featured two arcs and had twice the episodes, so I think we’ll manage to get done with the Clash Of Titans arc in this one. Season three seems pretty likely to me, but that also depends on the studio and it’s capacities, so I wouldn’t promise anything there.