now i might need to watch the movie about the real murder case this was based on

Ties that bind - Part 3: More than meets the eye

Characters: (AU: first names are as in the show renaming a few last names to fit my story): Reader (Y/N Harvelle), Castiel Novak, Claire Stanford, Crowley McCloud, Eileen Leahy, Kristine Chambers, Timothy Chambers, Officer Fitzgerald, Officer Tran, Meg Masters, Gabriel Bennedict, Pamela Barnes, Charlie Bradbury, Chuck Shurley, Detective Dean Winchester, Bobby Singer, Sonny Gibbons, John Winchester, Ben Braeden (mentioned), Jo Harvelle (mentioned)       

Pairing: Reader/Dean (eventually)

Warnings: Metion of character death/murder (sorta), Mention of abuse, 

Wordcount: 4400ish

A/N: This is an AU and it is partly based on some of my real life experiences. It will revolve around some of the kids at the group home where Y/N works. Not all their faiths are happy ones but some are! I will use lots of characters from the show. It will have a lot of angst but it will also have smut and fluff like always!

***My fics are not to be saved nor posted on any other sites without my express written permission.***

DISCLAIMER! I don’t know the american laws since I am danish so the law I speak of may not apply in the real America but this is my story and to make it believeable I have to write what I know.

This chapter: Y/N Harvelle is starting to feel back to normal. She still worries about Claire and Ben. And she and Cas takes on some new cases.    

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GIFS AND PICTURES ARE NOT MINE.

It had taken you a few days to start to feel back to normal at work but you were getting there. Cas had been great. He had stayed over that night and watched cheesy old movies with you and made you forget how terrified you had felt. He had made sure all off your shifts were with each other for the next couple of weeks and he had driven you too and from work and hung out with you after ever since that night 5 days ago. He was your best friend and he had really shown you why these past few days. You weren’t sure you would have made it through the experience so fast if it hadn’t have been for him.

You had spent a lot of time with Claire every time you had been at work since then. You felt like you owed her to find a new home safely away from her dad now more than ever. She had saved you just as much as Cas had that night and you needed to return the favor. Claire worried about the upcoming meeting even though it was almost a month away and her fear started to show in how she did in school. You talked to her teachers and spend every afternoon or evening shift you had with her doing homework or talking her away from The Clouds and all her worries. You went shopping and to the movies and you enjoyed watching Claire be the carefree happy teen she deserved to be.

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lukeyfm  asked:

How do I respond to the argument that if 50 shades of grey might influence domestic violence then films about war is influencing as well?

That is a GREAT question. Here are some notes that people can use to counter arguments against media influence.

TW for rape, sexual assault

HOW TO ANSWER THE “SEXIST AND VIOLENT MOVIES, GAMES, BOOKS AND PORNOGRAPHY CAN’T INFLUENCE REAL BEHAVIOR, OTHERWISE WE’D ALL BE MURDERERS AND RAPISTS” ARGUMENT. 

This is literally one of most important arguments that feminism needs to make, because of our internet world of omnipresent violent porn, which boys on average are getting exposed to around age 11 or 12. Recruitment material for rape culture.

Point one: if media couldn’t influence people, there would be no commercials beyond basic campaigns to raise awareness of the product’s existence. Why would companies spend billions a year if they thought that ultimately you’d base your decisions on other factors, like friend recommendations, reviews, etc. Media WORKS when it comes to influencing behavior. 

Estimated U.S. advertising spend for 2014 was 161.63 billion dollars. That’s just for the U.S. (source)

Point two: messages don’t affect everyone equally. For each type of message, there is a subset of people who are already likely or planning to commit, or interested in committing, the behavior. Buying that new car, trying out a new alcohol, or in this case, violating women’s boundaries, disrespecting consent, and being turned on by their pain.

If I drink bourbon and hate scotch, a scotch ad is wasted on me. If I don’t drink at all, the ad is wasted on me. But if I am a teen or young adult who hasn’t yet chosen a “drink of choice,” ads are a crucial part in selling the idea of a lifestyle that I will have if I drink scotch. Also, there are people who have decided that they’re tired of their current drink, and are looking to try something else. There are alcoholics who will add ADDITIONAL alcohols to their ongoing spend. These people are who the ads are for, and the alcohol companies and marketing companies know that.

In your example, an ad for the military won’t make me do anything because I’m a pacifist. But kids enroll every single year due in part to promotional ads and materials they’ve watched, like the ad where a marine fights a dragon with a sword. “American Sniper” won’t make me harass or hurt Muslims, but there are a TON of Islamophobes who have considered harassment or violence.

South Park recently did a “Freemium” episode about casual games. They showed how game makers make millions and millions off the specific sub-set of personality types that are prone to becoming addicted to playing these games and spending money for in-app purchases. See the part of the show where they explain how it works here

Point three: studies have been done where men are shown violent and/or degrading pornography, and are then given surveys on sexism and the oppression of women in society.  For example they may be asked about an equal pay law, or if the mainstream media objectifies women.

The men who had just viewed porn, compared to those who hadn’t, were less likely to say “this is sexist” and agree that something should be done about it. It has been tested and demonstrated that men lose empathy for women and support for women’s rights, at least temporarily, after viewing objectifying and degrading material.

Even worse, in the case of consent and sexual violence against women, porn supplies what can be called “permission-giving beliefs.”

“Permission-Giving Beliefs are a set of beliefs that imply that my behavior is normal, acceptable, common and/or doesn’t hurt anyone so I have permission to continue to behave in the way that I am. In all types of violence and addiction, Permission-Giving Beliefs are involved. Examples would include ‘All men go to prostitutes’, ‘Women like sex mixed with violence’ and ‘Children enjoy sex with adults’. These particular Permission Giving Beliefs are also common in pornography.

Both Pornography Distortion and Permission-Giving Beliefs increase the problem of mis-education about sexuality and relationships. For example, the myth that women are sexually aroused by engaging in behaviors that are actually sexually pleasuring to men is a particularly narcissistic invention of the pornography industry. This is sexual mis-education.” (Source <- check this page out!)

“One category of beliefs we learn is called “permission-giving beliefs.” This “may be pornography’s most insidious influence; namely, the acceptance of the attitudes (some obvious, some more subtle) expressed in pornography. Pornographic depictions of the sexuality of women and children distort the truth about desires of women and children, and legitimize men’s sense of entitlement, and use of force, violence, and degrading acts by the male actors.”

They give us permission to engage in a behavior we would like to engage in or are engaging in and tell us there is no need to stop, change, or reduce it—they tell us, for example, that what we are doing is normal, that it doesn’t hurt anyone, and that everybody is doing it.

Pornography is an ideal teacher of these releaser beliefs. It can teach specific sexual behaviors and general attitudes toward women and children, teach what relationships are like, and teach the nature of sexuality, and thus give permission for a wide range of actions. For example, a male masturbating to the images of smiling children having sex with adults, or of sexually aroused women being beaten, raped, or degraded, is learning that the subjects enjoy and desire this treatment and is thereby being taught that he has permission to act this way himself.

So pornography can be a teacher, a releaser, and a trigger of behaviors.
Pornography is not only potent but multifaceted in its effect. Pornography can teach what to do, with whom to do it, when and how often to do it, it’s okay to do it, and then stimulate the urge to do it now.” (Source - PDF - check it out!)

And there you have it! And that’s the short version. Hope this helps, and please share.

Update: I had a typo where I said men who had viewed porn were “more likely” to see an issue with sexism. It’s the opposite, the porn viewers were LESS likely to see an issue with sexism after viewing.