nothing will change about that

anonymous asked:

Honestly I don't think I know any women who haven't been sexually assaulted at some point, I know the 1/3 and 1/5 stats are thrown around a lot and are shocking but in my small bubble of experience it's higher. I'm 20 and every single female friend my age inc me has multiple experiences but I also have a lot of 60+ friends (via a cool™ aunt, most are lgbt+) and the amount of them who've opened up to me about this after discussions re feminism is heartbreaking cause nothing's changed

We talk about rape statistics and people try and debunk those numbers but the amount of women I know who don’t even REALISE they are victims, like it’s just a “negative thing” and they internalize the shame.

I wouldn’t be shocked if numbers are higher, I know so very many people who are victims.

anonymous asked:

Is it bad that I really don't want Dan to be changing his YouTube name? A bunch of people think that's what it's gonna be and its actually really worrying me and I don't even know why?? I'm a person who happens to dread drastic changes in life, and for some reason this would be one to me? I mean it's not my life or my decision, but I feel for some reason like I'd cry if that's he outcome? Idk really I guess, and this all may seem a bit stupid/childish but it's got me a lil worked up I guess?

Your feelings are valid buddy - change can be pretty scary at times. There’s nothing stupid/childish about being unprepared for something changing, especially if that something is dear to you. Don’t beat yourself up over this, srsly. I will say though, with change, can come adaptability. 

Like, I know this isn’t the same but Dan recently went from having straight hair in every video to embracing his curls - what used to be a big deal in the phandom has now become the norm. It’s possible this could happen with him potentially changing his username. It may take time but don’t think that your current feelings are forever, with change comes more change - but it’s not the end all and be all, ygm?

That being said, I doubt dan is gonna change it any time soon as ‘danisnotonfire’ is his like, brand image/name. It’s what people know him as most, so to get rid of it completely would be a loss I think, even for him. He may rebrand what ‘danisnotonfire’ means over time, as he grows especially, but it’s still unlikely that he’ll put the name ‘danisnotonfire’ to one side (any time soon).

But srsly, it’s okay to have concerns. I find my worries spike up when these like a lack of certainty and being unprepared for that uncertainty, so maybe just find a way to be prepared for any outcome when it comes to Dan’s name and stuff - in the end, Dan changing his username doesn’t mean he’s disappearing or going anywhere, there will still be ripples of who he was…in the end, it just means his online persona is growing with his real life self :) that’s always a good thing tbh, it means more new/different content for us, and can even make Dan happier because it means he’s not stuck to the old stuff he could feel pressured to be attached to.

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I don’t know if that last stuff made sense but if you wanna talk about this more, I’d be happy to listen as I know worries are tough to handle with alone, especially when you feel silly for having them (spoiler alert: you ain’t! i’m sure you’re not the only one concerned either!)

8

a man and his kitten

the force awakens rerelease only Hayden Christiensen is brought back to play Anakin’s Force Ghost, nothing about the movie is changed except that Anakin’s Ghost is now visible and audible to the audience only. 

My dear bi girls who date boys, 

You’re not “secretly straight”. 

You didn’t “choose a side”. 

You’re not “fake bi”. 

You’re bi. And your bisexuality is a important and beautiful part of your idenity. 

Being in a female/male relationship changes nothing about that! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom

what the kids would be doing if they actually went to highschool

john is a theater kid, but not a Theater Kid - he’s just there to get his elective credit filled out and get training for a career in showbiz. he does standup at the local theater. carries out an eight-week prank war against the mean teachers under the alias “mr. egg”

rose runs the school newspaper and has at least 3 private writing blogs. also started her own poetry magazine for the nsfw 8000-word sapphic monologues the school wouldn’t let her publish and called it “Much Done About Nothings” to spite censorship. passes 5 AP classes without showing up once.

dave has his own radio show and does morning announcements; later on, after around junior year, he starts dj’ing at parties and cafes. takes dance classes to kill time after school and ends up teaching beginner’s hip-hop to freshmen; joins manga club ironically but ends up bonding with a lot of the people there

jade starts a gardening club and crowdfunds solar panels for the greenhouse; takes an all-AP roster and somehow has hours to spare. 4 years on colorguard, 3 years of honor roll. is on a first name basis with literally every teacher, that one kid who’s always down to give you a ride (i.e. The Best Kid)

6

Sometimes it makes things hard, but Kuroo doesn’t really mind

It’s scary isn’t it?
When you realize that you’ve created a home in someone who can so quickly kick you out and then you’ll be left homeless.
Home makes you feel safe, and comfortable. You’ve already opened up,
and shared all the hidden,
dark,
damaged,
insecure,
raw parts of you,
and they’ve chosen to love you no matter what.
The love is unconditional,
and there is a level of acceptance.
You are certain that there is nothing either one of you could do to change one another’s mind about the other.
I’ve created a home in someone whose arms have never turned me down,
and whose words have never hurt me.
It’s scary to know I’ve moved in,
But,
I think I’ll stay as long as you’ll have me
—  Thanks for having me

i hope you’re all calmer now post-US election, but i need to go tough-love mode and wanna say like…high key it’s time to step up your game

  • all of you who are only NOW coming out saying “latinx followers i love you i’m here for you” but were so pro-obama and posting ‘cute’ gifs of him while ignoring his policies deporting the highest amount of undocumented immigrants than any other president before him
  • all of you who suddenly care about Muslim lives but were so pro-obama and pro-clinton while ignoring both of their policies in the middle east, ignoring the thousands they’ve both killed and traumatized with their drones, ignoring their Pro-Israel policies and being passive in the genocide of Palestinians
  • all of you who have posted about Black Lives Matter and at the same time ignoring how both Obama and Clinton have historically ignored mass incarceration and in fact added to it, and outside of lip-service have done nothing to dramatically change the game for black citizens
  • all of you talking about trans lives but ignoring how no big policies have ever been set in place to protect us? ignoring when Obama and his admin pushed a trans latinx woman from protesting his speech at Pride and defending that action with “there’s a time and place for these things!”

like it’s time to STEP UP and realize the two-party system is not here to protect the truly disenfranchised

THIS is what I mean when I say you were complicit in democratic crimes and Clinton would not have been that big of a game changer. with trump as our new president all we really get is outright honesty about the people already being hated and killed by this country

learn to be aware of actual policies and stop following big figures, focus on local change, focus on reform instead of feel-good speeches from leaders

star wars AU where everything is the same, with one exception: the skywalkers all know about each other and know they are all related. They are still loyal to their respective organizations, still raised by the same people. They just–know they are related. Like if Bail had told Leia about Anakin Skywalker, so Leia went to Tattooine and met Luke. And then Vader (because of course Vader is spying on Bail) heard about it, but otherwise nothing changes.

- so the first scene in ANH quite literally ends with “ARGH LEIA GO TO YOUR ROOM.” “FINE I WILL BUT YOU AREN’T MY REAL DAD” “I am absolutely your real dad that is WHY WE ARE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION AND YOU ARE NOT DEAD.”

- Alderaan blows up and it results in awkward shoulder pats from Vader and a half-hearted “have you considered using your rage for the dark side?” speech, which Leia promptly ignores.

- Luke rescues Leia. Leia immediately tells Luke “Do not tell Han we are related. I want to fuck with him.” to which Luke sighs “ugh Leia again?” implying that this is not the first time Leia has hooked up with a dude and made him jealous by hanging out with her brother.

- “THAT’S NOT COOL DAD! STOP KILLING OUR FRIENDS!” after Obi-Wan dies. Vader yells back “HE HID YOU FROM ME FOR 20 YEARS!!!! HE DESERVES TO DIE!” “yeah okay that’s fair”

- on Bespin: “You’re dating this idiot?” to which Leia glares and says, quite plainly, that Vader has no authority over who she chooses to date.

- instead of fighting, Luke and Vader just chill on Bespin until Leia picks Luke up. Vader once again attempts to convince Luke to join the Dark Side. Luke goes “Dad you don’t even like Palpatine. Half the time you try and convince us to join you just to defeat him. Why don’t you join the Rebel Alliance huh?” And Vader mutters some half-hearted Jedi bullshit about how once someone joins the darkside they can never leave and besides the rebels would never accepted him and HONESTLY HE JUST WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH HIS KIDS so maybe he will think about it

- Vader finds out what happened on Tattooine, and sends both Luke and Leia like half a million credits each and a super encouraging encrypted email talking about how proud he is of them for KILLING A HUTT that Leia absolutely does not keep shhh SHUT UP HAN why are you going through her stuff anyway huh???

- basically, all of the awkward dad vader attempting to parent his children while also fighting them.