Been at this for the last few hours, and it’s giving me fits, which means it’s time to walk away for a bit and come back with fresh eyes. Still pretty early stages, so this is relatively normal for me. LOL! @ahorriblecaseofwanderlust
Do any of you know about that one painting with Aphrodite being born out of lava with a black swan by her side or did i completely hallucinate that? Been searching for a while but i can’t find it for shit.
i’ve been seeing a lot of topics like “how to deal with someone who has bpd” and it always bothers me, because there is basically no topics about how to deal if YOU have bpd. that’s why i’m making this post, in my opinion as someone who has bpd. feel free to leave other tips and comment!
buy a notepad and write about your emotions. in DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), used a lot to help people with BPD, they tend to help others to regulate their emotions, basing on some principles, like:
identify and classify emotions; usually, people with BPD suffered/suffer from emotional abuse and it makes harder for us to have a knowledge about our feelings, since we never had someone to help us in this aspect. if you have hard times dealing with your emotions, you can create a special organization on your notepad, basing on: what just happened that could be a possibly trigger to your feeling? (EVEN IF IT’S SOMETHING MINOR, for example, if your friend replied to you in a different way, if you saw an image that made you feel uncomfortable); what are your physical symptoms about it? (for example, if you feel butterflies in your stomach, you are possibly anxious); what does this feeling make you want to do? (for example, if you feel like you want to hit something, you are possibly experiencing anger). and, also, try to identify your primary and secondary emotions, for example, if a friend forgets about an event that you would go together, first you may feel anger, but this anger can be followed by frustation or sadness (secondary emotions).
how to “change” your emotions; after writing about your emotions and trying to learn about them, you can add a subject in your notepad about “WHAT CAN I DO TO CHANGE THIS FEELING”. your first thoughts may be pessimists, specially because borderlines are VERY impulsives, like “i should probably self-harm” or even “i should probably kill myself”, due to the intensity of bpd emotions, but right now, you have to think with your rationality.for example, if your friend is delaying to reply, you can think about the possibilities that are causing this problem: if they are busy, if they are having a hard time or if they just don’t want to talk right now. after thinking about the situation as a whole, you’ll ask yourself “okay, but what will i do?” and that’s why i think it’s important to create a list about what makes you happy and what distracts you, so everytime you have a hard situation to deal with, you can check on your list. “oh, i’m having x problem, but in my list it says that painting makes me happy, so what about painting something i saw today?”. if you don’t have anything that you like about, there is an app called Calm Harm, that can help you in self-harm situations!
increase and improve positive emotional events; i know that it’s difficult for us to focus on positive moments, but once you are feeling down, please try to write about what happened in your day that was a good thing. and when i say it, i don’t mean a BIG thing, it can be something like seeing a flower in your garden. write about your sensations when your experienced this moment and think about the possibility of living this moment more than once. for example, if i saw a flower and it made me happy, can i try to plant one, so i’ll see it more often?
apply pressure tolerance techniques; by distraction, self-care, improving the moment and considering pros and cons.
SO, in your notepad, have a space to: first, identify and classify your emotions; second, a space to write about how to change your emotions; third, a space to write about positive emotional events and fourth, write about what pressure tolerance techniqures you can apply to your life.
practice saying no and saying what you need to the people around you; sometimes people with BPD tend to think that we are a burden to friends and family, and sometimes it’s not true. due to it, we often don’t tell what we really want. so, if you could, please, practice saying NO and what you REALLY need and want to people around you, even if it’s minor things.for example, if someone asks you to lunch with them, but you can’t/don’t want to, don’t let your abandonment fear decides what it’s the best for you, just say no, but not in the intention to hurt the other person. “i’m sorry, i really like you, but i can’t or don’t want to, since i have to do x thing/feeling x thing, but i really like you!”. when you say no, you can have a better idea about what you like and what you don’t, so you can start to let people know about it.for example, “hey! yesterday i said no when you invited me for lunch, so i realized i don’t really like going to public places, what about having lunch in my house next time?”
practice breathing techniques; intense emotions can lead us to panic situations or really bad physical symptoms. in stressing moments, we hold the air, increasing the level of carbon dioxide in our system, so the organism thinks we need more oxygen and make us breathe faster. the imbalance increases our heart beats, our blood pressure and the release of hormones such as adrenaline. i recommend ASMR videos to relax and you can breathe slowly, imagining a circle opening and closing, like the gif:
the post is getting long, so i’ll finish here! i’ll probably post a part two if you guys like! please leave a comment if it was helpful and i’m sorry if my grammar wasn’t very correct, english is not my native language.
remember that everything here is theoritical and it’s hard to apply these tips in your life, things will not suddenly change. but i believe in you and things take time, so don’t give up on getting better.
who said it’s going to be easy? of course it would not be. becoming a better person is not only about changing the way you act in front of certain people; becoming better involves having to grow in your rawest, purest form. it involves dealing with scary things, thoughts, and criticisms. most importantly, becoming a better person is absolutely not always about painting your town in bright colors, it is about realizing that in order to be balanced, you need both light and dark hues.
*EDIT* I made the image brighter because it was too dark and miserable.
I loved the film so much it’s unbelievable! Still can’t get over No Man’s land. And the Amazons at the beach. And everything to be honest.
Unfortunately I didn’t make it for pride month but I still wanted to finish this! I will be doing other flag variations in the upcoming week, any requests? Definitely want to do bisexual (I looove purple!) next!
I was worried about painting the flag, this is definitely the most colours I ever had to combine, but I think it turned out okay. Also I gave her a skirt for a more goddess look:) That and I’m crap at drawing legs…
It’s on Redbubble and Society6, dianulala on both. Also feel free to follow me on Instagram @dianulad, I post more updates of paintings there.
Also if you guys are into Dragon Age then please check out the Arcana Dragon Age zine on indiegogo, it’ll mean a lot!
How did you go about that color improvising painting?
This doesn’t accurately describe the process of my drawing, but this is what all the layers looked like. In a more serious painting the colors and textures would be separated into a lot more layers but since I just wanted to let loose I kept the layer count to a minimum. Mixing all that crap together kinda goes well with the Chaos theme too so thats a bonus.
Not to be dramatic or anything but I can literally watch Louis talk about literally anything for any amount of time, honestly he could talk about the science behind dust for like 8 hours and I would hang onto every fucking word
How do you know how to add these details to clothing that make it look a bit closer to real life? I try to do it, but it always turns out too simplistic for my liking. I also want to ask how you do your cross-hatching, because it also looks really nice.
I’m going to assume these are both about linework anon friendos. If not send me a message and we can chat some about painting. :)
So, I have not been doing linework as long, but I have made some recent developments while studying it in the past year. So what I find helps for the things you are talking about (so like fabric folds and details like seams) Is called line weight.
this is varying the thickness and width of your lines in order to create more detail in your images. Things in real life have a lot of depth to them and most animated cartoons do not. Mostly because if you draw with line weight and then animate: it looks like your lines are either agitated or having small seizures. For this reasons most animators do not use line weights in their work (or use it more sparingly) But we are drawin here. So we get to go nuts with it. For adding details so they work it’s good to start out with the sketch.
When you sketch something you should try to always think of the shapes
you are working with as 3d things. So spheres, cones, and cubes. I
know it looks overwhelming with all those pink and blue lines but
honestly it’s just circles. Those are just there to show I view them as
spheres in my head.
When you think of your shapes this way it’s easier to integrate details into your drawing by following these shapes. Such as with the fabric folds on the hip, neck and the legs where the two shapes meet, meaning there would be a crease there. Another example is using thicker lines when that line is farther away from the light source creating varying kinds of fabric folds instead of them all looking the same.
different line sizes and thicknesses are what is going to make your textures. In order to keep stuff uniform I do a lot of whats called contour hatching. This is just making lines for my shadows follow the contours like I was talking about before. Using thinner lines on inner details and thicker ones on the outer silhouette lines of your image makes a stronger silhouette so you don’t overwhelm you drawing with details. All of floofy froggits inner lines are much thinner than it’s outer lines. All of floofy froggits hatching comes from the contours as well and are drawn in areas where there would be less light.
As always, it’s a lot better to reference things from real life than it is to reference other peoples work. When you look at really shiny metal, there is a highlight that is super bright, but also a shadow that is very dark. That’s what those thick black lines represent. Ribbots line details and shades still follow the basic shapes from the sketch, are thinner closer to the light source and thicker farther away from it.
Not sure if helpful. But I don’t know how else to explain it. As always longer more in depth tutorials are posted on my PATREON