it bothers me when.. parents.. feel like you should excuse their rudeness, their ignorance, if they say “well at least i’m trying! i’m working on it! this is hard for me too, i didn’t sign up for this!”
first of all as a parent, you signed up for a gay kid, for a trans kid, for a disabled kid, for a mentally ill kid, when you decided to have a kid in the first place!
second of all, we are not your projects, we’re not something you can “work on” because, newsflash, we have feelings too!
and third, if you think for one second that this is somehow harder for you than it is for us? that your comfort is more important than our safety and wellbeing? you already failed as a parent.