Hey. I feel like I need some advice. So the ending has really hurt me a whole lot, but then there are these other people......who hurt others that I'm friends with. And it made me sad to know that one of my friends will never be the same because of this ending and others that accuse people that like ichiruki. I'm not sure if I'm making sense, I just need to move on, but I don't know how. I worry for others being hurt the same way, and I don't think I can do anything to help.... ;-;
Hi dear anon,
I think it’s all about time. Time heals it all.
I’ve said it before but I’m old as shit in fandom and I know how to handle this situation. Been there done that. But there are a lot of kids and young people and sensible people for whom their whole world has been destroyed by someone they trusted and I really feel for them. I think I’m mostly mad at Kubo and BLEACH’s ending bc of that.
And not only that but they also get attacked by other “shippers” who, really, have nothing better to do with their time? Attacking people for making fanworks and trying to cope with the ending? These people gotta understand that fanworks are TRANSFORMATIVE works. Do you think I like adultery in the real life? But who the fuck do people harm when they write it? No one is gonna cheat on someone else and destroy a home bc they read a fic the night before. I think all that is about a good old case of butthurt bc the IR fandom didn’t spontaneously combust and vanish from the face of the earth, au contraire, there was an explosion of new fanworks, the amazing dwsw meme and analysis and a lot of fuckyous to Kubo. But I digress.
Going back to your inquires anon, you gotta give it time. It’s gonna take some of us longer but we’re gonna be alright. Let me tell you a secret. I felt like you felt with a TV series called G/lee. I shipped one of the couples with passion and I felt really strong about them and the show d e s t r o y e d them. They ended up together in the end but their journey was completely shit, their characters were long assassinated and I was devastated by what the writers and producers had done. But I recovered. I admit I moved on (meaning I don’t feel about them as I used to) bc it helped me. So if you need to stay away from fandom and IR and Bleach to recover, do so.
What we can do for help is to listen to the ones who are hurt. I assure you that’s a lot.
To the younger peeps in the fandom: please if someone bullies you or attacks you let me know I’ll handle them. I PROMISE I will handle them. You dont have to go through this alone.
I’m sorry this all over the place. I myself am still recovering even though I knew how to handle it.