not that they don't have lovely husbands


“Here was one with an air of high nobility such as Aragorn at times revealed, less high perhaps, yet also less incalculable and remote: one of the Kings of Men born into a later time, but touched with the wisdom and sadness of the Eldar Race.

You deserve much better than me...

i am helplessly torn between wanting to spend the rest of my life with my best friend and being terrified of marriage. i am both in love with the gowns and cake and decorations and truly, deeply effected by the idea of what happens next. how many things have i seen where the husband sits back and sighs about his old woman. how many times have i heard that after kids my life is ruined. how many wives have i counted running around in their beige prison walls balancing chores and 40 hour workdays. i am scared of the 48 minutes before you realize you made a mistake, of the ball-and-chain, of he cheated with the secretary. i am scared of begging for help around the house only to receive complaint, of being terrifically bored, of passion dying quickly. i am scared of regret, of 18 years later and only staying because of family, of arguments that don’t resolve. i both want to get married and do not want to be married at all.

Imagine this for a second: you have a husband, and you love him very much. He’s handsome, and charming, and attentive, and funny, and everything you’ve ever wanted, and he loves you just as much as you love him.

He works as an actor, together with other actors and actresses, and sometimes he hangs out with them on set and goofs around. There’s an actress with whom he’s good friends. Maybe they play love interests. Maybe not. Either way, they get along, and they’re friends. And you’re friends with said actress, too.

And now imagine that people talk online about your husband and his co-worker, speculating that they’re together, maybe telling your husband he should leave you for his co-worker or condemning him/them for something they’d never do or saying they’re a cute couple. Or sharing edits of their characters in, shall we say, mature situations, and tagging them in it so they show up in their newsfeeds, or when you or your family or friends google them. Not their characters, but them.

Imagine how you’d feel.

Or imagine how you’d feel if you were the husband, or the co-worker, being accused of something you’d never do. Being accused of doing, or encouraged to do, something that would hurt someone you love very much.

Imagine how you’d feel.

And maybe take that into account before you speak/tweet/etc.


“I never, never spent such an evening!! My dearest dearest dear Albert … his excessive love and affection gave me feelings of heavenly love and happiness I never could have hoped to have felt before! He clasped me in his arms, and we kissed each other again and again! His beauty, his sweetness and gentleness - really how can I ever be thankful enough to have such a Husband! … to be called by names of tenderness, I have never yet heard used to me before - was bliss beyond belief! Oh! This was the happiest day of my life!”
- Queen Victoria’s Journals (x)

  • What she says: i'm fine
  • What she means: do you know how hard it must've been for Killian Jones to stop drinking and gambling in his pre-navy days? to claw out of the hole he was in? a man with so little self-worth would've literally drank himself to death and squandered every penny he had. a man with such supposed weakness in the face of darkness would've backslid right into drinking even after joining the navy, just as alcoholism affects jobs. a man with as much self-loathing as he had would've self-destructed and embraced every demon. but he didn't. he got his fucking act together during his time as Lt. Jones because his brother was his world and his light and his inspiration and his love and the source of hope for him. and then, that light DIED––due to machinations by the system that fucked them over in the first place. it wasn't just understandable for bright and starry-eyed Lt. Jones to fall so far after his brother's death. it was inevitable.

[Serenades to Soohyun 61/] :

He said he loves me (x)

Dear Grant;
You are my sunshine. You’re an amazing, warm, kind, loving person, and I have had the pleasure of watching you grow into an even more astounding and engaging actor as the years go by. I love you more than is probably necessary, but I want you to know it–you’re fantastic. You’re talented. You’re thoughtful and caring and genuine and I’m so, so glad I get to be on this ride with you, even if it’s just from the sidelines. I am so, so proud of you. Thank you for being such an inspiring person. You may not know it, but you’ve changed so many lives and are making so many people so happy, and they love you just as much as I do. Happy 25th Birthday, darling. Have a couple drinks for me. Party it up. Love always. xx

Revenge Sketch

 | Conrad + Victoria wedding (2.06)

“I know we’ve come to this point, due to extenuating circumstances; but the fact is…here we are. And I feel we’re destined to be together no matter what the outcome."