No one cares for me.
- I know when you reach such age, somewhere between teenage and adulthood, you will utter such words.
How many of our daughters or friends have uttered and ranted about this to us? When they feel like no one wants to talk to them or cares about them? Especially those days when their hearts become attached to someone who shows interest in marrying them.
It was a practice of the Sahabiyyat RA to remind their sons/daughters about Allah, about Islam and even about death every now and then. Some would write notes, some would narrate it in stories, and some spark it through their speeches urging their sons to fight for the cause of Allah.
We have to be like that. So today, I would like to write something for my future daughter, and I encourage all of you to do so, write something for them to read when they grow up, write by now when work has not occupied much of your time yet. Let us revive a beautiful practice of the Sahabiyyat RA. in sha Allah.
My princess, I am writing this at a time when hate crime and discrimination against Muslims are on its height. But fear not, as Mommy is okay, as Mommy is in Allah’s Care.
My beautiful one, know that there will come a time when people around you will stare at you in a way that is quite disturbing but I ask you to reciprocate such glares and stares with a beautiful smile of yours, never look back at them with an angry or fierce look for this might enflame such intense emotions within them.
Indeed, there will be moments when you will be asking things about why you wear the hijab and why you need to cover up and I pray that our actions, our worship that you see for Allah would be enough to answer your queries.
Befriend the Qur’an, make it your companion. It was the strength of Mommy and I’m sure it will be yours as well, as long as you open your heart for it. It is something that would never leave you and come to you at the time when you need it the most.
Be resourceful and always inquire/ask something you do not understand or you are having some misunderstanding about, especially when it comes to Islam. Know that Mommy prepared activities for you to get to know the greatest of people that came before us (the Sahabah).
Always protect your hayaa’ my little one, no matter how the society would lure you to buy all these new trends, gadgets and clothes. I ask you to stick upon the teachings of the Qur’an and following the sunnah.
When things become hard for you, I ask you to ask Allah always for ease, for Allah is the only one who can bring ease in whatever trial or tribulation you are or will be facing.
My little hijabi, maintain and always be constant with your salah, I ask you not to give me a frowning face when Mommy reminds you of salah rather Mommy would be so happy to see you preparing yourself for salah even before she can tell you.
Be appreciative, when an aunty comes, welcome her always with a warm hug, be charitable my little one, for Allah spends for those who spend for Him. Always choose and prefer to give rather than to receive.
My little star, one day, when you will be engrossed with the cyberworld, refrain from talking with the opposite sex. If someone would approach you, advice them to fear Allah and I ask you to open it up with me, if not with your daddy then know that mommy is all ears for you. This is not because I want to reprimand you but Mommy just wants to be aware and give you guidance as Mommy doesn’t want you to indulge into something haraam and might hurt you at the end.
When someone would ask for your hand, fear not from telling us and telling him to contact your wali, for I have pledge not to make you go through what others may have gone through, making your mahr too expensive is a big no from us, as long as the brother has deen then we would gladly give you to him in accordance to the rules that are needed to be abided within Islam.
And when the time comes that Mommy won’t be with you anymore, know that You are in Allah’s Care just like how Mommy was in Allah’s Care. Remember that whatever happens in your life is accordingly upon the Will of Allah, and nothing happens in the life of a Believer except that it is for his/her own good. So accept and face every struggle with patience and strong trust in Allah.
I promise with a hopeful heart that we will see each other in Jannah again, I will run to you my baby girl, Mommy will hug you there.
But for now, Mommy is still in the process of asking Allah’s guidance on making herself grow better so that as soon as Allah decrees that you and Mommy meets here, she is in the best of state in all aspects, ready to fulfill such responsibility of raising you upon the Qur’an and Sunnah.
My baby, I can’t wait to hear you call me, Mommy <3 in sha Allah.
And we pray that we be amongst those parents who would be able to raise such lions and lionesses of this Ummah, and make them the coolness of our eyes. Amin