i wish straight people understood the real fear behind coming out. we dont come out days after we find out, we keep that shit inside for years, and when we do its usually only a select few until we’re brave enough to tell everyone.
like i remember making plans to have my friends be able to stay at my house if their parents kicked them out. i remember shyly telling everyone i was a straight ally in gsa, the one place you’re supposed to be yourself. i remember not being able to say the word “gay” out loud for a very long time, and i’m still uncomfortable with saying “lesbian.” even though i know who i am, and i’m confident in it.
coming out is terrifying, no matter how liberal your friends and family are. no matter how safe it is. coming out is not some trivial thing that you can laugh about. its not a fun way to put angst in your fanfic.
its just frustrating as hell when a straight person makes a “oh im coming out of the closet lol” joke when coming out for me was years of hiding and honestly hiding still. god just seriously stop.